Horlohlah:
Not getting answers(lack of communication) leads to overthinking which further leads to assumption.

You should not leave your partner in a position that render him/her clueless about whats going with you cos if he/she cares,that will bother them and cause them to start coming up with assumptions since you left them hanging in the first place. Effective communication goes a long way in a relationship...no amount of detail is useless cos relationship is a ship that needs two sailor for a steady sailing.

For instance, If you know you will get really busy...tell your partner before it begin...that way he/she wont feel like something else is happening...after telling him/her,when you actually become unavailable due to your busy schedule...keep reminding him/her that its all cos of your schedule and they will know you have them in mind. Never leave your partner hanging or clueless

LoRdCaT:
Good to know. After working during the day, you should be resting at night. Stop disturbing us with all this COB balderdash.

You sure seem to be enjoying this 'disturbance'.
You compliment is welcome

LoRdCaT:
+yawns+ Miss find a day job.

I have one. Thanks for your thoughts

Welcome to The COB

mhisbliss:
without insecurity they wont be any what if's or assumptions

mhisbliss:
thanks for the mention, relationships aren't really my thing because I've been through and the experience wasn't what i thought it'd be, but from my little experience I'd say assumptions is the least of problems in relationships this days, there's a lot of other things you should consider like lack of communication, doubt, differences, the way you see life, insecurity, over protective nature and possessiveness, in the face of all this i don't think mere assumptions should be a case to worry about, i mean most of those things i mentioned can birth assumptions,

For instance
An insecure guy who happened to get a beautiful lady who he feels he doesn't deserve might start feeling insecure especially when it becomes obvious that guys are into his lady, any calls, standing close a guy, little change in composure, he starts feeling the insecurity which will give birth to doubts, then assumptions,

Instead of asking her, he wouldn't, he'll feel paranoid and try to play detective, now that's lack of communication, he becomes over possessive and protective, etc

you solve a problem by treating the root cause otherwise it becomes a reoccurring problem, so assumptions is the least of problems in a relationship

Hope i made sense

Hi dear..

Good evening and welcome to The COB.

YES you made sense

The beauty of having a conversation is that it allows us explore different angles to a given angles before settling for one.

And explore we shall

Jayson1:
But it's all good, we shall overcome.

Amen

Jayson1:
Nice one OP.


This thread is just the definition of what Romance Section should be.

Thank you very much.

I hope that we get to spice it up and make the thread very interesting.

Please help by tagging anyone you know is going through some hassle in their love life.

Remilekun101:
okay

Welcome to The COB

mamagee3:
Hi all, my boyfriend is mean to me. Ever since we met, I have been nice to him but he treats me badly and doesn't do anything for me.

It seems like no matter how nice I am, he is unmoved and isn't bent at all.

He never takes me out on a proper date nor do anything for me. I feel like he hates me because he thinks I am not so pretty nor goodlooking to be seen with him.

I feel like I am dealing with a psycopath with no human feelings.

What do I do?

Anuoluwapo23:
i met a guy Last week in a conference i went for at work, And we started talking and i gave him my contactand later he bought me an infinix Zero 4 Phone and he only promised to be my friend oooo but later i get to sense he only wants to have me but i told him on Sunday that we cant date and he told me i cant date anybody else......Dat if i try to they will not last with me What should i do oooo coz he keeps disturbing my peace...please Help me...Thanks Happy New Week.