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Rashduct4luv:
"in control or with overall responsibility''

lol.. ok. im glad u recognize it a "responsibility"

wat does it mean to be in charge?? spend on d family? or what?

Its very possible for a woman to bleed during implantation of d bby esp. On d day she expects to c ha norm. Period. Cuz about 9-14 days aftr fertilization d bby implants itself in d uterus n dt cud cause some bleedn. Altho not as much as menstrual bleedn

aril:
How will a woman remain unhappy becoz she want to make the marry worthwhile and always please her husband?

Nevermind if u dnt get it. Its all good.

Empiree:
WHO AGREES WITH HER?




*THIS WAS ESTABLISHED BY MRS MARTHA DE PURENEZ, WHO DIED AT THE AGE OF 104, AND SHE SPENT 82 YEARS IN MARRIAGE, AND SHE SAID THIS.*



"I know that young ladies will never agree with me, but whoever will implement this shall be the happiest of all and shall make a nice home; unless otherwise."



ITEMS


1. The husband is always right



2. The husband is always the master of the family even if he has no job and NO MONEY



3. The wife must ask for permission from the husband before going to bed if the husband isn't yet in bed, as well as before turning her face away from him on the bed. The husband is still the master and has full control on all the operations even in bed



4. If there is a quarrel with the husband and then a visitor comes, the wife should smile as if nothing happened



5. Anytime the wife thinks she is right in a matter, she should refer herself to Article number 1



6. A good wife must go to bed in her nightdress with no panties or bra, (except during your monthly flow, which he must know about) to allow the husband access to her at any time he feels like (NOTE: *All women should note that this is a man's greatest desire in marriage* - especially if he loves the woman)



7. A woman MUST NEVER refuse her husband's romance expect on the grounds of health and prayers. *Even in such cases she must POLITELY and LOVINGLY explain to him*



8. When the husband is shouting, the wife keeps quiet and that is the time to apologize for whatever has upset him. (NOTE: *Apologizing to him after you have shouted back and insulted him DOES NOT WORK!)*



10. The wife should always seek the husband's permission before making any decision except where he has previously granted you the permission on that particular issue








10. A wife should always excuse the husband to the children if he comes home late.


11. Even on a personal matter a wife waits for her husband with her ideas but must take those of her husband when he is back home


12. The wife must never use work in the day as excuse to deny him at night. Let him be the one to say, "Oh, you must be tired after all the stress of the day!" It is best that way.


13. The wife never goes to sit down in her husband's office unless in an urgent case or an emergency. A good husband too will not come and sit in your office.


14. A good wife does not embark on any kind of expenses without consulting the husband *even if it is your own money*. A good husband too will not control your money.


15. The best way to settle misunderstandings is in the bedroom. If a misunderstanding lingers and he does not make a move in bed, *a good wife should make the move*


16. The wife never refuses to prepare his meals, even if he is refusing to eat due to annoyance. *When he has refused 2 meals, prepare his favorite, with tempting treats*


17. The wife has no orders to give to her husband, but she receives orders from him


18. *The wife must always respect the husband*. Next to freedom of access to his wife's body, this is a man's most important concern


19. The wife has to control her jealousy and never show it in public


20. The good wife pays visits to her parents as well as to her in-laws *only* with the permission of the husband. And under normal circumstances, accompanied by the husband


21. A good wife never entertains guests in her home without the husband's knowledge and consent. *Not even your own relations*.

22. NEVER ENTERTAIN *ANY MALE GUEST* WITHOUT HIS KNOWLEDGE. *Not even his own blood brother* He may not talk or complain about some, but be sure he has counted it against you.


23. The wife *never* goes out anywhere without permission from her husband


*NB:* My dear fellow woman, I want you to know that *THE POWER OF A GOOD WIFE IS IN HER WEAKNESS*. Please, as stupid as this may sound to you, use it and watch your husband become your lover once again. This is my secret recipe for a happy marriage and full control of my home. *I did all the above and I was the one running the home; NOT MY HUSBAND!* His love and respect for me was second to none. And I know that's why God has also granted us long life to enjoy each other the more.

