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CelebritiesRe: Who Is Sexier? Mercy Johnson Or Martha Ankomah by Smartresult(f): 7:05pm On Mar 02, 2015
Mercy is more sexier, who is matha self?
PoliticsRe: Group Alleges Plot To Assassinate Buhari---- Premiumtimes by Smartresult(f): 6:51pm On Mar 02, 2015
hey , my president stay away dont come back to , this evil forest called naija with vipers and blood suckers as it's leaders , we are solidly behind you, in london or in nigeria, to will vote out the clueless and restore our lost glory
Jobs/VacanciesRe: My First Time To Be Attending An Interview Please What Do I Need To Know by Smartresult(f): 6:41pm On Mar 02, 2015
don't tell your boss
PoliticsRe: Checkout Photo Of Youths Rocking "AskProfOsinbajo" Polo by Smartresult(f): 6:22am On Mar 02, 2015
sia baba,
siababa
sai baba
RomanceHow To Toast A Girl For The First Time by Smartresult(op): 6:19am On Mar 02, 2015
There are some so called 'dating experts' who will tell you that you can pickup women wearing old t-shirts and old ratty blue jeans.

Every time I hear about that it gets me madder than a wet hen, because I know that guy is not only FULL OF CRAP, I know he probably doesn't get laid by hot women without paying for it.

What's worse is guys will believe this kind of bogus information and it makes attracting a woman that much HARDER for them.

Look, the first impression you make has a HUGE impact on your success in just starting a conversation with a woman, so why not use that to your ADVANTAGE?

Think about this, when you see a woman on the street, you make an almost INSTANT decision if you want to meet her or not. You know this is true.

Heck you've probably had a friend say something like "I'd sleep with her" as soon as he LAID EYES on a girl he thought was cute.
Now a woman doesn't make the decision to sleep with you when she first sees you, but she does make a decision on whether she thinks you are a COOL GUY or not.

This decision will result in her either thinking "I'd like to find out more" or her thinking "Oh no, how can I make him go away."

And she makes this decision RIGHT AWAY! But she makes it for VERY DIFFERENT reasons than a guy does. For a man, it's almost completely visual. It's how cute she is and what her body is like.
Also if she is with her girlfriends, at least one of them will see you LONG BEFORE you get close enough to deliver your 'opener', and she'll communicate this to the other girls before you open your mouth.

She'll do this with very subtle SIGNALS to her friends such as moving her EYES, a tiny NOD of her head, or a LOOK on her face she'll hold only for a moment.

If you don't believe me, do this experiment. Go to a nightclub where there are a lot of hot women. Get a comfortable seat, and watch when guys are approaching a group of women. Ideally you'd watch the same girls for awhile.

Notice how when some guys approach, the girls BOX THEM OUT before they get there. And how other times they will seem to OPEN UP for the guy, like they were expecting him!

If you are feeling bold, go up and ASK THEM if they do this. They'll laugh since they've been busted, and will tell you it's true. (hint: this is a good way to get into a group, since it shows you are a socially aware guy)

to be continued
RomanceMy Love Story by Smartresult(op): 6:10am On Mar 02, 2015
Our love story started long before Matthew and I ever actually met.

And when you think about it, most love stories start that way. Every moment leading up to the one in which you meet your future husband or wife somehow shapes you and prepares you for that person you were fated for. Any previous heartbreaks or dark days or lonely nights can be crucially important in the grand scheme of things—sometimes we need to know what something feels like when it’s wrong before we can ever really know it when another thing is RIGHT.


So that’s why I need to start the story with a little bit of background. The whole “girl meets boy, boy and girl fall in love, boy and girl get married” model is a little too simplistic for my needs. You people want details, don't you? Of course you do.


When I was 18 years old and working as a waitress at a little family restaurant, I met a guy who was 10 years older than me. He was the one who came before Matthew. We dated for three and half years, and even lived together during the last year and half of that relationship. We moved into a tiny little house and owned Gracie and Cooper together and our relationship was never a terrible one. He was a good guy, I was a good girl, and we really did love each other.


But for every moment of those three and a half years, I had a nagging, itching, aching feeling that he would never be the right one for me. Despite his great heart, he lacked ambition and drive and handled his finances very poorly and, at the heart of it all, was very insecure despite being a bright and attractive guy. I understood him, though. I understood that his family had never prepared him for LIFE, and the poor decisions he had made as a younger man had him caught in a sticky web and a hole he just couldn’t seem to dig himself out of.


