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faakay:
Strange World

very strange

at least no more beatings and pounding

he was cursed by the spirits of the dogs he had killed

never knew dogs in India had spirits?

BS.

carnal:
yes i am positive,i am happily married with a daughter and wife has remain negative all through these journey so if u also positive and in need any assistance/advise u can reach me on anjola9ja@yahoo.com

nah, just like your courage and honesty and how you have been more healthier which many in your shoes tend to neglect and think that hiv is a life sentence good luck to you!

carnal:
i am positive and i am living[b] extremely healthier[/b] than anybody on earth but with the necessary precautions and rugs alike.

bravo!

it's either you trim them, shave them with a sharp razor or you wax them. am guessing you have already tried all this? wouldnt suggest using any type of depilatory creams around those area.

dont see the possiblity

dont think there's any "ideal" no. sometimes the circumstances changes and the decisions changes with them also.

@ Ify

Lol gott it! thnks

@ those saying no STDS, HIV. those are only wishful thinking. it only becomes a reality if the other person is faithful just as you are. so staying with one partner doesnt mean you're free all those, this is only possible when the other person is also faithful and more often than none, this not always the case. the other person could still secretly be cheating on you and still be claiming to be in a monogamous re/ship with you

born and raise your kids in north america, east america, northern nigeria, southnorth, westeast, or southwest. wherever, all that matters most is your

parental skills, disciplinary skills, and your commitment to your role as a parent. parenting is the hardest and sometimes in many instances most rewarding job ever . and more often than none, what you put in, is what you get.

while sometimes the environment plays a role in this, to me it matters less(imho) compared to the other things listed. you will see a child raised in suburban who still turn out bad compared to the one raised in a rural area. there are bad influences everywhere. there isnt a perfect place to raise kids.

cut down on your daily caloric intake especially on your saturated fat intake. eat healthy. cut down on junk food intake. exercise for at least 30mintues a day or if you can for 60mintues. for more on weight loss you could search the health section

never underestimate the strength of a woman indeed.

particularly one that would not read a question before posting an answer

LMAO olodo!

changed. happy you are now.

for the secret oil, some mix it with their normal face body or body lotion for added moisturizer, while some use it to clean their face as an oil cleanser

love is indescribable. when you are in love its a feeling you cant describe

a good moisturizer oo.

these are from my earlier posting in thread when the issue of child disciple came up: some digged them up for you: think is page 11-13 or so in this thread.

i learned this method though mines are still younger, but one of my ladies actually uses this method and it works for her, though hers are little over 4/5

** Tattling: If one of my children tattles on another they have to say something nice about the person they are tattling on. (Of course this does not include seriousness, like someone really being hurt or a very big no-no, just typical whining/tattling.)

** Interrupting: [/b]If a child interrupts adults, or even their siblings, they have a 3-5 minute time out with their hands over their mouth. This works great with a large number of kids! The younger's really learn something from the oldest, the oldest tired of being teased by the younger ones will usually not interrupt again. I believe this is a Quinault discipline. I love it!

[b]
**Stealing: If a child takes something away from another they have to not only return the item, but give the person something of equal or greater value in apology. Usually one of their own favorite toys, or spend their allowance in gift. I haven't had a stealing problem. This works well with sharing too, meaning specifically if a child brings over their own toy and one of my kids swipes it to play, they have to give it back and give the child one of their favorite toys to play with. This is only in a situation where cooperation is a problem.  A child should not be forced to share a very special toy, blanket, etc.

**Lying: Much like stealing, a child who lies to me or to another has to make repairaitions. They have to apologize profusely because lying is stealing another person's right to the truth.

**Back Talk: [/b]Time out is based on age of child. Typically if I am getting slack it's because said child does not what to do what is requested of them. In all fairness I explain WHY I asked them to do something and then ask for cooperation following their time out and their apology.

[b]**Basic Disobedience: [/b]Their favorite items get a time out. I take items away until we have cooperation. If they refuse to clean up after themselves we'll trash or take away their items. They then can earn it back after time and willingness to clean up after themselves.

[b]**three spanakable offenses:

1) You do not destroy or abuse books. Writing in, mistreating, ripping, or destroying books.

2) You do not abuse the house or items in it. Writing on walls/furniture. Purposely destroying the home or things in it. Breaking expensive toys just because they are there. Destroying clothes by writing on them, ripping them, pulling them apart. Scissors to sheets or clothes. etc.

3) Putting yourself or your siblings in danger, or purposely hurting a person or animal. Now this is a moment-to-moment basis-to-basis discipline that needs to be addressed as they happen. The last child who received a spanking was hid son, who asked to go out front to ride his bike. she and her hubby couldn't watch him at the moment so they told him to wait. He then went to the side gate, opened it, went out anyway without telling them, and let his two year old sister out front. He not only put himself in danger but her too. We figured it out about 3 mintues after it happened, and found the 2yo at the front door. Needless to say not only was he disobedient, but he put his sister in danger. He got a spanking.

@ lanre

try this and see if it could help:

*trying taking his/her toys away for two or so days

*spanking, however make sure he/she understands that he is being spanked for that particular action. they are still young to fully understand that something is right or wrong but associating wrongness with pain, makes them understand that this isnt right

*try the straight talk express. look straight into his/her eyes,  that tell it like it is, this kind of put fear into them knowing that what they did is wrong. make sure you make eye contact with them this kind of shows them you are serious,

*try timeout and make sure during the process no toys to play with in there, just him/her alone and do tell him/her why they are in there

*try behavior chart with reward/punishment, maybe you tell him/her if you do this and not and you will get this/that on your chart (cool glitter, markers, stickers could work)

the timeout is kind of something that helps the kid learn what is an acceptable/unacceptable behavior. they will learn self control. but the key to successful timeout is consistence. i still use this method and it works. and this works well for little kids

these methods are not perfect and i dont think any parenting method is for that matter cause every child/case is different however, for me these seem to help

i said the punishment/reward chart should be because it motivates little kids and keep a child motivated over a long period of time. since the child in question is not older than 3yrs old. it is just something for positive reinforcement of a particular behavior. the reward shouldn't be a monetary/ and not necessarily edible rewards. it should be subtle rewards. while not everyone might/will agree with this methods i have used/been using it and it still works for my little ones. so it all depends.

some used rags from torn wrappers which not surprisingly some still use today

left to some husbands they wouldnt really bother about having a boy or girl, it's the so called "elders" and in-laws who start the pressuring

why call it a marriage then? why not just call it a "relationship"

i thought some of your men preferred hairy legs