Also forward this to your female friends, *especially the married ones*, this will help them a lot.
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D point on here is trying to stay "married"... wud u hav a woman remain unhappy cux she wants to stay married?

Usernamesucks:
Cool. In baki damu ba, ina son muyi magana amma ba a nan ba.

Ok

Usernamesucks:
Nothing at all. Just the obvious: hausa-fulani, medical student, ABU and a passionate muslimah.

I used to be an ABUSITE.

Lol..cool ya i am. A.B.U

Usernamesucks:
Assalamu alaikum Doc. I see you're an abusite, yeah?

Hmnn.. lol. Wat infos hav u collated?

loshybab:
which one is your dad? coz I'm guessing your dad is one and your mum is the other.

Haba.. uve not heard of hausa-fulani bfre?

loshybab:
I knew it...
Sannun ki.....Hausa or fulani?

Both

loshybab:
I smell some northern flavour in you

am I right?

Lol sure, yar arewa...

Empiree:
both sides are guilty

Ok i hear u oo.. bt no b tday, e don tey...!! Make God jst help us.

Empiree:
you trouble maker
I saw your post in the other thread too bothering the brothers. Chai, how do you live with yourself

Lol.. y'all keep bothering us too much ne kawai... it gets tiring at times.

Let me drop this here...

Rashduct4luv:
Boxers and singlet can be attractive to ladies. Unlike women tieing wrapper!

cuz uv bn a woman bfre....??
Dress well,perfume urself,keep a clean cut wear a smile and hav sweet chats with ur wife at home... n o yea.. d post wasnt tlkn bout bedroom wears,it was sayn adorning n wearn jewelries,dt cnt b about wat she wears in d bedroom,if dts wat u tlkn bout....

Rashduct4luv:
If only they can follow this love charm as stated!

* Lawful charm for wife includes: Making herself look very beautiful and attractive to her husband; Giving him a nice smile; Talking to him nicely; Keeping good company with him; Safeguarding his wealth; Taking good care of children; Obeying him in all matters, except a matter in which he obliges you to disobey Allah.

My brethren, the reality is that if a woman is invited to a party at her friend’s, she would wear her best dress and her best jewellery as if she were on her wedding night. When she comes back home, she takes off her jewellery and puts it back for the next party or the next visit, whilst her poor husband, who has bought that jewellery and that dress is deprived of enjoying her wearing them, He always sees her in old garments, with the smell of cooking, onions and garlic. She fail to realise that her husband is the one who deserves to see her in such a beautiful appearance. Instead of tying wrapper around the house.

Lol.. jst mayb wen the men stop wearing boxer n singlet around too

My problem wt dese write ups... was clearly written by a male. Love charm for women..... why does it always hv to b d woman putn efforts in making a marriage work? Y'all ar so unrealistic. She is not alone in d marriage. What are dose tns a man will do to charm hs wife??
Brngn up;"he bought those jewelries for her but she adorns herself for d parties but not for him" *poor him apparently*
Wen men begin to work to fix marriages as well,then jst mayb things will get betr. Instead dey all clamour about how d woman loves thier money, how they hav right to 3 divorce,how they r entitled to 4 wives n how they are the head of the home.... advice men to put in work n show passion in making it happen rather than making d woman feel she is d cause of EVERY WRONG...

Salaamualykum my dear brother. I know u hav neva been a woman bfore, so need i remind u.....saying dt; "seeing a pure white substance like water" does not apply to every1...going by ds,if a woman dusnt see ds "water" ur talking bout den she shud stil not resume ibadah? I stand to b corrected,bt sir, ds is rong.

Ishilove:
Haha. Don't tell me you're taking Nwaamaikpe seriously?

O! Lol..now i get .neva knew he had such reputation....

NwaAmaikpe:


It's simple man,


Stop using it,
Women actually like men who have the manly smell.
Men who smell like nkakwu/nkapi

When you use a deodorant, it makes you look gay.
A true man smells.
That's why male goats have a nice odour which makes them sought after by females and even humans in peppersoup.

