Iamagoodgirll: So I came across this post in a group
NL guys have you experienced this?, also share your view.
I NEED ADVAISE FROM A MALE READERS:
And no, my story is not made up. It’s for real, actually very real. I am a top executive of a very successful conglomerate my father founded. I resumed the job early this year when I returned from the U.K after completing my MBA. As a result of my job, I usually find myself frequenting places I ordinarily wouldn’t want to- Ikoyi club, society weddings, conferences, etc. I’m a geek for the most part, and something of a recluse. I would rather stay in my house at the end of day and watch TV. When I became Deputy CEO of the company, I realized that I had to start hanging out at these places to build a social circle, mostly for business reasons. I am not a very sociable person, but with the help of my more outgoing cousins, I have been able to build a pretty decent network of Lagos ‘big boys’ between January when I returned and now.
During a conference in Lagos this year, I was approached by a young lady banker. She was working in the Marketing department at one of these banks, She’s pretty young- about 7 years my junior. I’m 28; this lady is about 21. You know how young these graduates are these days.
Anyway, she walked up to me and started persuading me to consider opening up a bank account with her bank and told me all the benefits of the account, etc. She looked so innocent and desperate, and practically begged me for an opportunity to see me again so that she could convince me. I ended up giving her my complimentary card. I usually don’t just give out my card like that, but I did. Three days later, when I was hanging out with my new-found friends and my cousins at a bar at one of the Hotels on the Island during the early evening, this girl called me and reminded me who she was. She said she really needed me to open an account, and that she was eager to convince me on why I needed to open an account. My friends noticed I was talking to a girl on the phone. You know how guys are; they teased me and asked me to just play around with her and invite her for drinks. I asked her to come over to the Hotel, and surprisingly, she said she would be there in 20 minutes. The branch she worked in is on the Island, so she apparently took a Bike and came to meet us. This was about 6pm. The girl came, and my friends all saw her. They smiled and talked among themselves in hush tones, and I talked briefly with her for like 5 minutes and told her I would make a decision on banking with her or not. She was desperate from what I could see, and she was eager to get my account.
When she left, my friends all laughed mischievously and told me in plain terms that I had to sleep with the girl. They went on talking about how all these bank marketers sleep with different men before getting deposits, and insisted that I must not be any different. Now, I’m not a virgin; I’ve had my own fair share of sex in the past, but I’ve never been one to take advantage of a girl. I knew she was desperate as she had a target to meet up to, or something of the sort. But when you’re a guy hanging out with guys, it’s pretty difficult to be the odd one out. All my friends made me promise that I’d sleep with the girl. I promised; I didn’t want to look like some geek. And I’m really trying to feel among these guys.
To cut a long story short, two days later, when I was in my office, this girl called me and tried persuading me to bank with her. As she was talking to me on phone, I asked her jokingly: “What are you willing to do in order for me to open an account with you?”
She hesitated and then she told me: “Anything you want sir.”
Gbam! That was my cue. I asked her to meet me at one hotel for drinks later that evening. I asked my PA to book a room for me at the Hotel. She came to meet me. We had drinks, we chatted. She told me that her bosses had ordered her to deliver N10million to the bank that month, and that so far, she hadn’t gotten anything. Her job was on the line, and she had only just started working there 3 weeks before. I asked her to follow me to the room. She did. I slept with her.
Surprisingly, it turns out she was doing it for the first time. She was actually a Virgin. The bed sheet was stained with her blood and all that stuff, and I was just amazed. I thought being a marketer and all, that she would have been sampled many times. But no, she was a virgin. When we finished, she was shy of looking at me in the eye. We didn’t talk much. I gave her money for a Taxi, and gave her the name of the Finance director of the subsidiary I am in charge of. I asked her to meet him the following day to open up a corporate account. I instructed the guy to open up an account worth a few hundreds of millions- probably enough to meet her target for the next 2 years if there is such a thing in commercial banking circles. I don’t know how these banks work.
Anyway, she called me and thanked me profusely for saving her job. My friends now know I have slept with her, and I have solidified my place among them as a ‘bad’ guy.
