₦airaland Forum

Sex is an inevitable end just like death. Except you are impotent or well, dead. This is a tragic part of life that we refuse vehemently to embrace.

I have seen sex mess up a lot of things. I have also had close calls with sexual scandals. I mean while I grew up, I had raging hormones that nobody was willing to talk about.

But you know what? I discovered that like hunger, sex was everywhere. Practically littering every street corner. Incest, rape, infidelity, church and political scandals. Some great wars of this world have been rooted in an inordinate desire for skin.

Someone once accused me of being lewd in my stories. I am sure they cringe every time they see the kind of fiction I write. Like "Butterfly had a boner," "To be Naked and God."

I mean! What right-thinking Christian writes such vulgar stories! We have been too quiet about simple principles like abstinence, taking care to have sex with only those we love and are willing to make sacrifices for, being mature to bear the responsibility of sexual intercourse.

We don't talk about contraceptives and why they are a better alternative to mistake pregnancy and the stressful conversation of pro-life or pro-choice. I believe my son should be aware he has a choice to decide where, when and with whom he has sex.

I will not turn a blind eye to the fact that he has an erection every morning. I will not pretend that because he goes to church then he has no desires to find a mate. He is as sexually virile as any other struggling young adult and has every responsibility to have detailed conversations with people about his sexual life.

I believe that in the multitude of counsel is safety. I am a sexual being just as I am spiritual and human. This means that if I pray for abstinence, I should also pray and talk about every other alternative that comes to mind when my flesh decides to play me like ping pong. We all know the flesh plays us, so why should we ignore the possibility of being safe even while doing the biddings of the flesh.

Sometimes God uses your decisions to not have sex without a condom to save you from having sex with the wrong person. While you are looking for the right shop to buy the condoms and taking a thousand buses to the farthest pharmacy from your church area, you get a chance to rethink and stop. Other times you are in the steaming encounter of kisses and caresses and you remember that you have a responsibility to the child that comes from your five minutes of fame. These are the reasons we need to talk about sex.

Whether you like it or not, sex is there. happening to every one of us, it is glaring and statistics do not lie. Africa is not overpopulated by mistake, we all are involved.....
damilola jonathan

Finland has the most stable economy in world today. There are less than 20 churches in Finland.

Switzerland has the second most stable economy in the world. Switzerland has less than 30 churches.

Denmark is the third most stable economy in the world. Denmark has about 23 churches in it.

These are countries considered largely atheist in nature, yet so blessed.

Come to Owerri town, SE Nigeria, from MCC junction to Toronto junction, there are 36 churches. That stretch of about 5 km harbours 36 churches, more churches than the entire Switzerland.

Between Owerri and Mgbidi l counted 97 churches and gave up. According to CAC, Nigeria has over 23,000 registered churches.

We have more churches than schools and hospitals combined. More pastors than doctors and teachers combined. Everyone is born again. All are covered in the blood of Jesus. All are filled with the Holy Spirit.

Yet none of those claims reflects in the expected moral elevation of society. We are still one of the greediest, laziest, corrupt, deceitful, hypocritical and hateful set of beings on the planet today, with all our Christ and Holy spirit.

Our people need to draw the line between religiosity and spirituality."

By Uzoma Iwueke

My Response;

Very beautiful piece. So my people, it is time to think.

I didn't want to dabble in this petty debate of Mrs. Aisha Ahmad's choices of what to wear, following her nomination as Deputy Governor of CBN, which is driving our underachieving men nuts, and which, they argue, fall below their moral expectation from a Muslim woman, but this clarification may make the sincerely insular characters see why she is not an invention of anyone:

Aisha came from a place and people that enable the rise of strong women, almost to the point of matriarchy. The Nupe are culturally respectful of the choices their women make, noting the history of female singers like Hajiya Lolo during and after the colonial rule to present-day Aliya Pelemi and even down through politicians like Senator Zainab Kure.

