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[quote author=obo389]
Its a hard one though cos i doubt if its gona work out btw both of you as a result of d age differences & his tribe.
G/luck to u.[/quot

****when a girl walks for miles to see you*****

Come car no dey? Abi bus don finish for outside? Oh, ℓ̊ get she no get money enta keke or bike abi?

simayanki4real: Hello dolls & gents...

'I am a beautiful and charming lady for which love has evaded uptill my NYSC years where i met a seemingly charming gentleman. The circumstance of our meeting felt lik destiny ... as my previous relationship just felt into chaos and so did his.

Though he was looking to have the explosive fun which the NYSC had to offer and so was I, little did we know that our paths would cross. In two months time, we dating already and everyday seemed to be a dream come through. I felt so much love, so much intimacy that i couldn't stay without seeing him.

Though i knew we would separate after the NYSC, i hoped it would be something minor. Little did i know that he had been pursing a visa to travel abroad even before we met, and secured it as service year ended. When he finally told me, i had mixed feelings: though happy for him, i cannot help but imagine to what happens to our relationship.

Our relationship isn't perfect, but i know deep down that the good times we have supercedes whatever odd times we have. I do not know what to do... Please advice.'

Over to you!

It seems she been having a hard time finding the right guy and now she has found one.
If she feels this one is the right one then they both have to promise each other to always kip in touch via mail, whatsapp, bbm etc. Cos it luks lyk she seems hopeless if she loses this one (lyk age isn't really on her side).
The guy is probably going to read further. In this his one year of study, they shud always find a way to kip in touch on a daily basis to kip hope of a lasting relationship.
If he's going to be spending more than a year or two there, she shud begin finding a way to process her own visa to go and be with him.

It won't be easy, bt if she really wants it to work out, she has to put in effort and kip the guy and the relationship in prayers.

@Carmelion ℓ̊ pray you see this.
ℓ̊ would love to bow my hat and salute you.
It takes mighty courage to see all the above derailment and jst continue with the issue at hand. 99.9% of the people won't be able to do what you did. Many would be tempted to respond to all the derailers and shut them up seeing that it's their thread.
Once again, ℓ̊ bow my hat to salute you.

Also, ℓ̊ will like to acknowledge all the peacemakers(@alutacontinua, @jan8, @nbright, @temi4fash etc you all know yourselves), ℓ̊ salute you too and pray that peace reign in your various lives. Amen

ℓ̊ think, ℓ̊ would simply bow out of this thread like @Dailynews has done. It's not worth the stress of going from one page to another and all one would see are insults and counter insults.

Signing Out.

25k salary in this modern day Nigeria. This is purely modern day slave trade.

But go for it o if you don't currently have anything doing. Half bread they say is better than none.

TruAkebaje: That Hauwa is NOT a friend, if it was my wedding I would have bounced her. What nonsense! I have been to invite only weddings - when a mutual friend wanted to come to one, I politely  explained to her that she couldnt cos it was IV only, she accepted that and the conversation turend to othe matters. Simple! How can you spoil someone's special day like that?

@ ebony4life, - sorry o! my friend LOCKED the hall until she and the groom came from shurch, and she had bouncers to MAKE SURE that uninvited guests couldnt come in. (but she's crazy like dat! )

its ur wedding nah so you go stand with all the flowing gown waka go door to put things in order

bt haba no be ur wedding

you want to plan a wedding in Nigeria with a budget of N400k.

it will do you well to increase it cos whoever says they can will be lying to you. maybe 500k can do sumfin. bt u might not get wat u exactly desire.

let me atleast ask what nd what he wud like to see at d wedding so maybe his budget can be worked with.

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A round of Applause

Here we have another corrupt official ready and willing to defraud and scam innocent people.

Another round of Applause

What's with all these derailing

Must you carry your disagreement from other threads into this

@real king, must you now became the front man in the battle and drew anoda battle line. If you can't stick to your own advice, then better don't give it.cos you are a man doesn't mean you have to run ur mouth as well. Whosoever's tank is over full shud keep running her mouth like a broken tap. At a point, it will run dry.

