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Nazgul:
Stop sounding like a child. Have you put yourself in her shoes, what if she gives you have virginity and you leave her what then? Cos from the way you're sounding here, you're the one who's most likely to abscond once you get what you want not she. That's why she's having mixed feelings towards sleeping with you cos she's even more scared than you are.

Work towards growing your relationship with her, go and see her parents, let them at least know you even if you aren't ready financially, let them know that you're serious with their daughter. Not crying everyday for her panties.

This is what I'll do then , thanks

Olajydeey:
What is paining u exactly is that,you might regret it,
If after shes left u without having sex with her.
If you don't have sex with this lady,would u die?
Theres always a First time for Everything

Maybe you should let her Go back to her home town,
Then let her be visiting once in a while & you could continue satisfying your human pleasure with other ladies

I won't deny this , I'm scared of that also ...but on the other hand I won't die if she doesn't agree, but she letting me know we were gon be doing that and she came to say something else is what is pissing me off...for the fact that she is staying in my house and I'm taking care of her is also something not everyone can do .....so if after all this she tend stop leave me what will I do

Nazgul:
So what is it you're afraid of? Why not wait like she suggested and focus on your business, that should be more important to you than popping her Cherry.

I'm scared of been jilted on.... I'm scared of disappointment, you know nigeria girls , their matter nor good!!.... That's what if making me scared....if she come leave me nko?

Olajydeey:
These are words of A selfish Man.

Una just de say selfish selfish......what if I'm doing all and waiting for her and she ends up jilting me

I literally do all for her , i provide the feeding , when big funds comes in , I give her outta it for her upkeep even when she's staying with me...we don't sleep without gen cus of heat , even when I'm alone I still sleep without gen ...but I try to make her comfortable as ever. ......

Nazgul:
Stop seeing negativity when there is none.

A girl will leave you for the following reasons.

1. If she notices that you're a chronic cheat/womanizer.

2. You're the type who yells at her and even beat her up whenever you're angry.

3. You lie a lot and you're cunning. Most of the things you told her about yourself, are all lies.

4. You're only interested in sex. You care less about her life, dreams, visions, goals...etc.

5. You don't behave or act like someone who has a goal to achieve. You're so comfortable with your current state and show very little effort in career advancement.

6. You are very bossy, controlling, demanding.

7. She doesn't feel comfortable sharing personal secrets about herself or family with you.

8. She doesn't enjoy your company.

9. You complain and nag over irrelevant issues.

If you're guilty of one or more of these, then change cos she'll definitely leave you for a guy with much better prospects, she she won't be the only one to do so. Other girls will leave you as well.

1. I'm not , she knows all my contacts I don't even lock my phone, I even showed her my convo with a girl that wanted a relationship with me , she was ready to do all....even when I told her I had a girlfriend she said shes okay with being my second girlfriend and I should be having sex with her, my girl saw everything

2. I only yell at her....Ive never beaten her, and after I yell at her ,once I'm calm I draw her closer and fell her the reason why I acted that way....and also apologize to her


3. I'm not the kinda guys that lie about themselves because of pussy ..she knows me more than I even know her self...


4.tho I'm interested in sex, but I care about everything.... I'm even putting her through what I'm doing so she could also make money for herself........even planning on opening a store for her cus where I am is a really busy student area so I've got lot of plans

5. Not at all

6.im not bossy, tho I love been in control of my girl

7. She is ...tho not everything

8.she does enjoy it ..and even get angry sometimes when I go out with my friends, she prefers us spending time together

9. I complain I know.....but I don't see any issue as irrelevant


So I don't see any reason why she's still acting this way

themaestro08:
Argue all you want, and say whatever you like, still doesn't negate my stance. As for you and your manipulative gf, I don commot my hand for una matter . Your confusion just begins.

Lol

coming2america:
YOU CANT MARRY HER, ARE YOU DEAF?
24yr old boy, with a 22/yr old. The only thing you can do now is fvck, her thats all.
In 10yrs sef you wont be ready and sont even remember this girls name.

Her husband will show up in the next 3yrs of her life, else she will also joing the gang of old, old bitter haaanty dem by 30.

So what you are saying is that I should just try to Bleep her then as we can't get married ..so I don't loss on both side ??

themaestro08:
You know little to nothing bro... A virgin could be wide and deep down there. It's nothing new. Maybe you haven't cone across them but they do exist.

I've had a fair taste of girls , even during my schooling days...but I've never been with a virgin, she's the first!!..... The fact still remains that you can never easily penetrate a virgin ...you can never!!

Nazgul:
I can never be in your shoes cos I've been begging God for a decent girl to marry. And if any miraculously comes my way, I'll happily embrace the opportunity and get married to her, rather than defile and convert her into a street girl, then complain of how useless women are, whereas you're the ones making them useless.