These women were, and are, revered for their talent, their intellect, their wealth, their education, their wisdom, their skills, their philanthropy - their substance. The musicians have a band of all-male drummers and all-female dancers, who all defer to the female band leaders. Sometimes I wonder whether my mum too, who preferred gele to hijab, could have survived this male-privileging labyrinth as an itinerant trader if she had come from a people who prefer their women chained with words at home. And I'm proud to be from a place that does not disrespect their women or police then rudely like these bleeding chauvinists, who possibly have not prayed today or in weeks, raising fake credentials of their qualifications as self-appointed litigators of God.

Let this woman, who's of course married, exhibit her right to not pander to your rude attempt to tell her what to wear and how to live. What's even funnier is, some of the clowns attacking her are probably seeking a way to see her for help, and shamelessly they'd say "Ran ki ya dade, Malama!" - Long may you live, Madam! - as they beg for a thousand Naira to feed the baby factories they have chained at home.
Gimba kakanda

Political Repression Among Northerners
Dr. Aliyu Usman Tilde
Populist governments throughout history are the most intolerant, brutal and repressive. Remember the communist regimes before in Eastern Europe, Russia, China and even Venezuela today. They are constructed on a raison d'être of self a self-acclaimed virtue in defense of the masses. This false premise give them the feel of a divine mission which mandates them to crush any opposition. Speaking against them becomes taboo, and criticizing them an open invitation to unending reproach. Dictatorship sets in and deaths follow.
I'm beginning to see Obasanjo and Jonathan as very tolerant leaders who have allowed freedom of expression to blossom in this country. You can accuse them of discrimination but you cannot accuse them of repression. We wrote hundreds of newspaper articles against them or some policies of their governments but I, for one, was never harassed or arrested by any of their agent. However, when I wrote, Yuguda Revolution in 2007 in which I advised the newly elected governor against making some mistakes that would undermine his government, I was lucky to survive three assassination attempts. A northern tyrant has arrived!
We northerners should guard against repressive gene. Our leaders so far have a very bad outing with regards to freedom of expression and tolerance to opposition. Another example:
During the tenure of late President Yaradua, some Northerners had to go on exile. Examples are Nuhu Ribadu, Nasir El-Rufa'i and Ahmed Muazu for simply opposing his candidature initially. They believed he was not healthy enough to lead the country. One of them was reported to have privately said, za a bai wa gawa mulki, though he later denied it. It could be the normal back stabbing among northern politicians.
The case of Ribadu with the late Yar'adua needs special mention. Ribadu in particular survived an assassination attempt along Akwanga-Abuja road. God came to his aid on another occasion. Not happy with the failure of the previous attempt, another was planned but it failed right into the ears of his former employee, who leaked it to him immediately. Having realized that leak, the plan was abandoned. He left the country immediately.
Before then, the Yaradua administration condescended to the ebb of demoting and shamefully expelling him, along with his family members, out of the convocation hall at National Institute for Policy and Strategic Studies, Kuru, Jos in 2009.
Is it not shameful that Jonathan could guarantee their security and tolerate their criticisms of his administration when their Hausa-Fulani brother Yar'adua could not tolerate what was a hearsay from them?
Have Obasanjo and Jonathan done this to any Yoruba, Igbo or Hausa-Fulani opponent of theirs? The truth: If Jonathan were this repressive some northerners would have been taken to The Haig over fueling the 2011 election crisis.
