Kiddogarcia:
now let's be pratical here.a man who beats you at the slightest of arguement,will you tell me the man you went out with a male bestie.before she got married,she had a life,she had friends,do you expect her to cut down on all her friends,because she's married to you,while you keep yours

babyfaceafrica:
she should have informed her husband?.. simple communication ..but she didn't..which means she is hiding something!!

Kiddogarcia:
hiding what,informing him means more beating

babyfaceafrica:
we don't know that..wat we know is that she didn't tell him and got beaten!

Kiddogarcia:
read and digest before commenting.before she got pregnant,the've always had issues,that has resulted to him hitting her.

babyfaceafrica:
and she hitting back

Kiddogarcia:
ok what do you want,she should sit and watch while he beats her to death.if my daughter is strong enough,i'll implore her to hit her hussy back,if he dare hit her

babyfaceafrica:
every action deserves a reaction.. if it is my daughter.... the first time a man hits her, she will leave him....I don't indulge violent people!!

Kiddogarcia:
we have to differentiate btw violence and defending yourself at times,d man would still come begging,and the circle continues tho,the best thing is to be a complete gentleman,and not hit a woman

babyfaceafrica:
I disagree

Sumk:
I didn't make it one, he was emotionally abusive and controlling before marriage as well but I thought he will change. Sadly, it only got worse. Initially, I tried to communicate with him and explain him but he gets angry and start physically abusing me to which I retaliate by hitting him back.But this time around, it only got worse

lonelygem:
For real?

But you fvcked up na, no man would be cool with his wife seeking emotional security from another man. Yeah! Incase u don't know, that's the implication of what you've done.

Why would u sneaked around with a friend of opposite gender without the consent of your husband? You've breached marital laws and vows..

No much problem yet though. I understand pregnant women can be illogical and irrational when it comes to thinking, especially at this stage (4 months).

Just show some remorse and admit that u were wrong. Apologize sincerely without binding words with him.

Words don't kill, be ready to absorb worse things he might say to you, most time we men don't mean what we say out of anger, some don't even remember after the moment has passed.

But please, its a heightened insult and embarrassment to your husband to sneak around with friends of opposite sex without his consent and approval.

Don't think much about this so u don't have a rise in ur blood pressure. Remember its not just you now, but you and your baby. You will be fine.

properties4sale:
madam you are African, you should respect that... Your husband wanted African values,else he would have married those whity over there. You should respect that.
The issue of beating didn't start today, you affirmed both of you hit yourselves(this is really funny sha a house of real commotion) , so there was never anytime both of you sat down to talk like adults ( and seem like you cool with it as that is the only language you two understands) .. So he only used your domestic "Lingual franca" to communicate to you what you did is bad...
Make una continue with this your fine communication skills until una kill unaselves one day!!! Mad funny couple.

Like I earlier Mentioned... Madam, RESPECT AFRICAN VALUES. What you did was WRONG, at least you should have informed him when he got back, not allowing him find out himself, it rakes suspicion.

Moving forward: Go back and apologize, hand him an olive branch for peace . You didn't do good, and no one will smile about what you did.

kennygee:
The moment you start keeping things like going out with the opposite sex from your husband, you have started allowing cracks in your marriage be that.

If it was you who saw two cinema receipts in his pocket, and you know it wasn't you he took to the cinema, how would you feel?

Your husband was totally wrong for hitting you, especially in your condition. But are you really sure you didn't notice his temper during courtship? If you did, then you should have known that keeping stuff like that from him will lead to stuff like this.

When you're courting someone and you come to see their flaws or some violent tendencies, courtship is where you decide if you can live with these flaws for the rest of your life. If he's showing violent signs in courtship and you still proceed to marrying him, it means you're okay with the consequences that comes with his temper or you're willing to walk around the landmines to ensure there will never be an explosion.

Did you notice his violent tendencies during courtship?

lonelygem:
For real?

But you fvcked up na, no man would be cool with his wife seeking emotional security from another man. Yeah! Incase u don't know, that's the implication of what you've done.

Why would u sneaked around with a friend of opposite gender without the consent of your husband? You've breached marital laws and vows..

No much problem yet though. I understand pregnant women can be illogical and irrational when it comes to thinking, especially at this stage (4 months).

Just show some remorse and admit that u were wrong. Apologize sincerely without binding words with him.

Words don't kill, be ready to absorb worse things he might say to you, most time we men don't mean what we say out of anger, some don't even remember after the moment has passed.

But please, its a heightened insult and embarrassment to your husband to sneak around with friends of opposite sex without his consent and approval.

Don't think much about this so u don't have a rise in ur blood pressure. Remember its not just you now, but you and your baby. You will be fine.

Sumk:
Help me because slowly and slowly I am loosing my self esteem, getting bruised all over in pregnancy has left me with trauma and I still feel helpless

virgoquin:
Who are these barbaric men supporting this wicked act of hitting a pregnant woman and even telling her to go and apologize....

Apologize for what biko.Their mothers sure did a bad job in their upbringing.

Any man that tries this stupid act with me would have been cooling his ass in prison now but area thugs will first reason his matter