@Carmelion pls do what you can to clean up this thread, we are beginning to have some unscrupulous elements or personalities derailing this thread. It totally uncalled for. Pls do sumtin, if it's to get them banned (best) it will be a good development.

pretim: Am so hrt broken ryt nw am even shading tears,
wat have i done wrong dat i loved a guy, he hardly call me, i call him always, text him but no reply, he traveled without telling me wen he came bk he dnt wana see me

before dis guy became something i suffered wit him, i gave him my 6months salary to start a business, look @ hw he is paying me bk, he never buy anything for me, am so tired i need to brk up because i can't take it anymore God why me, or is it a crime dat am a gurl in love?

*Cries*

Hi Pretim
A big warm fuzzy hug for you.
Your plight is pitiful as you laid it out. But as we all know, there's never been a smooth ride from start to finish, you just got burnt and urs was a car crash.
There might have been signs at the start whc u may have chosen to ignore. ℓ̊ don't have all the details of the relationship to tell you dis is whr u got it wrong or sumtin.
You May have been destined as his destiny helper and he may not have been destined to be yours.
ℓ̊'ll advice that if you can get to talk to him, sit him down and cry your heart out to him, if he's destined for you sumtin may touch his heart. Bt if he feels and acts like you are disturbing his peace. Jst step outside, pick your two 'slippers' and dust away all of him frm yourself and move on.
Trust God, he has sumtin better for you in store.

Big Hug.
Welcome home.

Online stores have come to stay. Due to their infancy, ℓ̊ believe they will still have one or two lapses.
Look at it this way, we are the same pple clamouring that any coy without a website isn't fit to live in dis economy. Now online stores have come and we are still the ones castigating them.
Jumia.com is fairly new, roughly came into existence in the last quarter of last year.
Konga.com is definitely this year.
Best option whc they offer is pay on delivery, if you don't like d product, reject it.
ℓ̊ ordered my phone frm Jumia.com and they shipped it via dhl to me in ph.
So give them a chance, they are not yet ready to rub shoulders with the likes of Amazon.

nbright: Thank God with me... My sister gave birth to a baby girl (her first)... at around 5:46 pm.. Both the mother and child are healthy... That's a wonderful Easter present to the family..

Congrats to the family and ℓ̊ do rejoice with the family. It's really a blessed easter for them.
ℓ̊ wish all who desire the same, that urs will come at the ryt tyme. Amen

May my own too come at the ryt tym. Amen

Babzilla: CHICS IN NIGERIA WILL FCK A PIG IF IT HAS MONEY

What are Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ trying to insinuate by that statement. Must Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ paint them all black? Re-examine urself, jst because U̶̲̥̅̊'ve used ur money to sleep with all the girls on ur street or ur lack of it has caused Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ not to experience a thriving relationship doesn't give U̶̲̥̅̊ the ryt to blacklist them all.

@OP great job keep it up.



Those of U̶̲̥̅̊ complaining about d length of the article. May that thing which is to turn ur life around not be as long else U̶̲̥̅̊ are a gonner

nbright: Of course I am a realist as for that friendly matter, I too have noticed that some poster might bear grudges towards me here... Someone told me to mellow down on my comments and I think I ma do just that... I say what I think is right, if it pains anyone, sorry, if I am wrong, I apologise, but I will not compromise on my way of writting just to please others... I can't please others to displease myself... Never..

Truthfully, i like ur objectivity, the fact that you can pick up on stray thots and analyse them impresses me.
If others feel offended by you idont.

A pat on d back.

His being a Sickly patient shouldn't be a criteria for being rejected as a potential employee. Except if the work he is going to undertake is streneous in nature.
If otherwise, and he's is rejected based on that, he shud sue the coy.

Hello,
ℓ̊ wish to indicate my interest to be a moderator on the Job section of Nairaland.
ℓ̊ have constant access to the net, ℓ̊ am one who pays attention to details and is always looking for opportunities of helping people around me and in Nigeria.
For the fact that we are all "managers" ℓ̊ also would like to help people from being scammed.
ℓ̊'m a law abiding citizen as well.
Nigeria Shall Rise.

Hello house, ℓ̊'ve been absent for a while kinda busy (thinking).