Today, APC administrations and supporters of the President are setting a new record of intolerance. For example, I am writing this comment in response to a post on the 6 weeks incarceration of Ibrahim Bature on the pretext that he criticized Masari's administration over a loan, though the chap had earlier pulled down the post and apologized. There have been a number of such arrests of recent in different states, most of them belonging to the ruling APC. During the last tenure, it was not a southerner that called the people who opposed him "cockroaches" and demanded that they be killed. It was Shema, a Northerner, again from Katsina.
What ingredient is there in our composition as Northerners that give many of us the penchant for repression and disrespect for fundamental human rights of our own people. I would understand an Obasanjo, Jonathan, Ihejerika or Minima killing hundreds of Shiites in Zaria and I would easily label them as Christian crusaders or southerners. But what can I describe the cold blooded massacre of Shiites executed with the approval or defense of a Buhari, Nasiru and Burutai? Do we have a self-annihilation gene in our DNA or perhaps it is a trait ingrained from our long history of slavery and feudal orientation?
It is not the leaders alone. Northern citizens are increasingly becoming hostile to opposing views from fellow northerners. Just yesterday on Facebook, I had to show a chap how wrong he was to attack "Mahmud Tukur" and "Junaidu Muhammad" for simply saying that the agricultural policy of this administration is not working. The chap did not even know their names well. First he confused Tukur with Junaid. Even when he later edited the post to read Junaid, he named him Mahmud Junaid. Why insult people when you cannot even have the discipline to know their correct names? He did not even have the courtesy of quoting what Junaid said. Criticizing this government he said is a red line that "they" will not tolerate who crosses it and they will resist it to the best of their ability: bakin rai bakin fama, he said. It is simply because he and his type feel that it is a divine duty to defend this administration, no matter its flaws.
And this culture of intolerance is not limited to politics; it is actively practiced in religion. Today, we have sects that have assigned themselves the duty of judging others with the simple yardstick of exclusion: if you don't belong to us, you are a non-believer. Every slight difference in opinion is an avenue for condemning the other. Haba. Give us a break.
I think we will do Northern Nigeria a lot of good if we learn to tolerate different views in politics, religion and life generally. Let twenty northerners contest for the presidency in 2019, for example. Wallabies heaven will not fall. It is not anyone's business to condemn them for choosing to exercise their fundamental right. Disagree with them by withholding your support, if you wish, but respect their right of choice. Campaign for your candidate and allow others to campaign for theirs. Hold any opinion in whatever it is - including religion - and allow others to hold theirs.
I call on people with such tyrannical minds to open their eyes and see that we are not yesterday's primitive society of slaves and masters. We are in a modern, free world. We are not a kingdom where opposing the king is a crime but a democracy that assures every citizen the freedom of speech and other fundamental rights.
We the citizens must not be afraid to exercise these rights as we deem fit so long as we do not violate the rights of other citizens. Speak your mind within the purview of the law whenever you have the chance in a clear and civil language. Do not allow anybody to shut you up. That is the beauty of living in this age. Anybody that is not ready to respect our freedom has no place in our society today. He can best burry himself alive to live with our ancestors in the grave.
As for our leaders, they must understand that their present offices are temporary. They will soon vacate them for others to occupy. After the expiration of their tenures, they will be ashamed to realize that they are not the demigods that they wanted their citizens to worship. The acts of repression they commit today will be narrated tomorrow when they are long gone. I advise Madaki to release Inrahim Bature immediately.
Tomorrow, we will all end up in a level place where only a blanket rule applies and the choice is ours now:
"whoever does good, it is up to him; and who does wrong is up him. Your Lord does not cheat his servants":
من عمل صالحا فلنفسه ومن اساء فعليها وما ربك بِظَلاَّم للعبيد.
Dr. Aliyu U. Tilde
3 October 2017