As the years went by, he could give me less and less of what I needed. Things became strained between us. I was a terrible nag, and I see that now. But the problem was that there were just too many things about him that I wanted to change. And as I began to realize that I could never change him and shouldn’t have to, I struggled SO much with what the right thing to do was. It ate away at me day and night, because I honestly couldn’t imagine my life without him. And being alone TERRIFIED me.


Somewhere during all this, I read the book The Secret which is all about the law of attraction. I really, really believed in what it said. It inspired me. I realized that I had not arranged my life in a way that allowed for all the things I so desired. I hate to skim over this because it’s so important, but let’s just say that I KNEW I had to decide what I wanted my future to look like and start taking active steps towards attracting that future. And staying in my current relationship at the time was a major roadblock. I knew in my heart that if I stayed where I was, life would always be a struggle.


So one day the breakup finally happened. We talked and cried for hours and finally decided that we could never truly work. He decided to move out and let me stay in the house and keep the dogs because, on his income alone, he couldn’t afford to live there (I made enough waiting tables to cover the bills if pennies were tightly pinched).


I can honestly say that the 48 hours after that break up were the toughest of all my life. I ugly-cried those kind of tears that come from somewhere inside you didn’t even know existed—a place of fear and sudden awareness that you are completely alone.


And that’s the place I was in when I met Matthew. We met a mere 48 hours after the ex and I called it quits, which could either be considered really terrible timing or really great timing. I choose to believe the timing was perfect.


But let’s back up again for just a minute.


Remember how I was working at that little restaurant? Well, for a couple of years I’d been waiting on my future in-laws without even knowing it. We’ll just call them Mr. and Mrs. D for our purposes here today.


They were an odd couple. Mrs. D was a beautiful blonde and friendly as can be, and Mr. D was quiet, reserved, and hard to read. I really enjoyed waiting on them, though, and I found it amusing when Mrs. D would occasionally mention their son in California and how perfect he and I would be for each other. She mentioned this to me on at least two or three occasions, but I always laughed and just politely reminded her that I had a boyfriend. I came to find out later that, in actuality, Mrs. D talked a whole lot more about Matthew and I one day meeting than I ever knew at the time; Mr. D now says he had to hear about it every single time they came to the restaurant, and Matthew, when he was in town, would always go to eat there and would hear about me then, too. But for some reason, I was never working when Matthew happened to stop in with his parents, and our paths never crossed.


But then one day, on January 19, 2009, our paths DID cross. And to make it all the more strange, I wasn’t even working that day—the encounter was, TRULY, by chance.


Little did I know when I woke up that morning, Martin Luther King Day and a university holiday, that my life was about to be turned upside down.

to be continued
CelebritiesRe: Quilox Night Club Addresses MI's Tweets. by Smartresult(f): 5:59am On Mar 02, 2015
that's and very nice
PoliticsRe: Hon Abike Dabiri Comes After FFK For Saying Tinubu Wants To Be President by Smartresult(f): 5:01pm On Mar 01, 2015
Fuckard pdp
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Chelsea vs Tottenham Hotspur Capital one cup final-( 2 - 0) On 1st march 2015 by Smartresult(f): 4:55pm On Mar 01, 2015
Nice
PoliticsRe: Meet The 3 Lucky Sisters Who survived UNIJOS Bomb Blast (Photo) by Smartresult(f): 4:28pm On Mar 01, 2015
Wishing u quibk recovery
FamilyRe: Help! My Neighbour Disturbs Me With His Generator by Smartresult(f): 3:31pm On Mar 01, 2015
No to it
PoliticsRe: Igirigi Made-In-Nigeria Armoured Personnel Carriers (Pictures) by Smartresult(f): 3:09pm On Mar 01, 2015
Nice
FamilyRe: Letter From An Unborn Child by Smartresult(f): 2:52pm On Mar 01, 2015
MODIFIED , A LETTER FROM Neglected predgnant GIRL to her EX-LOVER
CelebritiesRe: Stella Maris Okafor, Wife Of John Okafor (Mr. Ibu) And Daughter (Photos) by Smartresult(f): 2:34pm On Mar 01, 2015
That gud
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Arsenal Vs Everton (2 - 0) On 1st March 2015 by Smartresult(f): 2:33pm On Mar 01, 2015
ARSENAL = 00
EVERTON =3

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