Hi buddy, when I read your touching write up, it just reminded me of myself;years ago.
Best advice is to continue to be yourself because that is what would bring you a long lasting relationship.
It is important to start relationships with friendship so you don't overflow the other person emotionally with a long term plan they might not have thought about yet. Remember the person you seek might have other things on their minds like their education, career, family activities whilst not thinking much about relationship with a partner.

The way most ladies think about relationship changes as they grow older, it seems you might be thinking a bit long term.

Now on a personal level, I asked a few 'special' ladies out or at least started a live friendship with some and didn't get the response I wanted but I realised that I became much more comfortable amongst the ladies and had a lot of female friends that I didn't expect anything more than friendship. As it happen the next lady I was interested in happened to be the best friend of one of female friends, my friendship was instrumental to starting a relationship with that special lady.

Now looking back to over 20 years, I have had the opportunity to ask some of the ladies that said no to me about their responses, one said she didn't think I was serious about her, another said I was too nice and felt she was too young to settle down before having 'fun' but my 'special' girl said she just didn't know why she said no.

To summarise build up yourself in every way focus on your future, start a friendship - expect something but not too much and see how things go.
I am now in my 40s married to a beautiful woman whom I lost my virginity to at the age of 29 (the only woman I have slept with) with about 80% of my friends being female and now having cut back on some friendship as you become a magnet once you taken by another woman.

This a call for a decent feedback; relating to a deceased British Nigerian. I have read through 4 pages of comments and there is really only 2 relevant information to help find the deceased roots.
There is time to play and a time to be serious. Please, if you can help one or the other; Get in touch with the OP.
It would be nice to at least give some closure to his family back home, who will be wondering what he was up to.
As per comments on burial and stuff, the UK doesn't deport any corpse. As a matter of fact his family could atleast get some financial reward from his life in the UK.
Ps: Ignorance is not an excuse for making silly and insensitive comments here. Thanks have a great day all!

i will like to add my two pence here

i suppose it depends on whether you have any plans to marry her and live the rest of your lives together.

if so, this advice might help, there is an adge that says whatever you will not accept as a wealthy person is also not acceptavle if your are poor. basically there must be some qualities that you admire in her that brought you together, so now to the things you will like to change, if you are ever going to be happy you nmust vbe willing to put in the time to make that change happen.
it is true you can't change someone who doesn't want to change but if they do care they will make an effort, i guess you can call it a compromise.
good luck for the future.

i came to Nigeria, for thre and half weeks and i can confirm that the electricity has definitely improved more so in the last 2 weeks. being used to 24 hours electricity over here, i was not expecting that in naija but over the last three days we spent we had electricity of about 22 hours of each day, this is no mean feat bearing in mind that i grew up in Nigeria and i can say i have never experienced that much stability with NEPA. so keep the good work up President Goodluck ( don't really like using acting president).

ps:first reply for me, joined Nairaland during my holiday.