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aimmy: Hi,,i nid lyk serious advise,,my bf n i r lyk best of friends we do evrytin 2geda but recently i dnt seem 2 understand him,,lyk his dis different person duo he tells me evrytin,i just discovered dat his not actually wat i wnt 4 myself,,
1) he says stuffs dat hurts me without him knowing it duo he appolozies but he stil says he did not actually do anytin rong but just appolozied 4 peace 2 reign.
2) i hv not slept wit him,but evr since he stated talking about sex d relationship went south...(duo i luv him but just not ready 2 get intimate wit him)
3) i told him 2 describe me n all he could say was dat am civilized,,,,n den i told not 2 cal me till he has a better definition of me n figures out what i reali want......
Am seriously confused,did i do d right tin ??

Dump the guy and go out with me.

1st of all. focus on your books and forget ladies

thats why the ladies are special. do something nice for them. they will think the guy is a mugu or he will ask her out

Does the fiance feel threatened by a guy from far away India. its funny, he shouldnt .

[quote author=segun-obe]Guys,I wanna know if its a sign of 'see finish' or honesty that makes a lady squeal on herself(without prompting) if she cheats on her partner.irrespective of his title in the relationship I.e, hubby,b.f,fiance or whatever.
Should she be appreciated or aluulised?[/quote]this your writeup looks confusing. Could you re-write or paraphrase it using simple sentences. it will clearer be like that

she has not found closure in their relationship. the guy looks like he is more interested in getting a job. the lady should accept it in heart that the relationship is over and move on.

Some single ladies have an imaginary boyfriend. The guy will be caring, loving, handsome......So in essence if you can not meet with her expectations then it cant work thus 'I have someone'

OP, you are probably in deep sh-t. 2 things here. You didnt do your thing well with her to make her reach a high point or she gave you one of those disease. Go for check-up if possible

If na me, I wait for her to finish her nursing programme. if she is in love; even better.you can put an engagement ring on her finger.

Nurses are well payed in Nigeria despite their night shifts and all those things. She will be in money and it will probably reduce some of the financial burdens you will have. Allow her to do her nursing programme. she will love you more for it; support and be there for her.

ladies kind or sweet gesture does not neccessary mean she loves you or want to be your girlfriend. Ladies that are open and friendly. If she accepts every guy that ask her out. you will probably be her 1000 boyfriend. so stop taking ladies friendliness = asking her out (being her bf)

That your ex-classmate wants to enjoy your 'thing'. if you know what I mean. its good if you want it to do it with him. it will be passionate love-making BUT

remember you have a bf. Guys approach pre- marriage plans differently. your viewing on his non-forwardness does not mean he does not love and want to marry you. The decision is yours. if you want to go with ex class mate. Break up with your bf so he can quitely search for a new girl. and not to break his heart.

She should leave the guy. he sounds uncertain to take a giant step forward in life-time commitment. If she has a well paying job, a little bit of advertise will attract able young, single men out there

mazaje: No one has a monopoly of violence. . .Women are physically weaker than men as such they should never be the once to throw the first punch. Not long ago I didn't stop a friend's younger brother from giving my friend's wife the beating of her life when she slapped him in our precence and also in the precence of her kids and some other kids for correcting her very stubborn child who was just so unbearable. The child was all over the place beating other kids and cursing out at the adults(House maid and another lady) that were trying to calm him down. When the uncle came in and tried to calm him down the child insulted the uncle and kicked him . The uncle then beat him up. The child ran to his mum who came down screaming and swearing(she wasn't interested in knowing what had happend) and gave her husband's younger brother two dirty slaps in our presence. Imagine the stupid woman slapping a medical doctor because she feels she is crazy. The guy gave her the beating of her life. I only intervened when I felt she was dead because she was unconscious for a while. She passed out and I quickely went and pulled the guy away from her. She ended up being sick for about a week because of the serious beating she recieved. If I find my self in his shoes I will do the same thing he did. If any woman slaps me in that kind of circumstance I MUST slap back and beat her up. Animals need to be treated as animals and human beings need to be treated as human beings. If you behave like and animal thinking because you are a woman you will get away with it then be sure to be treated as one. My two cents. . .

your story is not complete. What did the husband do after that incident. Dont ever have it in your thought system to hit or slap someone's wife even she is your sister. In some homes, the person will be sleeping in the police cell. Or the husband will physically fight you and you wil always be wrong be it for the police or in the eye of a neutral person.

Dont think of hitting or slapping someone's wife because the storm that will follow it. You cant predict where it will lead to.

a newly traditionally married couple should not be thinking about being pregnant. Other issues like love, understanding, compatibility in and outside the bedroom should be top of the agenda.

Sleeping together once or twice does not neccessary mean pregnancy. You can meet a doctor that will estimate the safe period to avoid pregnancy and some other methods to prevent being pregnant

OP; you two MAY not be compatible. I use may because of the sensibility of it.

Talk with her when she appears to be in a happy frame of mind. you should be able to know the period she is. When she shout; dont shout back. its a lose- lose situation.

OP thats what I like about ladies. they like to pour out their heart on issues thus the long write-up.

1st you two have trust issues. so is he worth it? thats the question you could answer

nyere84: Well, i dont knw if mine its a sin. Sincerely, i cant resist d urge of peeping a man & a woman together in a room. I can peep tru d window, keyhole, anytin u can tink of. Just, to knw wat they are doing.

Back then in sch days, i alwys peep bf & gf wen 2geda in the room. Atimes, i will see them digging it out, or i will not. Even, as am writting this, Am peeping my brother and his babe tru the keyhole in his room.

Op, abeg, this is my one temptation i cant just resist.

May I be your friend....lol

1st why are you waking up by 10 am. 2nd Is there food in your house. 3rd ask your wife why she left your house. if you answer this with the help of your wife, the problem is solved

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Dont wait on the sidelines for her. For you to wait is not a shoe-in that she will accept.

You can wait and before you know it, she will move past you and start going out with another guy. then you will really be stuck. Move on

OP, the subject of your post initally looks like a question but its a little long writeup.

Sorry but wouldnt bother reading all of it

OP needs tree cutters with their big saws. Someone left his thinking to be eroded by big trees

Do reading body language have step 1, 2, 3... dont believe so and your writeup is long

Ask your mother or sister... no pun intended

OP, up your game, ladies are general unpredictable. Sweet talk to them. but dont lie in the process

For your girl to give that money to you without the conscent of her uncle is wrong and probably illegal.

In some families if done can get her arrested.

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[quote author=190-the-clown]OP

How can you even be friends with a gurl you're not slicing in bed [/quote]OP

dont take advice from one that's writes the above. His reasoning is another thing.