₦airaland Forum

jtgpt: Don't be scared. It's most likely the number of us that got to that stage is the number they plan to recruit. The ED was just to give a final approval. We will all make it in by God's grace.
@ Chris1, what a wonderful job you are doing on this thread, connecting everyone together. Thanks. I've been quite mute cos the HR guy that spoke to us has been more of a detective on this thread. Lol! He advised on confidentiality as he is already seeing us as HB staff. Messages should start rolling in by Thursday thereabout. See you all at TS. One Love!

If that is the case, that would be wonderful. I am definitely looking forward to hearing from them. All the best everyone. After making it this far, by God's grace, none of us will be left out. Cheers.

joshdamz@yahoo.com . Thanks

horny4u: She is very very very very insecure now can that be cured ....don't know ?

but I think I know the cause of her insecurity so let me see if I can help ?
When a man chases a woman she feels secure in the relationship and can then allow him to be free but whenshe is the one chasing even with out intending to...she becomes unsure bout his feeling for her and then has a need to control the relationship especially when she is in love andd the man loses his freedom and becomes emotionally abused and controled.

Every time she calls you first even though its becos she hs no phone its she chasing you....everytime you donot call on time ...her thot forms begin to imagine you on another woman by the time you call ......her confidence is low, insecurity is up by 50% and she is livid with her self nd takes it out on you....

This is a pattern that can be stopped and she needs to up her security in the relationship and you can help her feel your love.

I think this relationship can be salvaged. Good luck!

I think this is the best thing I have heard all day. Thank you so much. I will have a chat with her.

@femcruz: I am happy you can relate to this. Thanks for your points, very good like @alutacontinua said.

sanb: The frequency of your fights, clearly shows there’s some compatibility issues going on here….


This is what I call emotional black-mail….and I tell you dude; I can guarantee that you’ll be receiving more of that in this relationship…I don’t mean to be interfering; but I hope she doesn’t have a bipolar disorder?


To me, this just shows her true character as a PROUD woman who’ll take no correction what so ever from her man….


Lastly, I’ll implore you to think again very seriously before you decide to take her back; that’s if you want a stress free life…... Life is so simply; sometimes I wonder why we human-beings make it difficult/hard…..She seems to me like a woman who loves being in control and she’ll stop at nothing to achieve her aim…..be carefully….all the best….

I hope so too. Thanks.

alutacontinua: Sit her down and talk to her. Tell her how much it's paining you and how much you want to work this out with her. I don't agree that she's a narcissist, maybe another term would describe her but not narcissism...If you can get to communicate it to her and she also sees it as an issue to deal with, the problem is half-solved. I believe people can change, only if they want to. If she sees what she's doing as normal, then, your issue is more complicated. Sit her down, she's your baby and I believe you should know how to jam sense into her head. Explain to her in a very calm and loving way.

Pele...trust me, I'm a lady but i've had a lot of emotional female friends and it's energy-draining. Once things don't go their way, you're in hot soup already!

Thanks for your understanding and contribution.

andromida: Well she is immature you can grow with her, yeah its going to be hard work but only you know if its worth it.

Noted. Thank you.

modextus: Well..I'll advice уσυ τ̲̅ȍ be patient

We went our separate ways though... but τ̲̅ȍ be frank with уσυ i still can't get over her.

Its just one of the twists Λn∂ turns in relationshipS. Apologize τ̲̅ȍ her for the sake of the relationship. It doesn't Worth Λ breakup

Well, sorry about that. I have apologized, over-apologized sef. But I get your point. Thanks sir.

andromida: When you say little things what do you mean? i am glad you said in your opinion.

Sure. Here are 2 examples.

1. Like I mentioned, she is in a school where phones are not allowed, so she has to call first then I call back. Take a situation where I am unable to pick up because I am driving and I do not have my hands-free nearby (with FRSC and LASTMA looking for scapegoats), or I am not near the phone at all, or it is dead. When I do eventually call back or we talk later on, she is already upset or not even responding to me at all; silent treatment toh badt. I try to remedy the situation, tell her what happened, tease her, etc. Sometimes, she comes back almost immediately. Most times, the whole mood thing is drawn through 4 to 8 minutes of the conversation, where I would have already started to become uneasy and a bit annoyed, but I try my best not to ruin it and just keep on trying to get her back in a good mood.

2. When she is at home, and say we are talking over the phone, my dad or mum calls me to attend to one thing or the other. I have to go for a minute or two, and literally 3 times out of 5, she is upset I cut the call or put her on hold when we are in the middle of a conversation. Get this, it is not that I just hang up or just start talking to someone else on my side of the phone, no. I ask her, please hang on just a second, or please let me call back, so so and so is calling me to do this or that urgently. It makes me wonder.

