Hello,
I don't mean to be repetitive, and I know that there is a post on this board of someone who had a similar problem to mine. I guess for me, there are some variables, so I'm not sure if it would change anyone's opinion or not. I'd definitely like some feedback either way. Here's the details: I've known this girl for about a year and a half, and we have basically become best friends. It started hanging out every once in awhile, and lately we see each other 3-4 times a week, and we talk usually every day at some point, or I'll see her at work. Throughout the time I've known her, she has been involved with someone, but now they are going through some problems and she told me she is breaking up with him. In this time, I have become the person she tells everything to, and I mean everything. I'm the person she usually goes to for advice, whether it was with the relationship, or many other things going on in her life. She also has told me secrets that she doesn't want anyone else to know, and we always help each other out, we make a great team when it comes to just about anything. Here is where my dilemma comes in. I have fallen deeply in love with her. I don't know if she feels the same way, and I would say its about 50/50 chance that she feels the same way. The friendship means so much to me though. She has become a huge part of my life, and I think if I were to say something and lose her altogether, I would be devistated. I am happy with my friendship with her, and if I knew she wasn't at all interested in a relationship, I would be perfectly happy to keep the friendship that we have for life. I want her to be happy, whether its with me or not, and I honestly mean that because I just love her so much, more than words can even say. Part of me wants to take the risk and put myself out there. The other part of me is terrified because I don't want to lose the relationship we have now if she gets freaked out by my feelings for her.

I would appreciate any feedback. And a few more notes, I'm not concerned with the fact that I work with her, it's not a big deal to me. My biggest concern is should I tell her or not, and my biggest problem is if I go through with this and lose her as a friend, I would regret it for the rest of my life, Any ideas? Should I come clean with her or keep our relationship as-is? And if you think i should say something and have any ideas on ways to bring it up without freaking her out, or maybe something that I can say to find out if she has any interest without completely setting myself up for losing the friendship, pretty much any feedback would be much appreciated. I'm just a guy that is at a total loss for ideas. I really do love her, I would marry her if I was given the chance, and I would do ANYTHING for her (i know some guys say it, but i REALLY DO MEAN it, there is nothing i would not do for her). I love her so much though that even my time with her as friends is very important, and losing that scares me so much. I've been over-thinking this for a long time now, and I just need a fresh train of thought, because me thinking about it over and over hasn't gotten me anywhere. Thanks so much to anyone that offers a bit of advice, it really is appreciated

I just found this topic by searching google because I have the same problem. With me though, we aren't just casual friends. We are "best" friends. I started working with her about a year and a half ago, and we've built a great friendship. I usually hang out with her 3-4 times a week, and I talk to her almost every day. But I know she tells me things that she wouldn't normally tell guys, especially if I were her boyfriend. I love her more than anything, and I would do absolutely anything for her. My problem is that I don't know if she feels the same way (obviously, or none of this would be an issue for me), and I don't think I would be able to handle losing her friendship. She means so much to me and she is a major part of my life, even as a friend, and losing her altogether would crush me. The relationship we have now is very important to me. But I really do love her, and I'm afraid if I don't say anything, I may regret it for the rest of my life. I don't know how to handle this