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Career › Re: How Do I Handle A Toxic Workplace I Caused Myself by Thisisa(op): 8:02pm On Dec 19, 2025

Ok so here’s what happened

I talked too much. I work in a government agency…
A lot of people here usually are comfortable with some extreme moves.

The people I trusted with some things have eventually used them against me.

Career › Re: How Do I Handle A Toxic Workplace I Caused Myself by Thisisa(op): 1:40am On Dec 19, 2025

chatinent:
By this you mean you talked too much?

Well, they used my weaknesses against me

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Career › How Do I Handle A Toxic Workplace I Caused Myself by Thisisa(op): 11:00pm On Dec 18, 2025

Well I cause this myself

I trusted this set of people now they turn against me

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Romance › Re: Why Am I Suddenly Losing Interest In Christian Ladies by Thisisa(op): 9:48pm On Aug 05, 2025

RenaissanceGuy:
Are you aware that anyone who goes to church is generally termed as a Christian or calls himself a Christian, whether the person is an armed robber, ritualist, male/female prøstîtüte, etc? But there's a very unique term for people who are truly Christian and it's called 'born again Christians'. So these girls you're meeting, do they tell you they're born again?? Or you simply saw them in the same church you attend and concluded they're firebrand virgins??

They claim to be born again

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Romance › Why Am I Suddenly Losing Interest In Christian Ladies by Thisisa(op): 11:20am On Aug 03, 2025

I am Christian I believe in Jesus.

My experience with so called Christian ladies so far haven't been so palatable.

There should be a difference between a Christian and an unbeliever but it seems this Christian ladies are actually the worse.

The are manipulative
The lack actual fear of God. ( They only pretend)
They are don't actually love you. They love what you bring to the table.

Ok, soo I used to think if you are at least a Christian lady you should know how to keep yourself sexually till you are married. But most of the ladies are the ones that will even initiate the sex. At the end of the day they will feel remorse and ask for forgiveness from God.
If another opportunity present it self again they will initiate for the sex again and ask for forgiveness God's forgiveness.
Maybe it's the ladies I have met. Maybe they are just church attenders.

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Romance › Re: I Just Ended This Short Term Relationship by Thisisa: 7:24pm On Jul 06, 2025

I would advise you call the lady and apologise to her

Romance › How To Improve My Relationship With People by Thisisa(op): 10:56pm On Apr 02, 2024

I most say this is the umpteenth time I am posting something of this nature.

I lack self confidence,
I have low self esteem,
I have never dated a woman and I am 29!
I am extremely lonely I have no friend.

I am really not happy with the way I lead my life. People say I might be introverted or shy but I have seen people more introverted than I am speak boldly and assertively.

When it comes to speaking in public or in meeting I really fumble. They had reduced my self confidence drastically
Tho I am a supervisor in my job. But I find it had to tell my team to perform a task or an action. They make complaint and they are very difficult to tell to do something. Till I shout/raise my voice. Which I most times regret.

I have done everything I can. When I was in school I joined the library and debating society just to improve myself.

I am really tired of this.

Romance › Re: I Am So Sick And Tired Of This! by Thisisa(op): 2:48am On Oct 11, 2023

Purvan:
Move on

Spin more plates

Stop being a Simpson

Improve your life

Socialise

Lose weight if you're fat

Get a hobby or a job

Thank you... But you know I have done all these...
Thanks to God I have greatly improved my live!

Romance › Re: I Am So Sick And Tired Of This! by Thisisa(op): 2:47am On Oct 11, 2023

danzaki63:
Even if Gorilla has money girls will flock to him, make plenty money and you will drive them crazy. my friend make money .

You must be a billionaire

Romance › Re: I Am So Sick And Tired Of This! by Thisisa(op): 11:59pm On Oct 09, 2023

I NEED HELP!!!!!!

Romance › Re: I Am So Sick And Tired Of This! by Thisisa(op): 11:58pm On Oct 09, 2023

Gee64:
Everything is wrong with you, boy!
You are jobless!

I ain't jobless bro.

But don't just know what's wrong!

Romance › Re: I Am So Sick And Tired Of This! by Thisisa(op): 11:51pm On Oct 09, 2023

I really appreciate all these inputs

Not like I am not chasing money oo.

But I don't just understand what is wrong!

Like this obsession is too freaking long.

And the person in question and move the h. On.
Like someone said here she's probably receiving the d on a daily basis.

Don't know why I think about her always.

Tho I had good intentions for her. But it's didn't work out.

Tho I don't have a girl (why would I?)

but I am just tired of this mehn. 3good years? undecided

Romance › Re: I Am So Sick And Tired Of This! by Thisisa(op): 8:19pm On Oct 09, 2023

FreeIgboho:
Very easy.
Make lots of money.
Offer her the lots of money. Problem solved.
Poverty is your problem not girl!

This is not about money my bro.

I don't just understand this I swear what is wrong.. she is not doing I know this. But my mind is always fixated to her thought. I don tire I swear

Romance › Re: I Am So Sick And Tired Of This! by Thisisa(op): 8:18pm On Oct 09, 2023

The girl obviously will have someone else... Why in the name of the... Am always thinking about her consistently everytime.

Hope nothing is wrong!

