The three things that can pose threat to woman beauty. They are anger, fear, and depression.

1. Anger
Anger is an emotion. It comprises envy, intolerance, criticism, revenge, hatred, rebellion, jealousy, and unforgiveness. It's as result of response to an underlying feeling like hurt, fear, sense of unfairness or disrespect.

However, in a developed society, expression of anger whether verbal or physical, is at most counter productive, worst violent and destructive. It's a normal thing to live with anger but destructive if not controlled or expressed inappropriately.

A wise controlled by Jesus Christ is a crowning joy to her husband but when she is controlled by anger, her presence can be torture.

When To Know You're Angry:
You know you're angry when your heat beat faster than normal and you breath more quickly. Some other signs can be experienced like tension in your shoulder or clinching of fist. If you notice this signs, leave the scene as a preventive measure.


Short-term Anger Control:
The short-term anger control can be done in two ways:

• Counting up to 10
Count up to 10 times to enable you calm down, so you can think more clearly and overcome the impulse of unleashing your anger.

• Breath Slowly
Breath out far longer than you can breath in and relax as you breath out. This' to counter the impulse of always breathing in longer in at the course of anger.

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Nowadays, many single women are struggling to get the application “MRS”, at the expense of their personal happiness, self-dignity and even material wealth. But most men are only ready to marry a wife from a wealthy family.

In the life of some singles, the pressure to be married emanate from parents who wants to celebrate a new status of being in-laws and would want to have grand children. The close link to this is some economic factors which make some parents and ladies perceive marriage as a bridge to big fortune. And some parent would take it to be the end of poverty, if the person in question is stinkingly rich.

Beauty may fade, wealth may vanish, but true love lasts forever. If one must have good, enviable and sustainable values in marriage and home, this physical factors that may vanish at any time should be unimportant.

There's this story of a lady, the first child of her parents, she got the best in terms of education and care. And through her father's influence, she also got a job soon after graduation from school. There was however, a clause in her smooth sail. In all her relationship with men, no one got serious to take her to the alter. At the age of 32, she was still with her parents much to the perplexity of every member of her family.

Then came this police officer, who was not only younger but also of a lower status. He prided himself in the financial stability which his parent has gained over the years. He too, was the first child of his family. A rather casual relationship soon become more involving as the lady got pregnant and not wanting to have her child outside wedlock. So she decided to go to the alter with him.

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GloriaNinja:
ADULTERY IS CATASTROPHIC.

But you once mentioned money as the only source of happiness in one of my topics thread.

There're many marital crises today, ranging from separation to unfaithfulness and divorce; even among Christian families. Research has shown that some people nowadays still choose their life partner without any screening and compatibility test in terms of area of temperament. They ignore all the danger signals and deceive themselves.


Causes Of Conflicts

A man should marry a woman he is ready to live with for life, for better for worse. Some marriages are like hell, there's no iota of peace or happiness in them. One of the major causes of problems in marriage is

Adultery

Lots and lots of couple are going through the same experience. They only manage to live together and tolerate themselves.

Although some women, due to their nonchalant attitude towards sex, encourage their husband to search for sexual satisfaction outside their matrimonial bed. Most men are adulterous in nature, no matter what they get at home. They'll like to explore. Hence, they're not just satisfied with one sexual partner, forgetting that multiple sexual partners may lead to destruction and death.

Besides adultery, there're other causes of conflict in marriage which include:

• Money

• Problems with the in-laws

• Friends' influence

• Women not relating with her husband's family members.

Read more: http://www.solcyga..com/2017/09/causes-of-marriage-conflicts-and-solutions.html

God bless Dave Umahi __ the able GOVERNOR.

Certain problems abound in marriage which is hungry for solutions. And the following strategies have been designed to tackle them in peace:

• Write It Down

If you tend to forget what you wanted to say in the heat of the moment, consider writing it down on a paper. Create a list of what you want to say. Then, have your partner read it and you discuss each point together. The major essence of creating a list, is to avoid getting your spouse angry while presenting it orally.


• Don't Take The Issue To Bedroom

After having the discussion of the problems with your partner, ensure you don't go to bed with it. Reason being that you don't want to have sex in hurt, angry and frustrating condition. Any frustration in bed can piss you off and ruin your supposed romantic night.