By the way ℓ̊ just wanted to ask Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ all how have U̶̲̥̅̊ been. It's a big comfort to know we all have an online home to run to, where we have loving and caring brothers as well as bashful brothers.
Not forgetting our sisters (some grieving) who are always giving us care and bear-full hugs.

It's a wonderful place. Hello Y'all.

zyxxx: wow, a bashing on •̸ϞƔ‎​‎​‎​ very 1st input.....yu could have welcomed me first yu know.......

Sorry for the supposedly bashing.
ℓ̊ officially welcome Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ to a thread for single ladies.

bukkylois: Guess I shld tell my story
Started dating this dude abt 3yrs ago(april makes it 3yrs) he was just starting his life all over again after leaving edo state where he was born to jos. He said he needed a new life devoid of his parents influence. I dated him wen he had nothing, practically nothing. I knew he was a graduate and had a bright future. We struggled financially for abt a year with me helping him with the little I had since I was just a student. Life started getting better for him n he took care of me with the little he had. Then he got dis rily kul contract. He was at least an average guy with a nyc crib and a lovely ride...nxt thing I knew gurls started flocking around and he felt good. Started being rude to me, I just took it as one of dose things. He stopped taking care of me, though I am a lady that loves using my money to take care of myself, at least I felt he shld appreciate me as his gf wif little gfs. For over a year he nvr spent a dime on me. I felt worthless in his eyes but still took it again as one of those things... Finally He proposed to me and I foolishly said yes. After about 6 montjs d dude surprised me! Told me to get a job b4 he can marry me, mind you I am business oriented and I tld him I would prefer to run my business than work under someone else...he kept ranting that he didn't plan his life dt way so I must get a job..next strike was wen he told me dt wen I get a job I am going to be saddled with feeding the family while he takes care of other bills. This was so disturbing cos I feel a man should feed his family..though I dnt mind supporting but making it look lik my job wasn't just it. The last strike I finally caught him cheating on me last week, he kept denying but am no fool.
Rily sorry my story is all over the place but I keep thinking of all I went tru with him, he rude behaviour n how he has no respect for me. To worsen the matter my mum is rily insisting I get married soon..ha! Am just in my early 20's for God's sake. I rily need to start my life over again but I am scared. Don't no wer to begin and I feel so stupid for letting dis relationship stay dis long b4 realising dis dude was just using me. I need ur advice...am in a rily sad place rite now

Hi bukkydoll,
First of all "here a big hug" (dnt let go until U̶̲̥̅̊ feel comforted)

Can ℓ̊ ask, ℓ̊ hope U̶̲̥̅̊'ve not given d ultimate, ℓ̊.e SEX. It may sound weird coming frm a guy.

U̶̲̥̅̊ dnt av to let it weigh U̶̲̥̅̊ down. Lyk it's said d road to success is laiden wit bumps and ditches. U̶̲̥̅̊ said U̶̲̥̅̊ caught him cheating, pls nd pls dnt think of eva going bck to him cos d same thing that made him cheat now won't kip him faithful in marriage. He will at one point find an excuse to cheat n in d end U̶̲̥̅̊ may end up considering a divorce.
Pls pick up urself, God has made U̶̲̥̅̊ see a bad route dat may lead to sumtin worse. ℓ̊ believe God is preparing U̶̲̥̅̊ for a better man out there. Sumtyms ℓ̊ wish all men were decent lyk me to be faithful to ladies who are decent.

Pls ℓ̊ know it will be hard bt giv urself tym. If U̶̲̥̅̊ av to cry about by all means pls do, ℓ̊ know it will help a bit. Bt pls dnt cry for too long. Dust urself up and move about ur biz [b][/b]ur prince charming is out there jst as my princess is out there sum whr waiting for me.

Feel free to mingle bt be careful in choosing.

Lastly frm me to Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ "A big snuggly heart warming bear hug"

mysticgal: dislike tatooed and muscled guys,but love funny,romantic,handsome,easygoing,softspoken guyz,bydway,i gat no boyfriend.

Where can ℓ̊ send application, am interested!
ℓ̊'ve all the above characteristics and it aint a joke.

Lagusta: I didn't joor.... I used reynolds biro....

U̶̲̥̅̊ be JJC den.