All indecent girls were once decent, getting a decent girl today doesn't mean she can't be indecent tomorrow
The question is that what if by playing decent she ends up with someone else after I've stay with her

Odoogu:
This kinda things are no big deal to decipher and sort, but cos of your ulterior motives: hence you are confused.
You agreed she come over cos she promised you sex ( her virginity) ... Not minding whatever ( work related and such) she was doing in ilorin. You played the "sex" card and she is git you locked in. What else did you bargain with her?
She is a smart one( the girl), looks like she could use you as a stepping stone.
Cos you never gonna have the "cookie" until she done.
And good luck with your 15 mil account balance.

Lol she stays with her parents , Ive spoken to her mum about 2 times and her mum knows we are in a relationship, but I don't think her mum know she's staying at my place cus she also has her own place over here in delta, tho the rent will soon expire
I agreed her coming over cus I wanted a future with us both and I see a future with us....so the sex was just a side something, she knows the kinda person I am ...that's why we talked about sex also cus she know I love it ..
If you read well you will see we have agreed along time on the sex issues ,only for her to come over and said another cus she said she couldn't tell me on phone


And let be sincere here....many of you guys talking here can't do without sex in your relationship ...so you all shouldn't make me feel like a bad person

Nazgul:
You are selfish and only interested in satisfying your selfish desires.

Tomorrow you will come back here on Nairaland to lament how you can't find any decent girl to marry. Whereas you had them on a platter of gold but immaturity and selfishness made you loose them.

Okay I get your point my friend, so what exactly is the advise you have for me
Cus I really love her and would love to spend the rest of my life with her.....the only thing I think is giving us issues is sex , so what do you advise me to do

doggedfighter:
You can't foot marriage but your dick can foot virginity

You think marriage is a small thing....it's not even about footing the bills, my little savings , combine with my parents and her parents can get us married but right now that's not in my agenda...I need to make a lot of money on my own before married...

Nazgul:
You are seriously sick.

I'm not sick my friend, maybe when you are in my shoes you will understand what I'm talking about

doggedfighter:
You sound confused and mad here.

You really want to take the virginity by all means without marriage.

Are you nuts or what?

Gerrrrrarahia

Lol .. I'm not nut !!... She knows the kinda person I am, so why accepting when you ain't ready or is she thinking I'll be able to wait til marriage?
What if the marriage is gon be in 2 years time...so no sex til then
My point is that if she knows she wasn't willing she for no just come back ni......

themaestro08:
Understand this: A tight vagina doesn't mean a girl is a Virgin, or less promiscuous, to believe this is naïvity and ignorance.

Some sluts are tight down there despite their promiscuity, it all boils down to body difference.

The earlier you know this the better for you

There is not how a slut will be so tight that it will hinder penetration , as far as she isn't a virgin, It must penetrate especially when she's really wet...all will be opened!!..... Even when my girl is really dripping wet , I see that as a opportunity , but still on still it doesn't go in no matter how I tried , even my fingers find it hard so I know what I'm talking about

[quote author=doggedfighter post=97817045]You sound confused and mad here[/quote

I'm not confused and I'm not mad, I find everything I want in her but I'm still not ready to get married ....will you foot the marriage bills for me my friend?...
Or will you take care of my kids ??.
I know what I want and Ive a target

The5DME:
I can't read that thing you wrote up there. No paragraphs, damn my eyes.

I'm not sure you read anything cus there are more than.5 paragraphs there
I don't understand what else you mean by paragraphs

Nazgul:
Read what you just wrote...you're not ready for the responsibilities yet you want to disvirgin her. She has told you she isn't ready but nevertheless you still want to do it. Isn't that selfishness?

Disvirgining her will only be beneficial to you since she isn't ready and you aren't ready to bear the consequences of whatever comes after it. That's selfishness.

And you claiming not to get her pregnant is just laughable cos there's no way a girl will live with you and you'll keep using protection every time you both have sex. Protection works when she's visiting not when you both are staying together, how long will you keep buying condoms before you damn the consequences and start diving in raw, most especially when it's the middle of the night and you've run out of stock? And you've already acknowledged here that you've got a very high libido.

Like I said, respect her decision and let her be. For her to to graduate from the University as a virgin means she's decent, I don't know how else you want her to prove it to you. So stop pestering her everyday for sex, or you'll give her the impression that her virginity is the only thing you care about and leave you for good.

Whenever you're financially ready, you can go and see her parents. That's what responsible men do when they meet decent girls.

