greatgod2012:

My advise.................. Expect the unexpected. Prepare yourself, you havent seen anything. If you aint working before, start working, empower yourself, earn money and learn to be independent, so that, when he carries out the unexpected i asked you expect, you will have enough and strong shock absorber to absorb it.
I sincerely wish you goodluck.

I wish i had posted this question a long time ago, so that way I could have read this response sooner. He left last night while I was sleep and went to her. He called me this morning asking was I mad and that he was coming home to me and how he's so dumb for keep hurting me, blah blah blah. I have a tracking device on him, so I can see where he is at all times, he has one on me also. But he KNEW i could see that he was over there, yet did not care. He ran to her anyway. It troubled me because we had a GOOD day, no arguing, had just made love and everything else. Yet he still couldnt resist himself. Yes, this was unexpected. i never wouldve imagined he would leave me while im sleeping to go be with her, when before bed he told me how much he loves me and how good of a wife Ive been. but now im throwing in the towel.

Your statement is very powerful for others who are also in a situation like this. I just wished I read it much sooner.

caribchic: Hey Tammy i understand what you were trying to ask, but sometimes getting a straight answer is not always possible on here. I hope you can at least filter out some useful info amid the defensiveness and outright racist posts.

Thank you for your comment. I understand and I did not mean to offend anyone. I did, however, get my question answered by the few of you who gave a kind response : )

firestar: .....
Tammy, good evening.

If you ever visit any part of Africa just remember to take in the heat.
What have you learnt so far?

Good morning where I am : )

Aside from the joking and criticism on this thread, life in Africa is very similar to life in America (where Im from). Except being more culturally grounded and lack of government assistance for those who need it. Its also interesting learning about the different cultures, tribes, and languages in Africa. I didnt know there were so many. I dont want to offend anyone by this statement but it seems like a struggle to live there, hard to make a good life for yourself. I could be wrong though. I would still love to visit.

PAGAN 9JA:
you dont ask Indians or CHinese or Arabs, "What is it like living in Asia?"

thats such a dumbarse question!


Please respect the Sovereignity of the Nations in Africa.

It is not a dumb question. I am not chinese or asian. I am black. Therefore it is a valid question in my opinion. Thank you

pleep:

.......But besides all that, us Africans have a have a rock solid family tradition, and some of the richest culture in the world.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdsmuElafSY

LOL! Thank you for your honest comment. Nonetheless, I admire your culture.

riyaq: Africa is very big.


You have countries that are near the ocean, those that are landlocked, those in the desert, the forest, those that have arabs, berbers, blacks, somalis, ethiopians,, different weather, seasons, climate etc.

Some countries have war, famine, hiv epidemic, prostitution, xenophopia (south africa)

so their is no one way to describe it.


i HAVE recently read that west africa has overtaken somalia in the number of reported piracy,

i didnt know blacks could swim

Wow, thank you for your comment.

dasparrow:

@Bolded

No, we do not accept ignorant people from other nations who have been successfully brain washed by the white media and think the worse of us. It's like me asking you what is black America like? How is life like in the predominately black ghettos/the hood and projects there in USA? Why do black American men like engaging in severe animal cruelty like dog (Pitt bull) fighting which is a felony in all 50 states of the USA? Are your men not taught animal compassion by their parents or single mums while they were growing up? As a canine enthusiast and animal rights activist, animal cruelty disgusts me.

Why do many black Americans love having babies out of wedlock like its something to be proud of bringing bastard children into this wicked world? Why is teenage pregnancy so rampant in the black community in the USA? Why are there so many black high school dropouts? Why are so many Americans - especially the black ones - addicted to crack cocaine and other forms of illegal drugs?

Anyways, I know you get my drift. I lived and worked in the USA for over 13 years (went to college there too) so I know that country of yours in and out though I am back home now serving my nation. As much as I am not against foreigners moving to Nigeria, I am totally against IGNORANT foreigners moving to Nigeria. I just cannot imagine being bombarded with obnoxious questions about Africa in my homeland by an American yet again after all the useless questions I was asked about my country when I lived in the USA. If you are not an open minded person and don't know enough about Africa and her people, I strongly suggest you stay back in your home country of USA.

*Strolls out of thread whistling*

You seem really angry. You bring up many good questions about the morals and values of some Americans. However this is a free country so people are entitled to make their own choices in life. Im not asking what PEOPLE are like in Africa, Im asking what is LIFE like. It seems that many are offended by this question but if I had the money to travel and see for myself then I would do so. Thank you for your comment.

anonymous6:

True, I agree, the thread title was annoying itself before I started reading the comments, sometimes you feel you have to correct people who think Africa is a country or tarzan jungle land, because sadly people who stumble upon this thread that are American like her will believe what she said is correct when we have the internet today as you said to give correct info. Sometimes you can't help it but correct them because I am noticing this with people from America particularly on lack of knowledge on common sense things, the ignorance is baffling.