I am just tired of this sad

Romance › I Am So Sick And Tired Of This! by Thisisa(op): 8:12pm On Oct 09, 2023*

I have always delved into doing thing that's eventually are detrimental to me. In other to stop this obsession however I still find myself thinkkng about her...

Romance › Re: As An Introverted Guy How Can I Get A Good Lady by Thisisa(op): 8:03pm On Aug 07, 2023

WeirdAlien:
I don't know your age bracket. But I assume you're late teenage or young adult.
The ones you're attracted to are probably attractive because some guy(s) dated her in her crude form and refined her (physically and/or emotionally), or that relationship experience just refined her. This is usually the case at your age bracket. Seriously consider this.

The day a fox touches the red comb on a rooster's head, and realises it's not fire, and his fear of it was unwarranted, that day it will have the rooster for dinner.
Don't be afraid of rejection. It's part of the stuff. Just like the rooster's comb. Any guy that has never been rejected has never asked a "normal" girl out.
Ask a girl out anyhow you can say your feelings. There's no best way to express it, and there's no best words to say.

Thanks.

Tho I am edging towards my 30

Romance › As An Introverted Guy How Can I Get A Good Lady by Thisisa(op): 7:18pm On Aug 06, 2023

I am so bored and lonely.

I have tried dating a lady in the past but it didn't last up to 3months. That's the closest I have been to a relationship.

I approached another lady... Tho i wasn't bold enough to ask her out when at the initial stage of meeting her(because of fear of reject)... She got tired and she friendzoned. Later asked her out the but she rejected me.

The problem is I haven't found any lady I can date. Most decent ladies are already in a relationship. Those not in a relationship I am not attracted to them.

Romance › How Do I Overcome Being Bored by Thisisa(op): 8:11pm On May 18, 2023

Thank God for everything.

However, I have been extremely lonely and I am always bored. I really don't have close friends. I am single. I am just bored.

But can I do to make my life better

Romance › Re: Is by Thisisa: 6:39am On Feb 06, 2022

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 11:37pm On Dec 18, 2021

Well so time's up I am perfectly moving on. I need to develop myself. And work on myself a whole lot

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 2:54pm On Dec 17, 2021

Nancyeke:
My humble assessment she wanted you guys to friends. Shed given you the I'd pray about it sentence to be nice enough.
I will advise you to stop thinking about her has more but rather just a good friend

Okay

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 5:41am On Dec 17, 2021*

HedwigesMaduro:
Some girls like relationship to start with a direct flow from friendship to commitment. Asking her puts a bump in that flow. Let it flow naturally. Don't ask her again. Act like you're her man and see how she'll be all yours.

Lol. I have done that and she almost slipped away

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 5:40am On Dec 17, 2021

FriendsAndFans:
You are a rebound bro just tell her you want sex with her... Make it straight to the point, that you want a lot of sex and much more of it

Never gonna tell her that

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 11:20pm On Dec 16, 2021

Jeremani:
U still post this story again?

Yes I need to. So I won't make a rash, decision I could regret later

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 11:19pm On Dec 16, 2021

helinues:
Work on yourself, your financial, your emotions before thinking of working on any relationship

Well I have been working on myself. Even when I am not yet financially buoyant a good woman is already admiring me. I needed to shoot my shot to know if she truely want me or it's just a friendship stuff.

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 7:07pm On Dec 16, 2021

TMTR:
You lack abundance mentally and I am not even talking financially

In what aspect then

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 4:59pm On Dec 16, 2021

I need more advise

Romance › Re: Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 11:45am On Dec 16, 2021

SmellySperm:
You're her backup. Incase her ticket cut, she'll fall back to u. Her prayer is still processing...

Hmm

Romance › Advise Me by Thisisa(op): 9:35am On Dec 16, 2021

My experience with ladies hasn't been all nice. Though I hadn't been a SIMP.

Latest experience is a girl I met DEC 2019. We were good friends. One of the mistake I made was that I didn't shoot my shot early.

We continued to be friend. I noticed she's very nice girl. She given me a lot bought nice cloth for me on my bday. And all.

So about 6month after I met her. That was last I asked that we should be in a relationship. She said no.

And later on started moving even more closer to me.

I lost my job August last year.

I felt we began to be distant. So I left it that way. Till fdbuary March this year. When she called and questioned why I have not been chatting, calling etc.

Ever since, she calls me etc, and even assist me in terms of job search. she had even giving money when I was seriously down financially even with asking.

She tells me misses me and all sort.

I was non committal because I really do not know what she wants friendship or relationship.

So the beginning of last month I spoke to her again about been in a relationship, she said she would pray about. Ever since no communication from her.

Will it be a good advise for me to chat her. And what can I say?

Romance › Re: What Does She Mean By This by Thisisa(op): 3:50pm On Nov 29, 2021

arthurwillia

Romance › Re: What Can I Do by Thisisa: 6:56am On Nov 29, 2021

arthurwillia:
All that one na scam

Romance › Re: What Does She Mean By This by Thisisa(op): 6:45am On Nov 29, 2021*

arthurwillia:
My brother it’s scam, hear yourself, the second time and it’s still let me pray about it, I assure you in the two to three months you’ll hear no!! If she e wants you her prayer will be different

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