If while having sex she gets pregnant, then good luck and goodness also , but I'm not even talking of condoms, I dated a girl for 2years + while growing up, I don't think we used condoms more than 5 times in a period of 2 years , she has a very high libido more than me, she never got pregnant until at the end of our relationship and she decided to terminate it herself even tho I wanted her to keep it.......I told her twas her decision and I was ready for whatever she thought was right

What I'm saying is that we could have sex without her getting pregnant, I'm almost perfect at withdrawing and I despise condoms that's why I don't have random sex just one person is enough for me..

You ain't thinking to her own end , what if she ends up with someone else after I've waited for her or she ends up sleeping with someone else ?? Or leaving me what will I do, knowing I didn't have sex with her and she left for another person

Kapeter:
Everyone strugles at a point in time. You both are educated so you two have something(Certificate) to be everything.

I've actually never thought of settling down while still struggling, maybe cus I've got really big ambitions, I've always thought my settling down will be when I've All basic things of life including a fat account

baralatie:
bush!
if you want to marry then marry
if you no ready shift comot for road.
leave her for the man who is ready to marry her


if na Bleep you want to Bleep
go find olosho

Okay thanks, I've also told her that if she sees someone else ready to get married she should move on, will send her back home, we can still date distantly

themaestro08:
What happened to protection and contraceptives? Last time i checked this things are available and easy to get.

Don't be surprised this so-called virgin had rode numerous dicks of varying sizes .

I'm a street guy tho educated, cus I grew up in the hood (okokomaiko to be precised).... So no girl can play me that way , by telling me she's a virgin without me confirming her virginity., Even my fingers find it hard entering her and I've never even put my fingers in her fully cus she's fucking tight and feels a lot of pain

themaestro08:
You are a fool . Just see how a girl is playing mind games on you, all in the name of sex. Believe she is a Virgin at your own risk. Dude smash that girl and allow things flow naturally if you can't dump her manipulative ass if you can.

No insult please , bro no girl can tell me shes a virgin without me confirming....we have tried multiple times and penetration ain't even easy cus I'm big, especially when we re in really deep romance

In excess, what I'm trying to say is that...I've seen and confirmed she's a virgin, even when I spoke to the former guy she was dating he told me same thing

Kapeter:
Then marry her. She doesn't want sex before marriage. She came to you in Delta so you two can work on the relationship no to come fornicate with you. You claim to love her and would love to marry her and you are stable to some extent now, you two are already living together just like you two would be after marriage, so it's not as if marriage is more diff than that except few external interference after. You can marry her now and plan your child birthing. It's not a must you start giving birth immediately after marriage, you can wait for when u two will be ready.

And if you no wan marry am then now then go sati yaself for outside then o.

Yea we could also get married now, but it will still cause a lot even for a very simple marriage , and I've not still gather enough for that....I'm not sure her parents would want a struggling guy

coming2america:
Oga..you are not ready
You cant even marry her. You will marry in like 8yrs by which time she will be 30 and old cargo for you.

You guys will still.break up soon, and another guy will disvirgin her. No cap.

Fvck her now, and prepare your mind for the break up when it comes. The person shes gon marry is already in his 30's now, probably working with MTN or Dangote.

Know this and know peace

I understand your point also friend, but I see everything I want in a wife in her ,just that I'm not ready for marriage, and that's why I'm also trying to have sex with her cus I don't know what might happen tomorrow, she could break up with me and the next guy she meets she gives him her virginity immediately....and I don't want that

Nazgul:
You've not saved up enough money to get married and have children yet you want to have sex with her?

You sound very selfish, you only want to satisfy your urge but isn't ready for the responsibilities associated with your actions.

Leave that girl alone until you're financially ready to settle down then go and see her parents.

I'm not a selfish person , and I also consider a lot of stuffs also, the issue now is that what if while waiting for her she jilt me and end up with someone else ...and I'm also ready for the responsibilities , just that marriage is not yet in my agenda now, not cus I'm promiscuous but cus I'm not ready to let a child suffer ...we could also have sex without her getting pregnant

Kapeter:
Then marry her. She doesn't want sex before marriage. She came to you in Delta so you two can work on the relationship no to come fornicate with you.