• Show You Care

After you have patched up things, don't assume that your partner will wait to have sex just because you do. If sex for you represents an optional release, or a confirmation of forgiveness, make sure it does the same to your partner. Find an alternative way to show post-fight affection.


• Don't Neglect Listening

Getting defensive is a natural reaction when one gets accused. It's best to let the fight initiator express what bothers him. When your spouse is done, you can explain your own side. Read more http://www.solcyga..com/2017/09/7strategies-for-solving-marital-problems.html

You shouldn't be taken unaware that the condition of your marriage today, is the product of yesterday. So, how's your social life? Take time to work on yourself, especially on your character and attitude towards your spouse. There's an adage that says: “When wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost; but when character is lost, everything is lost.”

Your conduct to your man, will determine how he relates with you. Place an element of value on him. Learn and cultivate the habit of showing love to your spouse. Be social, relate and interact well with him.

Read more http://www.solcyga..com/2017/09/how-to-attract-respect-from-your-spouse.html

For you to understand the concept of this topic, you need to know what system is all about before you'll be able to connect it with marriage.

Definition: A system is a group of related parts that work together as a whole for a particular purpose. With respect to the above definition, you can bear me witness that marriage involves the efficient cooperation of parties concerned or husband and wife for the effective sustenance of the marriage longevity.

Marriage therefore, is a union of heart, mind, soul, and body __ the greatest and the most intimate relationship possible. It's at once, a spiritual, emotional, social, mental as well as physical union. Along with the legal honour conferred upon it, no marriage. Worth a name, can be lacking in any of this compositions.

Taken from whatever angle, marital relationship is the most beautiful earthly union, given by God to man. But on the spiritual perspective, marriage is a two distinct destinies flowing together as one.

Viewing it from the emotional level, it's two hearts beating together as one, on the physical level, it's two bodies joined together as one, while in the social level, it's two lives living together as one. In no other human relationships are all these possible or even applicable.

The system comprises sharing as it's yardstick of existence, hence; life, love, joy, responsibility, and destiny are all shared. It's a bond in which the life of a man and woman become covenantly joined together in a compounded and constantly changing undivided systematic combination. Read more http://www.solcyga..com/2017/09/the-secretes-of-marriage-system.html

modelmike7:


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GloriaNinja:
WHAT ABOUT HOW TO TREAT YOUR WIFE FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE ?

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In the institution of marriage, female still has some roles to play in making a marriage blissful.

• Build your husband's self-confidence and motivate him to action by letting him know you need and appreciate him. Men tends to take things literally, therefore, when you ask your husband to do something for you; phrase it with “would you?” Instead of “could you?” He'll know you need help and aren't just asking a hypothetical question.

• What's your husband's hobby? Study up on the topic through reading, lessons or whatever means and once surprise him with your knowledge and skills.

• If your husband becomes quiet during discussion, don't assume he's ignoring you. Many men like to put important issues on the back burner, and think about them before talking. Give them time.

• When you share feelings with your husband, let him know you're not trying to tell him what to do. But just want him to listen, and consider how you feel. Tell him directly, “when you listen to my feelings, I feel loved and supported.”

• Trust your husband. He needs to know you believe he wants the best for you, he's doing his best in the marriage. When you're open and receptive to what he has to offer, you fulfill his need for love. And he loves you in return.

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purem:
Interesting Fact

Thanks

adontcare:
This will fall on deaf ears on the over wicked horsband

God will help through prayer, thanksgiving & personal effort..

In an institution of marriage, one partner cannot survive without the other. And here are your roles as a male partner in your marital relationship:

• In the side of the husband, silence is not always golden, especially between you and your wife. Ask your wife when she would like to set aside time just to talk with you.

• Are you predictable? Do you follow the same routine? If the answer to the above questions are yes, then, you need a change. Make something new happen in your relationship with your spouse today. Go ahead, surprise her!

• The finest building in town was not established after a single completion. It involves a continual renovation including repainting to make the house the most beautiful. Wooing a woman to be your wife doesn't mean that you stop winning her after wed-luck.

• Stop being faultfinding. It injures relationship, especially that of your wife. Shower her with praise, including the word “thank you” and good mannered “gestures”. They nurture her.

• Tell your wife how much you value her. “ A wife of noble character, who can find? She is worth more than gold. Her husband has full confidence in her and she lacks nothing of value”.

