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I don't agree that the husband is a COWARD by turning his attention to his wife and not the dude.

Most dudes live by the principle 'don't hate the player, hate the game' - For all we know the dude doesnt know she is married, so as far as he is concnered he is openly flirting with this girl and she is happily reciprocating his actions, therefore he has done absolutely nothing wrong, thus the husband has every right to turn his attentions to the wife.

Although i do agree with Mrs C, beating her does not make it right, and I don't condone that, but as a person you have to understand you get out of a relationship what you put in, so if you choose to openly disrespect your husband, then you can't be suprised when he choses to also disrespect you to (in his own way).

Dude I've read most versions of the bible, the Qu'ran and a lot of other religious texts), not only do most of these SHARE the same stories, which logic will tell you they probably came from the same source.

@deniyor
When i was younger I would certainly agree with you, but with maturity I have to say I don't agree at all. It all depends on the foundations of your relationship. If you tried to get with a girl, and it didnt work and you still talk - then yes, you can never really truly be friends, but I have many black WOMEN not GIRLS who have brought so much into my life.

But yes in repsonse to your question - us males are visual creatures, the thought of screwing one of my female friends has crossed my mind, but so has the thought of growing a 3rd arm, lol it would never become a reality,

If one of my GENUINE female friends came into my bed naked i can hand on heart say i wouldnt screw her, during uni many of my friends would sleep over at my place - nothing ever happened. It' s not that serious - theres too many chicks out there for me to be SOO hungry that I have to screw everything in close proximity to me.

@ MzDarkSkin
I agree this debate could go on forever, but in reality I don't diagree with anything you've said other than, you comment that YOUR calibre of black women is common - NB I have actually never been with a white girl in my life, and don't have any intentions to change this!!

No one is giving up on black girls at all!! All im saying is the search for these Queen's is difficult, and if you encounter too many of the wrong types, some brothers just lose hope. In the UK where I live and in the US where I was born I see the same thing.

My friend said she reckons the issue is due toi the lack of fathers in the modern day black family, a lot of girls dont actually know what a good black man is, whats your thoughts on that?

The one fundamental thing most people miss when they read the bible is THEY ARE NOT EVEN REFERRING TO THE SAME GOD!!!

Im very sure your mother is a damn good woman and so is mine who raised me as a single parent from birth, but nonetheless that generation of black women are fading.

The traditonal strong black women always looked for sustaniable qualities in a man which would form a strong, stable relationship. Nowadays I see soo many of my friends with these HUGE ticksheets, car-yes, house-yes, 6ft 2 - yes, 100K a year - yes. All these superficial qualities that black women now seem to desire have caused this void - without remembering what they are actully bringing to the table!

Lets be real if NO black girl would ever even come near you because you were this bad guy/gangster - how many dudes you reckon would choose that life path.

If black girls didnt generally take kindness for weakness - what is your incentive for even being nice to these chicks -your too nice she takes you for a MUMU.

When Michelle met Barack he was much more junior than him, she had the ability to see what he would BECOME rather than what he is NOW, this kind of quality is rare these days!!

But yes I do agree there is no excuse for runnin away from your responiblity as a father, but thats not what these guys are running from, its the women that the run from.

It may seem like im black girl bashing but I aint, there are women out there still like this, but its no where near as common as you make out.

Imagine the issue is how to get your illicit affair off your mind, rather than why you are busy messing around with someone elses husband.

LOOOL @ Mr Cork

"village girl who hasnt seen aeroplane before" HAHAHAHA

I dnt agree, I think men and women can be friends.

Maybe it works for some people. I know an oyibo couple who have an open marriage and 3 kids. Such a strange relationship but I guess it works for them.

I see your point dude, but in essence bringing it up is the same as suggesting it.

Its like 'bringing up' in conversation with your girl that you wouldn't be opposed to having a party, she's gonna assume your asking her.

You may have said your not intrested, but if your actions didnt match this, you may still have been leading him on, i.e. he probably thought he still had a chance.

I do not think his actions are childish tho!!

Dude probably has chicks in heavy rotation and just felt guilty. You would have to be increibly trusting to allow your girl to sleep around, then think somewhere down the line when your together that she will still be faithful.

Apart from that he's still being honest, I thought that's what chicks wanted?

It seems it will lead to heartbreak one way or another for the dude, so its probably better to do it sooner rather than later.

But out of intrest, what made you realise after 5 years that you didn't love him?

If done in a non desperate way I dnt see much of an issue with it, although in truth we guys like a challenge, and when its too easy we lose intrest - sometimes,

Possibly black brtish, but the american chicks go on like guys in my experience.

@ MzDarkSkin

I disagree, Black women like this are CERTAINLY hard to find. If they were as common as you say 1/3 black mothers (US) wouldn't be single.

One chick told me today the reason why girls like bad guys is because nice guys tend to be nice to everyone while bad guys are only nice to them, making them feel special.

You misunderstand my post.

I'm merely saying if you use money to impress these girls why then vex when they chase your money?

After reading some of the posts on this forum, I struggle to understand what most of the Naija guys complain about when it comes to Naija girls.

If you go and borrow your friend’s car, wear your most pointy shoes, and flash all sorts of drinks towards these girls at a Bar, why are you surprised that you attract these golddiggers?? - If you live a genuine life of luxury this shouldn’t bother you.

Rather than be angry at these golddiggers you should feel sorry for them. As far as I’m concerned when you chose to finance your life by jumping from bed to bed, I know straightway you have never really felt or experienced genuine love, because anyone who firstly loves themselves will not cheapen themselves to live life like this.

#Justmythoughts