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LOL, i am just 22 so i still hv about 4 yrs, no hurry yet. but i hv a bf dat is really good so i know dere r still good guys out dere.
i am just alarmed at d rate of desperation and violence lately.

@BABE, it is not a way of validating being single o, just look at the link i posted and u might understand what I mean.
it is not just a message to single girls, it is a message to women who are married and r having problems (dat they shouldnt
be afraid or ashamed to seek help). Domestic violence is causing a lot of deaths and nothing is being done to address it in Nigeria.
instead d women r blamed, it can b a very lonely and depressing situation to be in

@190@ did u see d images on d link dat I posted? mehn dis is a serious issue, jokes aside

Please see this DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:
http://efemenaoreoluwa..com/2011/06/what-exactly-is-going-on-with-domestic.html
There are quite a number of unhappy couples in our society and nothing is being done about their plight. We have no institutions to cater to married ppl having problems
yet society makes single women seem unworthy or divorcees seem wayward. Please girls, dont give into pressure by marrying a guy that you do not know well enough. if you want to getmarried; do u know how this guy's father treats his mum? Has he ever beaten his sisters? is he prone to getting really drunk? What is he like when frustrated by friends or life challenges? these r important questins dat should be answered b4 u commit to marriage. Also, please forget about rich guys as I have noticed dat is one of d top reasons naia girls choose a guy (he should have a job and be responsible though cos a jobless man can easily become a frustrated beast), but dont fall for d hype. A HUGE % of rich naija men beat d living day ouutt of their wives after a day or weekend of gamblim, drinking and womanizin. Trust me, I know a few personally(especially d political ones and theiving nigerian elite). I always wonder y Nigerian girls want that famous guy or politician's son to marry them or whatever, but trust me u would be in for a rude awakening when u discover d crap d gold-digging wives they marry go through.


FINALLY, if u are a married woman going through domestic violence, seek help somehow, talk to your parents, talk to your friends, OPEN UP, dont let your life go to waste, dere is a reason every woman is created and u should live your life FULLY, u have a right to enjoy a happy marriage, or atleast a happy life, your kids have a right to enjoy U and u have a right to enjoy them, Please seek divorce and try as much as possible to leave b4 it gets tooo bad, cos there is still d chance he can come looking for u to kill after d divorce, So bottom line is LET US LOOK B4 WE EVEN GET INTO a POTENTIAL DEATH SENTENCES called MARRIAGE. look at the likes of Nike Oshinowo (I dont know any other examples, but please readers list any if u know better examples) who never got married or got married late, dey have a life that they enjoy, these women glow inspite of their non marriage status, find what u enjoy, concentrate on it, D right person who would admire u, value and cherish u would come around someday, as long as u r happy and glowing, age is not but a number, happiness is attractive. This is very personal to me cos right now, I have a cousin (I know i keep talkin about cousins, but i have so many female cousins) who married a very famous and wealthy nigerian man's son, d guy is stinkinlgy rich (i am sure u know who but i wont mention names of course), but she has known no peace since dey got married, HE BEATS HER LIKE A BLOODY ANIMAL (and trust me it has nothing to do with having a bad mouth; he just comes home drunk and frustrated after losing money from gambling). All she does is ask what he wants to eat and if he is ok, but any word from her mouth ends up causing a massive beating. Now we have told her not to ever ask any questions or say a word and should just go to bed once he gets home. WHAT kind of life is dat? where  u cannot communicate with your loved one?
Anways, peace out guys (enough ramblings)

I know someone dat snatched her bestfriend's fiance from her just few months to the wedding.
I am ashamed to say it was a cousin of mine sha(my family is soo big), but a very distant cousin. This is what
happened: my cousin's friend was from a very strict muslim background, but her fiance ignored dis and
went to her father's big bash (70th bday) with a car full of alcohol and not only dat, he got drunk. The father
was sooo pissed off that this is d type of guy dat his daughter brought home and they had already met him as
her fiance, etc, so he insulted d guy and told him to get out of d party. The guy got pissed off too. Then my cousin, being
the best friend of the girl started going to his place to beg him on behalf of her friend, Well, dey married within a year.
FUnny thing is her younger sister did somethg similar too (that is, my younger cousin), What happened with that one was this:
d younger sister was at home one day, and d fiance of her elder sister's friend came to their place to
tell d older sister somthgs regarding the planned wedding with her friend. This was just about 4 months to
the wedding.
When he got to the friend's house, d younger sister caught his eye (and he kept saying mehn, i didnt know u had such
a pretty sister). Long story short, he started seeing the girl and she got pregnant, now they are married. He didnt marry
his initial fiancee. On of the older cousins still mentions dis rubbish dat happen till dis moment. It still pisses her off.


