Moneywirer:
Another cheap talk.... I know so many guys that are ready to go through all that stress just to get into a lady's panties. Once they get a taste of it once, then they decide how many more times to get it that would be commensurate with the quantity and quality of stress you put them through. The moment they feel you're even, they pick next available flight and away they go.

I think, it is your ego speaking

Phenomenal16:
..true talk......
Kudos
Chop knuckles jare

Thanks.

BigDick70inch:
Op..ladies can only only love a guy completely when they have been bleeped..

Not true. I know many ladies who aren't in love but are with a guy just for security.

Women need to keep their emotions in check before allowing any man into their lives, women who keep their emotions in check are not taken by granted by men.

Your emotions as a lady is everything, it can either destroy you or make you, learning to control it makes you a queen in front of any man.

As ladies, you need to understand that men want sex from you and you want commitment from men, a man will do everything in the books just to get your cookie, after that he will disappear and brag to his friends that you were a easy target. The reason he disappears is because you were desperate and needy, you kept all your cards on the table, you fell for his cheap tricks, he got what he wanted and now he is gone while you suffer in pain.

It is important to know that it takes time for a man to fall in love with a woman, since it is your goal to make him fall in love with you, giving up your heart and cookie so early will put you in danger, you job is to make him fall in love with you while you have yourself complete.

The reality is that the dating world is a game, a game of winner and losers, a game where heart are broken without pity, protect your heart and you wont fall for cheap tricks played by men.

Men are used to women who shows their emotions too often, they see weakness, desperation and clinginess in them and use it against you, he shows you his car, his house, some money, you get excited too early, you call your friends, you are so happy on the phone, know that he is watching and seeing how excited you are to the material stuff he has showed you, his observation have put you in a category of girls, either pump and dump or potential girlfriend, that is why you need to control your emotions even if you like him so that you will be in the wining part of the bargain.

If a man you like, shows you all his material assets, even though you are excited about them, never show it, never act surprised or impressed, act like it doesn’t matter, as he is watching you, he will be confused and try to check if he has offended you, when he ask never give him any direct reply, put him in the state of limbo that after you have gone, he will be shocked and think about your reaction and thinks your are a special girl. He will start to pursue aggressively.

Show that you are not desperate, sometimes ignore his call, confuse him and you will see him begging.

Anytime he tries to run or give up, bring him back to your arms without giving the cookie, met up with him, give him a kiss, tell him to be patient, listen attentively to what he has to says, after that tell him, you are going, give him a little kiss on his cheeks he will become an helpless teenager begging for your love.

Starve him of your attention, attention matters for men also, focus on your life, act like you got something important doing, you will see him calling you everyday and coming to your house.

Now is your time to know what he wants from you, after all your act, you can invite him to a public place and then discuss what you want from him, marriage or a relationship, any direction you say, I promise you he will agree.

The only reason why he will do all these is because you are a challenge, you didn’t give up your cookie like other women, you acted different and special, a man will only respect a woman who he fought for, you become someone that he will remember even if the relationship didn’t work out.

In-conclusion, it is up to you to play the type of game you want, you can either put all your cards on the table, be common like every other ladies out there or be special, control your emotions and see men begging to be with you.

Nnaabros:


That's my confidence and value-oriented mindset speaking. There's nothing wrong with a proper dose of ego.

A man who has value goes for a woman with value, not a complacent and non-challant woman.

If you don't believe in putting effort into a relationship you will carry same attitude into marriage.

This is one of the major dangers in your reasoning.

A man who has value pursue after a woman with value after she has given him signs that she is interested in him.

BlackShit:


While if you want something you wait for it to come to you?

This is why men will never see you as equals and give you due respect. You cheapen, sexualize and monetize yourselves too much.

Some of your fellow women are already clocking 50 still 'waiting and vetting'. While all the great guys are being taken by more humble open-minded girls.

The great guys are taken by the more humble minded girls because the great guys pursued after the open minded girls.

