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adexpa:
Good day NLers, hope we are all doing well and acting safe in this tough(covid19) season. I pray God (Allah) keep us all.
This topic dropped in my mind and i feel like sharing my thought about it. Contributions, Subtraction and reasonable Criticisms are all welcome.

Self esteem is a big thing that individual needs to be watchful of in our engagements and endeavors. Bad self esteem kills homes, careers, and relationships.

Definition;
Self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth or person. It can sometimes seen as self-worth or self-respect.

Signs of Healthy Self-Esteem;
Confidence
Ability to say no
Positive outlook
Ability to see overall strengths and weaknesses and accept them
Negative experiences don't impact overall perspective
Ability to express your needs

Signs of Low Self-Esteem;
Negative outlook
Lack of confidence
Inability to express your needs
Focus on your weaknesses
Excessive feelings of shame, depression, or anxiety
Belief that others are better than you
Trouble accepting positive feedback
Intense fear of failure

Factors That Influence Self-Esteem
There are different factors that can influence self-esteem, but it is often our experiences that form the basis for overall self-esteem e.g critical or negative assessments from caregivers, family members, and friends, inner thinking, age, any potential illnesses, disabilities, or physical limitations, and your job can affect your self-esteem.

How does it play out in our lifes/homes/relationships
Many people today are running away from their weaknesses instead of embracing and accepting them, and that has informed different decisions and steps we made in our lifes/relationships/marriages. Many people goes into a relationship/marriage just to boost their self esteem, some men/women are not brilliant or good enough in some areas but instead of accepting their weaknesses, they will tend to look for someone to cover-up, some men married pretty women just to cover-up one bad side of their life and tend to show the world(friends) that they are good and perfect in all area. some women/men decided to go for rich men/women just to cover one weak part of their life. some men goes for low class women in order to have say on every issues in their home and that will help them boost their ego; they believed by controlling their wife, they can gain their full potential or respect. some people tend to go for big cars, expensive clothes and different material things just to cover-up their weaknesses.

There are many different things we go for in life just to cover-up our weaknesses, but all these thing never played the role we employed or bought them for all the time and we are always left devastated and rejected at any point those things failed us. We can not run from the reality of who we are.

How we showcase our low self esteem;
1) When a man feel threatened when his wife is excelling and doing great in her career/businesses.
2) When a man feel threatened/insecure when he sees his wife talking to another man.
3) when a woman feel threatened/insecure when she sees her husband talking to another woman.
4) When a man feel threatened/insecure when his wife raises objection on issues at home.
5) When man/woman feel threatened when his/her friend is doing well in his/her career/businesses.
and many more.................................

how do we handle self esteem for a better lifes/homes/relationships
Since we all know that low self esteem is as a result of weaknesses inherent in us, we have to accept the fact that we can not erase low self but we can increase high self esteem to lower low self esteem to the bearable level by reducing our attention towards our weaknesses and focus more on our strengths. We need to evaluate and examine ourselves in order to know our weaknesses and strengths and therefore do little we can do to manage our weaknesses but focus more on our strengths.

what are we to do
1) Identify your strengths and focus more on it by improving and get better on it.
2) identify your weaknesses and do little to manage it because you might not be able to erase it.
3) Keep upgrading and updating yourself both on your weaknesses and your strengths, but more focus on your strengths.

By identifying and accepting who we are, and ready to work on both our weaknesses and strengths, we tend not to involve in relationship/marriage in order to cover-up our weaknesses but to be a better person. If we accept out true colour, we will embrace and celebrate our partners for the grace( their strengths) up their lives and not been threatened/insecure anytime they exhibit their strengths.

Great Nairalanders,
Great Homes
Great LIfes
Great Relationships.

This is amazing.

Shut geerrra here

haryomikun:
Just like the 5th track in my mixtape,,,, KOKAN AYE


Meanwhile,,,
DJ haywire is about burst your speakers again with the mixx master, DJ haywire. This is a mix of the latest 9ja music and is considerably smaller in megabytes size compared to the last edition mix....
Below is the tracklist

1.Krept and Konan ft. Jeremih x Wizkid x Davido x Ice Prince x Fuse ODG - Freak Of The Week
2.Wande_Coal_-_My_Favorite
3.Patoranking Ft. Wande Coal - My Woman, My Everything
4.Wizkid - Expensive Shit
5.Sheyman - Kokan Aye
6.Hennessy Ft 2face & Wizkid - DanceGo (Eau de vie)
7.DJ Xclusive Ft. Davido - Wo Le |
8.DJ Xclusive Ft. CDQ & Lil Kesh - Dami Si
9.Tekno - Anything
10.DAVIDO ft UHURU + DJ BUCKZ - THE SOUND
11.Uhuru ft Wizkid - Duze
12.MC Galaxy - Komolop Cholop
13.Runtown Ft Uhuru - The Banger
14.Jefak x Nedo ft. Stringz - Koko Below
15.Wande Coal Ashimapeyin
16.Vector - Shiga ft Tools
17.Daboy - Bolenbe_prod_by_Antras 18.Orezi - Shuperu Remix ft Davido
19.Reminisce - SKiLASHii
20.Omo Akin - Ijo Oloti Remix ft. Skales
21.Olamide - BOBO
22.Phyno X Olamide Ft Lil'Kesh - Ladi
23.Sexy Steel - SISI
24.Mo'Blow - Wiggle Ft. May D 25.LIL KESH FT Viktoh - Efejoku
26.Kiss Daniel - Laye
27.Timaya Some More
28.DJ Spinall ft. Timaya - Excuse Me
29.Terry G ft. Wizkid, Phyno & Runtown - Knack Am
30.Masterkraft ft. CDQ, Olamide & Davido - Indomie (Remix)
31.Lil Kesh - Gbese

This mix will get you dancing when you least expect it to and even give hustlers more inspiration when hustling *winks*
Click the download button and get ready to groove guys!

The download link is Datafilehost.com/d/dfd4bf61

Muhfucka

afolayangs:
There are polite ways of doing things like this. However, where no union exist, you need to explore option like your suggestion box in the office.

furthermore my own personal idea is that is not a must you work for them so just find suitable employment elsewhere

Like it's easy to get a Job else whr

ECOTERRORS:
Is it your money or did he beg you for kidney? Allow him to enjoy the kleighlights now and keep money to support him when the going goes wrong

I wonder ohh

SUGARBEE:
I just hope he wouldn't be like koko master (dbanj) who never invested in the future tho.. Goodluck to him #myPlaintainboi

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Fool.....who tell you say D'banj no invest

]Dat guy is nt dead rada sleeping to make up d Bleep news


Aseh oshii

[quote author=DashMeYansh post=37429244][b][i][right][size=10pt][font=Cursive][color=#770077]KANYE WEST GOOD music sucked all the talent outta his long thing. ILLUMINATI CONFIRMED :



Dondii [quote author=DashMeYansh post=37429244][b][i][right][size=10pt][font=Cursive][color=#770077]KANYE WEST GOOD music sucked all the talent outta his long thing. ILLUMINATI CONFIRMED :



Dondii

Loving it


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kennygee:
Our Celebs and their fake and exorbitant life style.

Idris Elba is way richer than Dbanj and you don't see him in all those mumu chains and Glasses.

You'll never find Bill Gates, Aliko Dangote and Femi Otedola looking like this. They look simple.

The bank balance and Forbes does the talking.

Huh!!!! You yawk u evn make forbes.....nd wateva chain dey choos to wear itz non of ur biz.....for d record dah chain is called Jesus Piece.....enof to chng ur story......lmao

LadyBoss1:
Shes an Artist ... Sings

lool

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