O boy eee. See pple jst dey "GBAGAUN" left right and centre.
LWKMD
ℓ̊ no fit laff finish

missblanche: Why are some guys just useless?
All he did was send me a msg saying "joanna,you are beautiful but your forehead spoilt everything"
F**king troll..dear lord!!!my forehead!!what's wrong with my forehead?for the love of God...*whew*
All he was thinking about was my head..

Babe, dnt let any one boil ur spirit. U̶̲̥̅̊ are just too beautiful to let some fool get to U̶̲̥̅̊. Keep ur head high and watch the ryt one come for U̶̲̥̅̊.

Sending Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ a big warm snuggly hug to keep U̶̲̥̅̊ thru the nyt. Sleep tyte girl.

nbright: Forgiveness is a sin... I am not Jesus Christ that I should be giving out scarce resources (forgiveness) freely... I believe that if I'm offended and I forgive, it will give others more reason to offend me knowing that I will still forgive them again and again... I so much believe in the Mosaic law of an eye for an eye...

Bros, U̶̲̥̅̊ harsh ooo
U̶̲̥̅̊ dey talk say U̶̲̥̅̊ no fit to forgive, no be everyday baba God dey forgive U̶̲̥̅̊, abi U̶̲̥̅̊ think say U̶̲̥̅̊ still fit dey alive if baba God dey luk ur sins.
Abeg, find place for ur heart to dey forgive ooo.
Jesus talk am say if ur bro/sis offend U̶̲̥̅̊, no forgive am 7tyms ooo bt 7 * 77 tyms and if U̶̲̥̅̊ fit count am finish make U̶̲̥̅̊ retaliate.
Bros abeg calm down.

carmelion: Thanks ivynwa,wooow, that's a big teddy bear you 've got there!

there are some dolls,i have not seen it in awhile

@Mayapretty,rubi26,rita lewisky,Auntynurse,greedoll,Cowgurl,Caracta,Humblebygrace,
Ampeaceful,Graphy,Sheybor,evelyn006,eihmub,Bec,Cutjay,Anitank,Winneygirl'
all the ladies that once posted on the thread,i hope you re all okay?

@Edelweiss,thanks for stopping by,i know you must have been very busy,
you left when the thread was on page 18,just keep up at your own pace,
hope business is going on well?

These guys are missing. lol,Chikeorji,Honerico,Dahonestboss,Dipwaters,ITbomb,2buff,Soyedele,
Dailynews,Phinalphantasy,Simpleyeahmee,
passionate88,Kabonic,Charliemorgano,Rooneyboy,Meilyn,Kengali eeeem,i hope am not forgetting anyone?.Xyoung,Madrista007.SamjonnyB,Biolabee,phew!.hope you guys are doing great?
take it easy with the hustling .

The list is so long mehn,just checking on everyone.

Thanks carmydoll, it's good to know we are one big happy family.

ℓ̊'ve jst been lazy to come online and am very sorry bn very distracted lately.

Can ℓ̊ ask for one thing (ℓ̊ want my own big warm mushy, snuggly bear hug) as much as we are "machomen" sumtyms we also want to be cared for as babies.

Big hugs anybody??

Wow...
Been away for too long, but trying to catch up with the latest happenings.
Dudes this thread is for single ladies pls let's give the best of our advice and drop all d drama sumwhr dey shudnt be found.

[quote author=carmelion
@all the guys in the guys,I need an honest answer from you.

What advise would you give your younger sister if she tells you that her boyfriend is about to marry her but he is still squatting with his elder brother?.

When I mean squatting ,I mean he has just one room there and he has no plans of moving out soon,but he wants to marry her.

I am asking this question because you guys just don't know the calibre of Men that falls under the name 'suitors'.All you say is that women are materialistic.

Persaonally I can't marry such a man,I will give you my reasons when you guys answer my question.

Let the answers roll in!.[/quote]
My sis tells me the guy proposing marriage still squats with his elder bro in a one room complex.
U̶̲̥̅̊ don dey madt abi?
1. Are U̶̲̥̅̊ alryt(to my sis o)
2. Nah Garri nd groundnut U̶̲̥̅̊ want take do wedding?
3. Even if d parents sponsor d wedding, nah garri nd kuli-kuli U̶̲̥̅̊ wan go dey chop afta marriage?
4. Nah inside that same one room U̶̲̥̅̊ wan go join dem squat abi?
5. That ur suitor's bro no get wife, U̶̲̥̅̊ wan come go join dem make una be four fr dat 1rm wey no big reach my bedroom abi?

