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Yes..ds is common esp.In d tropics its caled tinea vesicolor or pityriasis versicolor. Its caused my malasezia furfur...ds isnt sumtn u shud worry bout except fo cosmetic reasons,dusnt mean ur unhealthy or dirty like pple normally say. N most nigerians cal it eczema...dt fungus thrives on d skin of most humans n in some it is exaggerated,like urs.
Over the counter drugs like ketoconazole 2% wud clear it up. U cud combine wt oral therapy. Check fo nizoral tabs n creams
Although aftr treatmnt patches cud stil remain bt ova time it clears up. Re-occurrence is also v.high so it is adviced aftr treament dt u occasionaly use d cream or take tabs as prophylaxis to prevent re-occurrence..it is verrry veerry common dnt worry ur head nizoral wud help
See a doctor fo more advice on how to use d drug esp. As a prophylactic

lexiconkabir:
Capability is the word.....

Ok sir....

lexiconkabir:
Oh! Well, i never denied the sexual part but my point is, its not all about that like someone tried to make it seem.



That's our fitrah, except if you want to make yourself believe its not, just as how its our fitrah to get attracted to opposite sex but some try to make themselves believe that they are attracted to people of the same sex as them.

Plus women are much more emotional than men, men are capable of handling all the dramas that comes with loving(not lust) multiple women, but women? I don't really think so, except again, you want to make yourself believe that.

Ok..by fitra u mean its instinctual fo a man to love more women, Bt fo a woman its not instinctual? Ok..lol. i rest my case here. It ultimately lies on how we define lovn som1 n how we define havn an attraction fo d opposite sex...enjoy d rest of ur day

Maa sha Allah ,very educativ post. Circumcision shud b done n not mutilation..n dat wud b removal of d clitoral hood,wich is d equivalent to d foreskin of d phallus. Going beyond d hood wud b mutilation n dat wud b as good as cutting part of d male organ (phallus), in d process of circumcision..d clit is d female equivalent of d phallus wt d same erectile tissues n anatomically,it is d only part of d body in humans whose sole function is fo sexual arousal..derr is no oda functn of d clit. in humans.
Cuting it off wud den b mutillation n not circumcision n ds has no medical basis watsoever..n Lastly ds shud b done wen all SANITARY conditions r met. Again d size of d clit varies n has ntn to do wt circumcision,d size is an anatomical variation jst as seen in d organ of males...

lexiconkabir:
No yawwa o, just see this as a "back and forth" thing.




Its a reason but not all about that, I've been saying that from the start.

Lol..in hs quote he said its ONE of dose reasons,lmao....my point is fo hm to point dt out amongst oda reasons..well. u shud knw... bt den agn,m heeding to ur advice of men teln dier reasons 2me. N reely d isue of women inclinin to a man n men to many cuz its nature is wat makes me ponder...wa salaamu alykum

lexiconkabir:
Salaam alaykum

Aha..yawwa! On a betr note, wa alaykumussalam warahmatullah wabarakaatuhu


"If the one wife dey do her menses indirectly the hubby dey do menses too, so advantages dey in more dan 1 wife and vice versa, and when HUBBY dey in the mood , thus advantages of been a FOUR STAR GENERAL...(o_o)"

Lol..ds is a comment of a broda on ds thread ova ds issue,so...its a reason

lexiconkabir:
Then that hadeeth shouldn't be used that way, that was done just to keep the laws of Allaah, whom in His Infinite Wisdom mandated that women shouldn't mix freely with non-mahran men and vice versa.



What a man wants from his woman varies, so a particular can be satisfied with the qualities his wife has, without wanting more, like i said, even if the woman dont possess the qualities that fully satisfies a man, some men due to the determimation of not wanting a second wife, just accept thw wife that way.



Since you've been told that it's not all about sex at times, then it will be funny of you if you try to force is down men's throat that its about sex, don't you think?

Ok ..i dnt knw d hadith nos. Precisely but wat am sure of is dt d hadeeth was on jealosy..matr of fact it is forbiden to b a man wtout such jelosy in islam,in some narrations such men wudnt b admited to paradise,pls chk it up,i hav a problm wt memorisn numbers,bt i cn b sure of d story well...m nt forcn anytn down on d throats of men pls,m jst stating facts.wen slaves were used as concubines,wasnt it for sex gratification?.. we r humans n r sexual beings male or female

lexiconkabir:
I don't have any problem with this especially the underlined.

