let all the PDPite die of worries

when you get there you all find out.





SIMPLE!

just few weeks you re xpectin change.








.......just short of words for these sect of people......

kill the enemy of progress










wetin u de wait for











funny tho

since when did you start screening those that are qualify to sing praises to God?










don't judge

I don't judge people by their phones!






get techno M3 @#10,000- 12,000







my opinion!

just a matter of years we ll start to list mr buha...' s achievements

I was channel surfing last week and came
upon a programme on BBC Knowledge with
the above title. The description of the show
says, “Meet people from across the UK who
have made some of the most extraordinary
faux pas on Facebook and other social media
in the last few years.”
All of the people featured have learnt the
hard way to think twice before uploading
pictures and personal information to social
media, and be mindful of what they tweet.
There were two friends who got booted out of
America and lost money shelled out for a
holiday because of a tweet that one of them
put out weeks before their trip. While he
tweeted about plans to “destroy America”,
intending to have a good time, drink and take
in all the fun Hollywood had to offer,
Homeland Security was not taking any
chances and officers were waiting for the pair
on their arrival at LAX. They were detained,
interrogated, and finally, denied entry into
America.
The hacker who hacked into Selena Gomez’s
Facebook account and put out some posts
that turned Justin Bieber fans into a hate
army against the actress admitted that when
hackers attack, they are just thinking of the
challenge of beating/breaching security
protections, not much about how it affects
the lives of the people whose accounts they
hack into. Well, the authorities in the UK
needed to send a message that such invasion
of people’s lives is unacceptable and gave
the young man a 12-month prison sentence.
A Scots Guard was barred from the Royal
Wedding of William and Kate for posting a
tweet that referred to Kate Middleton as a
“posh b*&ch.” If you don’t remember
anything about social media, at least try to
remember that badmouthing your employers
is a big no-no (that is if your job is
important to you). Also refrain from posting
inappropriate photographs that somehow put
the reputation of your employer under strain.
There were also cases of people uploading
videos of illegal behaviour to YouTube – there
was one person who filmed his speed racing
and posted it on YouTube for the
entertainment of his friends. The police were
not entertained and they showed up at his
doorstep. One of his punishments was to stay
off YouTube for two years.
There is another programme, Catfish the TV
show, on MTV that shows the danger of
carrying on an intimate relationship with
people you don’t really know on social media.
In Catfish, people who have been carrying on
relationships with others on social media and
have never met each other contact the
programme to help them meet with social
media love. Often they reach out to the show
because the other party is being evasive,
avoiding a meeting and is generally suspect
in their behaviour.
Sometime last year, news circulated that the
Facebook post of a young lady cost her
parents an $80,000 settlement, which the
father had been awarded in a discrimination
suit against his former employers. The girl
posted, “Mama and Papa Snay won the case
against Gulliver. Gulliver is now officially
paying for my vacation to Europe this
summer. SUCK IT.” Nothing wrong with
bragging when you feel that you or your loved
one has received deserved justice. The
problem was that as part of the settlement,
Snay and his wife had agreed to keep it
confidential. Discussing the settlement with
their daughter was in violation of the
confidentiality agreement, not to mention a
disclosure made to 1,200 of their daughter’s
Facebook friends.
Even heads of state have found themselves
entangled in the web of social media and
related matters. Not too long ago, the
President of the United States of America
(POTUS), Barack Obama, found himself, once
again, the subject of a selfie scandal when
David Ortiz of the Boston Red Sox (Baseball
Team) got a selfie photo with POTUS, which
he tweeted to his followers. The problem is
that the selfie became part of a Samsung
marketing campaign, and the image of
POTUS cannot be used for commercial gain.
And who can forget the buzz over POTUS’
selfie with the UK’s David Cameron and
Denmark’s Helle Thorning-Schmidt at the
funeral of Nelson Mandela in 2013? It seems
the David Ortiz selfie was the last of its kind
though, as POTUS has ignored subsequent
requests for selfies at public appearances.
Last year, the Prime Minister of India,
Narendra Modi, came under fire on election-
day when he tweeted a selfie of his inked
finger against the party symbol, the Lotus,
while at the polling station, and outside.
Electoral laws in India do not allow
politicians to make public rallies or use
media to “display to the public any election
campaign materials within 48 hours of an
election and also within 100m of the polling
station.”
And at home, it is undeniable that social
media played a role in the level of
participation in the 2015 elections. It has
been a while since we had elections as
exciting and engaging as the March/April
2015 elections.
There have been cases where homicides and
suicides have been directly linked to social
media activities, so we must all be very
careful that our desire to have fun and share
our lives with our friends and fans does not
bring us harm. The bottom line is that we
must pay more attention to what we decide
to share with the world and when. Keep in
mind that the rules that apply in the real
world do not vanish in the virtual world of
the Internet.





