Like I said, these are little things. I will say confidently that she is a wonderful person, so it doesn't seem like I am painting a picture of her as a devil without her being able to defend herself as you're only hearing things from my side. But, o ti su mi. Things like I said that one should not "necessarily" react to, note the word necessarily, she reacts.

adconline: It seems you are dealing with a narcissistic diva ? She will never change, cos she suffers from emotional attention deficit disorder...

Wow, a narcissist...

Hmmm... Attention deficit.. Noted.

andromida: Being an emotional person myself I have to say this pride and arrogance have nothing to do with it. There are always triggers to these outbursts and sometimes it stems from miscommunication.

Maybe you told her she is too emotional like its a tap and she should just turn it off.

Miscommunication... I have considered that maybe I told her too harshly (although I think I did not, but hey...). But thanks.

[quote author=Mr knowitall.]Like i said....you need to break up with this girl first.....when yo do two thigs will happen...

1) you and her realize how much you really love each other...and calm down and make it work.

2) you and her are extremely happy that all the fighting,headaches, and drama stopped..and realized that you guys are just not meant to be.....then you comeback here to thank me and give me an offering..... I only accept Cash

The latter is the hardest decision to make but ultimately its the best one....or else you become a slave in ur own relationship a slave to your girl's temper and emotions...you can do better than that.... Dude there are too many women in this world to die over one.....[/quote]With regards to number 1, it is sort of the reason why I did it in the first place. But since then, we have realized that there is something between us, and we decided to still try to work things out. But with little things (in my opinion) like these spurring up this, I have tried to look down the line to know if we can actually dwell together in bliss.
I have noted this. Thank you sir.

alutacontinua: This issue almost pass me but I will give my advice.

op needs a lot of patience if he wants to make this relationship work. Some women can be very emotional as sexkillz said, I must be sincere. Some of us are good at handling it, though but some just don't handle it well. They crave soooooooooooo much for attention and when you don't give it to them or they think you're not giving it enough, they get really angry. That being said, I think you need to know the root of her issue. Some people here have mentioned arrogance and pride, some have mentioned being an emotional abuser, some have said she's just too emotional...Which of these do you think it is? I would say she's just too emotional.

Now, if that is the case, you need to let her know that you really love her and she is really important to you. This, you need to do on a constant basis because even if you've shown her love for 10 whole years and mess up once, she would still vex for you. I tell you, this attitude has tire me, even in some of my female friends. They're just too dependent on you emotionally and it can be really tiring.

Finally, if you don't love her enough, this whole thing might be too difficult for you to handle. So, you might just need to continue to be ex-es forever, most especially, if she's not willing to change.

MAY GOD HELP YOU!

First off, Amen to the last part. To the best of my knowledge, I am as patient as any person can get. Fine, this might be biased in some sense, but damn, I have taken some things that under "normal" circumstances one shouldn't. I have my pros and cons when it comes to the relationship, I admit; the major thing is I forget some stuff (dates, to buy things I said I would, etc). The reactions though do not occur as a result of things I forgot to do, else I would know it is totally my fault and I probably would not be here. I do agree with you that it is her emotions that is getting to her. She isn't arrogant or proud, at least not to me and people I have seen her interact with.
I always do my best to show her that I love her. If this is what I will get though for her being too dependent emotionally, I have some more thinking to do. Thank you for your contribution. I appreciate it. I do hope she will be willing to make some compromise when I talk to her again.

CAMEROONPRIDE: Dude we are in the same situation....jeez, I stopped talking to her, I mean not like before we now talk like every 5 days....to avoid conflicts

Omo mehn, sorry bro. Reducing your talk time, has it indeed helped avoid conflicts? And is she someone you see often, as opposed to my situation here when we talk on phone for most of the time?

modextus: Boss I've had such problem TOo...

But the truth ιѕ that they just won't understand...

Bros, e tire me o. I think I am worn-out. You said you've "had" such problems; maybe the same exact one, maybe not. What did you do to get out of it?

@fresh_dude:
Noted. Thank you. I hope for the best.

Black Swan: I agree
the girl sounds so arrogant
but then again we are only hearing op's side of the story so there should be more to this matter that we don't know

Well, there's only so much I can say here. She is a good person, I have no complaints about err, her in that aspect. When I did mention to her to control her emotions, like @Yield said, it might have offended her, maybe it was harsh in a way. However, I did my best to explain one or two scenarios, where she reacted this way or that, and therefore why I think she should listen to what I said.

Yield: The problem is not what you said, but how you said it. Anyone would be offended if you tell them to "control their emotions". And as you can see, your tactic was not successful. Not only did it not work, it made things worse. You could've worded that in a totally different manner that would've been more easy on her already-sensitive nature.