But i will like to add that, sexual gratification is not always the case, truly some men are into it for that but there are some traits a particular man might need, if his first wife possesses all, I don't think a man would look elsewhere, but if his first wife don't, he has the choise of looking elsewhere, if this is found in another woman, he naturally gets attracted to her, its now his choice if he allows that attraction to grow into love, but if he his determined not to have another wife, he will take off the thoughts from his mind.

Lol, don't tell men the reason why they are into something, let men tell you their reason.



When the prophet admitted that the man said so out of gheerah, and that he has more gheerah, what else did he(sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said? I have my reason for asking.

D prophet said,Allah also has gheerah paternaining Hs slaves as He dusnt want us associatn partners wt Him.
N as regards to a woman havn all d qualities a man wants,wen u find a woman dt has "all" my bro dont marry,she is not HUMAN!!.its nt like men get all boxes checked as well,bt dats fo anoda day.
Sexual gratificatn is not always d case,as i said in my comment,"with d exception of a few"
I shudnt gv reasons to y a man does smtn bt shud rada wait til he says so? Hmnnn,Ok,man,iv heard u.
Theories like a woman cn "love" on man but a man can "love" more has got me really ponderin ...

Interestn..i wonder y some males on here r tryn to deny dt not being ok wt a woman isnt cuz more sex is wanted,it is, in most cases wt d exception of very few...n realy dts wat it has bn about,wanting more women 4 sexual reasons n dat has ntn to du wt lovn som1..dere r difrnt reasons pple get marid n dt reason tops d list esp fo polygamous men. N its nt fobiden to do so,matr of fact, wud u say d sahabas dt had concubines had relations wt dem cuz dey were "loving dem?" Of cuz not...it was fo sexual gratification ...
Wat i find disturbn is how dese men hv a troble wt women wen dey say dey wud prefer not to hav a polygamous husband,it dusnt in anyway mean she is of litle faith or lacks knowledge! Its only INNATE to do so,dere is a hadith wia a man said "he wud behead any man he finds wt hs wife" n d prophet acknowledged n said dt was "gheerah" n evn further said he had more gheerah,"protectv jelosy" So if a man cn threaten to behead anoda cuz sm1 else is wt hs wife den im jst wondern hw u see tns.it is only innate to want to guard ur own,i dnt knw wia d notion of women being naturaly monogamous n men bein naturaly polygamous came to play...hav dese men been women befre?...

Lol,interesting thread, males b having fun on here.....

OlajumokeBread:
You can keep your vagina clean but you can't make a vagina not have the natural odor

Wash it for 100 year, it must have that peculiar scent, the scent that makes it a vagina

A hole that bleeds for 3 days every month and the inner cavity doesn't get washed

A male goat must smell like a male goat


Some women keeps it clean and it will always smell like vagina, others don't keep it clean and it smells like rotten fish

If you blindfold me and put a vagina close to my face, i will tell you immediately that there's a vagina close to my face

Lol,dts d same *hole* u crawled out frm......mstewww

Jazaakallah brother...beautiful reminder

YemiWrites1:
Looking for errors? Go elsewhere! Excess waste does not just leave the human body without staying a while in the rectum, it's a temporary store-house for waste before waste is passed out. For many, it has become a permanent store-house. In your chain/trend, where did you include colon? Stomach-small intestine-large intestine-rectum-anal canal-outside world? You threw it away? Proving yourself don't solve shii.

Lol...i wasnt tryn to point out "ur" errors,was nly politly statin d fact,FYI;d colon is also known as d large intestine,mayb u shud read on d anat n physio of d G.I.T. tryn to xplain tns to u wudnt help much,u feel am attackn n challengin u....

YemiWrites1:
Doesn't the rectum store waste for a while? Answer my question please. Will the waste just go through the rectum to the colon? For example, doesn't the stomach too store food for a while before digestion takes place? I know quite well that after 18 hours of eating, waste must leave the rectum to the colon.

Waste from rectum to colon again? Haba..u clearly dnt understnd d basic anat. Or physio of d G.I.T...i rest my case

Hmnn...Embryogenically,d testes develop in d abdomen n in most cases mere abdominal massages helps d testes to desxend..n it has to b done @neonatal age...cuz ovatime d testes wud no longer b viable n leavn it in d abdomen wud mak dt male prone to cancer.
Uv got me wondering how "aloe power" n "defender capsules" wud aid a "Man" wt crytochidism...u can help a male wt crypto wen hes a baby nt wen hes a man olredy..d testes r gone fo Guuud!!

