Stargurl20:

You're entitled to your opinion

I've been following this thread since inception. Your philosophy about love and marriage isn't bad honestly.

I was matchmaked with this young student Nurse and after 2 weeks of knowing ourselves, I pulled out. Why? The connection and attraction wasn't there. I couldn't pretend, and even though she's hot cake for the type of course she is studying, and her mum is wealthy, I couldn't take that risk to marriage where there's no turning back.

But I was able to take such a decision because I'm a Man, at 30 I'm not too late, but you ladies don't have the luxury of time. I think that's the unfair advantage when compared with both sexes in terms of spec and marriage.

At 23, you are still young but don't create too high expectations for the man you will love.

bobontop:


Feelings, Feelings, Feelings! You are making the same mistake that has kept many women unmarried or lateness in marriage. Follow the wisdom of God, it's is for your own good:
1. God never commanded a woman to love her husband. He only asked you to submit to your husband. What you call feeling (love) is not your duty. If you find a man that genuinely love you and treats you like a queen, you better follow him. The feelings will come later.

2. Love that lasts is not founded on feeling but on informed decision. Also these nonsense you people watch in Nollywood movies has deceived many of you girls. Romantic feeling comes and goes. You don't build a lasting relationship on romantic feeling... ask your mother. If successful marriage is built on romantic feeling Nollywood Stars would have had the best marriages. Successful marriage and but on commitment and decision to make it work.
You better jettison this childish notion of rejecting committed, responsible proposers because of feeling. Girls like you fall for empty vessels that have sweet tongues because you are looking for poetic Nollywood romance. Men that have something to offer are not very romantic. They are busy people and men of action. They meet you today in six months they have paid your Dowry. All those jobless efulefus that are looking for free sex, will call you 24 times in a day and write long poems like Shakespeare and end up wasting your destiny and destroying your life. The efulefus are the kind of people girl like you fall for.
Sorry if I am very blunt. I just want to help you and many other innocent but naive girls out there.
If a man loves a woman very much, even if they woman doesn't love him, their marriage will work. Infact you the woman will enjoy the marriage more because the man will spend his whole life trying to win your love. But you as a woman, in the name of looking for feeling marry a man who doesn't really cherish you, you have entered hell fire.

It's is the same with sex. A woman most times is not in the mood, but if she submits to her husband in obedience to God, the feelings will come and she will enjoy also.
Finally, must girls who have spiritual husband doesn't have feeling for the right men that will better their lives. Those wicked spirit husbands will will supply plenty of feelings when the efulefus come around so as to deal with the lady. You better beware and be wise... good marriage is not based on feelings... except in Nollywood.

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Goldenbliss1:
You aren't the only one sir, am also an introvert sometimes I wish i have someone to call a gist mate. At times the only company I have is to occupy myself reading, comments on Nairaland.

Awww. Welcome to the club.

Kobojunkie:
I am an ogbonge introvert myself and throughout the past 1 year, I have spent a total of less than 3 hours on the phone communicating with anyone. However, if you search my nairaland land history, you will find I communicate more than the average Nairalander can boast of in a day. Nothing wrong with that at all. You just need to accept yourself for who you are and find yourself what works for you regardless of what everyone else is doing or does.

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culf:
Bros no rush marriage oooo, loneliness can cause that. Make good friends first, especially male friends and when you finally meet a lady you think you can marry, I advise you date her for at least 6 months let that "butterfly feeling" go away first, so you can make the decision to settle with clear eyes

I've been with someone for 1 year while working towards the goal of marriage.

akenyinbode:
Have you worked for them before.
How do you know they have high employee turnover?
I've accepted their offer. Please help

Take the job if you are in a dire situation and observe, in a month or two you will have found out enough data to decide your next move.

I once rejected a job worth 150k 3 months ago after initially accepting their offer because of bad reviews I got here on Nairaland. A week later, I got another job offer with same salary. Both organisations are just about 100m apart from each other.

In hindsight, I feel I made the best decision. Also, don't dispel your instincts. At the end, na u dey wear d shoe sha. If pocket dry, pick the job.

Come to think of it, I think I once got an invitation from Egatee on LinkedIn for a Digital Marketer, can't recall clearly.

Good luck.

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Very funny.

So it's been a mixed 5 years since I left school in 2017. Before then, it had taken me about 5 years to get into the university.

Then after NYSC at Jos, my Dad felt I should get married as the first son, then I met a lady here, two ladies intact, the first felt I was too young at 26, while the other was too desperate.

I later met another lady here, and when I thought everything was set, my parents didn't accept her place of origin.

Now I will be 30 in October, managing myself with a job in Tech after leaving Accounting as an Economics graduate. My siblings are all outside the country, I'm the only one here, I get home late and there's no one to talk to, no real friendship, no relationship, it's killing me.

Who else has experienced this before? My elder sister wants me to leave the country but I don't have the funds to undertake such right now. My parents want me to get married first but I can't even find a lady that I am interested in. Yes the hooked me up with a Nurse but I want to make my Choice by myself.

So many other things that have happened this year and I just want to express my thoughts to someone, it's hard keeping a lot to oneself.

By the way, I'm a Digital Marketer, I've worked in top organisations, currently working in one of the biggest Beauty and Skincare brand in Nigeria, if you have any project with regards SEO, SEM, SMM, Email Marketing and the likes, I'm your guy.

I'm an introvert by the way

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Very painful, did you make any move about that ?

Several moves (legal). Still on it, hopefully NHRC forces their hands to move.

I wasn't given an offer letter, I resigned a day to the last day of the month.

Till date, they refused to pay me. But we mooooooove.

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On a good day nasarawa even ....

South are not united because of greed of people like tinubu and wike

If south agree to rotate power among themselves with middle belt there is absolutely nothing north can do ...na just greed

Bless you brother. We would have been talking about a South Easterner right now but for the greed of Tinubu and Wike. The North gladly took advantage of our disunity.

I can bet on it that Atiku is the next President of Nigeria come 2023.

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