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How is it a banker when she had a fake ID? Doesn't that mean she wasn't a banker?

1 naira to 1 dollar as of 3:00 pm Aba time

JVgal:

Can you share the video or come on Skype?

jodeci01:
Am I the only one wondering if you've confronted gf or not

Well, I guess you're not the only one. I did confront her over the phone but she vehemently denied. So I confronted her with what I know and she was shocked. She wanted by all means to know how I knew but I refused to tell her so she thinks I was stalking her...but I told her that how I knew is not important. After then she broke down and cried. Her excuse is that she was by her self and got depressed so she couldn't help it...she said she just wanted to keep her sanity. I consoled her and told her I am not gonna hate her but as expected, since then she's been trying to make up but I'm really wanting to keep at at just friend levels. I'm getting over her already.

Freest:
I happened to be in a relationship and for the first time i asked my girl to come meet my parents since we started getting serious and next year i have plans to get married to her. she met my parents three weeks ago and stayed in our family house for about a week before going back. Since then my Dad calls her like every day just to check up on her. This is beginning to get me worried as it is unusual of my Dad. FYI my Dad is a clergy man and very disciplined hence i know nothing is wrong negatively. But my concern is that the man is taking the relationship more serious than even me in the relationship. Am concerned and my girl is so excited about it. I had plans to talk to my dad but don't know if it is right. I feel my dad is making this girl feel supercool and am not comfortable with that. Please i need candid advice!!!


#Freest#

"Nothing is wrong negatively" That means something is wrong positively.

ted1741:
Young man, let me give you one golden advise. First, you live in the USA and know or should know that going to confront her, whatever that means, may land you in a very serious legal situation that may ruin you either financially or pyschologically or both. Sexual assualt (confronting her) is a criminal offence that is indictable in most states (USA) and provinces (in Canada). You are distraught understably, however, I advise you to stop imagining her as some precious possession only available to you. Yes she betrayed you and no explanation can justify it but she is only a girlfriend not your wife or personal property. Whatever drove her to someone else cannot be justified but one thing is clear, the relationship will never be the same again even if she apologises and you get back together. You do not need to fly to whereever she is, call her first, ask some basic questions about your relationship. Since you know her well, her responses, including hesitations, brief silences, questions, answers, etc will give you a clue on what she is up to. Tell her about your findings but be careful she may turn it against you for intruding into her privacy and snooping on her. If she apologises, you then decide whether/not to continue with the relationship. Boarding a plan to confront her may make things worst unless she suggests you both meet and discuss. Whatever happens, be sure to stop rewinding the good times, her love to you, the sexes etc. The more you think about them, the more you are tempted to make irrational decision and in fact the more sleepless nights you will have because all you will be doing is imagining another man grinding in between her pelvics and the maonings that ooz out of her mouth. These will only drive you insane which ultimately may push you to go and confront her as you are thinking, at the end what you will achieve is a metaphor of sanity being guilty of insanity. Nothing good will come out of it. Whatever you do, don't beg her out of desperation because you don't appear to have done anything wrong based on your account and refuse the guilty trip. Once you show desperation by beging, your are doomed and have given her unsolicited weapon of choice, it is a dangerous precedent. And yes, you will survive even if it ends because time heals. Maybe you don't know her as much as you thought, good relationships survive long distances. You have not told us how long you were seperated by distance, and why you feel it is your fault, however, remember that every disappointment may be a blessing in disguise. The problem sometimes is that we look to hard into a closed door and refuse to see an open one that has better future for us. She may be pretty but a good player ready for the asking, a side of her you never knew before now. Right now, you are a nervous wrack by the sound of it, get yourself together, take a deep breath and don't jump to hasty decisions. Women are the downfalls of many people in north America financially and otherwise. Ultra radical feminists have inherently help the laws and judicial system to be anti men, therefore be careful what and how you manage the situation. Goodluck.

Thanks for your advice. Made lotta sense.

That's really an objective way to look at it. It's hard but I'm gonna have to accept it even if slowly.

I see your point.

oppinionated:
she hurt you this bad? I can make everything okay you know?

It's not that easy, you know.

adanduka:
You are not married, right?
You guys were fornicating before she moved on to someone else.
If a girl sleeps with you before marriage, there is a high possibility she does it with someone else.
That's why God is against these things

Sorry for your pain.