COPIED

‘Extra-marital friendships’ is how a very wise
gentleman described it. This was a tricky one
for me as I had wildly conflicting views about
it. I swung from feeling fairly confident that
a married person can maintain a platonic
friendship with the opposite sex without
compromising their marriage to more recently
possibly seeing it in another light. It’s
probably safe to say unequivocally that there
are potential pitfalls that surround this
alliance if firm boundaries are not
maintained. We will read what some couples
have to say on their experiences.
There are many changes that take place
within a marriage over the course of time.
For the most part in the early stages of
normal healthy marriages, there is a
compulsion and desire to share practically
everything; your joys, hurts and daily
experiences. Naturally as time goes on and
the constraints of life take place such as
children, work, family, church etc which are
all natural occurrences, it can take a toll on
the marriage. The closeness one once had
can become diluted or even disappear.
Many times, both or one partner, may feel
that they are the only one who invests in the
marriage while the other just goes after their
own interests. This may or may not be the
case. Sometimes, even when both spouses
attempt to make their marriage work, they
may feel an increasing distance between
them.
We may erroneously believe that as long as
we don’t step out of the marriage, nothing
bad may come into it. Wrong! Unfortunately
there are many things that compete for our
love and affection and sometimes, if we are
not on the alert, the outside can intrude on
one’s marriage. Marriage needs to be actively
protected. There are many forces waiting to
attack and get between one and one’s mate
and diminish one’s relationship.
Marriage in its true sense is an exclusive two
membership club with no room for a third
party to receive equal share in it because it
can very quickly weaken the bond, and create
insecurity within the marriage.
Naturally, we all need close friends we can
confide in and who can confide in us but if
one finds increasingly that one is more
comfortable confiding in one’s friend more
than one’s spouse, this may place a wedge
between one that deepens to the point of no
return.
Friendships provide support, keep us from
feeling lonely and make us well-rounded
people. Encouraging and supportive friends
(male or female) understand that one’s best
friend is and should be one’s spouse, but no
matter how close one is to one’s spouse and
kids, one often desires to have a kinship with
others.
It is possible for married people to have
healthy extra-marital friendships. However,
special consideration must be given to a
number factors that if ignored can and will
threaten a marriage.
It’s important that a couple develop and
consistently nurture a ‘best friend’
relationship with their spouse. It’s important
to make sure that one’s spouse understands
the quality of one’s friendship with the
opposite sex and is comfortable with it. If
they are not, then one needs to explore with
them.
There might be a perfectly rational and
reasonable reason why they have problems
with it. It is important to honour one’s
spouses’ wishes concerning one’s friendship-
even if it means ending it. The sanctity of
one’s marriage must always come first unless
it is an abusive marriage and then one has
other more serious issues to address.
If one’s marriage is in trouble or one is
having intimacy problems then it is important
to avoid exposing oneself to opposite sex
friendships; the boundaries may quickly get
blurred. If one’s friend fulfils needs that one
wishes one spouse would meet, this could be
a problem and lead to other things.
It was quite interesting to get the views of a
few men and women who have tried to
negotiate this terrain with varied results.
Enjoy their stories
Jakande is on his third marriage and firmly
believes categorically that close friendships
with the opposite sex outside marriage are
‘the devils handiwork.’
He says, “My first wife and I were deeply in
love. I do not think I will ever find that type
of love or happiness again. Everything was
wonderful for six years until she went on a
course abroad. She was there for two years
and made friends with another student
(male). She told me about him and I initially
