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Mal 3:10 - bring ye all the tithes so that my store house may be full. And ℓ̊'ll rebuke the devorer on ur behalf.

You were commanded, thou shall not steal and God said you have robbed in ur tithes.

As a student, ℓ̊ believe U̶̲̥̅̊ shud pay tithe out of ur increase, ur increase does not signify ur sch fees or money for text books. Ur increase is ur pocket money and all such monetary gifts that may accrue to you.

jinkees: The tru meaning of christianity is being like Christ when he was on earth I have searched the entire bible and I neva saw where Jesus Christ. Instructed us to pay tithe nor his apostles. But the way dis pastors stress on the issue like if u dnt pay ur tithe u wld be dammed. Even a friend of mine tht does runs brags tht she pays her tithe so nobody can bring her down.

U̶̲̥̅̊ said U̶̲̥̅̊'ve searched d bible and U̶̲̥̅̊ didn't see Jesus paid tithe or asked his disciples to pay tithe.

What of whr he said render unto ceasar wat is ceasar's and to God wat is God.

Tithe is a biblical principle for those who believe in God. Many of U̶̲̥̅̊ claim to be christians bt only follow God in the sweet parts and forget the part whr U̶̲̥̅̊ av to put in ur effort.

Never knew this thread has been up for so long

Just discovered it and went to the site bt cudnt register
Kept asking me to check my password which I changed and changed over and over but no luck.
Can anyone help me out.

taio luv: @all people who contributed to this thread,tank u all,thumbs up

Today is my birthday and am alone, d' pressure is high,bt i pray to God it wil be wt my husband for my next year bday IJN.

Love you for ur words of inspiration and advise it is shaping me up nicely for my soon very soon husband

Happy Birthday taio luv.
ℓ̊ pray that our faithful lord will meet the desires Ơ̴͡f ur heart.
ℓ̊ bid U̶̲̥̅̊ congratulations in advance. Do send us ℓ̊.v Õoooº°˚
Faithful is the Lord. He is too faithful to fail

chichi254: Hmmm. Its quite unfortunate dat girls are no longer seen as treasures they are but cheap articles that can be purchased wit money. But still Daily news, ther are precious jewels among them. It hurts me when a guy approaches me 4 friendship and starts bragging abt his financial prowess and achievments thinkin that all we care abt is money. Do they think that money is a prerequisite 4 luv?
Most times sef, guys are d cause of d problem. How would u approach a girl and strt confessin how u wouldnt allow her 2 suffer if only she says yes 2 u. By d time she says yes and later strt demandin, u guys will strt 2 complain again. Imagine, last xmas, a guy who i turned down his proposal was pleadin wit me severaly 2 send him my bank account numbr so that he would send me some money 2 buy xmas things 4 my self. This was som1 whom i hav told clealy dat things cant work between us. If i'm d type who beliv in eating som1 mugu,he would start complainin dat girls like money.
In my own case, i hav nevr sought 4 material/financial assistanc 4rm a man. this may sound unbelievabl conderin wat s hapenin now but it s true. Back 2 d guy in question, d only material gift i hav recieved 4rm him were a pair of shoes, hand bag,etc which he sent 2 me on my bithday. Though i accepted it but i told him not 2 send me anythin again and he stoped. so u see, he wouldnt say that i am materialy demandin @ all...

True these days ladies are no longer seen as treasures cos it's rare to see a lady who wud like to be wit a guy who isn't well to do wit financially.
Majority Ơ̴͡f ladies these days only size up guys based on their financial prowess. If a guy who isn't well to do wit doesn't buy gifts frequently, he is seen as stingy and uncaring and the poor guy may just be trying to get by.

Don't get me wrong, ℓ̊'m not saying there aren't ladies who wud date without considering the money aspect Ơ̴͡f the guy(as av bn said by some nairalanders) bt it's hard to see cos exposure has eaten deep into the heads Ơ̴͡f some ladies wen D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣γ̲̣̣ get into schools and expect guys to buy for them wat their fathers cudnt.