First don't let water touch it den keep applying spirit everytime he feels pain I mean alcohol... It will dry it up

The application form for opening a brothel in New Zealand is just two pages long: three pages shorter than the form needed to adopt a dog or cat from Battersea Dogs & Cats Home

The hardest battle I have ever fought as a feminist campaigner against male violence is against the expansion and normalisation of prostitution. During research for my book, in which I seek to expose the truth about the sex trade, I encountered a twisted version of reality – propagated by the so-called “sex worker’s rights” movement – that rebrands and sanitises the sex trade as a harmless service industry.

During two years I travelled 164,000 miles, interviewing 200 people around the world. The biggest obstacle I faced was the well-oiled propaganda machine that takes the truth about the sex trade and represents it to the world in the form of sanitised sop.


By closely analysing the reams of pro-prostitution academic research; looking at funders and supporters of the sex trade; asking questions about the so-called “benefits” of blanket decriminalisation; and listening closely to survivors of the sex trade, I uncovered the real story of what happens when the buying, selling and renting of female flesh is legally and culturally sanctioned.

New Zealand is regularly held up as the gold standard model of how to eradicate problems inherent to prostitution. In 2003 its government voted (by a majority of one) to decriminalise pimping, brothel owning and sex buying. The argument, led by the New Zealand Prostitutes Collective (NZPC), was as persuasive as it was misleading: removing all criminal laws from all aspects of the trade would lead to “worker’s rights” and safety for the women. Handily for sex trade entrepreneurs, this resulted in pimps and brothel owners being rebranded as “businessmen”. I heard a legal love-vendor in Nevada refer to his “business” as similar to that of McDonalds. Except in the case of prostitution, human beings, not dead flesh, are the product for sale.

Alongside other countries and states that have removed criminal penalties against sex trade exploiters, such as Holland, Germany, Nevada (US), and some states in Australia, New Zealand helped to make selling sex as respectable and devoid of red tape as selling cars. The application form for opening a brothel in New Zealand is just two pages long: three pages shorter than the form needed to adopt a dog or cat from Battersea Dogs & Cats Home.

One of the many survivors of the sex trade I met during my research is Sabrinna Valisce, who volunteered with the NZPC over a 25-year period. Valisce campaigned alongside her colleagues for blanket decriminalisation, but now regrets doing so. “I thought it would give more power and rights to the women,” she told me, “but I soon realised the opposite was true.”

According to Valisce, decriminalisation benefitted the punters and brothel owners rather than those selling sex within them.

Brothel owners could choose their prices, they say all-inclusive [which means the punter can have sex with the woman he has paid for as many times as he wishes],” says Valisce. “So clients would go into the room, see a girl and she would have to deal with them wanting to do anything and everything.”

Under legalised and decriminalisation regimes, abuse suffered by the women is now considered an “occupational hazard”, like a stone dropped on a builder’s toe. In Amsterdam, which boasts “window brothels” where women are displayed in order that sex buyers can choose a woman to pay to penetrate, sex tourism is so normalised that even Thomas Cook used to offer guided tours around the red light areas of the city, during which children under three years old could go for free.

Across Holland, women have been imported by traffickers from Africa, Eastern Europe and Asia to meet the increased demand. There has been little or no support for women to exit prostitution, and the innate murkiness of the sex trade has not been washed away by legal benediction. As in Germany and Nevada, the close links between organised crime and prostitution has not been disrupted, and women are still being murdered by pimps and punters at an alarming rate.


A 2012 article in the journal World Development reported that “countries with legalised prostitution have a statistically significantly larger reported incidence of human trafficking inflows”.

Decriminalisation of the sex trade does nothing to protect those selling sex. I am one of many feminist abolitionists actively campaigning for an end to the criminalisation of prostituted people, and for the onus to be shifted onto the consumers. During the time I spent in legal brothels in Australia, Holland, Nevada and Germany, and so-called street “tolerance zones”, I found that the most pernicious effect of removing criminal sanctions from pimps and profiteers is the way it reframes prostitution as a straightforward commercial transaction, which, in turn, serves to hide the truth about the harm and abuse at the heart of the global sex trade.

Julie Bindel’s book “The Pimping of Prostitution: Abolishing the Sex Work Myth” will be published by Palgrave Macmillan on 27 September 2017

