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And like any individual I tried my level best to cope up with his anger, there have been numerous occasions where like a cultured wife I have kept quiet and bear with him hoping he will change or be nice but he doesn't seem to understand or care. Now, I am scared to imagine another 30 years with a man like him where I will be under constant stress and fear of not committing any mistake.......as doing that will result in god only knows what.......

And I too come from a culture where marriage is considered sacred and thing like divorce is condemned

Yes.....but it was to not to any physical or verbal level.....he was a bit controlling and emotionally unavailable in the start but physical assault to this level only escalated during pregnancy.

I never went out on a date......my friend is known by my family and husband as well.....I repeat he is a good friend no romantic linkup, no intentions of sleeping with him........my good friend..... that's it

I know my mistake and even during the argument I was trying to explain it to him but he was waiting to physically abuse me ....the look on his face was like I have committed a sin to go out like that and I deserved the beating he gave me ......Lord I was worried that I will start bleeding from all of this but luckily enough the baby was safe

That good male friend is a friend known by my family and him as well.......I am and never was having any intention of sleeping with him or dating him......my husband unexpected outburst made me land in a hospital........his behavior demonstrates that I can never ever commit a mistake in my life I feel whereas for him every action is justified just because he is a male

And what if it doesn't happen? In case, wife comes and see husband is beating her mother?

I feel like all you males are not capable enough to understand my viewpoint here.......are rules different for men and women after marriage.....is physical abuse justified if one is not doing the right thing?

But the fact he went out with his female friends before and I got to know about it from the pics,still I trust him and took it in a sporting manner that it's natural to go out with friends.....I didn't beat the hell out of him

I didn't make it one, he was emotionally abusive and controlling before marriage as well but I thought he will change. Sadly, it only got worse. Initially, I tried to communicate with him and explain him but he gets angry and start physically abusing me to which I retaliate by hitting him back.But this time around, it only got worse

Help me because slowly and slowly I am loosing my self esteem, getting bruised all over in pregnancy has left me with trauma and I still feel helpless

Are you guys saying rules for men and women are different after marriage?? He in the past has too gone out with his female friends and didnt tell me, I came to know after seeing his pics but I trust him completely so I didn't created a fuss out of it and took it in a sporting manner that it is normal to go out with your good friends.So, how is his beating me and that too in this state justified??

My husband and I have had arguements before where he hits me and I hit him in return as well. This time around I was pregnant by 4 months and went out to see museum with one of my good male friend(husband knew he was in town and was to be invited over for dinner) without telling my husband.He came to know about this 4 days later when he checked my bag and find the receipt. Instead of discussing the same like matured adults, he was waiting to hit me and started slapping me continously and kicked and punched me and thrashed me to the floor. And he even started saying nasty things like child is not his and started using bad words for me which made me more mad.I was lacking any strength to fight him back and said if he didnt stop I will call the police to which he said u can call the cops, so I did as I was bruised all over.......I am still not able to understand what kind of a man would hit his wife at such time............Please help