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Very nice and will see to the points highlighted

danbrowndmf:
If you truely love her & she loves you too.bros go on & date her,even marry her sef. I dated one who was 4years older than with me her baby boy around 3years or also...mhen i can say that was one of the best relationship have ever been in...they are very mature.she was never part of the "Can you take care of me crew" if i was ready enough to marry i wouldn't hesitate to marry her then...we brk up which was actually my fault..till today we still talk on phone.

eyah and its well.

smarthG:
1) That child is the number one thing in her life

2) That marriage is naturally a second thing her life

3) Anytime she needs time, the child will be used for an excuse so much u will feel like a kaged Bachellor

4) The father of the baby will sure come to pester her either by wanting to take or see his child.

When you make such decision, u will hardly reverse it so search your heart for the amount of love you've got for her.

5) If you dare cause her another heartbreak, you will be the one to bear the pain of the first failure and that might cause her to react badly.

Just search your hearth and be careful. Remember, I have not even brought your family in but these are the thing they see that love might not let u see.

thats the truth but is there any court paper to back that up , I mean the daughter she has as she intends to name the kid with my surname :-(

Exponental:
single mum doesn't make her loose or bad.... if u love her n she's "marriable".... investigate how she got the child n d father's being. She could be victim of anything. she is better than those who terminate pregnancies not to be a single mother.

God bless you and thanks for you said my Mind , I did my investigation and found it was based on circumstances and I made my move to love her and her little daughter but my fear is should there be necessarily a back up from the court to the daughter she has ? Please i will love to get your reply either on facebook as Tdk Adesanya or kennynthny@gmail.com

tivta:
What if my family doesn't support it?

if thats where your happiness lies , then convince your family cause its not your parents that will be the ones to live with you. As for me I will love to prove it to them that its easier said than done is only a word of circumstances , am into a relationship with a single mother. So all you need to do is to establish a grounds for understanding and show the genuine love to both parties

guruofsat:
We have to be honest to our self

How can a man who as never marry b4 go and marry a woman who has 2 kids or 1 or 3


The best lover for that kind of women is to meet a man who already have a mistaken issue too, or a rich man who does not care about Love,

There are a lots of men their who has money to just help and enjoy there self with the woman, that is not Love

For a young man who wants to start up life is not advisable to start with that


If you never fall into this Game you wouldn't understand,is very sweet to say there is nothing much in marrying someone who have a baby sound good,

who will enjoy this relationship is the only the woman and the kids and her family will totally happy in this relationship

but for the man family big lie,

For example i have fell into many relationships , i try to set them up,when i dig into my physiological research i discover the lady loves the kid more than me no matter what i did,,she like to take first attention on the kid more than me, through that i experienced

i cant tell them not to care for the kids first ,it is a normal nature for all women to act that way,if is me i will do the same thing, so at the end of the research i discover is not Love is Infatuation or conditional Love or self Piting relationship

So young Guy Shine your Eye, if you want a Pure Love in your Affairs

But if you Like the woman ! you can manager the risk

But if you don't Like! You can successfully enjoy the relationship

But if you Love !
I advise you dont try to fall into that kind of life many thousand of women waiting for you, you can change environment you will see a alots single lady out there who are seriously in waiting for you

Difference between Somebody you Love & Somebody you Like


In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster.
But in front of the person you like, you get happy.

In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring.
But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter.

If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush.
But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.

In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind.
But in front of the person you like, you can.

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy.
But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.

You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love.
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them.
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.

The feeling of love starts from the eye
But the feeling of like starts from the ear.

So if you stop liking a person you used to like, all you need to do is cover your ears. But if you try to close your eyes, love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever, …

if i say cry, i am not talking about crying like a baby NO ,but water must drop from your face !!!

So my men Let say the truth, if you fall in the position of marrying someone who have issue like this,No bi Love na like

No Pastor will like to Join three people for marriage

if a woman have a pregnancy before marriage Pastor will not bless them you know why? God said only join Two people 2geda




Physiological Question

If truly you love the lady and the lady already have 3 kids b4 or 2, why must you have another children ask your self?
if you desire to have your own biological child for what purpose?
So marrying A woman who have a baby think twice!!!

If truly you love the lady get ready to face a lots of issues in future,you might love her mother and the child but the kid hate you ,what are you going to do ask yourself,

if the kid hate you,and the lady loves you so much,can the lady hate her child because of you or leave her child and stay with you?

But anybody can fall into this mistake too,


Only if the Lady have a baby like 6 month 1 year,,the woman must let the baby know that you are the only father of the baby and you must have a court backup,

you must treat the baby like your first child with happiness,even when you have yours or not for the lady you must treat them the same way,you should even care for the first child than your biological children

Every man with his own philosophy

2Legit:
comot 4 road if u be woman wey don become afta 1.
comot 4 road if u be person wey be single parent
comot 4 road if u misplan ur life

thats very harsh cause we are not perfect

olagbemi118:
Sorry about that though... I set very high standards for myself and they affect others around me. In order not to make her bitter for life, I will never marry a single mother. Marrying her will just be out of pity and that's not good for her and me

Thats a good point and thanks you said its part of your standards but the pure fact is that most single women are far better of these young ladies you meet here and there and mostly we need to know that ones philosophy in life is another mans hates

i am a living witness and right now am dating a lady that has a daughter and its where I just realise wher my happiness lies , please dont criticise my judgment and dont even think I have been bewitched too. Its a matter of choice and am pretty aware its really akward but thats my simple life to you friends.