Well, I understand that. I really hope that "subtle" way comes to my mind. I tried to back up the comment by explaining to her what I meant, but no avail. First strike had sealed the deal, every other thing was a no-no for her. Thank you for your contribution though.

SLIDE waxie: dnt waste ur time prayin on what won't work!

Wen u pick up behaviors, it can be replaced by a better one. But wen it in hemmed into her gene, u can't change dt. U will alwys get confused cos she can't jes do witout it in two weeks.

Now, wen u delude urself in such a 'clownish' manner, u say, 'i can change her' or 'with time, he will change'! Sorry dude, u're on a long thing!

Hmmm.. Noted. Thanks sir.

[quote author=fresh_dude]First of all, get a hold of your own emotions, you'll need to be strong now.
That said, you have to realise that you're being emotionally abused. You're probably walking on eggshells already. You might fight with your partner but, you really don't need such petty issues twisting your balls.
Your boo is most likely emotionally dependent or insecure and she'll need to leech off you, problem is you'll end up drained, spent and losing yourself in the process.
The solution is to kick her over-emotional as$ to the curb.
Thank me later.[/quote]Hmmm. I do agree with you about being emotionally abused. I mentioned earlier that I'm sort of a punching bag, but now I feel like I'm about to rip open with all of the things I have been trying to take in. Is there a way to find some sort of equilibrium, if she is emotionally dependent as you suggested?

[quote author=fresh_dude]Again, I say, you are being emotionally abused. And I'd like to let you know that this is only the beginning.
You guys don't see everyday and this is happening, wait till she moves in with you.
This does not sound like a relationship that will end well. Not to say that there won't be a happily-ever-after, but not with the status quo.
Get yourself together and do the needful. You'll record more progress in your life dropping this babe. Either you stay single or get a woman who'll let you be you and handles situations in a mature, or at least, reasonable manner.[/quote]Although there is not a lot to judge her by given all you know of her is all I have written, but in your opinion, do you think she will be able to change, find a way around whatever makes her act this way? Like I mentioned, we are not dating. Try not to see it as a wild-goose chase or that I am on some sort of fool's paradise, but I'd like to explore every option before just moving on because I really like her. I'd like to hear any suggestion you have apart from drop-and-go, if any. Thanks.

I will have takes on both of your comments.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]You are the one that needs to control your emotions. Women are emotional creatures. Nothing like too emotional. Some of them are just good at not showing it. There are better ways of conveying your feelings to a woman. No one likes to be blamed for anything, even you. So, learn to talk. Tell her how you feel when she acts in a certain way so that she knows she hurts you somehow. [/color]

First off, I agree with you to an extent @sexkillz. I told her what I told her with the best intentions, or so I thought, not something to mean "Oh shut up, stop being a baby and deal with things". I understand women are emotional, and to the best of my knowledge, I have tried to respond to events with her knowing that fact. You say some are good at not showing it. Not to be too selfish, but if that is the case i.e. she is not "too emotional", how do I tell her to not show it too much? Because I am feeling something here, whether it is my emotions or something else, I do not know, but I know that it is getting to me a lot now. Much of what I have done is to suck up some of the tension; take things like a punching bag per se. Now though, I think I am beginning to rip up gradually as the stress is getting to me. I have tried not too be subjective and biased, and I evaluated myself: am I that impatient, emotionally-dead that I do not respond to her cries and wants, thus making her act out like this? Am I that wicked that I act in such terrible ways that make her react like this? What I might be facing might be 1/10th of what others are facing, so one might think suck it up. I just want to resolve things, not break them up. I want to let her know that "look, this thing indeed is hurting me somehow". If telling her to control her emotions was too harsh, I pray I come up with a more subtle way of telling her, conveying my feelings like you said. I can tell you though, she sees most comments about her personality as an attack on her person, even comments from me. Sometimes, she listens; sometimes, she doesn't.
Thank you for your thought though. I appreciate it.

[quote author=fresh_dude]First of all, get a hold of your own emotions, you'll need to be strong now.
That said, you have to realise that you're being emotionally abused. You're probably walking on eggshells already. You might fight with your partner but, you really don't need such petty issues twisting your balls.
Your boo is most likely emotionally dependent or insecure and she'll need to leech off you, problem is you'll end up drained, spent and losing yourself in the process.
The solution is to kick her over-emotional as$ to the curb.
Thank me later.[/quote]Thanks for your contribution. Err, wow. I will get back to this in a bit.

So here's the thing. I have been friends with this girl for 9 years plus now. We were dating since 2010, but I broke up with her late last year(a bad decision I made, and that I regret a lot). Why did I do that?

