flyca:

I do not completely agree with you.
What if she does all these for the man and still get dumped? Of course, that happens all the time!

What a jobless man needs is a job not a wife.
Except of course if there is a prior agreement like “marry me and I will give you papers”. Which does not look like the situation here.

A few jobless men are however lucky to find a woman who supports them all the way. Most of these women are supportive not because of “love” but because they see great prospects in the guy. And mind you, this support should be for a limited tolerable time frame otherwise it becomes torture. Come on, OP's husband has been jobless for at least 3 fu'cking marriage years

And NO, a jobless man shouldn't be an angry man. He should divert his anger energy towards bettering himself (maybe through education or skill) and not towards his wife! That is very wrong! He should be able to still bring in all the sweetness at home. No be the woman make am jobless

In my own experience, my “hustling” boyfriend is his sweetest when he is broke He wants to make me extra happy so that I won't notice that he did not buy a val gift, or so that I will be more willing to give him “bail out” cash

However if he comes home everyday, harsh on me like say na me make the deal not to click, omo the relationship no go sweet o.

Madam OP. I think first of all, you need to put your self-esteem together. I read your previous threads. You shouldn't feel that you are worth any less than another human being. And also, move on already. When your own man comes along you will feel it deep in your soul. You will not be creating sob-threads everyday. You will be truly happy! Hugs and kisses to you

Cc: Paulista

chigoizie7:
as Africans or let me say as Nigerians. we were taught, I mean the male folks to be the provider for the family and in a case where we cant do that, we fell embarrassed, depressed and worth less. anger sets in and then antagonism.

u were in a position to make him feel like a man . u were both married. but u couldn't. u said he cant work because he doesn't have papers. and if u were in a position to help but refused to help because of ur own reasons. the only thing he will have for you is hatred. such men cant even live under same roof with u. I think that was why he went for divorce.


ask other nigerian men. I mean, real men what it feels like for a woman to provide for u. what it feels like to not be able to earn a cent you call ur own sweat.

mind you, these men left nigeria for a reason. and thats to better their lives and that of the people left at home. They are not in Europe to count bridges. and they cant achieve that if they ain't working.


a jobless man is an angry man.

as a woman, what is so fantastic about keeping a man and not allowing him the privileges to work?
it makes no sense to me, like u are keeping him for ur own selfish reasons and thats not how marriages works. like u are enslaving him.

Mrbigman1:


Why then did you not fix his papers and save us this pain

roymary:



Let him know you will walk away if he doesn't treat you right. There are many Nigerians that looks better than him. Don't be fooled. He's not the best in bed either- so dont panic.

Talk to him that you are tired and ready to leave if he will continue to make you sad. You can't be weak around that man. Can i get your contact?to talk

Ishilove:

She is stuck on him because he is handsome and probably counts herself lucky to be married to an attractive person, which can only mean she considers herself unattractive according to societal standards of beauty.

He must also be a tiger in bed.

These are the only reasons than can rationally explain this kind of baffling fuckery.

MrsInvisible:


Leave this man. You are worth more than that. He will just make you cry and leave at the end. Take care of yourself first and maybe look for psychological help. All the best.

HeavenlyCherub:


He is using you for papers. No man in his right might if he loved you would allow you to be the bread winner or take care of all the bills. Walk away now before it's too late

ceeroh:
If after all these actions and signs of manipulation and selfishness, you still don't wanna lose him. Then, Goodluck.

gaby:
Hmm

blackpanthar:
your husband does not know your value but I DO, I have read and quietly followed your heart-aches poured out here for months, am ready to shower you with love and attention via mail, whatsapp, skype.... I just want you to be happy.

HE IS CHEATING ON YOU and HE LOVES BIG TITIES EBONY LADIES.... I love an intelligent lady like you, so kindly accept me as your friend, online only and we can be besties and I can the one you pour out your heart to and I can help you heal.

consider my request from a person who truly but secretly cares.

greatnaija01:
yes, but you should also consider improving yourself so he can always find you attractive and forget other women

Xammie001:
Worry Less
Unless Ur Husband Is With A Questionable Character

samysmoothfresh:
Didnt you know he had a lot of female friends before marrying him?


why e be say na now the thing wan con dey worry you.

greatnaija01:
You are so pretty yet not even aware of how bad a situation you are IN..... you and your husband are best for each other because you both are cheaters.

IN MAY YOU POSTED ABOUT STILL BEING IN LOVE WITH YOUR EX, AND YOU AND YOUR NIGERIAN EX ARE STILL IN COMMUNICATION.... yet in NOV you discovered your husband does not show you LOVE..... yet you still stay with him, SO WHAT ELSE... this is December and you simply are not GETTING THE MESSAGE..... you both are CHEATING ON EACH OTHER WITH YOUR EXES.......

enjoy your life... better not pout, better don't cry and am telling you why....SANTA CLAUS is cummin to town