It might also not be the deodorant causing it, it could be a swollen lymph node caused by either an STI as bad as HIV or a regular cancer.

Hmn..na wa o. M a woman n i sure as hell dont want a smelly man!!! N it goes d same wt a handful of women out dere..., as fo d goats n oda animals dey secrete pheromonesn dts diff.frm d smell u percieve frm goats,humans dnt need 2 smell pheromones to mate!!
Lastly lymphnodes frm Hiv alredy?? Haba..bros dts too far!! How bout smtn like MRSA,since its recurrent n arnd d armpit,n he said boils not nodes,he shud knw d diffrnce.

balash:
*When you die don't worry...*
*Don't be concerned over your decaying body..*

*Because the Muslims will take care of what is required..*

*They will..*

*1 - Strip you of your clothes*
*2 - Wash you*
*3 - Shroud you*
*4 - Take you out of your home...*
*5 - ... to your new place of stay (the grave)*

*6 - Many will come to bid farewell at your funeral - infact many will cancel work for the sake of your burial, even though most of them didn't think about advising you even once whilst you were alive..*

*7- Your belongings will be gotten rid of:*
*your keys*
*your books*
*your bags*
*your shoes*
*your clothes*

*If your family are wise, they will give it to charity so that it may benefit you (in your record of good deeds)*

*And be assured..*

*That this dunya will not grieve over you*
*Nor will the world*

*And the economy will continue..*

*Your job, someone else will take your position*

*Your wealth will go to your inheritors*

*Whereas you will remain to be questioned about every minor and major deed*

*There will be 3 types of grievers over you:*

*1- The people who knew you only at face value will say 'poor man/woman'*

*2- Your friends will grieve for hours or days but then return to laughter*

*3- The deep grief at your household will last for a week, two weeks, a month, 2-months or even a year ?*

*And thereafter they will add you to their memories*

*And so..*

*Your story amidst the people ended..*

*And your story with the reality begins...*

*And that is the life after death..*
*Indeed, these things left you..*
*1- Beauty*
*2- Wealth*
*3- Health*
*4- Children*
*5- The mansions and cars*
*6- The spouse..*
*7- EVERYTHING!*

*And your real life has started..*

*And the question here is..*

*What have you prepared for your grave and hereafter?*

*This reality needs to be thought over..*

*Take care of..*

*1- The obligations (e.g. Prayer..)*
*2-Voluntary Good Deeds*
*3- Secret Charity*
*4- Righteous Deeds*
*5- Night Prayer*

*Perhaps you will be saved..*

*وذكّر فإن الذكرى تنفعُ المؤمنين*

*'And continue to Remind.. For surely the Reminder Benefits the Believers..' (Qur'aan 51:55)*

Jazaakallah, jazaakallah brother,lovely post. Such a reminder!

Mofpearl:
A male patient should see a male doctor and a female patient should see a female doctor. Seeing a doctor of the opposite gender should be the last option and if there is no available male doctor then it is okay.

Jazaakallah...tnks fo ur reply. I was axn d qstn cux som1 above made mention of not associatn wt men as a criterion for a woman's job. N being practical in ng. V.few if not all...nly few jobs r exclusivly fo women n dnt involve d oda gender. So if at all dere r any,i would want to know keeping in mind being practical,our envirnmnt ng. Those i cn tnk of dt r professional jobs are teaching or lecturing(wich isnt a total exclusion anyways), while others r mainly menial jobs....e.g a woman braidn in her home or selling a couple items at home e.t.c.Becuz if a doc. Who has d most exposure wt d opp. Sex in d long run has 2 see her patients,Wat other possible job exposure wt d opposite sex cud dere be?

Hmnn...so much for "thoughts". lets pray for strength dt wud help in dificult times in marriage ameen. I wana ask. In a case where a woman is a doc. N has to see male patients Wich wud include examining dem, down to genitals as d case may be. Wat is d stand in islam on ds?