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guys this is my take on this touching matter:
I am married for two years and I can feel what is happening. If you note how the poster presented the case, she was kind of conceding that she was the guilty party.
These things happen in a marriage and it has, unfortunately, happened to me before and it was really something similar, I tried to get out because I knew I was losing my temper but my hubby would not let me and BANG!. I adore my wife and we are really, really in love and I am very much a born-again christian but these things happen, no matter how disciplined you are, sometimes. Now I am 34 and I have NEVER HIT ANYBODY ELSE IN MY LIFE , so I definitely am not violent and I know a lot of people look up to me.

Now with all due respect to women, they can say things that would drive their husbands mad sometimes but notwithstanding men should still be men enough not to hit their wives.
but @poster, let calling the police be the last choice , in fact dont ever do it. it never really achieves anything good but it is guaranteed to bring bad things. Imagine if my wife called the police on me the time it happened to us? it would have destroyed all of us. But we wlked through it and we are even happier.
All the people talking about police,divorce etc are talking rubbish, what guarantees do you have that if for some reason you decide to let your husband go to jail and you separate you wont get a worse man? besides, I dont think this is a case of a bad guy. just that emotions were running high. he was even trying to run, same as me, I wasnt better than that guy but I have learnt more things now and I believe you have a very good husband.
The key to solving things are: 1. prayer and 2. talk extensively through it.
make a list of the things you are doing wrong (verbal / abusive nature might be one) and determine to change. stick it somewhere in your bedroom and get your husband to do the same. talk every end of the month to see how much progress you have made. Review things.
as per your husband having not returned home yet, please call him, go to his office and say sorry. Every man needs to feel like a king. Afterwards, he will make his own apology , then try my advice after this.

This worked for us, hope it would work for you. Besides, talk to his mother(assuming she is a supportive mum, mine always is supportive of my wife.) .
Another thing, never let a single lady, most especially these westernized ones advice you on marriage issue , I beg of you. Or else you will destroy the good thing God has created for you.
A word they say,
may the peace of GOD take control in your home. Amen

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