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New revolution __ fighting speeches with Armored Tanks in Nigeria.

What if you are provided with all the money in the whole wide world and you are abandoned in the house alone with children?

Three fundamental aspects that make make marriage lucrative, worthwhile and beneficial are

• The man leaves his father and mother, and in a public act attach himself.

• The couples are joined together by taking responsibility for each other's welfare, and put the partner above all other needs.

• And they both become one flesh in the intimacy of marriage act which is exclusively reserved for the married.

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Let's begin with the following proverbs:

• “a man who knows not, and does not know that he knows not”, avoid him; he is a fool.

• “a man who knows not and knows that he knows not, help him"; he is only being ignorant.

• "a man who knows and does not know that he knows, help him"; he only lacks confidence.

• But "a man who knows and knows that he knows", work with him; he is wise.


Recall that only oceanographers or somebody who has been to the depth of an ocean can tell how deep an ocean actually is and you can't give what you don't have. Therefore, everyone is entitled to his opinion, but what distinguishes you from the crowd is your daily decision.

Journey of life involves success spiritually, academically, healthwise, economically and otherwise. Positive thinking is the beginning of achievement, and the ladder of success stems from the service to God and humanity.

Read the detailed post here http://www.solcyga..com/2017/08/reasons-why-you-must-be-wise.html

Either you receive a text prompting you to proceed for the test or keep trying to log in with your phone number and BVN.

Good! But I want to use this opportunity to correct the impression of some churches that speaking in tongue is learned. It's a gift of Holy Spirit and everyone is not entitled to it since there're many other gifts.

ADEWUMIMichael:



Without a doubt, speaking in tongues is the most controversial spiritual gift mentioned in the New Testament. Is it from God or the devil? Should believers ignore it, oppose it, or embrace it? There are many legitimate questions regarding the gift of tongues that deserve a thoughtful, biblical response. Let's tackle five of them.




1. Is speaking in tongues from God or the devil?
The most important thing you need to know about speaking in tongues is what Jesus said about it, and He did not mince His words in Mark 16:17: "And these signs will accompany those who believe: In my name they will drive out demons; they will speak in new tongues." Jesus declared that tongues is a supernatural sign that can and should accompany everyone who believes in Him. God does not give His children any bad gifts, so we shouldn't fear or ridicule the gift of tongues.






2. Are people making it up when they speak in tongues?

The gift of tongues is a known or heavenly language unknown to the speaker that enables him or her to communicate directly with God. Paul said in 1 Cor. 13:1, "If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels..." When you receive the gift of tongues, in a split second the Holy Spirit downloads a language into your spirit without you ever having to learn it.
In 2006, researchers at the University of Pennsylvania took brain images of five people while they spoke in tongues. Their research was published in The New York Times . The leader of the study team was Dr. Andrew Newberg, who arrived at this conclusion:


"We noticed a number of changes that occurred functionally in the brain. Our finding of decreased activity in the frontal lobes during the practice of speaking in tongues is fascinating because these subjects truly believe that the spirit of God is moving through them and controlling them to speak. ...Our brain-imaging research shows us that these subjects are not in control of the usual language centers during this activity, which is consistent with their description of a lack of intentional control while speaking in tongues."


When they prayed in tongues, their frontal lobes, the willful part of the brain we use to think and control what we do, were quiet. The language center of their brains—the part we use to speak in our native language—were quiet as well. The people were not in a trance; they were fully aware of what was happening. The researchers were unable to pinpoint which part of the brain was controlling this behavior of speaking in tongues. Dr. Newberg went on to say, "The amazing thing was how the images supported people's interpretation of what was happening. ... The way they describe it, and what they believe, is that God is talking through them."


Speaking in tongues is clearly not a fabricated language, as these scientists have confirmed. It is a spiritual language given to us by God to communicate with Him.


3. Is speaking in tongues a fringe gift that only a few people receive?

The gift of tongues was the most common spiritual gift in the New Testament church. The Bible tells us in Acts 2:4 that all of the original 120 disciples at Pentecost spoke in tongues in the Upper Room: "All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak in other tongues as the Spirit enabled them." We don't know if they all received the gift of faith or healing or discernment, but we know for a fact that all of them received the gift of tongues.