MrBrownJay1:


in a normal setting, YES, but if that man doesnt understand/see the sign, would you just let your misplaced ego be in the way AND lose a good man?!
life comes in different forms... if you are not ready to compromise then you will always be failing some way or the other. be flexible in everything you do in life.

if you discover a good man but he makes no intentions towards you, would you just take the chance of losing him?

what would you do if only the wrong men showed their intentions towards you?! settle for one of these liabilities?!

A man that do not understand the signal that a woman is interested in him is naive.

It is common Knowledge that if a woman is interested in a man she gives him signs and it is expected of him to pursue. A strong and confident man will pursue and take action.

Nnaabros:


Because bleep boys do not discriminate about the kind of girls they go after. They chase anything in skirts.

But we non-bleep boys are very choosy and we don't go after the proud and arrogant types. We look for value and reciprocity.

women also do not accept any type of men into their lives.

the bolded is your ego speaking.

in the dating world both man and women discriminate and both bleep boys and non bleep boys pursue after women.

pursuing after a woman doesn't make you a fuckboy

BlackShit:


So you'll just wait and settle for whoever comes, and later be complaining that only fu*k boys are coming for you?

"whoever comes" do you understand how the dating world works?

women vet men before agreeing to go on a date with them, sometimes we make mistakes but doesnt mean every man that has pursue a woman is a bleep boy. in the dating world, bleep and non bleep boys pursue.

if a man wants something he goes after it.

MrBrownJay1:


see the above is where women are truly failing.... you even have the audacity to say claim that this is what "real" men do, as if men who dont aint real men... have you ask yourself these simple questions:

- what if he is shy like that?
- what if the man failed to notice you?
- what if he is not interested in you "yet" because he doesnt know you like that?
- what if he wrongly assume that you are what you are not?
- what if he believes that unless you show interest and make the 1st move, he aint gonna move?
- are you really willing to lose a possible GREAT man, because of your misplaced ego?!

women gives signals to men that they are interested in, they flirt, it up to the man to see those signs of interest and pursue the lady.

Nnaabros:


So youve comfortably reduced yourself to a mere signpost. This is terrible.

Kindly read this thread below let your fellow girls who are wiser correct you.
https://twitter.com/RemiOmolosho/status/1203909145939861504?s=19

All of you will just be spreading your immature, arrogant ideas to gullible girls. Ideas that are not benefiting you in any way.

Later you'll crying that only Bleep boys are coming after you.

what you wrote down is a contradiction

if a bleep boy can go after a woman, what is stopping you a non bleep boy from going after her?

lefulefu:
u just want some ladies to die single
biko if yu fancy a guy even if u cant tell him straight off give him signs for him to know u fancy him
no dey stone face at am wen he greets u even wen ur heart says otherwise

it's seems you didnt read it

a woman gives sign to the man she is interested in, it is up to the man to act or she moves on.

Nnaabros:
This kind of reasoning is what's ruining many of you.

it is not

men lead and chase and go after what they want.

MrBrownJay1:
no wonder so many women get to a desperate point where they either decide to marry any donkey that gives them a little bit of attention OR are miserable in marriage... there is nothing wrong with making the 1st move, if you believe that the man you desire IS NOT GONNA DO IT!

a real man will make the first move...that is nature.

Chika likes Bolaji, she dreamt a lot about him, she fantasize about holding his arm, kissing him and resting on his chest, One day, she saw her opportunity and walked up to him, told him about her feelings and asked him out, Bolaji agreed to go out on a date with her, she was so happy, , after the date, she waited 3 days and eventually slept with him, Bolaji went home happy, he told his friends about what had just happened, he became arrogant, he deleted her number and started playing games on Chika.

What about Fatima? She loved Emeka so dearly, walked to him and told her mind, Emeka rejected her, she couldn’t believe her eyes, she stood there shaking, she felt the ground should swallow her.

Some women have experienced these situations, they read someone where that a woman can also approach a man and ask for a relationship, they approached and it ended badly for them

Generally, people hardly value the things they do not work for, talk-less of a relationship, men hardly value the women they didn’t work for, that is why stories of a woman asking a man out always end in disasters, he knows she likes him more than he likes her, he has the power, he is at advantage and will do everything possible to misuse that power.

