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A Nigerian lady married a Jamaican bloke a coupla years back in the U.K.The guy has about eleven rented properties in the U.K. all worth 2 million pounds and She's got a property in one of the choice destinations in London worth 2 million pounds(was bequeathed to her by her late father).She insisted on not having sex with him because her belief system doesn't allow it.After the marriage she got to know the guy's is not 'man enough'(impotent) and not ready to solve his problem.All he's interested in is financial security and money making.The lady's in a dilemma about child bearing and sexual satisfaction.What should she do?

@poster, without loving and being loved you a dead man.Dying slowly but surely!

@poster, maybe a party among you, your husband and your so-called gay friend will settle your confused soul!

@poster, methinks you're bleeped up and sound like a bi-sexual.Thought you said your friend's gay?Must you kiss him on the lips to say buh bye?How can you kiss a man on the lips for whatever reason and expect your hubby to be glad 'bout it?Turn the table around for a coupla minutes in your head.How would you feel if your husband kisses a lady friend of his on the lips and you're there looking on?It sucks to think you're even trying to bring the two of them together.Well, maybe when you eventually succeed in making them friends you can experiment with the two at the same time, right?What you're to do?Either leave you husband for your friend or call it quits with your friend if you really love your husband and cherish your marriage.Remember, what goes 'round comes 'round.Don't be surprised if your husband gets even with you by giving what he gives you to another woman, okay?

@bluespice, well just to let you know, apart from being an investment analyst, I counsel young people like me on relationships whether dating, courting or marrying.

I’m going to tell you in a nutshell, a better way to love your woman. Is that okay with you? It is called loving with wisdom. Do these 5 things on a consistent basis and, after one month let me know if your relationship has improved or not.

Listen to Your Woman

Do you listen to what your wife or fiancee is saying? You listen to your boss when he is rambling on, don’t you? You listen to your naïve buddies tell you all kinds of things that don’t really matter in life, don’t you? Well then, why aren’t you listening to your wife or fiancee? Start really hearing what she has to say and be supportive of her feelings and opinions. That means, opening up your ears and being perceptive to your wife’s needs.

Appreciate Your Wife/Fiancee.

When was the last time you told your wife/finacee how much you really appreciate her and all the things she does? A woman puts out a lot more energy into the home and family affairs than the husband does. Sometimes she may feel as if she is the only one doing anything around the house and this is when she starts getting bossy and naggy with you.

I encourage you husband’s to start appreciating your wife for all that she does for you and the family. Marriage can be such a beautiful relationship when you show your love with wisdom. Stop just for a moment, and mediate on the beautiful woman you married. Be thankful that God gave her to you. Realize how blessed you are to have this woman as your wife and know that she is your right arm and sometimes your left arm too. Make your wife feel good about who she is and all that she does.

Please Your Wife Sexually

There is a difference between having sex and making love. Sex is a one sided selfish act that is mostly enjoyed by the husband. Women need a bit more pampering and nurturing in the bedroom. I mean, what does a woman get out of five minutes of copulation? Okay, so it takes a little bit more time to please your wife and you’re tired, so make love in the afternoon or early morning. You do have options. Love your wife with wisdom and start pleasing the woman you married.

Be More Helpful

Be more helpful by “asking” your wife if there is anything she needs you to do around the house, in the kitchen, or in the yard. For instance, she isn’t the only one who eats dinner you know. Maybe she would like some help chopping up vegetables, setting the table, or loading the dishwasher. She probably has mowed your yard for you, so give back in return and do some extra things for her around the house. She will be pleased that you did.

Be the Man of the House

Be her man and she’ll want to be your woman. Did you know that your wife becomes bossy and domineering because you are not listening to her? She feels unloved and unneeded by you when you take her for granted instead of appreciating all that she does for you and the family? A woman needs to be valued by her husband. This gives her more love to give to you.

If you want a humble and kind wife then don’t behave as if you are better than her. Share your feelings with your wife and get close with her. Don’t be afraid to let down your guard once in awhile. If you have emotions that are not getting met, talk to your wife about it. A wife wants to be there for her husband but if you don’t let your wife/fiancee in, how can she help?

If you want a feminine, humble and kind wife/fiancee, then don’t try and control her to be what you want her to be. She needs to be her own person. What you can do though, is control yourself to behave a certain way that makes your wife want to submit to your loving influence. Be a good example and she will want to surrender her love to that example. Love your wife with wisdom.

To the man who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge, and happiness. Ecclesiastes 2:26

Boyfriending should come with a manual — and a test. If you get a passing score, you are granted a girlfriend. If you score in the 90% percent region, you get a really good girlfriend. And if you fail? No girlfriend for you.

In the interest of giving you a leg up in case such a test is ever invented, here are 10 essentials that you should know if you intend to settle down with a girlfriend.