Today, there are more than 600 million charismatic-Pentecostal believers worldwide, the second-largest group of Christians after Catholics. Pentecostals and charismatic churches are by no means a small, fringe movement; on the contrary, they form the fastest-growing religious movement in the world. The gift of tongues is not reserved for a select few. Paul made it clear in 1 Cor. 14:5 that he wanted every believer to pray in tongues (for personal edification) and prophesy (to edify the church): "I would like every one of you to speak in tongues, but I would rather have you prophesy."



4. Did the gift of tongues cease after the first century, or is it still active today?
The doctrine of cessationism is firmly entrenched in Reformed Christianity. This is the belief that the apostolic and charismatic gifts (including speaking in tongues) ceased after the original 12 apostles passed away. However, several notable early church fathers

—such as Justin Martyr (100-165), Irenaeus (115-202), Tertullian (160-220), and Origen (185-254)—recorded that the spiritual gifts, including speaking in tongues, were still active in the church in their days, long after John had passed away around 100 AD.



Peter proclaimed in Acts 2:39 that the gift of tongues is for everyone who is called by God: "The promise is for you and your children and for all who are far off—for all whom the Lord our God will call." Paul wrote in 1 Cor. 13:8-9 that when that which is perfect comes, tongues will cease. That is a reference to the Second Coming of Christ. The Bible teaches that no one is perfect except Jesus. When Christ returns, we will not need to speak in tongues to communicate with God because we will be with Him. But until then, the gift of tongues is available to any believer who desires it.




5. What are people saying when they pray in tongues?





The Bible reveals five main things that happen when believers pray in tongues:



1. They are speaking directly to God. 1 Corinthians 14:2, "For anyone who speaks in a tongue does not speak to men but to God. Indeed, no one understands him; he utters mysteries with his spirit." Tongues is an intimate and direct line of communication with God.


2. They are declaring God's wonders. Acts 2:11, "We hear them declaring the wonders of God in our own tongues!" Far from being nonsense, when we pray in tongues we are actually declaring the wonders and mysteries and majesty of God. How could that possibly be a bad thing?



3. They are praising God. Acts 10:46, "For they heard them speaking in tongues and praising God." Even if we don't understand what we are saying when we speak in tongues, we are praising God in the Spirit (1 Cor. 14:16).


4. They are edifying themselves. 1 Cor. 14:4, "He who speaks in a tongue edifies himself, but he who prophesies edifies the church." Praying in tongues is like a spiritual workout—it builds you up and makes you stronger spiritually.



5. The Holy Spirit is praying through them, declaring God's will. Romans 8:26-27, "We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express...because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God's will." Praying in the Spirit will bring revelation and insight into God's will for your life.




If you do not believe in the gift of tongues or have had a bad experience with the charismatic movement, I encourage you to the study the Scriptures with an open mind. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the truth about tongues to you.



If you desire the gift of tongues, pray for it in faith until you receive it. Jesus said in Luke 11:13, "How much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?" Sometimes we have to ask and keep on asking, seek and keep on seeking, and knock and keep on knocking until we receive our answer to prayer.




If you already have the gift of tongues, use it every day. In 1 Cor. 14:18, Paul boasted about how often he prayed in tongues: "I thank God that I speak in tongues more than all of you." Tongues is a real language, and as with any language, you have to use it in order to increase your fluency and vocabulary.




Are there excesses and abuse with the use of the gift of tongues? Yes, of course, and they need to be corrected, but don't throw out the baby with the bath water by rejecting the gift of tongues altogether. Let us take the words of the Apostle Paul in 1 Cor. 14:39 to heart: "Therefore, my brothers, be eager to prophesy, and do not forbid speaking in tongues " (emphasis added.)



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Good! But I want to use this opportunity to correct the impression of some churches that speaking in tongue is learned. It's a gift of Holy Spirit and everyone is not entitled to it since there're many other gifts.

superpauL:
Things You Should Avoid As A Christian
There are things which can be destructive to your life, and you should avoid doing these things:

1) An uncontrolled tongue is a deadly poison and a world of iniquity.

2) Discord and hatred of another Christian causes you to walk in darkness.

3) Refusal to forgive someone who hurts you causes you to live in torment.

4) The carnal mind is an enemy of God in your life.

5) Being double minded causes you to be unstable in all of your ways.