Ever since we started dating, we had fights, too often. Things that I saw as not enough to stir up an argument, she argued about. For example, she's in a school where they use payphones, so she has to be the one to call me, right, and then I call her back immediately. We spoke literally everyday; I tried my best to be available every time she called. Because of this situation, even if I am busy, I try my best to give her that time and answer the call. In an event where I am unable to pick up or answer, or say it's the middle of the day (and I have run out of credit I bought in the morning and I cannot buy credit at that particular time or something), when I do eventually call back, feeling apologetic, she is upset, doesn't respond well and it practically ruins the whole conversation. I try to revive it per se, to get her back in a discussing mood; sometimes it works, sometimes I am just there hanging on a one-way sorta conversation with one word responses (like yes, no, etc) from her. This is just an example of a scenario.

To be honest, we never fought because say, I cheated or I insulted her or something "relatively" serious. Don't get me wrong, I am not the patron saint of relationships. I have my "flaws"; I forget some stuff, I might come like 30 to an hour late on a date, so there. However on this day, I was tired. We had fought so many times that week, I was just tired. I sorta blurted it out that I wanted a break, and it was like "Oh no, but there is no turning back". So we broke up. Later on when we met, we talked. We love each other a lot, so right now we are friends and we have plans of hopefully getting back together. But that's the secondary reason why I am here.

The primary reason is this: I told her yesterday that she needs to control her emotions. The spontaneity of it all, unexpected days where I am looking forward to talking to her, and it seems like once she comes on and says something I supposedly did or didn't do, I just lose my excitement. It just seemed too much for me: mood swings, etc. Today, she called saying that she saw it as an insult on her person, and that I could not say such.

What do you think? Was it a bad idea for me to say that to her? How do I get her to know that her on-off thing is driving me nuts.


Please, I need sincere and serious contributions here, cos I am super confused here. Thank you.

Deichi: If you are an engineering graduate and u noted that on registration .. Youll get technical questions not numerical

jaki006: I don't think so, I selected engineering and got numerical as well as situation questions.

Exactly, I am an engineering graduate as well, and I was attempted numerical and not technical questions.

Question please. Is there anyone in the house who completed NYSC in February 2013 (Batch A)? The year 2013 isn't a part of the options for year completed. Any similar encounters and/or suggestions will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

kayce19: Ijawkid come give us tips now. How u take cross that hurdle. How did you answer the questions

Like they said, they are behavioural questions. Just answer them honestly and smartly.

Done the tests. For the problem-solving part, you have to be fast. 18 minutes for 16 questions. Just prepare and do the best you can, tables and err charts dem dem. Cheers.

Shiiiiii. Sir Alex, a living LEGEND indeed. Manchester United for life still..

Wow, finally I can comment.
Ronchess Global Resources Limited is like you know already (if you've done your research ), a traffic engineering company based in Lagos.
I wrote the test some weeks ago. I applied for a technical position. It was a 100 questions for an hour. Mine included technical questions (stuff on Physics, some real life tech questions, just basic things), Mathematics, English (A passage or 2, I cant remember clearly; it was them "true, false, cannot say" kinda passage, and some synonym stuff I think) and err, I think some of these spatial or diagrammatic questions.
I do not know if the questions vary based on the position sha, because I think I saw somewhere on another thread, someone said he/she applied for an accounting position. Eitherways, prepare and I wish you all the best.

AB Engine: I got this today, what is next?
Dear Candidate

Thank you for writing our recent on-line test for the Graduate Trainee position.We have reviewed your test results and are pleased to inform you that you were successful at the tests. Accordingly, we will like to invite you for a Verification test (similar to the one you did on-line) at our office as follows;
Date:                Tuesday, 16 April 2013
Time:                8.30 am prompt (please note that if you come late we will not be able to reschedule you)
Venue:        PricewaterhouseCoopers,

252E Muri Okunola Street, Victoria Island, Lagos

You are expected to bring with you to the venue of the test, the

ORIGINALS and photocopies of ALL your credentials (WAEC (SSCE/'O' Level) certificate, University certificate, NYSC discharge certificate, any Professionalqualification certificates etc.), updated CV, birth certificate, evidence of current salary if any, and a recent passport photograph.

We thank you for your interest in PwC and the time you have spent in the process so far.Please note that you will not be eligible to take the test if you do not have an NYSC discharge certificate or evidence that you will be passing out in June 2013,Regards

Oh yeah, that's brilliant. Congratulations. Apparently, the next step is to go for the Verification test as mentioned in the mail.

kollysnut: I got d msg today from workforce, writing mine @unilag eTC centre by 4pm. Pls I wnt to ask, are we allow to bring n use calculator @test centre.

I think they mentioned that in the slip...

kcpumpin: Are u sure SHL Online test gave u 18 numerical questions or u just want to assume that? I really don't think so sir. Its usually more than 18.

Well, I'm pretty sure it was 18 questions mate.