190-the-clown:
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clemz85: sir, e be lyk say dis ur mata pass ppl here o

ROTFL

baibijay: Never mind it's just one of your numerous fights. . .
By the way brother, pray hard for this relationship is heading to the rocks

sexkillz: You are the one that needs to control your emotions. Women are emotional creatures. Nothing like too emotional. Some of them are just good at not showing it. There are better ways of conveying your feelings to a woman. No one likes to be blamed for anything, even you. So, learn to talk. Tell her how you feel when she acts in a certain way so that she knows she hurts you somehow.

fresh_dude: First of all, get a hold of your own emotions, you'll need to be strong now.
That said, you have to realise that you're being emotionally abused. You're probably walking on eggshells already. You might fight with your partner but, you really don't need such petty issues twisting your balls.
Your boo is most likely emotionally dependent or insecure and she'll need to leech off you, problem is you'll end up drained, spent and losing yourself in the process.
The solution is to kick her over-emotional as$ to the curb.
Thank me later.

sexkillz: You are the one that needs to control your emotions. Women are emotional creatures. Nothing like too emotional. Some of them are just good at not showing it. There are better ways of conveying your feelings to a woman. No one likes to be blamed for anything, even you. So, learn to talk. Tell her how you feel when she acts in a certain way so that she knows she hurts you somehow.

Sir Gbogs: I will have takes on both of your comments.




First off, I agree with you to an extent @sexkillz. I told her what I told her with the best intentions, or so I thought, not something to mean "Oh shut up, stop being a baby and deal with things". I understand women are emotional, and to the best of my knowledge, I have tried to respond to events with her knowing that fact. You say some are good at not showing it. Not to be too selfish, but if that is the case i.e. she is not "too emotional", how do I tell her to not show it too much? Because I am feeling something here, whether it is my emotions or something else, I do not know, but I know that it is getting to me a lot now. Much of what I have done is to suck up some of the tension; take things like a punching bag per se. Now though, I think I am beginning to rip up gradually as the stress is getting to me. I have tried not too be subjective and biased, and I evaluated myself: am I that impatient, emotionally-dead that I do not respond to her cries and wants, thus making her act out like this? Am I that wicked that I act in such terrible ways that make her react like this? What I might be facing might be 1/10th of what others are facing, so one might think suck it up. I just want to resolve things, not break them up. I want to let her know that "look, this thing indeed is hurting me somehow". If telling her to control her emotions was too harsh, I pray I come up with a more subtle way of telling her, conveying my feelings like you said. I can tell you though, she sees most comments about her personality as an attack on her person, even comments from me. Sometimes, she listens; sometimes, she doesn't.
Thank you for your thought though. I appreciate it.



Thanks for your contribution. Err, wow. I will get back to this in a bit.

fresh_dude: First of all, get a hold of your own emotions, you'll need to be strong now.
That said, you have to realise that you're being emotionally abused. You're probably walking on eggshells already. You might fight with your partner but, you really don't need such petty issues twisting your balls.
Your boo is most likely emotionally dependent or insecure and she'll need to leech off you, problem is you'll end up drained, spent and losing yourself in the process.
The solution is to kick her over-emotional as$ to the curb.
Thank me later.

fresh_dude: Again, I say, you are being emotionally abused. And I'd like to let you know that this is only the beginning.
You guys don't see everyday and this is happening, wait till she moves in with you.
This does not sound like a relationship that will end well. Not to say that there won't be a happily-ever-after, but not with the status quo.
Get yourself together and do the needful. You'll record more progress in your life dropping this babe. Either you stay single or get a woman who'll let you be you and handles situations in a mature, or at least, reasonable manner.

SLIDE waxie: dnt waste ur time prayin on what won't work!

Wen u pick up behaviors, it can be replaced by a better one. But wen it in hemmed into her gene, u can't change dt. U will alwys get confused cos she can't jes do witout it in two weeks.

Now, wen u delude urself in such a 'clownish' manner, u say, 'i can change her' or 'with time, he will change'! Sorry dude, u're on a long thing!

Yield: The problem is not what you said, but how you said it. Anyone would be offended if you tell them to "control their emotions". And as you can see, your tactic was not successful. Not only did it not work, it made things worse. You could've worded that in a totally different manner that would've been more easy on her already-sensitive nature.

Mr knowitall.:
so you told her that she needs to control her emotions..then she calls you and tells you thats you insulted her by saying that? Dude this girl is full of pride and ego....Let her go ASAP you can do better than this...I have Zero tolerance for pride and ego...and I suggest you do too..... it will make ur life much easier...

Black Swan:
I agree
the girl sounds so arrogant
but then again we are only hearing op's side of the story so there should be more to this matter that we don't know

Sir Gbogs: So here's the thing. I have been friends with this girl for 9 years plus now. We were dating since 2010, but I broke up with her late last year(a bad decision I made, and that I regret a lot). Why did I do that?

Ever since we started dating, we had fights, too often. Things that I saw as not enough to stir up an argument, she argued about. For example, she's in a school where they use payphones, so she has to be the one to call me, right, and then I call her back immediately. We spoke literally everyday; I tried my best to be available every time she called. Because of this situation, even if I am busy, I try my best to give her that time and answer the call. In an event where I am unable to pick up or answer, or say it's the middle of the day (and I have run out of credit I bought in the morning and I cannot buy credit at that particular time or something), when I do eventually call back, feeling apologetic, she is upset, doesn't respond well and it practically ruins the whole conversation. I try to revive it per se, to get her back in a discussing mood; sometimes it works, sometimes I am just there hanging on a one-way sorta conversation with one word responses (like yes, no, etc) from her. This is just an example of a scenario.

To be honest, we never fought because say, I cheated or I insulted her or something "relatively" serious. Don't get me wrong, I am not the patron saint of relationships. I have my "flaws"; I forget some stuff, I might come like 30 to an hour late on a date, so there. However on this day, I was tired. We had fought so many times that week, I was just tired. I sorta blurted it out that I wanted a break, and it was like "Oh no, but there is no turning back". So we broke up. Later on when we met, we talked. We love each other a lot, so right now we are friends and we have plans of hopefully getting back together. But that's the secondary reason why I am here.

The primary reason is this: I told her yesterday that she needs to control her emotions. The spontaneity of it all, unexpected days where I am looking forward to talking to her, and it seems like once she comes on and says something I supposedly did or didn't do, I just lose my excitement. It just seemed too much for me: mood swings, etc. Today, she called saying that she saw it as an insult on her person, and that I could not say such.

What do you think? Was it a bad idea for me to say that to her? How do I get her to know that her on-off thing is driving me nuts.


Please, I need sincere and serious contributions here, cos I am super confused here. Thank you.

Yield: The problem is not what you said, but how you said it. Anyone would be offended if you tell them to "control their emotions". And as you can see, your tactic was not successful. Not only did it not work, it made things worse. You could've worded that in a totally different manner that would've been more easy on her already-sensitive nature.

modextus: Boss I've had such problem TOo...

But the truth ιѕ that they just won't understand...