6) Failure to build your life upon God’s word causes the storms of life to defeat you.

7) Lacking the knowledge of truth destroys your life.

He that has an ear......... Let him hear

Very educative but you didn't add the major ingredients which are prayer and fasting. Hence, with these two and your number six, you can accomplish the rest in the list.

Gbelexy:
Please,how would I know when or if I'm qualified to write the NPower test?

You'll know when you receive a text on your phone or keep trying to login with your login details i.e your phone number and bvn you applied with.

jared007:
https://www.nairaland.com/3895448/why-left-christ-embassy-church

And a man's foes shall be they of his own household (Matt 10: 36)

As a believer in Christ I was tempted to ignore Marchman but I had to write this reply to encourage Christ Embassy members especially the 'children' in particular and true Christians of different denominations in general.

Now concerning Marchman, going through his previous threads on Nairaland and the titled thread on why he left Christ Embassy i concluded he was never a true member of Christ Embassy or a christian but a Wolf among the Sheep. No true Christian goes to the media to write lies against his biological family, local church or other churches no matter how offended he is. This is why Muslims are more United than Christians.

Now to counter some points he made which I quoted in bold. For example he typed "They tend to believe literally that everything answers to money

It is written in Ecclesiastes 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things.
Yes money answers everything. You need to read publications and messages on seed faith. Am not ignorant of the fact that some of our leaders might be over zealous in trying to hit a target by tasking someone to give but never have i been forced by my leaders against my will to give.
Christ Embassy projects are of high quality and numerous in reaching the unsaved and inspiring right living and they aren't cheap. I believe Donnie and Joagbaje can assist with images of our numerous programmes and projects.

"You are also charged to give for Pastor Chris birthday

The trash you wrote up there could only be written by a selfish man because according to the following verse of scriptures:
Gal 6: 6-10 Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teacheth in all good things. Be not deceived; God is not mocked : for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.

The only time we are opportune to sow into Pastor Chris anointing is during his birthday which is just once in a year. Marchman pls tell me how else we can honour or communicate to our pastor?

"The church is obsessed with money. They do not mind how or where you get it"

Yea we are obsessed with money because of numerous projects that must be done before Jesus returns to rapture us. Why shouldn't we use money to serve God well now when it will be useless when we leave this earth? CE is interested in the job you do and ur financial abilities so your belief that we don't mind how we raise the money exist in your own imagination. I can't remember Jesus asking those Jews who were giving in the Temple where they got their money from. He didn't ask the widow too who gave her mites. Marchman u need to be cured of ur poverty mentality.

"Sin means nothing at Christ Embassy"

I don't know where you got this belief from because CE always frowns at any member that sins including an open rebuke. Some of our members that were caught in the act of fornication were excommuincated from the rest of the brethren and were told to sit at the back of the the church for each service till restitution. I ve witnessed this more then once. Scriptural readings from 1cor 5: 9-13 are read to the erring members.

Pastor Chris talks about sin, righteousness, heaven and hell but you don't know because you thought it's only Sunday services Pastor preaches to us. Pastor preaches to us everyday through Rhapsody of realities, tapes, cds, vcds, dvds, mp3 and software platforms.
When you lay much emphasis telling people not to sin that's when they will sin the more because it's the nature of man to sin when you tell him not to. Rom 7:15-20.

Saying Pastor Chris was accussed of fornication without any proof or evidence I won't bother to reply you on that.

"Pastor Chris is the orthodoxy"

According to 1st Cor 11:1 it says Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
So what's wrong if we always make reference to him and follow him?

You said "No one can challenge Pastor Chris." How can you challenge him? Where you the one that called him? He answers to the one that called him and only God shall reward or judge him not you.

You also said "He tries to change verse of scriptures by rewriting them?

You are filled with hatred because Pastor only lays emphasis on the original bible manuscripts which was written in Hebrew and Greek. How many study bibles have you read in your life? How many times have you even read your king James from back to back? Let your heart judge you.

As for your other rambling that I haven't countered I leave them for other Christ Embassy members to take care of.

Cc Joagbaje, Donnie, Gombs, Zionmade pls ur input is needed to encourage those children in Christ that might have gotten discouraged in serving God because of Marchman.

You just confirmed what marchman said from your post. You seems your church (CE) breed canality.

Please run for your dear life.