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novakk:
I earlier posted this story:
https://www.nairaland.com/5694171/4-out-5-pastors-said

In the initial writeup, I said how someone I wasn't getting along with someone I was dating, prayed about it with different people since we were very serious, and how majority said we were meant to be together. I however wasn't fully convinced as we seemed to be different, constantly having little issues, different views and values in life.

Moving to today...
I decided to move on from the supposed "wife". I went with someone that gives me peace of mind. I also thought its better not to live my life based on "pastor said this or that"
However, I've had recurring dreams about the 2nd lady (that gives me peace of mind). The dreams always center around us been together and she suddenly leaving, I won't be able to find her later in the dream. 2 days ago, was the 3rd dream of the same nature.

I am now slightly worried, I don't want to give in to dreams, and want to believe I can pray things are successful and go well between us. Conversely, based on our traditions, maybe I am the one not listening to advice. Between the 1st lady and I are no longer on talking terms.

What do you think? What advice do you have on how best to move forward? I want to learn from other's experience, those who have traveled this road before me.

Use a spreadsheet similar to this, don't rush and make a life long mistake:
https://www.nairaland.com/5804570/updated-how-choose-wife-young

I read the bill in detail. I agree with most of it except the part that says "Whistling and Winking' can land a lecture in jail. Anyway the House of Reps have not passed it so it is not yet law. Hopefully they will amend that part. Otherwise it looks good.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/07/whistling-winking-now-offences-as-senate-passes-sexual-harassment-bill/

hoygift:
A woman who her identity is not disclosed. Shared a story of her she has been sleeping with her boss, to get promoted, without having any serious accomplishment in her place of work. And adviced women to make good use of their pus*y, that it's not only used to urinate and see period

Where does she rank on this spreadsheet: https://www.nairaland.com/5804570/updated-how-choose-wife-young

Choose your female companions wisely.

HammedOlanaija:
You know when making a choice for marriage....someone has to deal with African girls,especially nigerian girls big tummy that doesn't make them a pretty much attractive.Can you skip the tummy part of her and still go on to marry her?

The Physical aspect is negotiable. How ever there are other characteristics that are not negotiable.

See full list and how to make a decision here: https://www.nairaland.com/5804570/updated-how-choose-wife-young

Experience is a great teacher.

What an old man can see sitting down, a young man cannot see standing up.

When a young man stumbles he immediately looks forward and keeps going, when an old man stumbles he first looks back to see the stone that made him stumble before going on.

Updated Version:

https://www.nairaland.com/5804570/updated-how-choose-wife-young

A lot of young men are confused on how to go about choosing a wife. This choice is not to be taken lightly, it will affect the course of the rest of your life. Many make emotional decisions.To make sure you are making a logical decision, create a spreadsheet similar to the one below.
May GOD HELP YOU, YOU WILL NEED IT.

Feminists may not like this, but this post is not for them.