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proximity0:
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l’m a guy (25yrs) please I want your candid advice and your professional opinion about my life story and how to correct my flaws as I look older than my age, please don’t judge and ignore the blunders in the write up.

The p is-my parents got separated in 1993 due to their differences they were both hot tempered thus making life difficult for me at first because I had to be put in a boarding school (nursery school) before they agreed on who would take custody . I was in the school for a year before they decided to leave me with my cousin (Aunt) and the truth of the matter is I’m not sure if my parent can raise me the way my aunt raised me (God bless her and my cuz) I was there for a decade and in between those years I can count the number of times I saw my parent as they are both workaholics……. In my secondary school days I look older than my age and often don’t acts like it-in a sense that, what made sense to the other kids are always silly to me….. When I moved in back with my parent when they reconciled I had to change my school (not within the same city) after few months they went their separate ways again and I had to go to another school again thus changing city…. Throughout my undergraduates years nobody knew my age (4years ago) neither did I act otherwise which made me got used to dating ladies older than me and now that most of my of my friends are married thinking we are within the same age bracket are now putting pressure on me to settle down. The truth of the matter is'deep inside of my I am lonely and dying as I have no one to share my thought with; since I move a lot I don’t keep tabs on friends and now that I’m on leaving alone I actually don’t know how to correct my flaws which are;
How do i open up to my friend?
How do I get rid of my fear (settling down with a lady?)
How do I bring my parent together as they still love each other?

Never truly open up to any friend except you see yourself settling down with that person,cos they might use what you say to them against you.tell all your troubles,headaches and pains to God only he can give you peace.
About settling down with a lady is all a thing of the mind,once you make up your mind that your marriage will not be like that of your folks and you work towards getting married to someone that has the same mindset as you do.you will settle down.
Leave your parent to live their life the way they deem fit while you live your,they are both adults and should be able to decide what is good for them.

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he is working, he is good looking he has a very bright future yet he doesn't have a girlfriend
families & friends are starting to see him as a loser
I spoke to him about it & he said "guy, i like take my time pick a wife material cuz any girl i date now my intention na to settle down with her, hopefully.

am worried because i can envision girl pretending into his life

if truly he is good looking
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awesomechic:
Please Nairalanders i need your advice before i make a big mistake.

I started dating this guy since mid 2013 but at that time he was studying outside the country. I have known the guy growing up, we talked about marriage over the phone and he decided to send his parents over for introduction at my house which my dad objected to and after much pleading he agreed . this was in October 2013. he was supposed to have been back to conclude the marriage but because of some issues he couldn't make it back till September 2014.

Before the Intro we practically dissolved every relationship we were into and he told me he has become celibate and i did likewise. Since he got back i believed in him, trying to understand him even thou we don't live in the same state. A few days ago i told him to apply the breaks on the traditional rites thing till he settles down that i want it to be done at once. When he came back he gave me access to his email to reply a job email which he ended up getting, he also insisted that i keep checking his mails to see if there are anymore replies.

At one point, i stumbled on an email with a girl saying how much they miss each other, i confronted him and he got upset and told me he was just pulling my legs that he knew i would check the mail. When i decided to shut down the mailbox, He insisted on me checking and replying his emails until he settles down in his new job. A few days back i was shutting down from the office and i don't no what prompted me to check his email especially the sent mails. I stumbled on one where he was telling his friend about girl A that he "would have been patient and that it hurts not marrying the girl he loves so much and understands".

For girl B he told him "that he wishes the could travel to some country with her" and the guy replies that "he knows shes his Achilles heels but that he will see white chics to have fun with". The trip in question is an all expense paid trip for him and he told me in passing that he would have wished he could go with me but that he doesn't have money.

For girl C, i saw a whole trail of mails he exchanged with her and this was during the period he said he was been "celibate". he met with this girl almost every Saturday even told her that when he returns back to that country that she will come and visit him in the hotel. I was supposed to also go with him to that trip which when he couldn't come back i got a visa and because i got the visa on the day of his event he said it was of no need coming again. A family friend wanted to sponsor me but he refused me coming. Even till September 2014 he was still sleeping with her and sending naughty messages till he came back.

Now, i don't trust him anymore and cant live with someone i cant trust. He couldn't even compromise and come to spend val with me. on my birthday last year, my sister asked me a question "so that your fiance cannot ask his friends to buy a cake for you? I had family issues, spoke to him and for over a month he hasn't asked what's up. Lest i forget he is yet to put a ring on my finger, still saying he doesnt have money but that he will surprise me.

The truth is i want to hear your thoughts. No insults

once there is no trust in a relationship.it is as good as dead.please move on.

Blackett:
Well, that's not enough. What if I only have my life to offer?

It's a 2 way street, yo.

Mind me asking what do you have to offer.
Cos to my little way of thinking nothing is greater than giving your life to someone.
When you give your life you give your all(Freedom,Career,Family,Independence,Time,Resources E.T.C)
Cos it is no longer about you but about both of you.

ireneony:
why must it be this
tell her to slow down, her mr right will come to her onday.
slow and steady win the race.
there is no short cut to anything

Thanks for your advice to her.

Blackett:
What does she have to offer?

Her life.

Thanks all

[quote author=searching4love post=30768040]Is a girl who thinks of your future and do all her best to support you in your quest to succeed.


A girl who keeps less female friends is unlikely to be influenced by bad friends.


A girl who realizes that a relationship is give and take.


A girl who sticks with one man irrespective of his financial strength.

A girl who believes in herself and strives to be independent.


A girl who is honest, loving and caring.


A girl who is not promiscuous nor double date.


A girl who is ready to sacrifice for love.


A girl who is willing to love me forever and ever.


I hope we single men find our heart desires.

#TEAM SAY NO TO GOLD DIGGERS [/qu
I fit descriptions
1,2,3,4,5,6,7
As per sacrifice for love it depends on what sacrifice am to make,cos bone that thing love is not enough.
Love you for ever,uhmm not sure cos i have never fallen inlove.

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