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Positive change has always been hard on Nigerians. This happened in lagos when Fashola used an iron hand on lagosians.. Both yorubas and other tribes alike. Nobody can honestly say he didn't do more than expected... Anyone dats gonna rule lagos must be a visionary leader who is not just a politician but someone who wants his name remembered for good ...just like fashola had embossed his name in our hearts. May the best person for the position win!

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News of Robin Williams’s death due to apparent
suicide, said to be a result of suffering severe
depression, is terribly sad. But to say taking
your own life because of such an illness is a
‘selfish’ act does nothing but insult the
deceased, potentially cause more harm and
reveal a staggering ignorance of mental health
problems.
Many words can be used to describe Robin Williams.
‘Selfish’ should not be one of them.
News broke that Robin Williams had
passed away, due to apparent suicide following
severe depression. As the vast majority of
people will likely have already said, this was
terribly heart-breaking news.
Such an iconic, talented and beloved figure will have no
shortage of tributes paid to him and his
incredible legacy. It’s also worth noting that
Robin Williams was open about his mental
health issues.
However, despite the tremendous amount of
love and admiration for Williams being
expressed pretty much everywhere right now,
there are still those who can’t seem to resist the
opportunity to criticise, as they do these days
whenever a celebrated or successful person
commits suicide. You may have come across
this yourself; people who refer to the suicide as
“selfish”. People will utter/post phrases such as
“to do that to your family is just selfish”, or “to
commit suicide when you’ve got so much going
for you is pure selfishness”, or variations
thereof.
If you are such a person who has expressed
these views or similar for whatever reason,
here’s why you’re wrong, or at the very least
misinformed, and could be doing more harm in
the long run.

Depression IS an illness

Depression, the clinical condition, could really
use a different name. At present, the word
“depressed” can be applied to both people who
are a bit miserable and those with a genuine
debilitating mood disorder. Ergo, it seems
people are often very quick to dismiss
depression as a minor, trivial concern. After all,
everyone gets depressed now and again, don’t
they? Don’t know why these people are
complaining so much.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again;
dismissing the concerns of a genuine depression
sufferer on the grounds that you’ve been
miserable and got over it is like dismissing the
issues faced by someone who’s had to have
their arm amputated because you once had a
paper cut and it didn’t bother you. Depression
is a genuine debilitating condition, and being in
“a bit of a funk” isn’t. The fact that mental
illness doesn’t receive the same sympathy/acknowledgement as physical illness is often
referenced, and it’s a valid point.
If you haven’t had it, you don’t have the right to dismiss those who have/do. You may disagree, and that’s your
prerogative, but there are decades’ worth of
evidence saying you’re wrong.
Depression doesn’t discriminate
How, many seem to wonder, could someone
with so much going for them, possibly feel
depressed to the point of suicide? With all the
money/fame/family/success they have, to be
depressed makes no sense?
Admittedly, there’s a certain amount of logic to
this. But, and this is important, depression (like
all mental illnesses) typically doesn’t take
personal factors into account. Mental illness can
affect anyone. We’ve all heard of the “madness”
of King George III; if mental illness won’t spare
someone who, at the time, was one of the most
powerful well-bred humans alive, why would it
spare someone just because they have a film
career?
Granted, those with worse lives are probably
going to be exposed to the greater number of
risk factors for depression, but that doesn’t
mean those with reduced likelihood of exposure
to hardships or tragic events are immune.
Smoking may be a major cause of lung cancer,
but non-smokers can end up with it. And a
person’s lifestyle doesn’t automatically reduce
their suffering. Depression doesn’t work like
that. And even if it did, where’s the cut-off
point? Who would we consider “too successful”
to be ill?
Depression is not ‘logical’
If we’re being optimistic, it could be said that
most of those describing suicide from
depression as selfish are doing so from a
position of ignorance. Perhaps they think that
those with depression make some sort of table
or chart with the pros and cons of suicide and,
despite the pros being far more numerous,
selfishly opt for suicide anyway?
This is, of course, nonsensical. One of the main
problems with mental illness is that is prevents
you from behaving or thinking
“normally” (although what that means is a
discussion for another time). A depression
sufferer is not thinking like a non-sufferer in the
same way that someone who’s drowning is not
“breathing air” like a person on land is. The
situation is different. From the sufferers
perspective, their self-worth may be so low,
their outlook so bleak, that their families/
friends/fans would be a lot better off without
them in the world, ergo their suicide is actually
intended as an act of generosity? Some might
find such a conclusion an offensive assumption,
but it is no more so than accusations of
selfishness.
The “selfish” accusation also often implies that
there are other options the sufferer has, but has
chosen suicide. Or that it’s the “easy way out”.
There are many ways to describe the sort of
suffering that overrides a survival instinct that
has evolved over millions of years, but “easy”
isn’t an obvious one to go for. Perhaps none of it
makes sense from a logical perspective, but
insisting on logical thinking from someone in
the grips of a mental illness is like insisting that
someone with a broken leg walks normally;
logically, you shouldn’t do that.
Stephen Fry, in his interview on Richard
Herring’s podcast, had a brilliant explanation
about how depression doesn’t make you think
logically, or automatically confide in friends
and family. I won’t spoil it by revealing it here,
but I will say it involves genital warts.
Accusations of selfishness are themselves selfish?
Say you don’t agree with any of the above, that
you still maintain that for someone with a
successful career and family to commit suicide
is selfish. Fine. Your opinion, you’re entitled to
have it, however much we may disagree.
But why would you want to publicly declare
that the recently deceased is selfish? Especially
when the news has only just broken, and people
are clearly sad about the whole thing? Why is
getting in to criticise the deceased when they’ve
only just passed so important to you? What
service are you providing by doing so, that
makes you so justified in throwing accusations
of selfishness around?
Do you think that depression is “fashionable?”
And by criticising the sufferers you can deter
others from “joining in”? Granted, we hear
more about depression than we used to these
days, but then we know what it is now. We see a
lot more photos from Mars these days, because
we have the means of doing so now, not because
it’s suddenly trendy.
Perhaps you are trying to deter anyone else who
might read your views from considering suicide
themselves? Given that statistics suggest that
one in four people suffer some sort of mental
health problem, this isn’t that unlikely an
occurrence. But if someone is genuinely
depressed and feels their life is worthless,
seeing that others consider their feeling selfish
can surely only emphasise their own self-
loathing and bleakness? It suggests that people
will hate them even in death.
Maybe you know some people who have
“attempted” suicide purely for attention? Fair
enough; a debatable conclusion, but even if
you’re right, so what? Surely someone who
succeeds at committing suicide is a genuine
sufferer who deserves our sympathy?
Perhaps you feel that those expressing sorrow
and sadness are wrong and you need to show
them that you know better, no matter how
upsetting they may find it? And this is unselfish
behaviour how, exactly?
A brilliant but tortured individual has taken his
own life, and this is a tragedy. But levelling
ignorant accusations of selfishness certainly
won’t prevent this from happening again.
People should never be made to feel worse for
suffering from something beyond their control.
If you feel you are dealing with depression, the
charity MIND has many helpful sources, but
there are many other avenues you can pursue.
Only God can help us live a happy life free from the dangers of depression.

Religios groupings has made humans forget d place humanity and d concept of kind. Lions in their prides and cows in there herd.
Is dis publication a form of predation ?? May i remind u dat dis man is already dead?? And u dont know cos u havent gone beyond and crossed back.
One advice 2 d op.
Do something worthwhile.

Leaders today can see the need and advantages of having a good name. Even d deeds of her husband radiates on her. Happy birthday Mama Awo.