You hear some men, who likes to preach that women also need to pursue men, to go after what they wants, most of these men saying all these, are men without games, lacks confidence and low self-esteem men, they never want to pursue and take the risk of pursuing a woman, they want to get everything on a platter of gold so that they can boost their lost self-esteem and brag to their friends that a woman asked them out. some of these men becomes arrogant after a woman ask them out, they start acting like they have arrived.

It is a known fact, that men pursue not women, even in the animal kingdom, the male cock pursue after the female hen, the female gives the male signal and it is the male who notices the signal and pursues after her, likewise in the human world , a female gives signal to a man that she is interested in, she flirts with him and gives him subtle signs, it expected of a man to noticed these signals and pursue after her or she moves on.

As a woman, whenever a man doesn’t approach after giving him signals your job isn’t to approach him, a man worthy of being called a man will take the lead and act accordingly.

emae009:
"If he doesn’t wait, know that he is a low-quality man and his mission is only sex, men who likes you, will wait and be patient no matter what."

this part makes me laugh everytime someone says it... no offense but I've seen a guy engaged a girl just to have sex with her because she was forming hard to get in the beginning; dumped her right afterwards.

there's no new relationship advice out here... everybody knows everyine of them so it's easy to fake any of the standards you set out just to trick you..

in that case, i dont think sex was the issue, he stayed without sex till he engaged her, something came up that made him dumped her, it is likely cheating.

Ladies, you can’t leave everything to chance, chance is the reason why many women are suffering today in our country.

There are millions of women today in our country just picking any type of men, and this has put lot of them in trouble, ladies, you want a type of man
that can guide and protect you and also give you that security you need for your short term and long term goal. Remember your survival is the
ultimate goal.

Understand that out there, there are two type of men, the high value men (HVM) and the low Value Men (LMV) and your mission is to get the high value men.

Who is a high value man? A man that knows his worth, he is independent, have goals, ambitious, turn his dreams to reality, these type of men should be your target, you do not want the mummy’s boy, the boy that still lives with his parent, the community prick, the man that do not work, the man that depends on women for survival, the baby mama man, these type of men are low quality and wont add value to your life.

Before going out with a man, you need to know what you want and what you need, they are 2 different things, your need is different from your want. your needs are necessity or requirement for your emotional well-being, your want are things you prefer or something you might like to have. Your needs should win over your wants when choosing the right man. look at our society, the women who put their needs over their wants get the best out of life and relationship, they are more happier than the rest.

Your values and standards are everything, know your values and standards, if they are flawed, you will get low value men whose mission is to pump and dump, if they are high, you will get high quality men.

Ladies, never ever give yourself up to a man on the first day, never fall for that trap, many women have been called easy catch by men because of this type of atitude, situations like this have always lead to disaster, some have been trapped because of good sex then the man turns into a lion or he varnished. You should give a man sex only when he has ticked all of your values, standards, goals and plans. If he doesn’t wait, know that he is a low-quality man and his mission is only sex, a man who likes you, will wait and be patient no matter what.

To get what you want, you need to know a lot about his background, how does he treat people around him, check his reaction to things, how does he resolve issues when you test him, his he aggressive, is he just a dreamer, a big talker no action or a clam and go-getter guy, does he think before he acts or solves issue with sense, you also want to know where he works, his position, if he lives alone or with his parent or squatting with someone, what is his plan for the future, these are some of the questions that needs answer before you get on with him, you do not want time wasters.

When it comes to his job and work questions, some men might dodge this questions, some might brag and exaggerate about what they do and where they live, a little due diligence will give you a clue of what he does, you can stylishly get this info from him, his work id can give you a clue of what he does for a living.

If your mission is to get married soon, ask him direct and blunt question about marriage, (what is your plan for marriage, do you want to get married soon), also you want to know if he has kids with other women, these type of blunt questions makes the potential time wasters run fast.

Some men might have not have all their things together( like a car or might not be earning much) but if he meets your standards, if he is ambitious, and someone that likes self-improvement, this attributes can give you a clue of what type of man he will become in the future.

Note that to be happy in a relationship, you need a man that has the mixture of provisioning and leadership trait.