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Eaglebabe,

Thank you for your response. I have moved on with my life, but in regards to your comment --- "Silence they say means acceptance", I disagree. Silence could mean a number of things, and in moving on I have mulled over potential meanings for his silence, but I have come up with only one. That is, silence has no true meaning, it's simply results in confusion. I truly believe that he wanted to leave me confused, because if he genuinely had accepted the terms of my agreement, he would have simply responded with a 'goodbye'.

lololol @ posakosa comment I'm good though, it is what it is,

C2H5OH,

No, he never replied, and I'm content with that. It's been several months so I have moved on and started dating again. I've met someone that's much more giving and gentle than my ex and I'm very thankful for that. Nonetheless, it's funny how people still stay connected to you after you disconnect yourself from them. I've missed my ex very much, and with the time apart I found constant reminders of him. It's been very difficult letting go, but I have accepted the fact that he wasn't the one for me. Love is a beautiful thing, but within it's beauty exists unavoidable pain. To be honest, I strongly believe that emotional pain is the worst pain of all, but that pain can only build character. I'm taking things very slowly with my new squeeze, so I can only hope for the best.

@Femi

I'm definitely moving on from this. You live, you learn, you move on. Thank you for your response.

@Femi

Have you ever stayed friends with your exes? Did you continue your friendship 'immediately' after your relationship?

@Higher

Thank you for your response. Like you said, it's not easy saying goodbye, but it was either I ignore his attempts to contact me (which I was originally doing but felt guilty about) or I say goodbye for good so I can move on. Nonetheless, I've come to terms with the fact that I may never know why he didn't respond, but whatever the reasons may be, our relationship is still over. Therefore, regardless of whether or not he chooses to respond, or by chance we cross paths in the near future, my life must still go on. I still miss him, but I miss him less with each passing day. Thanks again.

@xxcarolxx

You're right. He has truly shown me enough of his true colors. Thank you for your response.

@eyonigger

I never started treating him badly after he asked for friendship. I don't think you read my post correctly; therefore, I can't take your response to heart.

@Taken

Thank you for your response, but I don't think it was selfish of me to have expected a response. At the end of the day our relationship was over, so pretending to be friends was painful to say the least. Therefore, in order to make it as painless as possible I thought it was better to part amicably (although my decision was emotionally-based at the time--- sometimes logic doesn't apply to love). Thinking back at it, I should not have made that decision while being so emotional, but hadn't I, he would still be trying to make contact with me, and that would definitely have put my moving on process at a snail's pace. it has been 3weeks since I sent the email, but I have accomplished so much (as far as moving on) during this time. Moreover, I have accepted that he just wasn't the one for me, because if he was, he would be here and we would try to work things out. The matters of love aren't always as easy or black and white as they seem, but the truth is what's done, is done. The email has been sent, he has probably read it, and regardless of what his thoughts/emotions were at the time, he has chosen not to reply. Therefore, time waits for no man, it's not easy, but I'll get over it sooner than later. Thanks again.

minimynimo:
Please don't tell me you really believe that 'stuff', Sugar4ya.

Time does NOT heal all wounds. Time leaves scars. Scars are sensitive, constant reminders and fragile spots: a little scratch and we have an open wound.

Wounds are healed by proper treatment.

Scars are only as sensitive as you want them to be

sheilchi:
@Sugar4luv

He was so  good but i treated him badly cos of wat he did earlier.now that i have realised my mistake, he doesnt care anymore cos of what i did to him.i find it difficult to move into another relationship cos i keep comparing him with others,it has not been easy but am still so much ALIFE.you can do it too dear

Yea, time will heal all wounds.

@ariblaze

Shopping is a great hobby of mine,

@Emcaluv

You were right when you said, "Maybe you had this feeling that you would have gone an extra mile to prevent the break-up",

I sure did, that's what hurts the most. Now that I have space from him, I can think clearly. And when my mind revisits certain parts of the relationship, I regret my approach(es) that ultimately led to the break up. Moreover, I apologized for the part I played in the breakup in the farewell email. That's why I was surprised he didn't even respond to my email, because I accepted my faults and wished him well. I didn't blame him for any wrong doing (although he obviously did play a part as well). I figured that if we can't be together, at least we can part amicably. Nonetheless, as far as the issues we had, it wasn't anything that could not be worked on, but he obviously felt differently. That's life though, you live and you learn. Anyway, as far as moving on/dating, it's hard to resist the temptation when men try to ask me out. I don't want to hurt anyone because I'm not ready to get back in the dating scene, so I think I will chill for now.

@Sheilchi
What happened in your situation?

@Ariblaze

Thank you for your response. I don't intend on contacting him again. I've said my peace. If any contact will be initiated it will have to be on his part, if it's too late, then so be it, but for now I'm moving on. My folks say "Running after a man is like running after a cheetah, you'll never win" I believe they are right. Anyway, like you said, relationships aren't black and white, but if we can't work out the small stuff now, then we definitely can't work out the difficulties of marriage. So maybe it's a blessing in disguise, only time will tell. Thanks again.

@idupaul

Mumu for love

Topup

Are you still friends with your ex? U mentioned him on page 4,

Ex star

I'm not sure what made me send him a farewell email. I was very emotional at the time, and I reached out for my laptop and typed away. I don't intend on sending a farewell email again. You're right, there is no need for it. Simply move on. Later.

Allboyz

In the beginning I did want to continue the relationship, but you can't want someone that doesn't want you. That's just life, and I'm taking it for what it is. It's not easy breaking up with someone, and it's unfortunate that your realize all the mistakes you both made soon after you break up. I've come to terms with the faults I made during the relationship, and I don't intend on repeating them in my next relationship. If it's meant to be, then it will be. My life must go on regardless. Take care.

I've moved on from this, but I thank you all for your responses.

Cabali,

Talk anoda thing o

Topup,

my friends keep telling me the same thing; thus, he'll eventually respond when he has cooled down, but I'm not waiting for the response anymore.

Xavier,

Those were my exact thoughts, but I guess I'll never know. I'm moving on with my life. I just hope I don't run into him,

Sherry lo,

I did it because being friends with him and pretending like we didn't feel anything for each other was very difficult and painful.

Johnno,

You're right as far as cherishing what you have. I'll definitely keep that in mind in my next relationship.

Thank you all for your responses. A special thanks goes out to Topup. Take care and God Bless.

Tope,

I'm keeping my self very busy. I'm running a half-marathon in March, a Triathlon in August, and a full-marathon in October, so my trainer and I are training, and that's keeping me really busy along with work, volunteering and social events here and there. I think I'll be just fine. Thanks again.

Tope,

I felt horrible about that, and of course their was no way of recovering the date after that.

Topup,

Speaking of 'rebounds', Ummm, soon after we broke up, I went out on a date and my date said something that sounded just like what my ex would say, and I accidentally blurted out my ex's name in my response; thus, "Ur crazy (ex's name)", the look on the guys face was priceless, and I'm sure if I had a mirror with me my look was just as priceless. At that point, I knew I wasn't ready, so I'm staying clear of rebound relationships, they never seem to work, and it's not fair for the innocent party to be dragged into any emotional baggage. Thanks again Topup.  

Karma,

Yea, I don't intend on ever contacting him again, so it is what it is, the past,

Topup,

I'm sending you a hug, hope you receive it  . Thanks for shedding some light on this. I'm going to move on and although it was hard in the beginning, it's slowly getting better. Thanks again Topup. I appreciate your response the most. Thanks.  

Benez o, carry go