NB: Mind u, this cousins of mine are in a family full of 6 girls (I know my story is a little confusing - so just to make it clearer, I am talkin of 3 different cousins within d same family here).

who says being single is boring? come on, talk about:
1. getting out of bed on a weekend whenever u please
2. cleaning and tidying up ur place on ur time
3. going out as u please
4. take vacations, travel to wherever
5. go for further education, relocate to wherever u find a better career, job, etc
6. indulge indulge indulge
life is certainly more fun being single

lmao

wedding is d party itself, d occasion where d man and woman are joined together. Marriage is d rest of their lives together after that wedding.
Wedding and \marriage are definitely different

it is possible. I know someone dat snatched her bestfriend's fiance from her just few months to the wedding.
I am ashamed to say it was a cousin of mine sha(my family is soo big), but a very distant cousin. This is what
happened: my cousin's friend was from a very strict muslim background, but her fiance ignored dis and
went to her father's big bash (70th bday) with a car full of alcohol and not only dat, he got drunk. The father
was sooo pissed off that this is d type of guy dat his daughter brought home and they had already met him as
her fiance, etc, so he insulted d guy and told him to get out of d party. The guy got pissed off too. Then my cousin, being
the best friend of the girl started going to his place to beg him on behalf of her friend, Well, dey married within a year.
FUnny thing is her younger sister did somethg similar too (that is, my younger cousin), What happened with that one was this:
d younger sister was at home one day, and d fiance of her elder sister's friend came to their place to
tell d older sister somthgs regarding the planned wedding with her friend. This was just about 4 months to
the wedding.
When he got to the friend's house, d younger sister caught his eye (and he kept saying mehn, i didnt know u had such
a pretty sister). Long story short, he started seeing the girl and she got pregnant, now they are married. He didnt marry
his initial fiancee. On of the older cousins still mentions dis rubbish dat happen till dis moment. It still pisses her off.


NB: Mind u, this cousins of mine are in a family full of 6 girls (I know my story is a little confusing - so just to make it clearer, I am talkin of 3 different cousins within d same family here).

how will it leave her worse? he doesnt love her cos apparently he only married her cos she was d breadwinner.
2, he is cheating
3, she doesnt need his income to survive cos he doesnt share with her and d kids anyway and he is infact, taking from hers
4. she is going emotionally insane (which is very sad and depressing for anyone).
please if u cannot take it anymore, u might be happier divorcing him. Marriage is not by force. Please dont stay
at all costs b4 it takes a wrong turn. It is not easy living with a guy that makes u miserable everyday.

yea stop giving him money also

oh my. dats so sad. I feel for you, it must be hard giving away ur income and the loser has d audacity to cheat.
Please talk to him (even though i am not sure it would work given that he has no empathy or feelings, afterall
he is a rip off and cheater). My mind tells me he would likely bcome abusive verbally and emotionally.
My candid advice is for you to talk to him first, then start saving atleast 30% of your monthly income or any amount u think
would be reasonable enough to sustain you and your kids for 6 months in d likely event that u divorce him.

@ M M M, our family isnt igbo; we r a mix of other groups in naija (me and cousin).infact our extended families r full of all kinds of ppl from all over. we r all very close so all dis ethnic ish = non issue
@ omega25red, you have a point; I didnt think of dat, but u right-i might end up being blamed. Meanwhile, I am not giving unsought advice though,
she keeps coming to talk and seek emotional and psychological support as well as advice. But I will tread softly. I dont want trouble; infact, if it gets too much,
I will keep away.
@pleep, if he needs her more than she needs him, then y doesn't he call enough?is it really possible to call d one u love only once a week?? do any of u guys do dat or have u done dat in  d past while in love?

no need for PM, u can discuss it all here

yea it is true dat his degree is Biological Sciences(I believe from Oxford Uni)

she should brush morning and night, rinse mouth with salted water after each meal and then rinse properly with fresh cold water

