missyadorable:


Really? So what are you looking for your father for?
A father who abandoned you and your mother?
Cos even if he legally married her and cared for you all through,you really don't need him when you have your own money...

I have people who always stood behind me when it's comes to financial needs..every one in ma family treats me specifically and differently. In fact everyone is trying to care for.me more than the next person....
And me on ma own..I'm trying to set up something which could keep me going on my own....so it's not what you think.

BTW..I don't think he abandoned me...I made it clear in my post that he showed some concern in me...even tried to take me with him sometimes
Thanks for trying to.help though

oluwabishop:
The baby mama business didn't start today. All those who are proponents of the baby mama culture, hope you can see the negative social and demoralising effects it has on those kids growing up.

Sorry...I know you are trying to help me...buh calling ma late mum a baby mama is quite disrespectful... thanks

ikp120:


Look for the hospital where you were born. They may still have your record. Your father's name should be on the record.

Avery good idea...but that's a big ask.... do you think the records would still be there??

extremelygolden:
I pray God directs him towards Nairaland, or someone who knows him comes in contact with what you've posted in Nairaland.

You'll surely find your father and all your efforts will never be in vain. I also want to advise that you go to the two (2) places mentioned that your father likely came from, go the local Chiefs there and explain everything to them, who knows, they might be able to help you trace your dad.

Best of luck, dear and never you lose hope, and when you find your father, do let us know also.

I will always remember you in my prayers.

Thanks...right now.... school is taking some of my time...buh when I have some time, I'll.visit bumadi (both) definitely...thanks for you concern

makeupgal:
op are you ijaw? good to know u have something to work with. if u have d resources go to both bumadi (bomadi as I know it in delta state) u can visit the traditional head of these places and tell them your story. if they have any info, they will let u know. it is well

Yea....am Ijaw...and am thinking about that too....thanks

ikp120:
What of your birth certificate?

It would be with ma mum...like I said, ma mum got married to another man in Delta state before I even knew anything....though even when she was alive, I didn't spend much time with her...cos I always preferred port Harcourt to Delta...and ma Aunts or granny treated me like an egg...ma mum no dey tolerated nonsenses...

OLUJOSHINS:




Finding Ur Dad is extremely important BUT pls try to move on with Ur life ooooooo


Move on in the sense that U should try to establish Urself.


it will be disappointing to Ur Dad if (when U eventually meet Him again) U turn out to be a burden

Lolz...thanks buh I wouldn't be a burden to him...God has blessed me in his own ways. ..

baby124:
How will your aunts and grandmum have no idea who your father is. This is a mess your mother should have tidied up because no one knows tomorrow. Especially because you were born out of wedlock. She should also have given your your father's surname and not his first name as surname. This would have made your claim a bit more viable just in case he is no longer alive.
I will advise you to visit the NPA headquarters in Abuja and trace him from there. They should have up to date records of employee transfers and promotions. It is disgusting that up until now a country like Nigeria does not have computerized records of employees. And we are supposed to believe ghost worker issue has been eliminated.
Please whatever information you are given, be cautious and don't visit any house or town alone. Meet people in public places and be very careful. Also keep in mind that he may no longer be alive, and if his family is alive they may not accept you. Don't take anything too personally on this journey you are attempting to make. Just be very careful.

Despite not knowing your father, you can live a good and full life. Have a family of your own, and decide to be a good father and be present in the lives of your kids. I wish you the very best.

Thanks

missyadorable:
Hey boy,your "daddy" has moved on
Definitely has another family with kids elsewhere

You should make a name for yourself,let him come looking for you instead of going upandan looking for somebody who doesn't even give a F... about you.

Make money! And you won't need a father again!!hat's the answer!!

Thanks for your opinion....but money is not everything.....if it was, I wouldn't b writing this...I have a lil that can see me tru this phase of life....

EgunMogaji:


As a father, I have to ask you why you have this ghastly opinion.

As you enter adulthood then you'll understand that sometimes things are not what they appear to be.

Yea...I said I felt like...I didn't say he betrayed me, cos I knew a lil about how concerned he was about me when ma mum was still alive.....I just blame ma mums (ma only family now) for everything

AngelAhnie:
I'll advice you go to bomadi, I mean both the one in bayelsa and delta state. I pray you find him soon and if you don't life goes on, don't bother yourself over a man who careless to look for you.

I wonder why a woman will have a baby with a man she knows nothing about.

Bumadi is a big place... especially the one in Delta state....it wasn't like ma mum didn't know anything abt him....she knew few things abt him but refused to tell me maybe because I was too young or she wanted me to feel less concerned about him

ayibatari99:

My brother, i suggest you should try googling your father's first name. I tried googling the syntax ( Pius Nigeria Customs Service) for you and i saw several Facebook and Linkedin accounts of Nigeria customs officers having your father's first name. Don't be surprise if you find him among the pops up in the search window. You can as well get in contact with few of them to see if they can in anyway be of help. I saw Nigeria customs Service official website and Facebook account, it's also a good avenue to explore, you may likely meet some sympathizers that can assist you. I gave you this idea because it seems your case isn't a dis-owned issue, as such i have the feelings he will welcome you to his domain, if he's still alive. You should search with different words combination, I am pretty much sure you will find info. regarding him. Nigeria Customs Service is a small community compared to other Uniform service men, in one way or the other someone most have worked with him.