*ISLAM AND SEX*

Please how are we to sex our wives in
accordance to the SUNNAH?
And is it permissible to suck(her breasts) and
finger (touch her sexual organ to stimulate her) ?
BISMILLAH
This is a very important topic in our lives as
Muslims but unfortunately most of our scholars
and alims fail to talk about it due to shyness or
its sensitivity.
It's not something to be talked about in the
mosque with a microphone so you barely hear our
preachers talking about it.
To answer this question, I will first get some
points clear and then provide Hadiths and ayahs
to back it later on.
It's very important to get your wife aroused
before penetration
That's what's called pre-intimacy because the
prophet had talked about it.
So this is where caressing, kissing, the sucking of
nipples and fingering comes in.
Anal sex. Is highly forbidden in Islam
Period
MouthAction is undesired and disliked but not
haram.
Health-wise, MouthAction could be dangerous
sometimes. Women have active and unharmful
vaginal bacterials and natural PH(potency of
hydrogen) within their genitals which makes it not
sound for that place to be licked by the tongue or
mouth. This varies from woman to woman
regarding the nature and hygiene level.
However, the clitoris could be carefully licked by
the tongue but this should be done right after
bath and not to be done deeply but don't forget
that it is highly disliked and undesired by some
scholars though there are other views that
supports and allows that so opinions vary on this
matter.
Felacio/MouthAction or the sucking of the male genital
organ by the woman is also considered to be
unharmful by medical practitioners and
acceptable in Islam although opinions vary with
regards to this. Bathing and being clean is the
first thing to consider before carrying on with it.
So with this, individual desires, conditions,
hygiene and personal health conditions counts.
Intercourse during menses is very bad and
haram to the highest level.
Yes, sexual positions are allowed so far as
its in the right place (vagina).
You can try doggy style, spooning and the others
if you like instead of sticking to the well known
missionary position.
Now let's talk about pre-intimacy
Imam al-Daylami (Allah have mercy on him)
records a narration on the authority of Anas ibn
Malik (Allah be pleased with him) that the
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him
peace) is reported to have said: “One of you
should not fulfil one’s (sexual) need from one’s
wife like an animal, rather there should be
between them pre-intimacy of kissing and
words.” (Musnad al-Firdaws Of al-Daylami, 2/55)
Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (Allah have mercy on him)
reports in his famous “Tibb al-Nabawi” that the
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him
peace) forbade from engaging in sexual
intercourse before pre-intimacy. (See: al-Tibb al-
Nabawi, 183, from Jabir ibn Abd Allah
There are no rules and laws in pre-intimacy as to how
it should be done. The only laws and rules are the
ones reached by the lovers by mutual consent
and often unspoken understanding. Whatever is
pleasing and satisfying to both the husband and
the wife is right and proper; and whatever is
mutually displeasing is wrong. The only limitation
to this general rule would be any Shariah rule
which goes against the wishes of the husband or
the wife.
pre-intimacy is Highly Recommended
Islam emphasizes on pre-intimacy. Imam ‘Ali (A.S.)
says, “When you intend to have sex with your
wife, do not rush because the woman (also) has
needs (which should be fulfilled).”
1 Sex without pre-intimacy has been equated to
cruelty. The Prophet (S) said, “Three people are
cruel: …a person who has sex with his wife before
pre-intimacy.”
2 Another hadith equates sex without pre-intimacy
to animal behavior: “When anyone of you has sex
with his wife, then he should not go to her like
birds; instead he should be slow and delaying.”
3 As for the role of a woman in sexual
pre-intimacy, the Imams (A.S.) have praised a wife
who discards shyness when she is with her
husband. Imam Muhammad al-Baqir says,
“The best woman among you is the one who
discards the armor of shyness when she
undresses for her husband, and puts on the armor
of shyness when she dresses up again.”
This means that it's not good for a woman to feel
shy when playing with her husband.
If you are a Malama, when it comes to that,
forget about your Malama things and "open fire"
Don't come near your husband in the night with a
hijab or a niqab or some rough dressing. The
decent dressing you wear when out is no longer
"decent" at that moment. when you return to your
husband in the night, put that away, wear tight,
short, transparent dresses or go nude. Simple.
4 After all, modesty and chastity in public is
the hallmark of a Muslim lady.
These sayings clearly show that the husband and
the wife should feel completely free when they are
engaged in mutual stimulation which is known as
pre-intimacy. There is nothing wrong, according to
Islam, for a woman to be active and responsive
during sex. As for the Islamic Shariah, all the
mujtahids are unanimous in saying that the act of
sexual pre-intimacy in itself is mustahab
(recommended). Likewise, it is recommended not
to rush into sexual intercourse.
5 The operative words is mutual pleasure and
satisfaction is very important. "Talk nasty and
sound silly for each other"
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Techniques of pre-intimacy
As far as the methods of mutual stimulation in
pre-intimacy are concerned, the Shariah allows the
