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OlawaleBammie:
OP were u later forced to marry that ur cousin husband??

No .... I am married to someone else

Intergrated:
Go ahead and extend a helping hand. It makes you better than her. Please do help her.

Thank you

When I was staying with her... my dad and siblings she had showed me shege pro max ... if my mum didn't rushed to picked me up maybe I wouldn't be alive to tell the story..... the issue is my dad passed away last year .... my stepmum and her 4 children are really suffering.... she begged me for help since September but I ignored her message...... I am married .....I did my traditional marriage in April this year.. ...
.my hubby and I are capable of helping her to start up something for her to cater for her children .... or to even accommodate one of her children .... her only daughter who is 12 and put her in school..... although my mum and her family will be against it ..... because we all hate her with a passion ...but I am find it hard to help her because of what she has done to me....... she had mistreated me to the extend of asking her children to beat and spit on me ..... and she will be laughing asking them to do it harder.... I know is not the children faults they were innocent ......they only did what they mum asked them to do ..... but still I don't feel like helping them .... just to clarify my late dad was a irresponsible father to me..... he denied the pregnancy and returned back after 12 years he took me to his house where his wife and children mistreated me .... most of the abused were happening in his presence .... but he didn't care...... my mum picked me up from him when I was 14....... he didn't bothered about me .... my mum and grand mum had suffered a lot for me... althought they've done so may upsetting things in the past that made me so angry but I still love them because they were there for me when I needed them the most.... please if I were you will you help them ?

It is really stressful.

mariahAngel:
If you don't mind me asking; are you from the north region?

Your story is just too incredible to be true.

We are not from the North region.... I know my story sound unbelievable but its true... Sometime I wish I had the power to change family from both sides but my mum side is the worst one

crackhaus:
I refuse to believe that a single family made up of grown humans can be this stupid.

This is too ridiculous.

They are not stupid but lazy... They don't want to hustle only want to depend on the guy when they are not even sure if his money is genuine or not... The want to sell me just because of money.

cococandy:
Married one cousin
Impregnated the other cousin
Now wants to marry a third cousin.

Not to mention another mistress with 2 kids for him.
And that’s the only ones you guys know. Probably has multitudes of girlfriends littered around.

Smh

My mum and uncle don't care about that... all the care about his money... He is been taking advantages of my family because he knows they are so greedy... I don't blame him but I blame my shameful family

mardis:
If i were in your shoes, i will pack my things in the night and go stay at a good friend's place. Note, they friend that nobody in my family knows. I will switch off my phone or get an alternate line to be using. I will disown myself before they disown me. I can't imagine staying in an unhappy marriage all because i want to please my people.

Arrant nonsense

I don't have any friends who lives alone... I don't want to go far away because of my job and was thinking about renting a room not far away from my workplace and I don't know if I will be able to survive on 35k a month..

aroundtheearth:
Do you have any sensible males in your family who can tell the idiot off, OR talk some sense into your mom and grandma?

My uncle is the only male in the family

I had created this account for this purpose
am 22 going to be 23 in December.... I've a cousin sister who is been married since 2012 without a child yet... Her husband is actually my uncle childhood friend.... He is very rich and my cousin is happy in her marriage but this guy is not serious... He has pregnated 2 women including my own cousin who was 19 then... He has caused my aunty his wife mother to disowned everyone in the family including us who were innocents ..... She changed her location and phone number... We don't even know where she is only her children knows but they don't tell us ... Imagine a man who only came to my family to cause nothing but trouble and pain... My cousin sister has a 5 years son for him... He takes good care of the boy... His other girlfriend has 2 children for him which is taking care of.... This guy has been disturbing me since I was 19 which I refused...now he told my mum he want to marry me which she has agreed.... My mum and uncle are pressuring me to accept his proposal because of the money they don't want him to spend the money elsewhere... How can I marry my own cousin husband and the same man who caused so much troubles in my family... My mum and uncle doesn't care about what had happened in the past... All the care about is the money... How wil my own cousin feel when she will heard about my marriage with her own husband and what about her mum who disowned us... How will she take this news... I don't want to hurt my cousin but my mum and uncle are on my neck even my grandma has agreed.... I refuse to marry him and my mum says she will disown me... I want to run away from home and go to my dad's house but my step mother is very wicked.... I don't know how to survive with my shameful family.. I hate everything about them... I am working and my salary is 35k I don't know if I will be able to survive on 35k salary... I want to to leave as soon as possible... Note I have a boyfriend who live alone but I don't want to stay with him before marriage.... Please advice me i am depressed...