I'm no angel

ahsekeena:



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U need to tell her that u know she's cheating. That might be a wake up call for her. I'm sure she'll apologise and u two will be good together again. Happens.


Everyone cheats

Most people not everyone.

quenzi:
If you asked me, I'd say you shouldn't hv gone digging just to confirm your suspicion. Don't get me wrong, a cheating gf is d worst thing that can ever happen to a guy and its really demoralising however what you don't know won't kill u. As it is right now, I believe it's your time to step up to the plate and make a sacrifice, forgive n forget and also try to live wit the trauma. Remember, she ain't perfect and like you mentioned, she's done a great deal of good in d past.

If you love someone truly, you can't stay out of their business. I already forgave her without even asking...it's just what comes after.

yuzedo:

Hmmm.....

It's a small world man. Is this the Yuzedo I know? Did you serve in Lagos and play a lot of soccer?

micktoxin:

Anyways, break up with her. She will most likely regret leaving you. I can't bet you the other guy will leave her as soon as he is done with her.

She damn sure will regret. It's sad man! Yeah there are many girls out here but very few sane ones. I'm not really attracted to other races, akata girls no get head and Naija girls here get their own wahala.

simplex2:


More like she was setting herself up for you to findout; can't find any other reason why she will be documenting evidences to be used against her; that's why I find it hard to swallow.

And when people shout with all CAPS that they know what they are saying, it leaves a lot to be desired

Don't know if to say I'm lucky that she left those evidence. I save personal stuff on my mailbox too. You know when you send stuff you wanna save to tour mailbox so you don't loose it or so you don't have to have it on your phone. Heck! she might have even learnt it from me. The thing is that I have her email password but she doesn't know it. You may ask how I got her password or if she just gave it to me and yes I got it from her laptop chrome browser.
I know there are a lot of phony people on the internet but I would not just come here to give b.s stories. This is nothing to be proud about.

simplex2:


All these in her mail box?

Yes I saw her flight itinerary and hotel bookings sent to her by Expedia which she forwarded to the guy, I saw pictures she sent to herself(I guess she was trying to save them), I saw her Whatsapp chat history with the guy (she sent it to her email from her phone and yes you can transfer all your chats to email if you wanna save them). The WhatsApp chat is what showed me all they have been talking about.

I really really love her. As you can see I'm almost making excuses for her but it's just so hard on me. I can't even sleep anymore. Poo really does happen. For no reason!

WackyJ1:
Op Yes you love this girl like many before you have loved before.

Now she has broken a sacred promise or agreement you guys had and she has cheated on you.

Yes she has some good qualities and she has really sacrificed for you. Am sure you have done the same for her too or you're will to do the same for her and even more. This is why it's good to employ Korema's tactics, it will convey to her just how much you love her and how much heartbreaking it is for you.

But I am of the school of thought that you should not date this girl anymore. Don't be scared you will find another girl like her, you will be more surprised than you think. You can look at all she has done for you in the past but her current actions also count too especially if you're planning to take her to the altar one day. You must not continue to Chuck this all up to an adventurous spirit. So you're in pain now because on young lady had an adventurous spirit and didn't see fit to have self control added to it? You cannot leave her alone without constant monitoring and attention for a period of time? Do you want to always face the fear of what she might do?

Am telling you this because in the heat of the moment, she might seduce you with promises to stop or it might seem to you with the love in her eyes that she is willing to repent for you but I can bet my last kobo that Miss adventurous will do it again. She already broke one promise before.

Keep her as a friend if you must, though not in the initial stages, but never have anything romantic to do with her again.

Exactly. If I ever keep her and say we get married, I am going to spend my life worrying if she'll be a repeat offender. You know the kind of thing where you are scared if you wanna travel without her that she may repeat old ways.
Just my 2Kobo.

kowema:


O.p, this is really sad mehn! And I feel ur pain. This is how u shud confront her:, find a way to invite her over and treat her to a very romantic dinner that u cooked your self at ur place. Don't give her the slightest indication dat smtn is wrong, just keep looking into her eyes while u play, tease her etc..She may be uneasy at first knowing she has strings with someone else but later she wud get comfortable. At the climax of the dinner, hold her hands gently, loook into her eyes and ask her "why"?, she will be all dramatic but keep ur cool, den tell her she has been cheating on u and u know. Let her confess, allow her to talk even if she gets defensive, after she talks, let her know how much u love her and also make her know u won't hold her against u and that she is free and then ask her is that what u wan?"...she may be all crying at this pointt. At that point, tell her to make up her mind that what ever decision she takes is fine but u still love her. Don't shout oh. Then leave her and go to bed. You wud kill her if u do this smoothly and she wud remember for the rest of her life. Now if she comes back crying and begging, you can nowget angry, and then warn her Neva eva to try that with u again. Give her instructions like call him now and tell him its over, delete his number etc. Then go on and love her dis time with plenty adventure.
Her kind of person loves adventure and attention, the moment u take ur eyes off them, they cud fall for someone else weda good or bad.
Goodluck winning ur love back

You made points. I have considered this tactic strongly because even if I'm letting her go, I still want her as a friend. You were right about her liking adventure...she's always like let's go see this movie, let's go strolling, let's go on a road trip, let's try this, let's try that....I do try my best though. A huge part of me thinks it's her adventurous spirit that led to this.

realtestament:
It will keep haunting u if u dnt let her knw, go 2 her peacefully, let her knw u're troubled she will open up n tell u wassup....i think after dat u'll knw wia u stand.

From what I saw she doesn't really like the guy cos they just kept the whole thing like they were just having fun. No sentiments. I would have questioned my bed skills but I know what I'm made of, which she and others before her have confirmed...which only leaves me with the question,why? Is it just boredom or what?

blackchukky:
im sorry to say this, you need to dump her cheating ass before she pulls more terrible stunts when you get married

That's the problem. If I dump her,who will I get next that I am sure won't cheat? A nun? This is like dumping the last 2 yrs of my life. What bothers me more is that I don't wanna see her happy with someone else. Ain't gonna lie, taking her life crossed my mind for a minute not out of hatred but just so I can live with this. It still feels like it's my loss....this damn girl gave me some of the best years of my life.

Knowing her, if I confront her she likely won't deny but will get defensive and it may get really ugly.

vichks:
This is super story......

...I wish. Don't play with the pain of others. Life is real.

sexylogan:
Op, continue on this path and you will live with a lifetime of pain.
It's not worth it.

I'm already in pain. Are you saying fighting is not worth it? I never thought I will need to see a psychologist in my life but I really loove this girl. My problem is I can't seem to see myself happy with someone else.

ginawest:
first of all,confront her...don't rush to break up wit a good gal because of wot u saw in her email...jes confront ha n hear wot she has to say bfor making a decision

There is really nothing to disprove it because pictures and receipts don't lie. I just did not see this happening to me. You can imagine how I felt when I saw those pics. There is no disproving. You think I can live with knowing the things she's done? You think my love for her will let me look beyond this?

I have 100 percent proof my gf is cheating on me. We were living together for over a year in Dallas before we moved to different cities in the U.S. I found out about her sexcapades from her email which I happen to know the password without her knowing. I am still contemplating how to handle it because what she has done is horrible but she has been too good to me before now. I really love this girl and I know she loves me because she has made sacrifices that no other gf has ever made for me and cried a lot when we moved to separate cities. When we were in college in Texas, this girl used to support me morally, financially, spiritually and sexually. She sold her car at some point to help me pay off my tuition debts. Yes! she is that good. We were making plans for the future before this long distance thing happened out of necessity. She started sounding somehow lately and I decided to dig and found that she has been having an affair with another guy in Illinois where she is currently. I saw their erotic convos about their bleeping, her messages asking him to bleep her and vice versa, pictures of their private parts which they exchanged, hotel receipts, plane tickets to vacations, convos of how they are having a good time etc. I am so depressed and have had to see a psychologist because of this. I don't know how to handle this because of the way I found out and because I don't wanna loose her forever; besides this the girl is really any man's dreams cos she is very pretty, kind and intelligent even though she has a bad temper sometimes. It is partly my fault because for sometime I was not calling her as much but it was cos the things I was busy with not cos I was cheating or anything like that. I JUST HATE THIS SITUATION. I don't know how I can move on from here. I had thought I found the one for real but now this! She was all I wanted. Is it love carrying me through or am I being stupid? It's okay to be sincere and tell me I am stupid now cos I just feel all kinds of way. Love is really a damn tragedy! I need opinions...it may help before I board a plane to Illinois and do something really really stupid.