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tosyne2much:
Nice one bro

Thanks dear.. But didn't say I was a bro.

Selective Go-Getting... Career Vs Relationship.
She is a focused and hardworking staff in a big company. She is the career lady, headed for the top. She is an excellent go-getter, and she gets the promotion every year.
She would love to get married someday, soon. Therefore, she is grateful for her relationship with a really nice and rich man who understands commitment and passion. The relationship been going on for three or more years but he hasn't mentioned marriage. She keeps her fingers crossed, she made no plans and set no goals. She will allow him to take his time to propose.

The more a married person focuses on passion or career, the more sour the marriage gets. The more an unmarried person focuses on a career or business, the less chance of getting married.
If you love relationships, you have to learn to strike some balance with equal efforts to enjoy both lives. It's time to set some relationship goals and achieve them. Relationship is like a career too.. Same go-getting mindset and you will surely get a diamond ring.

Why Slay Queen When You Can Be Boss Queen. 
You are beautiful, very social and dresses impeccably. You are the main chic to four rich guys and you have over 10 others shuffling in your friendzone. Infact, you are so successful in dating, all your next year bills has been paid this year.
You are a slay queen so you don't need a job; afterall, it's not easy managing your Instagram, Tinder and Snapchat accounts with thousands of lustful admirers. Your inbox goes berserk with various kinds of men willing to spoil you even before they see you. You have a smart system of sorting through unserious guys and toasters. You operate a smooth calendar with no boyfriend clashes or angry ex.

Roses are red, Greg likes Grace, Beauty fades, and Slay queens eventually run out of slays. It's time to go from slay queen to boss queen. It's time to invest smarter; use the favours and connections from men to create a tangible brand or business.
You need new sets of goals if you have an expensive phone but don't know how to send an email...if you wear expensive hairs and makeup but have no registered business.
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Sex On The First Night Can Do The Trick.
Contrary to popular belief, many guys tend to admire and respect the girl who didn't have an issue with sex on the first day.
Sex on the first date doesn't make a girl cheap or valueless as long as she was not manipulated into it.
Most times, it has even worked out so well, that a girl will have sex so unexpectedly and then make the dude wait as long as she wanted for another. She can command his attention anytime; because men tend to do anything, pay anything, wait for years, just to have a night as fantastic as the last.

Sadly, most guys keep intimate relationships for just the romantic and sexual benefits; extra beauty and intelligence and other wife materials are welcomed bonuses.
Good enough, many girlfriends understand this; girls are aware that most guys are in the relationship for just the sweet and sexy times so they get stubborn, emotionally needy, hard to get and attention seeking all on purpose.
Love or no love, no girl wants to be seen as a cheap LovePeddler, that's why there is always this issue of sex on the first day and that's why girls will put guys through stress before going to spend time alone with him. To completely eliminate the possibility of sex on the first day, many girls would only visit a guy's home during their period of menstrual flow... some go as far as faking a menstrual flow in order to turn a guy off from sex.

We have seen guys that were dragged through the 90 day rule. (The practice of making a new boyfriend wait for really long time before sex), through all the kissings, dry humpings and zero sex, through 90 days of blue balls and yes, they did wait, only to hit the pussy and then disappear.
No matter how beautiful and amazing a lady is, most guys will get frustrated waiting so long for sex to happen. The only reason he is still on the cue being all nice is because he is waiting to get one or two vengance sex and recover his ego.
Girls waiting for that romantic man who isn't interested in having sex in a relationship should stop waiting. You can't be a worldly chick and be looking for God's kind of love.
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How To Be The One!
No matter how polygamous men can be, there is always one girl who holds the most amount of respect, love and attention a man can give. This girl is often referred to as "The One"
She is the madam, her demands get the toppest priority and she dictates the pace of the relationship.
Many ladies successfully enjoying this love spell didn't consciously play games to get their men under almost absolute control; it happened naturally.
However, for those of us who can't naturally hold a man's attention, I have studied and listed some tested and confirmed psychological plays that can help you become the one.
These factors doesn't only apply to soft, sensitive, hopeless romantic good guys like you want to think; they also work on tough bad boys and players.