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Helo...."d rectum a temporary store".....sir,ds isnt tru. D rectum dusnt n wud not store fecal matter,it is usually empty prior to defeacatn,dt is d knwn physiology of d gastro intestinal system....meanin its nly wen u in d act of pooing dt ur rectum meets poo n is nly a conduit fo emptyn nt storin,ur colon does d temporary storing,thnk u.

Lwkm...funny guy,*eat donkey meat*

Get closer to ur Lord

May Allah make tns easy fo us in life..jazakallah pple

Contact17:
Sister I think you should give him the benefit of doubt. I don't think he was trying to twist your words. What I understood from what he posted was that we shouldn't be blaming the Qur'an when it's people who aren't following it properly.Yes, there are men who try to use the Qur'an to justify domestic violence but it is a misinterpretation from their side. Striking the wife shouldn't be done harshly or cause harm, rather it should be as light as striking with a siwak.

"Our intellect can never supersed dat of Allah"...in hs words
N wat i neva did was make a comparison

lexiconkabir:
I get what you are trying to say, believe me i do, but our intellect can never supersede that of Allaah, he knows why he gave those steps, Allaah is Al-Azeez wal Hakeem.

And knowledge comes to play because for us to curb malpractices of the theory, people have to be enlightened.

Subhanallah,laa hawla walaa kuwwata!!!
Bro kabeer i was in no way n wud neva in any way compare mere human intellect wt Allah's . I urge u nt to compromise d msg im tryn to pas acrox...we hav brains to use evn wen d laws r dere so long as deviatn frm d laws wudnt throw u in HELL like i said earlier.
Wen d sahabas in d battle of uhud left dier suposedly posts wich caused d breech dt made dem lose d battle Allah told dem clearly dt it was cause of dier "WILL" dt such tn hapnd(i.e dsobedience) ds clearly points out dt Allah,d most Wise gave us "brains"n "will" dt He is aware of n is expectn us to use in d ryt manner
Pls dnt twist my words

lexiconkabir:
These rulings are in the ahadith(with proper explanations), so we can't leave the books.

This is the ruling from past to present and it is a consensus, the prophet informed us that the ummah is infallible on consensus, because Allaah will not allow the ummah agree on misguidance.

When I opened this thread I wasn't aware of the proper ruling.

Like the brother said, blame the man not the text, things are being malpracticed in all aspects not only in this case, theory says this, people practice that, anyone that does anything contra to the sharee'ah ruling is on is own, that's the point.

Which is why sisters are adviced to marry someone knowledgeable or someone willing to learn, don't marry primarily for looks, money or fame, all those are secondary.

Hmnn..kabeer,mayb u dnt get my point.leme gv analogous example. I understnd a husbnd shud takia of hs wife financialy acordin to sharee'ah n shud incase "life" happens n hes bankrupt or dsabled,n cnt nymre meet ha needs,she has accordn to shareeah rite to leave hm based on dt sole reason. Nw i knw of a practical e.g in life wia my lovn uncle tuk kia of hs wife untl an automoble axidnt hapnd wia he broke hs leg,ds same wife showed in al ramificatns hw bad she wnted to leave hm,my uncle was tortured mentaly evn mre dn d trauma hs axidnt causd hm...fo ova yr! tho she was wt hm,he was appalled by her,Alhamdulilah hes gud now n she got in ha senses ryt bfre tym.
If she had left cuz she cudnt cope,its no sin accordn to d books,bt u&i knw say woman wey go do dah kind tn no try ooo.
Ds is wia instinctual abilities cum to play,we r "higher animals " n best of Allah's creatures...it boils down to:Is it right to do so? *instnct*...n WaLlaHi bro so long as nt doin wat d books hav axd u to du at such situatns wudnt cause u to SIN..den its betr fo u Maa sha Allah esp. Wen dealing in kindness to others
Marry a learned persn or sm1 wilin 2learn? It dusnt evn cum to play,dey r d suposedly ones usin d hadeeths n verse to back up wt dey du.
Leave d books n i dnt mean it derogatory,Allah knows

lexiconkabir:
You said "leave the books" if I may ask what books? Because in this context its the Qur'an and sunnah we talking about.