@190, i hv seen many of your posts and u r always jesting or dissing.
sha be gentle with me o. i am jus seeking opinions

lmao @ calculating millions. Its my closest cousin in dis ish, dats y its my business, OKAY?
I know about d money cos she tells mii everything, and of course her bf tells her and shows her some
of these things. afterall they r 2geda. she knows some of d hotel/commercial construction projects he gets,
i am rily close to her so i h8 to see her go through
such a difficult problem.

its just so difficult explaining to her. sometimes he comes back in "begging mode" and it is also obvious
he has no one else. Only thing i feel is dat, he is probably looking for someone else cos i think
he is stalling her. As soon as he finds another person, he ll be gone.
but he has promised her marriage though.
IMO, some ppl are getting into dis marriage game in naija cos of pressure
not based on strong compatibility or strong feelings for each other.
I dont see y he promised her marriage when he is not all dat into her. SMH

@Justwise, dats not the point. I guess d answer is 1000 millions makes a billion. But that's besides d point/

Zahnda, u make a lot of sense. tnx

So there is this guy. He has recently started a new real-estate business that requires a lot of travel.
He only calls his gf once a week to see how she is doing. His excuse - Nigeria is soo hard (He just finished MBA from
top school in Europe) and he has to travel to different states to actually meet stakeholders in person so
that he can land contracts and stuff. Every time gf calls, he is either getting on a plane or getting off one (she can
hear the airport announcements in the background). Guy wants to be a naira billionaire within 5 yrs. Already made
a 100million naira in 2 years since business started.
Is it jusifiable that there is no time to call dis girl in his quest to make money? or is it normal to talk to a girl u love
once a week?


NB:They have a long distance relationship in which guy is no longer in Europe but girl is and he sees her
every eight weeks (for 5 days).

How can I coontact you. wats d name of your ad agency. the business has offices in lagos and is
registered in the delaware, US and nigeria. I ll much prefer to discuss in private if dat is fine with u.

does anybody know a good immigration lawyer practicing in the UK. Preferably a Nigerian person.

Please someone reply, it is urgent! thanks (this is what is on my mind)

does anybody know a good immigration lawyer practicing in the UK. Preferably a Nigerian person.

Please someone reply, it is urgent! thanks

does anybody know a good immigration lawyer practicing in the UK. Preferably a Nigerian person.

Please someone reply, it is urgent! thanks

Hello guys:

I have a relative in need of immigration advice from a UK lawyer. She prefers to speak to a Naija person.
Can anyone help with someone she can call (a website, email, phone number?)? Please it is urgent.

Thank you.

Hello Ladies:

Lets discuss the challenges we face both in Nigeria and in Diaspora in generating sales,
customers, more clients or key business partnerships. If you are in business school, ur
input is also valuable.

Thanks

ok first apologies for posting this unrelated comment here but i posted it here https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-697802.0.html yesterday and no one helped/responded:

So here is d deal. I am not in Nigeria at the moment though I was home for a year last year till sometime this year.

Basically, I want to generate more sales for my business and I am looking for the ideal give-away prize or prizes
to use. I want to do a Refer A friend type of sales promotion where I give the top 10 referees
gifts of ipod shuffles and iPad2 cases or whatever is not more than $50 each.
But I am not sure if these prizes are encouraging enough to my market.

Please can you suggest any prizes that I can use to encourage woo people
to telling their friends and family about my products and service.
What is the new trend in naija now (the thing that everyone wants to have) especially
the internet savvy type people. or may b hair do giveaway or skincare products?
Thanks in advance

Hello Guys;

So here is d deal. I am not in Nigeria at the moment though I was home for a year last year till sometime this year.

Basically, I want to generate more sales for my business and I am looking for the ideal give-away prize or prizes
to use. I want to do a Refer A friend type of sales promotion where I give the top 10 referees
gifts of ipod shuffles and iPad2 cases or whatever is not more than $50 each.
But I am not sure if these prizes are encouraging enough to my market.

Please can you suggest any prizes that I can use to encourage woo people
to telling their friends and family about my products and service.
What is the new trend in naija now (the thing that everyone wants to have) especially
the internet savvy type people.
Thanks in advance

Hello Guys:

I will be starting my Postgraduate degree at Uni. of Edinburgh in Sept 2010, and I wanted to see if there are any
Nigerian students like myself in the area. I am kind of also looking for accommodation right now as well
and wouldnt mind having Naija flatmates. In any case, I might end up living on campus, so the Nigerian flatmate
situation is just another option I am open to so that I can live off campus.
Anyhow, please if u are a naija person in that area, please shoot me an email at tanonymous3@gmail.com

later