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i dont like it when im discussing with a lady and she wont contribute, or she will be giving me one word answers like ''yes, ok, thanks, no''
it sucks

some of them take messing as their hobby

trying to get out of it with d advices

ya right
let me go and kick her shoes off the way as to get her angry

^^aint it gonna lead to quarrel?

God go help them sha

^^^i know say no be ur good mind u take troway this advise

pls advice me

correct!

Smilenw:
Do you have a reason for not dating her? If you have, then think more about that reason each time she is around. Try to concentrate more on your differences than your similarities, get closer to other colleagues. If she wants to have lunch with you, invite another friend along, if she wants to read something from your system, let her read first and then come back to read it when she is done, in short try to avoid being with her alone. Somehow I feel you are more of a loner. If that is the case, try making more friends both in and out of office. That should keep you engaged.

yea, i dont have too many friends
i will heed to ur words

Beync:
O mehn resign and do the right thing jor. see as rov they catch you now you dey fumble.
u fit miss this rov now next yr you come dey complain say u no fit find your rov wakeup o hahaha

u no well oooo

shirleee:
OP
am sorry to say but frm wat u wrote u r deep in love with her n u cant kill d feeling jst lik dat.If i may ask,wat r u scared of?Or is she in a relationship wit smeonelse?

i may not know, but we work in the same office and u can imagine whats gonna happen when we fall in love, besides i have a gf

ronkebp:
@ Poster, is it because you work together that you do not want to have a relationship with her? or are there other reasons.??

yeah, one of the reasons

seedord247:
Simple arithmetic answer.

Drink 3 bottles of Alombo a Day i bet you . . you go forget about her in just a week.

tuaregx:
imagine she is infected and she is your doomsday 2012 reality, simple all the feelings will dissapear

yeah, it works sometimes,

iice:
[color=#9900ff]You can squash anything you want to so long as you want to.
People say they want this and that but deep down they don't and that hinders the process.
Why don't you want to fall in love with her?[/color]

i really dont want, believe me,
i have a girl friend and i dont want to date my work mate,

lefulefu:
but naija babes really foolish sha .When dey see a bobo with car na dfat time dem go remember say dem love the bobo.A naija babe is nto ready to struggle with a man
GOLDDIGGERS dat they are

dem no know say na ready made food na him dem dey put poison, but if u follow cook the food u go know weather dem put am poison or not

Talking:
Oga OP, just stay away from the girl and enjoy your new relationship. "An opportunity missed can never be regained"
Signs out!

gbam!! thats what im trying to do

kool J:
Desperado chic. Platinumdigger

no be small

oh, ok. thanks for that information,
but do u know if he stays in lagos? cos thats where i live.
i stay at oshodi

UncleJJ:
Grow some ballz and F-that thing - u demented boot-licking SOB !!

Dont you know she's expecting you to make a move,

Resign or Start servicing that kokolet - till Oga catches u doing it in the toilet,

got no time for ur trash

tpia@:
Date someone else and you'll forget about her in no time.

Cultivate friendships with other people.

That should help.

i really taught of this, but i wanted to be sure of any other ways as this might take a long time

sexkillz:
[color=#000055][size=14pt]OP!
Sorry, but the truth is that you CANT get rid of her! You cant kill the feeling. The feeling cropped up. There must be something about her that you really like. Maybe she reminds you of something or someone you love or appreciate. And truly i say to you, the more you try so hard to push her out, the more she comes into your thoughts gracefully.

I'll advise you allow what ever feelings u have for her to grow. It may not be love. But whatever it is, cannot be randomly compartmentalized! In other words bro, you cant fight or push away feelings that you cannot define. . . Define those feelings, and it'll be easier to let them go. I could still reply if you let out more. . .[/size][/color]

***breath of relief***
men! that aint easy at all.

but im not sure if im gonna do those i highlighted

Cuddlemii:
Who be this dongo yaro?

How can a working class guy post this sick joke? Are u presently enrolled in adult classes at a preparatory school. I was cracking up like craze here.

what is the ranting for?
its not everyone dat can control emotions.
if u wouldnt want to lead me, u would have just read and go to another post.

sauer:
serious shi.t u in bro. I feel your prob. But it can help if you simply look forward to weekends. Or do you also spend weekends with her?
Try concentrating on your job while in the office. Think of new ways of solving same old work problems. I guess you put your imagination to too much work. Come on, take it easy. Try setting up a shield in there in your heart. Whenever you think about her or she comes to your mind, think immediately of something else. Don't glance at her too much and don't tolerate her voice. Don't get in too deep. YOu are trying too hard and that surely gives probs
Don't bury your head into your computer for the whole hours. That would make it worse. Act free, and when your eyes meet, maybe give a cool smile or so. Feel confident and assured, take control of the situation. You a man, bro! But fortify your shield! 
Many guys have actually been in such situations, but once they get out they feel much better and confident with themselves. That's what should occupy you - getting out and feeling the better.

On the other hand, if you cant resist her, why not just approach her. Talk to her and see what comes out of it. If she turns you down, fine. At least, the mere thought that she doesn't want you might be sufficient to kill of these butterflies suddenly breeding in your head! And if she does, then you one up!

bro u see those ones i edited to bold? im not gonna try it oo.
i really appreciate ur words bro,
but, lets see if someone has a better idea.

thanks a million times  

^^^^ yeah, bro i really appreciate.
but this is my working place we are talking about.
do u want me to go on sporting activities while at work?

like u said ''out of sight is not out of mind'' even when i dont see her physically, she still comes across my mind. when i try to desist from thinking about her, men! that aint easy at all.
when i go to work, on attempt to raise my head up, i will see her cos she is just a little distance from my seat. i dont know weather to bury my eyes into my computer screen for the whole 9hrs period of work and never look up. what about her voice when she talks? do i block my ears?

Sincerely, i have begged God to rescue me from this problem.

pls where can i buy a nokia n79 phone?
either tokumbo or a new one will do.
thanks in anticipation.

i believe someone can give me a good advice here.
im just going crazy about this problem,
i dont know what to do.

i met a lady some couple of months, we became casual friends, we have been gisting whenever we are around, sharing things like eating together (not as lovers oo), we read together and browse together on my system.
my heart is beginning to love her, but i dont want to fall in love with her.
each time i think about her but i will try to develop a heart of hatred.
the worst is that each time i determine to ignore her, only her presence alone will overpower my determination
i cant stay away from her cos we work in the same working place and i cant imagine loosing my job just because i want to stay away from a girl.

i just want to kill that feeling of love that i have for her,
i just dont want to fall in love with her.
i dont know what to do
right now im thinking about her as im typing, but what will i do to forget and kill that feeling?

pls help me

weebay:
so @190 is now frm guinea, nice. then about the topic trust me Nigerian girls can like to do shakara. theres one am doin her parole now. even after kissin and touching she still says NO. i don tire for the babe seff.

dont give up
keep trying.

M M M:
op
i will like 2 see dat babe wey just dey cry like small baby

no worry, i go paste her pics make u see her
make i go snap her,