Thanks

Zdoh:
You father is traceable since he was a uniform man that's only if you have his full name.The best option still left for you is still through his carrier.Don't go to custom offices yourself again look for an elderly person who has lil knowledge about yous scenero,go with him/her..strike more,never relent,trace him to the last division of 1990 if possible am sure you will meet someone who might heared of his name during or after his service.Also try to pay media and let them broadcast it to the air he might be informed about you.One thing is certain,that's if he's not dead,he didn't and can never forget you..he might have been searching for you too.REMEMBER BLOOD IS TICKER THAN WATER.

Thanks....I was once in glory Fm yenagoa because of this... fortunately they where doing a program called contact point...so I gave them ma story....and it was brocaded on air...I know it's not enough buh at least on my level, I've tried

Fabulocity:
Do you have any pictures of him? You should post his pictures that'd be really helpful.

No picture..like I said, ma mum was married to someone else b4 I even knew my right from my left

Please mods....help me take this to a more popular place where many people cn see..
Lalasticlala and co

BiafraBushBoy:
Is your dad a Nairalander??

How do we recognize him??

No picture??...

Am sorry....I can't tell if hes a Nairalander or not...am just using this medium as a last resort...I've tried everything possible, with no result... I could barely recognize him if I see him now..I was only 7ys old whn I saw him last

Good day my good people of Nairaland. Am here to share my story. I've been a visitor in this site for long, and seen how people got help from different situations (even seemingly impossible situations). So I believe I could also get some help over here, which made me to create this acct.

Yea...you read the headline correctly, am looking for my father. My name is Pius Godgift. Am from Bayelsa State and lost contact with my father since the year 2000.

I was born as the only child of my mother (late Mrs Inta) and I grew up with my grand mum and aunts..my mum wasnt married to my father. I was told that my father worked as a custom officer in Port Harcourt and he comes to see me once in a while. My mum on her part didn't tell me anything about my dad (though I was still very young). he bought me some cloths during the Xmas period in 2000 which was also the last time I saw him or heard from him.
Everything changed in 2002 when I lost my mum, I was moved from port Harcourt to Bayelsa to stay with one of my senior aunt who doesn't know anything about my dad...so I basically didn't get anymore information about him while growing up. Whenever I ask of my dad, I'll be told that he is in Port Harcourt. I was given the impression that my dad will come looking for me whn it's time...

After my secondary school in 2011, I went back to port Harcourt thinking my dad will come looking for me, I waited till 2013 and nothing was happening so I started asking questions.... the only people that had a lil info abt my dad were my grand mum and one of my Aunt who unfortunately had no formal education of any kind, so it was even more difficult

From the info I got... my father's name was Pius buh they weren't sure about his surname which killed everything... according to ma aunt "his name is Pius Uguni" my grand mum was sure about Pius but wasn't sure about the surname (Uguni) he was said to have come from bumadi. Again they weren't sure if it was the bumadi in Delta state...or the one in Bayelsa... according to them, he was a custom officer (I confirmed that though, cos he once came to see me with his uniform) and worked in federal Secretariat port Harcourt which is located in Aba road port Harcourt.
After getting this sketchy info, I was adviced by my aunt's husband to go to the custom office in Aba road...he gave me a custom officer's phone number, who would help me get to the Secretary's office. When I got to the Secretary's office, she asked me the name, and I gave her the lil info I got..she said she resumed work 2004 in the office and said almost all the staffs before her where transferred to NPA in aboor Rd. pH.. She gave me the d number of the Secretary' in aboor Rd unit to make more inquiries...when I got to NPA, the Secretary' asked me the necessary questions, which I answered with the lil info I got. She called another of her colleague who was there before she came. But all of them said they came after 2005 and met no one with such details I gave to them, that he may have been transferred before they arrived the NPA...they also said they couldn't open any documents to check cos every document were parked to the warehouse.

I left the office as frustrated child who was betrayed by his father, I still don't wanna believe I am an orphan yet....I still believe Mr Pius is alive somewhere...I didn't have the time to stay with my mum even when she was alive, I preferred staying with any of ma.aunts or my granny because I was treated like an egg... everyone loved me and took me as there own child..buh growing up, I realized I needed someone I could talk to directly as ma mum or dad..I missed all of that.

Please my good Nairalanders... if you have any info concerning the lil info I've given, or you have someone who you think may have any info about a custom officer Mr.Pius..please help me, tell him his 23 years old son is being looking for him
You can reach me through this number 0708 974 5141

Pardon me for my grammars and faulty punctuations... am not good at narrations


Thanks