1. You embody several loving personalities. You can be a homely submissive sweetheart and also a hot, sassy, seductress.
2. You are a mogul. Super sense of passion, independence and creativity.
3. You throw him of guard by doing things considered very unethical and uncommon like taking him out on a date and paying for it or sending him recharge cards.
4. You bring something to the table. You have quality ideas, opinions and you make smart comments during conversations. This is one of the biggest respect and admiration boost for mem. It even eliminates lust.
5. You are a little psycho. Sometimes you are something that can't be explained or understood. A good dose of mystery to keep him wondering. At least, once every month, by actions or inaction, make sure you make your man be like "What the hell!" This is usually achieved with the help of an alter ego.
6. Choose complementing alter egos. The polygamous nature of men makes them fall for ladies with alter egos. Think about it, two or three different people he can have any random time. It keeps him occupied and the relationship evergreen, but it's important to choose your characters wisely.

7. You are just the right amount of tomboy. It appears mad sexy to guys to have a lady with some attributes of men. You have to think like a man to be able to control a man. Tomboy sn't just about dressing like boys. You have to take decisons that surprises the men, you have to be tech savvy, good with gadgets and devices, you can fix little things or likes to watch him when he does. You are his partner and wingman.

8. You are a sexual mystery. Sex plays a pivot role in keeping your man focused on you. Little things like initiating sex half of the time can give you an edge. Other little things like the willingness to be satisfied will make him make sure you are satisfied. Don't do all your moves on a round of sex, always save moves for next time and make him believe he hasn't had the best with you.

Trying these tips will guarantee 70 percent of your man's attention. The remaining percentage can never be taken away from men but you will be the one he never wants to lose.
What do you think guys? Which number are you willing to try?

Awkward moment rescued Chibok girl reunites with her sister at home

Reacting To The Recent News Of Over 300 People Dead By Meningitis In Nigeria.[/b]
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There is nothing like "meningitis outbreak" like the media is calling it.
#Meningitis is a disease that actually runs on a calendar. Thanks to World Health Organisation, every meningitis prone region know when to expect it. Meningitis didn't outbreak in Nigeria, it came as usual and met an unprepared government.
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The government and politicians never cared... What can make them care now?
Our yearly budget for the Federal Ministries Of Health is bigger than the whole annual budget of Kenya; but our public healthcare system is almost dead.

Can you believe that meningitis is preventable via simple vaccination but over 15,000 children have died of meningitis in Nigeria in the past 25 years... Third world king. Giant Of Africa my fat ass.
A Government That Can Only Respond But Can't Prevent Diseases... abeg is that one a government?

#StopMeningitisNigeria

Saw her in action live in Diamond Bank Lekki. I suspected her as well as one other woman who said baby water doesn't look like that. She made away with 47K because nobody wants to have a pregnant woman mess the whoke banking hall.
I knew in my mind that soon she will be caught.

This woman harsh shaa. Two guards are permanently calming her down.

In the streets, as I walk by, it looks like all the guys are suddenly dead or blind. Yesterday evening, I swear to God, I saw them check out a uniformed school girl that passed before me. Well, Bleep them; they don't know me personally and one of them haven't been drunk enough to do me to testify how crazy and sweet I am.
Last Tuesday, my brother's friend greeted me almost the same way he greets my brother.

I guess I have to start posting more on this Fakestagram and Snapshit anyhow. But mehn, I'm not even a self acclaimed Pro MUA or Versatile Model. I can twerk though. Ugly girls are the best twerkers. Observe it this weekend. I would also pass for a video vixen if I am to wear one of those gas masks 'cos damn, my shape is mad.
I can't be a nobody in this shit town and also be nothing in the fucking social media. I wanna go to Dubai and Dubai again but why do I have to pay for it.
Goddamn it. Ugly girls from broke background who love the good life must hustle hard like men to buy things for themselves.
Ugly girls are very good in decison making, very resourceful. Ugly girls are wise and can handle situations. There are more ugly smart girls than beautiful smart girls. Ugly girls hardly get distracted.
Pretty girls who aren't in school are being disturbed by CEOs to come for fuckterviews. Me, I lost my last job three years ago. Apparently, nobody wants an ugly girl with a masters degree as head of the marketing team, so I can't afford to buy body shapers and nice dresses to snap a sexy half face, black and white picture.