If U̶̲̥̅̊ dere accept, ℓ̊ as ur bro will disown U̶̲̥̅̊ and convince our parents to disown U̶̲̥̅̊ as well.

If d guy is serious, he shud go and rent a 2bedroom flat in d least so as to accomodate a new wife and children.
He shud go nd find work and begin earning a salary to cater for his family. (ℓ̊ believe, his reason 4 squatting is lack of money).

See o @Carmelion if ℓ̊ hear say U̶̲̥̅̊ accept this kind of suitor, ℓ̊ will personally luk for U̶̲̥̅̊ and whoop/whip ur arse b4 driving U̶̲̥̅̊ back to ur parents house.

U̶̲̥̅̊ get Ekaite pin

"TALL" "DARK" "HANDSOME"

Why is it that out of 100% of women, 99.9% of them always dream of a prince charming who is tall dark/fair and handsome.

What happens to those guys who are S D H "SHORT" "Dark" "Handsome"
Are these ones not men also?

Whhat is it that TDH has that SDH doesn't have.
So he can't jump to dunk a basketball, big-whoop.

Pls ladies talk to us. All of us can't be TDH, as all fingers are not equal.

candygosh: I bet you guys have your reasons. Aand I think I do understand to some extent why you guys can't.

One thing am holding on to in the post is "experience"

What kind of experience

chichi254: Hmmmm! I'm so overwhelmed! I don't even knw wher 2 strt 4rm. U all are awesom. I realy apreciate ur advice. It shows how much u care. I noticed dat almost evry1 wish dat i adjust my list. Its ok. I'll try though its not gonna be easy @ all.
But i must tell u that there are some that i may not be able 2 adjust. Eg intelligence, i dont mean that he must be a university graduate (becos being a graduate doesnt guarantee intelligence) but he has 2 be very sound intellectually(graduate or no graduate).
Then d church issue, d fact is that i don't feel spiritualy fulfilled whenevr i attend any other church on sunday. Am not being fanatical at all. In fact, some pastors/G.Os. of other churches are among my mentors, eg Rev. D.K. Odukoya, Bishop Oyedepo etc. I admire their spirituality but so much in lov wit my church.
Someone agreed not 2 allow me 2 be attendin my church while he attends but i cant imagine goin seperate ways wit my husband on sundays. How long would he tolerate such? Wat then happens 2 our kids? Gosh! I foresaw confussion in d marriage n refused. I may sound nuts but i cant help it....

Hi doll,
ℓ̊ believe U̶̲̥̅̊ nid to be more open, take out time on sundays and explore other atmospheres of worship, consider their doctrine and see if it tallies with what ur bible says cos Christ asks of us to confirm every doctrine so as to know whom is genuine and who isn't. Moreover in doing this U̶̲̥̅̊ will be expanding ur waters from the small pond to a larger river where ur suitor may just be waiting to fish U̶̲̥̅̊ out. But if U̶̲̥̅̊ decide it's only ur church, God may jst so make it happen that he'll bring ur dream man along ur way and he wud be willing to bend for U̶̲̥̅̊ and decide to begin attending ur church (take it to God 1st in prayers o, cos he said ask and U̶̲̥̅̊ shall receive and not dream and ℓ̊'ll make it happen without asking).

As per ur list of T D H( tall dark/fair handsome), U̶̲̥̅̊ simply wudnt luk at sumone who S D H (short Dark n handsom) that meets all ur other criteria e.g "simplyeahmee". ℓ̊ wud say just be open and be ready to bend atleast a little. Ur dream man dat wud score 100% on ur list may/may not exist.
Be open and flexible.

God will answer U̶̲̥̅̊ in earnest. Like my pst's wife says "God is not slow and he has never been late" he won't start with U̶̲̥̅̊ to be late, he is a God that doesn't change.
"God delays are not denials"