husband and the wife to see, kiss, touch, smell
and stimulate any part of each other’s body.
Therefore, MouthAction, as it is known, is allowed
though some scholars say it's undesired or
disliked. Imam Musa al-Kazim was once asked,
“Can a person kiss his wife’s vagina?” The Imam
said, “No problem.”
6 The only restriction is that no foreign object
should be used. The restriction on the use of
foreign objects is based on the following hadith.
‘Ubaydullah bin Zurarah says that he had an old
neighbor who owned a young slave-girl. Because
of his old age, he could not fully satisfy the young
slave-girl during sexual intercourse. She would
therefore ask him to place his fingers in her
vagina as she liked it. The old man complied with
her wishes even though he did not like this idea.
So he requested ‘Ubaydullah to ask Imam ‘Ali ar-
Reza (A.S.) about it. When ‘Ubaydullah asked the
Imam (A.S.) about it, the Imam (A.S.) said,
“There is no problem as long as he uses any part
of his own body upon her, but he should not use
anything other than his body on her.”
CAUTION: Brother, if your fingers are not
clean, don't do that. It's disgusting to see some
brothers with long nails, where did we learn that
as Muslims?
Anyway before you think of fingering her, get your
hands clean and nails very short.
7 Though masturbation (i.e., self-stimulation
of one’s own sexual organ till emission of semen
or orgasm) is not allowed, in the case of married
persons, there is no problem if the wife stimulates
her husband’s penis till the emission of semen or
the husband stimulates his wife’s vagina till
orgasm. This is allowed because it does not come
under “self-stimulation”; it is stimulation by a
lawful partner.
Let's talk about two ayahs from SURATUL
BAQARAH and some Hadiths which answers the
question completely.
QURAN 2:222-223
"They ask you about menstruation. "Tell them:
This is a discomfort; therefore, keep away from
women (do not have sexual intercourse with
them) during their menstrual periods until they
are clean again. When they have cleansed
themselves then you may approach them in the
manner Allah has enjoined for you. Surely Allah
loves those who turn to Him in repentance and
keep themselves clean"
"Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth
(have sexual relations with your wives in any
manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in
the anus), when or how you will, and send (good
deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious
offspring) before you for your ownselves. And fear
Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the
Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers.
Allah said:
Your wives are a tilth for you,)
Ibn `Abbas commented, "Meaning the place of
pregnancy.'' Allah then said:
(...so go to your tilth, when or how you will,)
meaning, wherever you wish from the front or
from behind, as long as sex takes place in one
valve (the female sexual organ), as the authentic
Hadiths have indicated.
For instance, Al-Bukhari recorded that Ibn Al-
Munkadir said that he heard Jabir say that the
Jews used to claim that if one has sex with his
wife from behind (in the vagina) the offspring
would become cross-eyed. Then, this Ayah was
revealed:
(Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth,
when or how you will,)
Muslim and Abu Dawud also reported this Hadith.
Ibn Abu Hatim said that Muhammad bin Al-
Munkadir narrated that Jabir bin `Abdullah told
him that the Jews claimed to the Muslims that if
one has sex with their wife from behind (in the
vagina) their offspring will become cross-eyed.
Allah revealed afterwards:
Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth,
when or how you will,)
Ibn Jurayj (one of the reporters of the Hadith)
said that Allah's Messenger said:
From the front or from behind, as long as that
occurs in the Farj (vagina).)
Imam Ahmad recorded that Ibn `Abbas said, "The
Ayah,
Your wives are a tilth for you) was revealed about
some people from the Ansar who came to the
Prophet and asked him (about having sex with
the wife from behind). He said to them:
"Have sex with her as you like as long as that
occurs in the vagina"
Imam Ahmad recorded that `Abdullah bin Sabit
said: I went to Hafsah bint `Abdur-Rahman bin
Abu Bakr and said, "I wish to ask you about
something, but I am shy.'' She said, "Do not be
shy, O my nephew.'' He said, "About having sex
from behind with women.'' She said, "Umm
Salamah told me that the Ansar used to refrain
from having sex from behind (in the vagina). The
Jews claimed that those who have sex with their
women from behind would have offspring with
crossed-eyes. When the Muhajirun came to Al-
Madinah, they married Ansar women and had sex
with them from behind. One of these women
would not obey her husband and said, `You will
not do that until I go to Allah's Messenger (and
ask him about this matter). ' She went to Umm
Salamah and told her the story. Umm Salamah
said, `Wait until Allah's Messenger comes.' When
Allah's Messenger came, the Ansari woman was
shy to ask him about this matter, so she left.
Umm Salamah told Allah's Messenger the story
and he said:
"Summon the Ansari woman''
She was summoned and he recited this Ayah to
her:
"Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth,
when or how you will. He added:
Only in one valve (the vagina).)''
This Hadith was also collected by At-Tirmidhi
who said, it's a Hasan Hadith.
An-Nasa'i reported that Ka`b bin `Alqamah said
that Abu An-Nadr said that he asked Nafi`, "The
people are repeating the statement that you relate
from Ibn `Umar that he allowed sex with women