1. Remember her mum's birthday.
Any bloke can manage not to forget his girlfriend's birthday, but if you show up with flowers for her mum, she's yours.

2. Make stuff look difficult.
If she asks for your help opening a jar because she's already turned her whole body red trying to get it to budge, at least make it look like it's a little challenging when you pop it open in two seconds flat after she just struggled with it for 10 minutes, she may not appreciate your macho grin.

3. Always compare favourably.
The time will come when you will watch a film together and she will turn to you and say, "I think Halle Berry is so pretty , don't you?" This is a trick! There is but one proper response, and it goes like this: "She's okay, but you blow her away." See? I even made it rhyme so it'd be easy to remember.

4. Act disgusted.
When you hear that a rich old man has left his wife for an young model, under no circumstances should the phrase "Nice one!" leave your mouth in her presence. Feigned horror and " cradle snatching" sentiments are your best options.

5. Wash your stinky feet.
Don't wait for her to turn green.

6. Put down the remote.
If you flip channels while she's discussing her deep feelings, this is a dead giveaway that you're not listening. No good can come of this. It's better to just nod a lot, occasionally say "I completely agree with you," and wait for her to exhaust herself.

7. Using the phone doesn't make you a loser.
When you're out with your mates and it becomes clear that she shouldn't wait up for you, suck up your pride, endure the "ball and chain" remarks, and remember that the guys' legs are considerably less smooth when wrapped around you than your girlfriend's. Call her.

8. Go hairless.
Some areas are more beautiful when they're bald. These include your back, nose, ears, neck and unibrow.

9. Ease up on the figures.
If you're dating a woman and you both don't mind splitting restaurant bills, fine. But if you break out a calculator to make sure it's exactly equal, try to determine who ate what portion of what, or agree to "lend" her money to pay the tip, do not pass go: Go directly to No-Girlfriend Land.

10. If you love her, tell her.
Again and again. Don't assume that you can just tell her once and she'll believe it's true until you tell her otherwise. There are two things a woman never gets sick of hearing: "I love you" and "Your butt looks amazing." Sprinkle both into your conversations liberally.

S'up Seun, I guess I should let you know that your moderators in this section are becoming unruly.They ban people and edit their posts at will.For members especially those in the diaspora to think a coupla people can't stand other people's views or opinions on issues here is highly counter-productive and might prove a negative equity for this forum.You really need to call them to order hence the patronage would be on the nosedive.They're just moderators and nothing more.You'll agree with me that everyone here is part of the success story of nairaland.com.Without the posters, those who post comments on issues etc, there's no nairaland!

Well, this is sequel to my earlier post.For posters in the romance section, it's been the good, the bad and the ugly.I must say variety is the spice of life though and that's why it's been fun.However, I suggested we post our true picture for just twenty minutes yesterday to see the faces of those we've been interacting with and the response was fabulous.What's your take on organizing a party for nairalanders who post in the romance section, and where would be the best location, Lagos, Londo, or Las Vegas and what about the issue of security as some people might use that as an avenue to settle their scores and grievances on nairaland?

@debosky, the thread is not about how beautiful, handsome or ugly you are, and no one's talking about dating here and if your picture is all about dating to you, that's your cup of tea.We've all been interacting and posting comments in this section.We've got on each others' nerves and all.Others have made friends and others enemies but it's just part of the fun.Sometimes, you just wanna see the true face of your friend, enemy, the aloof person and all.That's what the thread is all about.

This thread is dedicated to those who can post their true picture on their profile for the next twenty minutes so we all can see those we've been interacting with.

We've all been craving to see the true faces of posters on this forum.Can we see our faces on nairaland for the next twenty minutes?

@MrbrownJAY, buddy your definition of promiscuity is weak and inconclusive.It's not just about having multiple sexual partners, it's also about indiscriminate sexual relations and that includes jumping from one man or woman to another.

@MrbrownJAY, not being a virgin and being promiscuous are basically worlds apart!

@MrbrownJAY@, it's so freaking pathetic when people can't understand what others say before making inferences.Do you realize the word 'virgin' or 'virginity' was never mentioned in the post?So why the harp away on the word?isn't there a clear cut difference between being a virgin and being promiscuous? It'll do you some good if you read the post again and again and again.

@MrbrownJay, I see you've lost your compos mentis.There's no correlation between what the poster said and your balderdash.If you're talking about accessibility to ladies, they're quite all around here white and black and other colours.And if it's about what they want, it's available aplenty.But that I'm wealthy or handsome doesn't mean I should throw my weight around on unscrupulous ladies because they ain't got their thinking brain on.The fact that you're in the 21st century doesn't mean you've to live your life like an animal, okay?

I figure the cap of the post is that ladies shouldn't sleep with every guy they date except you're out for a "catch 22" where all the lady wants is money or what money can buy or being identified with a nice handsome bloke and in return "your up north and down south" become his for the taking.