supported the friendship because I thought
she was genuinely taking him as a brother. I
did not question the friendship based on
what she told me about it and I felt he was a
good friend.
“My wife came home a few times on holiday
and I started noticing a change in her. She
didn’t seem to be as keen to have sex with
me like we used to especially now that we
were apart. I felt the feelings should be
stronger. I just knew something was not
right. There was nothing major I could put
my finger on but I just felt a difference in the
way her body responded to me. I mentioned it
but she brushed it aside saying these are
some of the things that can happen in a
marriage when one is apart. I have since had
female friends all of which I have had sex
with. Maybe I am trying to get back at my
first wife I don’t know but I think friends with
the opposite sex in marriage are a danger to
the marriage.”
Fifty-year-old Remy has had a close male
friend for 10 years. She had this friend before
she got married and her husband was aware
of their friendship. She said she cannot be
without her friend and her husband accepts
their friendship. In her case, she said she
knew the friendship has been instrumental in
strengthening their marriage. It was her
friend who convinced her to marry her
husband in the first place because she was
unsure of him before marriage. During the
marriage, she said there were many instances
that she came close to leaving her husband
and it was her friend that helped her
understand her husband’s point of view. She
felt friendship with the opposite sex in
marriage could if handled well and her friend
is very respectful of her husband.
Donna says, ‘‘It’s all about trust at the end of
the day. If you have a solid foundation and
the trust is there, it should not be a problem.
If one or the other is feeling insecure about
the friendship, then there must be unresolved
issues in the marriage that need to be sorted
out.’’
Sarah and John have been married for
20years and they consider themselves to
have a ‘very close, happy relationship.’ Sarah
says, ‘‘I have always had close friendships
with the opposite sex. In fact, I had more
male friends than girlfriends. I just seem to
get on better with the men than women. My
husband had a really hard time with my
having male friends before we got married as
he suspected everyone and thought they all
wanted to have sex with me. After we got
married, he demanded I terminate all my
male friendships. I thought this was very
selfish of him and I resisted. We had some
horrible fights about it and I did not think he
was being rational about it. In the end, as
much as I was unhappy about it, I chose to
keep peace in my marriage but I still have a
lot of resentment about it and I think it
harmed our marriage as I do not have that
outlet with my male friends that he canno
fulfil. There are things I can talk to my male
friends about that I cannot talk to him about
because he just does not understand and it
does not mean I want to have sex with
them.’’
I know my readers have strong views on
issues in this column so please send in your
views on this topic





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report to EFCC









my opinion ur help

how many lols will I get for this or is this
actually true?

RIP to d dead

as a man if u re nt married u won't know y men cheat

I ll feel stained

you

y killing urself na, all of u shld b patient

restructuring is going on.

restructuring is going on

"I cheat on her but i dont see it as cheating but
rather caring for my emotional needs." mr man, when that sweet new babe is also after two, u ll be same reason to "care for your emotional need" pls don't say I did not warn you oo, I sence danger. just my opinion

R.I.P to d dead

am not surprised, cos I could remember few weeks goodluck assumed office, many said he's the chosen one, but today same people are saying he is worst President Nigeria ever had, what a pity!

I cant believe someone wit his right sense ll expect automatic change from mr. president, when change is a gradual process, wait for 3 yrs before criticizing him,

more to dat, no nairaland after death,

........b calm soonest......

bovi

.............

debris God ooooo

sigh

nice, keep it upnice, keep it upnice, keep it up