O yes i meant the books,n nt in any derogatory way man
D "books" were to emphasize d laws n rulings in theory compared to how tns r done practically

Empiree:
You are right. Unless there is a very strong and justice system in place, it is forever gonna be like this. Me personally, i still dont know what's gonna make me beat my wife really. I feel uncomfortable with it. When it comes to men abusing women, it is universal thing. Not only in nija. It is just the way it is. Truly, it is supposed to be about the deen but a lot of men today would beat their women for anything.

You can't blame that on text. Blame the man.

Wasnt blamn d text,was jst highlightn practical facts,d truth is :d same physical strength God gav men so as to protect women is d same one ironicaly dt men use to batter women up
lets face d fact,giving a human,n i mean any human,male or female, giving any human a sense of power or authority over anoda kindles pride psychologicaly by 5% in some sort,n dts a FACT! It definitely alters ur psyche. N with pride cums a couple behavioral msconducts.
All am sayn is advocatn dese tns shud b done wt exteme care,leave d buks,how has it helped?it hasnt bn helpn n wudnt help,esp. D female folks.
For a woman 2 b insecured wt som1, being conscious of d fact dt if she does rong hes goin hit ha
cuz hes strnger dn ha is enuf mental torture,n idealy ds is sm1 she shud feel utter safety wt.
N to start wt if shes truly rebellious beatngs wud hardly help cuz dose ones tend to retaliate ,call dt *armagedon series* in ur home, sadly d meek ones suffer d same fate...jst b careful wat u spread

Subhanallah...kai!!!
Well truth b told women hav always bn on d receivn end,cuz men hv dt physical strngth dey lack,so wedr d man is being rebellious or d woman is being rebellious,all join,d woman wud suffer,its funny how d theoretical facts differ frm wat hapns practically..In theory her obedience shud b about d "deen",practically we sure as hell know dat aint true women r being abused evryday by men,beaten,raped n wat hav u if she dusnt du d man's bidding n den d same men wud use dese hadiths n verses as justificatn....:a man wud nt b axed y he beats hs wife...so wat happens to rebellious men? Does beatn help in any way? Its soo appalling ..someone evn calln a rebellious woman a b!t€h......wat is written in d books r nt wat happens practically....its jst sad
May Allah spare us frm evil spouses,amen

Empiree:
^^^^

Lol......

You said Op meant supplication, but that has been deemed bid'a by some peopple as well. Dont worry, slowly but shurelu, they will take away Islam from people in the name of "INNOVATION".


Anyways, this is another version of the hadith you quoted above



1450. Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Mu`awiyah (May Allah be pleased with him) came to an assembly in the mosque and asked them: “What has made you sit together?” They replied, “We are sitting here to remember Allah.” He said, “I adjure you by Allah to tell me whether nothing else has made you to sit together.” They replied: “By Allah! We are sitting only to remember Allah.” Then he said, “I did not adjure you because I suspected you. No one of my rank in the eyes of the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) is the narrator of so few traditions as I am. The fact is that the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) went out to a circle of his Companions and said, `What has made you sit there?‘ When they replied that they are sitting together to remember Allah and to praise Him for guiding them to Islam and bestowing favours on them, he (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, `I adjure you by Allah to tell me that nothing else has made you sit together.’ On their reply that there was certainly no other purpose, he (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, `I did not adjure you because I suspected you, but Jibril (Gabriel) came to me and told me that Allah was talking proudly of you to the angels.”’

[Muslim].


Both version are correct. Hence, it is telling us that neither grup is bid'a or innovation. Qurtubi said, "Gatherings of dhikr are the gatherings for knowledge

No one has the right to condemn "group dhikr". No one has the right or monopoly to say it is bid'a unless you want to follow a sheik blindly because he said so which is "taqlid"

Baarakallahu alayk ...may Allah increase us all in knowledge,ameen

lexiconkabir:
Congregational Dua can be bid'ah such as the ones not prescribed in the sunnah and it can be permissible such as the one prescribed like coming together to pray for rain, dua is ibadaah and ibadaah is tawqeefi.

Congregational dua is bid ah but can be permissible like d rain dua? Subhanallah! Wat r u sayn?
If u tnk its bidah(congregational dua) but yet permissible den smtns arnt strait jst yet,may Allah increase us in understndn...if sahabas came togeda n d prophet didnt shun dem i duno wat else we tlkn here...it dusnt hv to b nly d rain dua