Bt on my part... Most Ladies are lyk royalty to me.

DailyNews: The problem here is- I don't even chase, not in my book, and can't do that...now ask me how I will find my wife, maybe miracle lol...I dnt chase cos I believe chasing ladies = chasing wind. Cos I believe that ladies dnt care abt guys, they dnt want companion (my own belief though), so I can't see myself worrying abt someone that doesn't care cos its unfair n biased. Y must u like me cos I am this n that? Y cnt u like me cos I act weird, write weird, etc? Must it be for materials and tangibles? Wot if I have none, so it means I am not worthy of love These r some of d questions dat pop into guys head involuntarily, n y some mistreat ladies who come their ways. Pls strive by all means u can wherever u find urself to disprove guys that u only want money n favour from them, cos guys are beginning to ask questions- y must she like me cos I give her money? Solve her assignment, give her job? Etc...wot if I have none to give her

Cud U̶̲̥̅̊ pls expantiate on ur definition Ơ̴͡f "CHASE"

nbright: @SimplYeahmee.... I learnt something in class today... "cultural shock".. This is the (experience) shock/disgust u get for that first time when u come in contact with another persons culture/beliefs... Be disgusted @ me all u want, but that's my way.. I stand by it... U no holy pass...

ℓ̊ know say ℓ̊ no holy pass U̶̲̥̅̊. Even if ℓ̊ am no one knows. My disgust is the fact that some pple are simply misquotin d bible and working based on a misconstrued lie.
Shikena.
Crucify me all U̶̲̥̅̊ want, dats just d way ℓ̊ see these things.

ichidodo: Big ups mr daily news, i sure love ure articles but i wil pitch my tent wit nbright on his tasTe and see policy. My aunt would have been spared 14yrs of grief if she knew early enough of her husband's weak hoo-haa or my uncle would not have adopted as a result of his wife's infertility. Even i am a product of taste and see which has done a marriage of 26 yrs no harm. This is real life, people should not leave these things to chance HEAVEN HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES. no sex b4 marriage is an age old crap coined by individuals deluded by their sense of self-righteousness hence are not into touch wit the vagaries of REAL LIFE as we know it to be.

ℓ̊ so pity U̶̲̥̅̊ guys who misquote the bible for ur own selfish reasons, it's utterly disgusting.
For the other guy saying 'taste and see' isn't the bible referring to God, it says taste and see that the Lord is good, if the song U̶̲̥̅̊ ar referring to is actually a christian song, ℓ̊'m so sure it's referring to the goodness Ơ̴͡f God and askin U̶̲̥̅̊ to go and ruin pple(girls) lives because U̶̲̥̅̊ want the best.
As for U̶̲̥̅̊ saying heaven help those who help themselves, is it in this context.
The bible also says "wisdom is the principal thing and in all ur doing get understanding"
"If any Ơ̴͡f U̶̲̥̅̊ lack understanding/wisdom let him ask Ơ̴͡f the Lord, who would generously give him wisdom"
If any part Ơ̴͡f the bible is unclear to U̶̲̥̅̊, look around for bible scholars and pastors to give U̶̲̥̅̊ a clearer meaning Ơ̴͡f the scriptures.
Once again stop misquoting and misconstruing the bible for ur selfish desires. It's absolutely disgusting.

missblanche: Is that possible here?i would love to try it out if its possible..thanks for the idea..thank you

ℓ̊ believe U̶̲̥̅̊ ar based in Lagos, find a venue, get ur instruments ready (make it practical), make some handbills etc and advertise here as well and ℓ̊ believe U̶̲̥̅̊'ll record a success. With time U̶̲̥̅̊ make it regular and build a career from there. Just ensure U̶̲̥̅̊ are always up to date on new baking tecniques.

PHC WhiteBoi: You aint gonna like this but here goes anyway,
No woman is going to take you up on this,
You are a man, so therefore you are a provider,
Women want to feel protected and looked after,
they want a man who can stand on his own two feet,
i'm sorry but you sound pathetic, you really do.