in their rear (anus).'' He said, "They have said a
lie about me. But let me tell you what really
happened. Ibn `Umar was once reciting the
Qur'an while I was with him and he reached the
Ayah:
Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth,
when or how you will,) He then said, `O Nafi`! Do
you know the story behind this Ayah' I said, `No.'
He said, `We, the people of Quraysh, used to have
sexual intercourse with our wives from the back
(in the vagina) { that's likely the doggy style
}. When we migrated to Al-Madinah and married
some Ansari women, we wanted to do the same
with them. They disliked it and made a big issue
out of it. The Ansari women had followed the
practice of the Jews who have sex with their
women while they lay on their sides. Then, Allah
revealed:
Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth,
when or how you will,)''
The "when and how" that Allah said in the ayah
means whenever convenient or anytime you feel
the need to and that also indicate that from any
position, either from the front, back, sideways or
and position so far as its not in the anus but the
vagina.
This has an authentic chain of narrators.
Imam Ahmad reported that Khuzaymah bin Thabit
Al-Khatami narrated that Allah's Messenger said:
Allah does not shy from the truth - he said it
thrice-, do not have anal sex with women.)
This Hadith was collected by An-Nasa'i and Ibn
Majah.
Abu `Isa At-Tirmidhi and An-Nasa'i reported that
Ibn `Abbas narrated that Allah's Messenger said:
Allah does not look at a man who had anal sex
with another man or a woman.)
At-Tirmidhi said, "Hasan Gharib.'' This is also the
narration that Ibn Hibban collected in his Sahih,
while Ibn Hazm stated that this is an authentic
Hadith.
In addition, Imam Ahmad reported that `Ali bin
Talaq said, "Allah's Messenger forbade anal sex
with women, for Allah does not shy away from
truth.'' Abu `Isa At-Tirmidhi also reported this
Hadith and said, "Hasan''.
Abu Muhammad `Abdullah bin `Abdur-Rahman
Darimi reported in his Musnad that Sa`id bin
Yasar Abu Hubab said: I said to Ibn `Umar, "What
do you say about having sex with women in the
rear'' He said, "What does it mean'' I said, "Anal
sex.'' He said, "Does a Muslim do that?'' This
Hadith has an authentic chain of narrators and is
an explicit rejection of anal sex from Ibn `Umar.
Abu Bakr bin Ziyad Naysaburi reported that
Isma`il bin Ruh said that he asked Malik bin
Anas, "What do you say about having sex with
women in the anus'' He said, "You are not an
Arab Sex does not occur but in the place of
pregnancy so do it only in the Farj (vagina).'' I
said, "O Abu `Abdullah! They say that you allow
that practice.'' He said, "They utter a lie about
me, they lie about me.'' This is Malik's firm
stance on this subject. It is also the view of Sa`id
bin Musayyib, Abu Salamah, `Ikrimah, Tawus, `Ata
, Sa`id bin Jubayr, `Urwah bin Az-Zubayr, Mujahid
bin Jabr, Al-Hasan and other scholars of the Salaf
(the Companions and the following two
generations after them). They all, along with the
majority of the scholars, harshly rebuked the
practice of anal sex and many of them called this
practice a Kufr.
Allah said:
(. ..and send for your own selves beforehand.)
meaning, by performing the acts of worship while
refraining from whatever Allah has prohibited for
you. This is why Allah said afterwards:
And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet
Him (in the Hereafter),)
meaning, He will hold you accountable for all of
your deeds,
and give good tidings to the believers (O
Muhammad ).) meaning, those who obey what
Allah has commanded and refrain from what He
has prohibited. Ibn Jarir reported that `Ata' said,
or related it to Ibn `Abbas,
...and send for your own selves beforehand.)
means, mention Allah's Name, by saying,
`Bismillah', before having sexual intercourse.'' Al-
Bukhari also reported that Ibn `Abbas narrated
that Allah's Messenger said:
If anyone of you on having sexual relations with
his wife said: `In the Name of Allah. O Allah!
Protect us from Satan and also protect what you
bestow upon us (i.e., the coming offspring) from
Satan,' and if it is destined that they should have
a child then, Satan will never be able to harm
him.)
Allah's Apostle said, "If anyone of you, when
intending to have a sexual relation (sleep) with
his wife, says: Bismillah, Allahumma jannibna
ash-Shaitan, wa Jannib ash-Shaitana ma
razaqtana and Satan would never harm that child,
should it be ordained that they will have one.
(Because of that sleep)."
Bukhari
After all that, Allah has warned us and also
forgave us in case we did something wrong
unintentionally
224. And make not Allah's (Name) an excuse in
your oaths against doing good and acting piously,
and making peace among mankind. And Allah is
All-Hearer, All-Knower (i.e., do not swear much
and if you have sworn against doing something
good then give an expiation for the oath and do
good)
225. Allah will not call you to account for that
which is unintentional in your oaths, but He will
call you to account for that which your hearts
have earned. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most-
Forbearing.)
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trust me man southerners have issue smthing happened recently with a friend of my he was to open a bottling company only for him to be told that he has to pay the ROYAL family chiefs ,area boys government and state officials ,he had to run back to d north guess what he was given d land for free no payment to any one no bribe so u seee ( southern and westerners have issue when it comes to money)