You can say whatever you wish about the technicalities of my statement. There are many people who wonder what life is like in Africa as a whole or each individual country. Yes i couldve googled it, but i thought i ask on here. If someone wanted to know what life was like in America, I surely wouldnt be responded about something as petty as verb noun agreement. Thank you

Rgp92:

Africa is a continent, be specific which country you want to learn about. Cape Town is in South Africa, and is not safe for human.

I dont have a specific country. Which countries are nice to live in? What is Nigeria like? Is there alot of poverty? What would it be like for an African American wanting to move there? Will they be accepted?

makahlj2: C'mon, it's the country with all the lions, giraffes and hippopotamuses. Where people live in huts and their clothes are made from banana leaves. Don't you watch National Geographic?

I know you are being sarcastic but this is in fact what Africa is portrayed as. Can you post pictures of what your city looks like, home, etc?

Is Cape Town a nice place to live?

PAGAN 9JA:


such a country doesn't exist on the map.

I know of countries like Kenya, Zimbabwe, etc. that have these features that you described, bu I havent heard of this "Africa" country.

Kenya is a state in East Africa. Africa is a continent, just like America. Surely you know this.

Omexonomy: which part of the world are you asking this question from so that i will know how to answer you.

America

greatgod2012:

My advise.................. Expect the unexpected. Prepare yourself, you havent seen anything. If you aint working before, start working, empower yourself, earn money and learn to be independent, so that, when he carries out the unexpected i asked you expect, you will have enough and strong shock absorber to absorb it.
I sincerely wish you goodluck.

I appreciate your advice. Can you please tell me what is the unexpected that you speak of? (Him continuing the affair, him leaving me?)

What is daily life like living in Africa? In what ways is it different from America?

dayokanu: Baby mama drama

Did you trap him into the marriage with a pregnancy?

No i did not trap him. When i became pregnant she was not in the picture. She also kept him from seeing his child at the time. As I mentioned above, she left him when we met. We planned to get married, he asked to marry me. And i believe she found this out through his family members. Since then, it seems as if she is determined to get him back. it has been hell. She talks to his mom about how bad of a father he is then i turn around and they sleep together. I think when she wasnt in the picture he only had eyes for me, but whenever she allows him to go back to her sexually, he will. Its sad

Nashville: Poster,

Have you honestly discussed the issues with your husband? You claim he created a plan to leave you, how did you know this? Did you discuss with him? I will advice you sit down with your husband and have a heart to heart discussion and hear from him. You claim sometimes he is nice and sometimes he is mean - that seems to happen often times in marriage and sometimes it is unintentional.

I read text messages in his phone from her where they discussed him leaving me to be with her and she asks "why are you ignoring my calls, are you having second thoughts on what we discussed." Also he begged me not to leave him, so i told him i would take him back if he called her infront of me and ended it so i can hear AND that he has to take the password off his phone. Its been 3 weeks and he hasnt done either one. He keeps making up excuses saying his mom talked to the girl and told her everything about us working on our marriage. But i told him i want YOU to tell her that not your mom. I think he still leaving his options open. I also check the phone records and one night he called her at midnight while i was sleep. The call lasted only one minute but i was furious. I havent confronted him about that because we have been doing better but im struggling internally on whether he really deserves another chance or if he will only continue this affair.

I think he is struggling with his emotions because he has said he doesnt want another man raising his other child that he has with her. And im sure he doesnt want another man raising our son. So if i leave him, will he just keep going between two women. I do love him, but i dont want to share him.

Do Nigerian men treat women better than the way many African American men treat women? (Cheat, abuse, etc)

Also, do Nigerian men want and marry African American women?

My husband and I have been married for a year. We have a 2 year old son. He recently cheated with his previous child's mother. Before we got together, she left him but I believe all this time he still has feelings for her. Recently I found out they created a plan for him to leave me to go be with her. But this whole time when he comes home he acts like he wants to work on our marriage. There are other times, though, when he acts mean and I wonder if he is pushing me to divorce him.

Why wont he just leave me to be with her, if thats what he wants? Is he staying with me out of guilt?

Does he think he wants to be with her but just "wants what he cant have", so he like the thrill and chase of going back to his ex? And so she cant be with anyone else either?

Lastly, if i decide to stay with him, how can i make him only want me and not want to cheat?

Hi I read one of your previous comment from years ago about cheating husband. You gave some good advice. I am currently married and going through a tough situation with my husband. I am seeking advice. Please email me Cutess_of_12@yahoo.com