Both we are working on the relationship also, but I also need sex that's the issue...I've always been sexually active and she knows all this, so why come when she knows she won't be able to satisfy me also, the truth is that we engage in almost everything apart from penetration, I've also made her achieve orgasm severally with penetration...but I can't keep satisfy her when she doesn't do same to me

fati2001:
congrats

Why

Met this girl early November 2019 , we were both serving corp members, we actually flowed along, talking late into the night and so on. After the festive period 2019 December we came back to our PPA and we started dating, I found out she was a virgin. I was asurprised cus I never expected a graduate to still keep her virginity till nysc, we kept on dating tho , along the line I passed out of service and went back home (p.s I reside in lagos and shes from ilorin). The distance was giving me a lot of issues so we broke up around April 2020
Fast forward to October last year, I came back to delta state( that's where I served ) and she was almost done with her service, so things took off from there , I begged her back and we started dating once more, even tho she had a new guy she was dating ( based in ilorin also)she said she never stopped loving me and I also discovered she was still a virgin after that long period of time I left her.
We talked about everything and she said she was willing to leave the guy , and also allow me take her virginity, she went back home after her service that October, with the plan of coming back November so we could build a future together. She was also ready to give me her virginity cus we talked allot about sex even while she was away ( she was ready right from the first time we broke up ) but me going back home after my service change a lot of things .
She came back from ilorin December and we started living together, she does a lot of things , all house chores and cook also , I also assist her , especially in cooking because I also love cooking and like preparing my dishes.
We kept on postponing the time we were gon have sex, like I wanted it to be her decision , never wanted to force her. One month passed she wasn't still ready, Only for her to tell me that there's something attached to her virginity, that anyone that disvirgin her would be the person to marry her , that I have to go see her parents first before I can take her virginity. That really got me pissed off cus she knows I'm very sexually active and got a high libido, but I'm this kinda guy that sticks to one person, as far as I am getting all my needs from her......what pissed me off was the fact that she came over from ilorin to delta state knowing we weren't going to have sex and she never told me all that on phone ( probably I would have had a rethink about her coming back)
I'm 24 and shes 22 , the issue now is that tho I'm okay and I have a online job I'm doing that fetches me money atleast for upkeep and also to spare cus I live in a comfortable self con apartment with every thing I need in it..., But Ive not yet gather enough money to be able to get married, cus I don't want to bring a child into this world to suffer , so I made up my mind to be very comfortable with atleast 10 to 15million in my account before I can be able to get married so I can give my children what they need.
Now she has been staying with me up to two months now without sex ,cus I don't want to cheat on her and she's not even ready to offer the sex . I'm getting frustrated everyday with her attitude and I'm also planning of sending her back to ilorin so we can just be dating distantly till we are ready to get married and I can be free to be with any one I want to over here , cus I've got a lot of girls over here ready to be with me but I pushed all of them away cus of her , now she's no ready to give me the one thing lacking in our relationship
I don't believe in relationship without sex, cus if I'm keeping her here to get married and she ends up jilting me I'll be the one at loss....and I don't want that ...
I don't know what to do and I really want to know if sending her back to ilorin is the best option so we can date distantly, cus I really don't think if I can cope with lack of sex and I can't be with someone else cus she stays at my place
Please I need your matured advice with no insults please

P.S she's a very good girl and from a good family, and I'm also a good guy from a good family and I also wouldn't like to loss her , but my libido is telling on me

Too much sense ���� smart

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
What does she mean by "Her former husband is not available"? That means the woman has already been married multiple number of times since her previous husband is not the posters father

The funny thing is that every member believes only what his own pastor says

Nazgul:
The only problem I have with these prophesies is that why do they differ from one another?

Why will 10 different pastors make a prophesy from God concerning Nigeria in the new year and it will all be different from each other.

When God has a plan for a country, what he reveals to pastor A should be the same thing pastor B, C, D...etc, should see. When everyone starts releasing different prophesies claiming it's from God, the whole prophecy stuff becomes a laughing stock.

And sadly that's what we're experiencing in Nigeria today.

A man known as Mr Tunde Thomas recently died after discovering his two kids weren't his, but belongs to his wife's md at FCMB
Really sad!!!....DNA test should be a must in every marriages, E GET WHY!!!!

Please how did you do it boss.... please can you let me into it

JayDaily:
well let me answer this.

Had a relation who was so much into sports betting, lost so much, he was a *siful safant*...

as soon as his salary drops, uncle has a sure game already...

before you know, few days after salary, he quarreling with his family and every one, due to frustration, he was almost always bitter.

Along the line he met a guy in a viewing center around GRA ph. they got talking and got acquainted and that was it.

Guy was a full time into sports and making good off it.

Carried uncle siful safant along and with time, there was changes.

soon Uncle wasn't bitter anymore and everyone was happy with his new self.

I met him in 2015 to show me the way, and he kept me hanging till 2016.

2016 January I almost killed him with disturbance because it wasn't easy for me then.

uncle told me what's up, ask for a 100k capital which I provided and that was it.

along the line I discovered a strategy which we imputed into the system and today we are making more.


so 3 years down the line by Devine grace I'm now contented.

so it hasn't been easy but there's certainly no regrets today.

PS.

Im not promoting this because it can be huge loss when you don't know what you doing.

this has now been a full time business to me and our small circle.