He's expecting sumone btw 18 - 25 to be desperate enof to take him up on his offer. SMH

Face your studies

missblanche: Pls do go for the training..i really love baking,it just makes me happy and i love making people smile thank you so much..

Why not initiate a training platform and charge something for it. U̶̲̥̅̊'ll be surprised by d no. Ơ̴͡f pple dat will sign up.
ℓ̊ as well luv baking and cooking stuffs like that just dat ℓ̊ nid to horn my skills again.

onila: am a virgin

Good for U̶̲̥̅̊.
Stay that way till U̶̲̥̅̊ get married.
It's honourable. Very very

Hi dear.
Can I ask a few questions.
Btw wen u met him nd up to now ow was he financially?
In ur relationship whr u d one doing most of d spending nd buying.
Lyk ow often do u give him money.

If you have been assisting him financially for like the last two yrs. I'm afraid to say he was after ur money. Moreover u helped him financially to secure his visa. Most of these fights and arguments started afta he had gotten his visa ryt.

He is looking for a way to end d relationship. He may have loved u frm d onset bt had ulterior motive.

My dear, I wud say end it bfor he travel cos if u don't u will strain yourself while he's away while he wud not even bother about u.
If u''ve given him sex, it's a pity u''ve given out a prized possession to sumone not worthy of it.

End it.
Dust yourself off d ground and move on. God has better plans for you.

Don't cry for long. He isn't meant for you.

SEXUAL INTERCOURSE is a meeting/union of two souls not just two bodies burning with passion. For everyone you sleep with or have sex with your souls and destinies are being shared .

Another thing to consider is, in dis present evil world where demons and evil spirits have chosen to walk among men disguised as men/women (boys/girls inclusive) who are ready to thwart every thing good which the Lord is planning. Note you wont see it written on their foreheads cos they are here to destroy destinies and one major avenue is pre-marital and extra-marital sex.

So I beg and urge you, save ur virginity for marriage.

P.s all those of u bed hoppers, I give you the freedom to attack me and my way of reasoning.

Kelvin0: It is quite funny, different strokes for different folks as the whiteman will say, you Nairalanders are confusing me the more, an experienced friend told me that my wife is gonna kook down on me if i am not sexually active and she might end up cheating on me because of that, pls i need your advice is it safe to still be a virgin at this age of mine, i mean do i stand to loose anything if i give up this idea of virginity and look for woman that will sooth my desires,

Take a breather relax
There's no harm in being a virgin. Wats d point of stealing ur fud while it is still cooking? You will only get yourself burnt.
Your friend dat is pressuring you isn't a friend but an enemy. He has tasted a forbidden fruit nd wants u to join him in sin. Wat is ur assurance that d girl u lay with will not be diseased.
Btw you and your friend, who can be more certain of being free from stds?
Don't let ur friend cajol u into premarital sex. It is sin and evil before God.
The bible says "Marriage is honorable with the bed undefiled"
Don't worry about ur future wife. If u can keep yourself a virgin till marriage, God will gift unto u a virgin for a bride. So there won't be a case of sumone being more experienced dan d other.

Take my advice and my plea, remain a virgin till u get married.

If ur friends taunt u, you either change company or u convince them of the benefits of abstenience which may be harder.

Talk to her about it and let her know d kind of passion burning inside u.

Maya2pretty: *totally unrelated to your last post* Carmy doll, bein single sucks! sometimes sometimes I feel, awkward about it, even sad, to an extent though, me ave had two or three experiences to know dat MOST men r unreliable liars but it still sucks bein single and alone

Sorry dear, it's a pity dat only d wrong ones have been coming ur way.
Thank God you said most and not all. There are still Good guys out there. I pray d right one comes across u and soon.
Give ur time to God nd work. He's on his way.

Ivynwa: The safety aspect of it some of you mentioned is hilarious, somebody said that you can go live with a female co-worker or bring your sister to stay with you like the female co-worker or sister is the superman that will rescue you should a male predator/thief etc come knocking.