cyprus boys wona try

hmm I understand how you feel ( the white man love idea of a thing) for me my advice to you is pray for God to intervene in your situation, that the mistake many of us make you look for human solution not God solution ,am not saying wisdom should not be use by scking advice but fact is u cant divorce her den go on your kneels and tl God to touch her heart since you bit religious it may take time but have faith all the character you dont anymore tl baba to remove it out of her

this wat is called innovation ...somtimes I wonder wen will nigeria youth use the socail media as a platform to rally in abuja such as the arab spring .....sad

1. He loves sex. He's a man, so stop pretending that you're surprised that he is always Hot for you, it's normal. Given a chance, he would do it anytime and anywhere. So you better stop denying him that pussy especially if you gonna make noise about him cheating.
2. Your man may have a small dick
It's not about how deep he can go in you, it's about how deep his love is for you.
3. You shouldn't be acting up everytime he comes too quick, you should thank God he came, because that simply means you are too awesome to delay. After all, its not about how long he can last in bed, it's about how long the relationship will last?
4. Don't ever compare him with your Ex. If he was so good, what the Bleep are you doing with him?
5. If he's good in bed. Then spread the word to your girlfriends, sisters and female cousins. If he's poor, spread the word to him, surely he'll do something about it
6. Never attack him verbally in public. It's a huge offense! Phela y'all are lovers, not politicians
7. His phone is his. The stuff that goes on there is crazier than you can imagine, leave it alone it's not yours.
And never answer his calls, if they wanted to talk to you, they would've called you instead.
8. If he has money , he'll spend it with you, if he's broke, kneel down and pray for him.
9. Don't start acting up, because his wallet is empty. He came into your life to love you, not to bail you out.
10. Always remember that he came to attend your heart affairs, not financial Affairs.
#Take note
Nobody is perfect, meet him hallways

but to be seroius and realistic NIgerians are mumu walahi .....after you hav pay for your line d company wll now deactivate it, dat wat happen ... that why the whites will always be smarter .one company holding a nation ransom and no one is talking ,no action taken na wa oo that why the federal government also is taking nigerians for ransom when nigerians can be mumu ....imagine