I'm not sorry about all the bants and bad words. I was just lying on my bed as my kid sis sent me a picture of she and her bf, who is my former classmate and current crush, having fun in Kenya while she was supposed to be in school. She asked me to cover for her on why her number ain't reachable. The dude called me and said "thanks love for covering for us."_
These are just few of the issues ugly girls face. What can we do?
What does the future hold for the common very ugly girl. Please advice but spare us the inner beauty sermon. Ugly is physical.
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Especially the ladies; you are simply dating/seeing someone but always choose to use the phrase "in a relationship" because you want to make the whole thing sound and appear very serious and real instead of being perceived as fling or friends with benefit.
Yea, you really feel different about this guy but he is like your 4th relationship/boyfriend and you know he won't be your last. Infact, you're already feeling confused about him.
Boyfriend, girlfriend, bae, boo etc are not relationship titles. The first relationship title you will have asides from being a sister, cousin, aunt, niece, stepmother to someone, will be Fiancée.
So, darling, until you are engaged or betrothed or have signed some sort of legally binding documents, you are just dating. It's not a relationship.
Have you bothered to ask yourself or the bae... "What's the binding factor in this relationship?"_
Is it because you guys are having sex and have agreed not to cheat on eachother or because he'd made some other promises to you? Lol. As a matter of fact, you two need to be seeing other people until one person accepts a ring from the other.
Stop. Don't subscribe to time wasting, and self deceit. Don't stall your personal development by staying so called faithful, hence, can't hangout with other people all in the name of a relationship that is not a relationship.
The worst is when I chat with heartbroken young girls in their early twenties who were cheated by their boyfriends and how they talk about how they thought the "relationship" will lead to marriage. Really? A young Nigerian dude in his twenties is discussing eternal bliss with a 19 year old or early twenties girl just to get her comfortable enough for mutual sexing, etc and the girl automatically sees herself in a wonderful relationship that must have a happy ending.
Three months later, or whenever he accidentally leaves his phone unlocked, she will find out via Whatsapp or Facebook that her boyfriend is selling the same eternal bliss dream to several other naive and gullible girls.
Seems to me that only the guys truly understand how these things work and have been using that edge against ladies forever.

Excluding religious and family contexts; love comes in different forms and meanings but the two most modern usages are the noun and the verb. The noun upholds the original meaning of a natural strong feeling of affection which appeals to those of us who are very reserved, traditional and conservative. The verb supports those of us who are very adventurous, open minded, social and modern.

Often times, ladies especially, have complained, "How can he say he love me but want to have sex with me on the first day we met"
Well, ladies, the brothers are right. Out of popular demand, the verb love was added to dictionaries and it means having a deep affection or sexual love. You see, that "or" has changed everything. Quite unfortunate, but guys are right when they say they love you and want to have sex with you on the same day. Things is, deep down, they know both of you are not talking about the same love; but they will use that on you to confuse you to think about the noun, when all the while, they meant the verb.

Often times, people debate about the existence of love at first sight.
Well, to put it this way, love at first sight exists for the people who also practice the verb. And that is almost all of us.
You can bump into someone at a church party and instantly believe that person is the one, and just like Romeo and Juliet, that person feels the same way too. That's love at first sight.
You can also run into a sexy picture of your man or woman crush on instagram and you remind yourself how perfect he or she is and how you can't wait to tear him or her up on bed. That's love at first sight too.

Because our society hasn't fully assimilated these theories, we must manually find out if the people we are dating love us as we love them. We can't continue to court misunderstanding and count breakups because the people that we love were not in the same love with us.