Haven't you seen where robbers/kidnappers visit men injure, kidnap and even beat them? The other side of male predators you were referring to which may be (badminded boyfriend/lovers who want to use and dump them or even r*pe them) can still approach them whether they are living with sisters or co-workers. Living with a male or female relative does not guarantee your safety, it is God that protects. A lady that is good is good, living with others or alone does not change that. Some men here that are of the opinion that a single female shouldn't live alone are biased because they still negated such females moral wise. The safety aspect isn't holding water one bit.



Ask me o-o brother.
The type of men that are scared of successful women have one complex or the other and are suffering from poverty mentality because in his/her mind it is only a not-too-successful lady that is good for him like he is scared of success . I know that another aspect of it is this great fear of not having to dominate and control the woman when he marries. A man that sets out to marry a woman he is going to love, care for not dominate and subdue can't have such fears. I have heard a man say that he doesn't want his wife to become rich on her own, that he wants to make his wife who she will be which is because he is afraid that she may become richer than him. What will such a man married to a woman do when she gets promoted to a very good salary in her work place or garners an expensive contract, such a man can ask her to stop working or to drop the contract for fear of her becoming too rich: poverty mentality. Let's not be too limiting.

Single ladies can enjoy their lives, dream big and work hard while waiting for whoever God has for them not hide away her money and be taking public transport when she can afford to buy cars, ignore good opportunities that can yield millions for her because millions will chase away intending suitors (hey! these ladies have to eat and survive too ) or cling to the apron of parents and siblings, sharing homes with them for fear that when she branches out on her own and owns a home that no man will want to marry her. Let's free up our minds biko. Thank you.

Respected and duly noted. I have nothing against single successful independent ladies. Jst looking at it from one angle.
And true d coworker or sis may not be a superwoman bt I think that 2 are better Dan 1.
That's all.

nbright: @bolded.... I disagree with u... I am very choosy... To me it's only the desperate ones that does that...

Well gud for u. Let's assume dat dere's no such thing as sin
Would ur natural fleshy desires be kept in check?

Like I said sumtin kips us back be it God or morals or d appearance of d lady

Eneze1: What if she's working and her organization is not in the same city where are parents live, please what should she do, need your advice please

stay with a female co worker or ask your sister to come and stay with you. it's safer this way

HumbledbYGrace: NO! Iam not the person in question but we are africans and we can't run away from that culture. Even Joseph paid the bride Price

Ok my friend has an uncle, her uncle is one good looking man...they are coloureds anyway, so back in the day, a lady who liked him; well they dated and the guy couldn't affort to marry her since he didn't have enough cash to pay the bride price. The lady gave him 70% of the money her family asked for so now the guy is cheating and all. He treats his wife like his maid because he says he didn't marry the girl, she paid her way into marriage.

Now if I help my oga, isn't he going to do that ish to me

Like I said IAM JUST CURIOUS O

truth is, it takes discipline and the grace of God to keep any man from cheating.
any natural man driven by his flesh will go afta anything in skirt be it ugly or fyn as long as he sees he can satisfy his lustful desires of sex. notwithstanding stds

Maya2pretty: @carmy and Ivynwa God 4give me 4 what I want to say cos they didn't create themselves but my major turn off is a short guy talkin about love 2 me there's nothin more annoyin dan a man am taller dan professin love *shivers* I detest it, nobody should take it personal

i pray God has not written ur story wit a short guy for a husband oo. it wud be too funny

HumbledbYGrace: I will try thanks...better yet lemme just shoot myself

a problem shared is half solved and if u dont share it, it will keep on eating away on ur inside until it causes more damage inside u

carmelion: _{It won't be here you know},as for my pix,I will post it here,when I am sure I can handle the outcome.I have written a lot about my self here,you know.

i would like to see it too, pls
you've been very matured and coordinated on this forum. i'm impressed.

[quote author=she-blayze]Nyc thread..

Ma fwend has issues. I op d whole house can read n giv meaningful replies.

