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Linda Ikeji needs to be sued for all the kobos she has ever earned , this is absolutely wrong. Proper verification should be sought before publishing stories, especially when kids are involved,besides permission should be sought before putting up or using pictures of children, be it a meme or true post!

Why not? If not?
But, you expect a man to go down on one knee to propose to you. Abeg, answer this question, you be him mama? Or what has he done to make him deserve those few minutes of punishment while you relish the moment? Or better put, what have you done to deserve such an uncommon "go down on one knee moment to propose marriage" scene.

To whom much is given, of him him or her, much is expected.

If you have done something wrong to get him upset then you should be able to apologise properly. When I say properly, I mean on your knees.
Taking him to bed would not and never, I repeat never resolve the issue, you would only succeed in sweeping the whole issue under the carpet.
Going on your knees to apologise, does not make you less of a woman. Call me traditional, oh yes, I get it I am very traditional to the core. And remember "pride comes before fall".
This is Africa! Get your priorities right.
Respect is reciprocal.
Gbam!!!

Hi there,

Haven read your little story, the only honest advise I can give to you is to find time to have a heart to heart talk with your wife. Women don't just react for no reason.

Let her know how you feel about the way things are currently happening within your marriage,what you wished and still wish for, remind her that you loved her so much then,nothing has changed feelings till now and that's why you chose her as your life partner on the wonderful journey called marriage. Tell her how much you want to grow old with her.

Subsequently,"request" of her what you have done and doing wrong, do not "demand" of her,for with "demand"comes force and or coercion,but "request" is more subtle. And do not push for an immediate answer lest you get the wrong one. If she does request for some time to think,please oblige that and put forth another request at a not too distant time for her response.

Communicate gently not with force,even when you are really upset,that does not certify you "stupid". It simply helps drive home a point to her that you are trying to work things out. If you asked me,I would say divorce is not the best option. Like my people would say"beheading yourself would not make your headache subside,it would only complicate the issue".
Try some patience and "communicate" not "just talk".
Try all your best to "listen" to her, "digest","process" all her "complaints" before acting upon them. When I say "acting" I mean "endeavour to resolve".
Lastly, plead with her to be of best behaviour whilst to do same, let her feel free to tell you what she thinks you are doing wrong, at the same time ,draw the lines between your immediate and extended families. Neither should interfere with the other .

I cannot tell you promisingly that the journey of marriage is all bliss,but I can assure you that it is not a straight road. The rough patches helps you grow wiser, but mostly it would always be an interesting and memory filled journey when you finally sit back to evaluate past moments.
Trust me,if you work as a team with your wife now, you would laugh about all these and even tell her that "there was a time you were so upset and you expressed your fears out on NL.
I wish you all the best on this journey.
Best of luck and have a happy married life.

@ OYB,

This is totally a different scenario , and i truly support this , for the purpose of evidence, and of cos , one needs to be extremely discreet about it. Cos , if not one could get done for it! even killed by so called "stray bullets''

Can u imagine , what the situation could have being, at the scene of this disgraceful act? people could have being pronounced dead, due to stray bullets.How could they engage in such stupid struggle with guns? I am sure those guns were loaded.I also have  pictures and videos,  shot with zoom and auto focus camera, i was quite far away and one would have thought i was only reviewing pictures, already taken, it was discreetly taken of Nigerian policemen ( Lag town) in  July 2009, of policemen  outrightly requesting and accepting 20naira!

Well, it's time  we realised that , what they want are positive publicity stunts and not of such , but at thesame time , they need to be exposed, !!!! Period.

As a graduate of law myself, the guy should know, that ignorance of the law is no excus! or , was he not taught that at the UNI. Well, wherever you visit , especially Africa, always enquire about what the laws of the land are, so as to know your rights as well as illegalities.

If he has just got back into the country, then he should know that such is quite illegal, i am not in support of the ill acts of the Nigerian police, but at thesame time , he is neither a Papz nor a journalist, so the police officers' consents should be sought before their pictures  are being shot, except for  evidence purposes, which to my mind i do not think was the case. If we could regard the laws of foreign countries ,  y not ours? Nigeria is a developing country, so we should always expect changes especially in evolution laws, rules and regulations. European & westerners did not just become law abiding citizens in a day!Let's Face it!!!

Basic truth is, i cannot get myself involved in any business with a faceless person! Very unrealistic , for the fact that he/she sounds credible on nairaland does not confirm the credibility of the person, transaction or business.

Beware, of dupes anywhere really, Nairaland , Village sq, FB,Twitter, anywhere, always look before you leap.

Outright show of disrespect for his unclothedness and height of irresponsibility. What a massive shame!

From the man's point of view MIL needs to apologise and take her leave, immediately. From the wife/ daughter's point of view, say a very BIG THANK YOU to the mother for creating a mighty crack that could cause her(daughter/wife) the so much worked for, marriage. Ultimately, take her mother back to wherever she came from, and warn her never to visit her house again. she'll continue to be the good daughter , bt the mum needs to be kept away from the daughter's matrimonial home. PLEAD WIV HER HUZZY!

Well, no comments! The story and situation is dicey.I neither believe it nor rule it out a 100%.

Well , for once i have never believed the speculation of ''baba obas'' being fathered by an igbo man. Yorubas are not known to be that nice , when it comes to the issue of ''omo ale yoruba'' especially the Egbas, where ''baba obas'' originates from. Good one to finally stick it in their faces that he is a true born. Igbos need not lay claims to him!

Trust and contentment are extremely essential in every relationship. A man should be free to look into his wife's bag and vice-versa. Partners should ensure a kind of trust , such that he or she can say to the partner, ''Could you answer my phone , please and take the message,  or rather tell the caller, i 'll ring back''  
But, my pips , most people cannot do that let alone , allow a peep into their so called ''hand/ carry bag''. It's so so sad and pitiful.

In essence , ''meeting'' should mean ''meeting'' and not ''bedding'' period!

It is so sad, that this is happening to Nigeria, at the age of 50,'' the dead have not died in vain, but their blood has watered the trees of Unity'' these were the words of the Nigerian President[ GEJ. A president without charisma, apologies to GEJ loyals. i thought for once he would bring about the so much needed change, but alas, i am yet to see or feel any change.

As i listened to the news, i could not help but cry for Nigeria, the news reflects no emotions, no respect for the dead or injured, rather, more minutes were spent praising the dignitaries and how much money that has being wasted.

Few days ago, Mrs GEJ gave out bags of rice , during this act of her's , lives were lost, but it was muted, no one protested against it, where did she get the money from?, who advised her to give out such gifts?. To my mind i strongly believe that she is trying to buy people into her husband's political party, and trying to create more enabling environment for her husband to actually become the elected president.









EW

Thank you Kobojunkie, the write up is just|Nigeria as it is! We need to realise as soon as we can that Naija needs change , and the change starts with each and every one of us. U and I.

Playmode or whatever  you call yourself, i can see that your brain is actually in playmode , cos there is no practicality in you praising MEND. what for? Innocents people lost their lives, and you are rejoicing , did you ever think that one of the casualties or dead could be a member of  your family?, and even if not , i feel you should have some human milk flowing within you,. But , i have also concluded as you concluded earlier to support MEND,that you have got water flowing in your veins and not blood. DUUUULLLLLL!

Get your acts together!