The issue is this: I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. It’s been like six weeks now. I haven’t called her since then, even though she keeps sending me text messages asking after my wellbeing and thanking me for banking with her. She deals directly with my Finance guy so we don’t talk money ever. But I think about her every day. I think I actually have feelings for her, and the idea that I was her first makes me feel like she should belong to me. I’ve never been a Lady’s first. I’m actually going crazy with thoughts about this girl.
Am I crazy? Should I call her up and ask her out? How would that feel? How would she react? Also, considering that my friends all see her as the bank ‘LovePeddler’ would it be a good idea to still ask her out? How will my friends see me? I’m not looking for sex from her; I’m looking for something real, something intimate. I want something that’d last- probably forever.
I’ve never felt this way about any other lady in a really really long time. What should I do?
Breaking a girls hymen is more of convenating with her cos there is blood involved, and thats why u cant let go of her cos of the covenant. My Advice is this, Employ her as one of your staff, marry her so that she wont be in such mess again given her body to another man for deposit. Allow God to use you to librate her from such entanglement called Job
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago. She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too. Though we were not in the same state. She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage. But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex. She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail. If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it. And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her. But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused. I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help.
Pls go and get her some libido boaster ...talk her into taking it.
Limassol: You are very foolish and unintelligent guy(no malice intended bro). Firstly, you are still in school, marriage shouldn't be in your short-term plans atleast for now. Graduate with good grades, acquire in-demand IT skills and develop yourself all round, aiming for these will be more profitable and benefitial for you at this stage of your life. Do you realise how finacially a burden marriage could be especially if became unemployed. 200k is the least that could sustain a single adult in current Nigeria, do you earn double that? Are you deluded? Secondly, who obliged you to sponsor her education? On top say you wan drill toto abi? Are you out of your f**king mind? If you are that generous you would have helped the orphanage. Thirdly, you are extremely naive if you kowtow to her blackmail of commiting suicide if you dont marry her, its a trap and you will regret for the rest of your life if you go ahead with that marriage. And why are her siblings a problem to you. Dude you are too stupid and naive,please GTFOH!
You are the one stupid, because you have no sense of reasoning, that your father or brothers married late does not mean that everyone will marry like that, your mentality is what will keep people like you till 50 yrs before marrying.
Did he borrow money from you, or is it your life? Your type is can never be a source of encouragement to anyone.
Golden147: Good afternoon everyone.. Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR.. There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her. I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid. Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too. My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me. I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this. It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears. I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please
My dear, am glad at this age u are making this decision, you are a mature person with the age notwithstanding. don't look at anyone telling u how u are not ready, go ahead and marry the girl, she is a good girl, am happy ur parents are in support especially your mum,for her to support, she has seen the girl from the eyes of a woman and a mother.
As for her brothers, make it clear to your wife, that they are guys like you meaning you are not responsible for them only her parents, this is to bridge her from coming tomorrow with the pressure of you helping her brothers financially, but if u have any means that they can make it in life, do relate to them, like ideas of what to do to earn money.
I sincerely wish you the best, I wished I had opportunity like you to marry at this age, it pays. But mind you, what you are entering is marriage not dating, so i will advice both of you to equip yourselves with knowlege about marriage through reading, because when the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable. Also seek God for strength and wisdom, because marrige needs God and wisdom.
Earthkumy: I lost their mother the very day they where born after giving birth to them through operation during the lock down, after just a year and few days in our marriage,
but today is not about what I lost, today is about what I gained and how the Lord helped my to raise them, they are plus one today join me to say a word of prayers them.
Jesus did for me
I praise him now and always
congratulations bro...may God continue to bless and provide for you to take care of them.
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Revolva: An Unknown Nigerian crossdresser got more than he bargained for when he went to Ijeshatedo area of Surulere and it went so bad for him .
He never know the area was so unfriendly, but he decided to shoot one of his skits in the location and He was seriously attacked by the area boys who tore his clothes and removed his wig and even had to punch him and pour him water from a bucket.
In a video that has gone viral, the unknown crossdresser who was seriously manhandled by the area boys who felt irritated that he was dressed as a woman when he is a man.
The crossdresser also shared a video crying as he recounted how he was embarrassed by the hoodlums.
Do you think it's real or staged? as for me its not staged because I know those guys ..they are brutal guys in d hood who can terrorize people whenever it gets tough
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