She became friends wit a guy. An ok guy hu had a gf. He broke up wiv his gf of 5 years cos she was cheatin on him n had only bin usin him for his money. She confessed to him that der was sm1 else in her lyf.

Ma fwend n dis guy got rily close n started dating. Evrytin was perfect till he told her smtin rily heart-shattering.

He told her dey shud put the relationship on hold. Cos he had lost mani opportunities cos of his ex. E.g, he was supposed to travel out buh he stayed bck cos he had plans of marryin d ex. It was wen his business started failin dat d gf started misbehaving.

Dis guy told ma fwend dat she can live her lyf d way she wants, dat she shudn't feel obligated or tied down to him. Dey still talk on d fone evryday buh on d "jus friends" level.

She stopped eatin n even fell sick cos of d brk up. Wen he hrd abt her sickness he even volunteered to pick her up everyday frm work n tk her out to eat. She refused tho. She has spoken wiv oda pple abt d issue n dey advised dat she shud move on. She said even if she dates sm1 else n he coms later in d future to ask for her hand in marriage, she'll leave d person for dis guy.

She's in her early 20s.

Wat do u guyz fink?[/quote]now i think she needs to re-examine herself and get her priorities ryt?

1. is she thru wiv sch?
2. does she av work on her hand?
3. wat has the guy given you that the lord cant or ur parents cant
4. has she been sleeping wit him?

this guy isnt ready to marry you, why are you still knocking on a closed and bolted door?

God does miracles and the impossible bt my dear sister this one he wont do.

so get ur act or ass together and move on with ur life. ur own husband is waiting for you.

anitank: I honestly can't promise you a 'no sex before marriage' thing
Infact i cant get married to a man i know nothing about his sexuality
Life is about risks dear......
If you win, you'll be happy
If you lose, you will be wise

i cant believe you are the one saying this "contradicting yourself"
first you say you commune with God before anything and now you are saying you cant promise no sex before marriage.
i dont know if you are a mumslim but if u are a christian as i'm believing you to be,
was it not stated by God in the bible that "marriage is honorable with the BED UNDEFILED"

so i advice and beg you to change ur attitude but u dont have to listen to me.
its up to you.

KenGali: Hello Dollz!
This thread is really nice cause It allows men to understand ladies a bit more.
At least me, I waz surprised that ladies actually get hurt by break ups, usually tot they always go up to the next relationship! May be the guys need to see more of your tears to really understand that it's more than a game. Not that I play the game though.

Now here I have two issues, Am kind of different, not sulky. I like to keep a girl by my side for a while before formalising things with her. Not because I am evil, but cause i do not wish to start a relationship with one of those girls that change boyfriends every three to six months or the Marry-me Marry-me kind. This usually confuses the girl, they are so use to guys that rush to be with them that they can't seem to phantom me out! Usually they try to impress me shortly, which I carefully wait out. But that really freaks them out, so am wondering if its a bad approach? Beyond that we become half incommunicado.

Am at a stage in my life where I have kind of passed the hurdle of the average guy in terms of money and achievement, I hardly ever come across a girl that did not like me, at least in the past 5 yrs. Actually a girl friend of mine once warned me that this will happen once am close to thirty. So I have two objectives, avoid going into a relationship with a girl that will be short lived cause I really hate stressful relationships and do not have time to build in the clouds. Secondly sift out that girl I love who cannot afford to live without me? I do not just want someone I love, I want someone who loves me. It's really easy to make a girl fall in love with you when she is not. Just be really nice and stick around! Only problem is by psychology, she can also easily be made to fall out of love with you. So if am your brother, what would you advice?

hmmm... i wont advice you that because ladies tend to loose interest in you afta dey put a hand that u shud jump at any1 of them that comes along cos some maybe hoping to jst get ur cash or get demselves married to u.
i ud also say dat dnt see a lady on d road on a day nd delare u love her, ur 6mnt to 1yr delay tactics is obviously not working
so i'd say giv it a 3mnth period to familiarise urself wit her b4 u pop it.