₦airaland Forum

segemint:
life really must go on.. If only tears could bring him back, am sure I would have revived him. I just have to do things to get it a bit off my mind sometimes

kathykathy:
jst chill u wld find one,,,bt hey! dont u av friends u like deir personality and everything u want in a woman?,,,for dat person to be ur friend dat means u like her,,,look round dere shld be a friend u are so compatible with,d best relationship most times are whom we aint jst lovers with bt friends,,,try and be more observant,,one of ur good friends might be the one for u,,try nd see,,good luck.

happyjuliet:
Well with ur last paragraph, its well within my right to do this : You are a very big fool and a round duns...


And as for ur question ... Bro believe me if you don't have a lady before making it in life you will not find a good girl o... Especially if you live in lagos... Nigerian girls only care about money and guys who have made it... So looking for a true companion is very dificult at this time. No matter how decent they look, they are succubusses.

However my advice will be for you to think back if there has ever been any girl in ur life who once loved or cared for you, even if you guys didn't date or have a relationship. If there has been any lady in ur life you once admired for their decency and modesty or a female best friend or a lady who was with you through a difficult time... I suggest you start tracking them down now and praying they are still single.
Its a risk as well but trust me you rather sleep with the devil you know.

Another advice would be to meet ur mum to help you be on the look out or if there is any girl she knows that's good, you guys could get intoduced and date for a while to see if things work out.

On ur own I suggest you go to church more regularly or mosque as the case maybe and always go alone and do ur things alone, don't try making friends and don't cat like u need a wife and don't go with ur car or expensively dressed,becos decent ladies are usually attracted to decent and modest looking guys, usually not extravagantly dressed or guys with expensive cars.
You could also go to beaches or any where you think you could meet ladies.... Always keep a low profile so ur not easily noticed,that way you can monitor them from a distance to know how they act and react.

When u eventually find anyone you like just walk up to her and make her ur friend.try getting close to her knowing her, and ur good to go.

And finally; I believe ur in ur late 20s or early 30s so you could just pick any girl from any where date her,u both go for an HIV and STDs test and if she is clean impregnate her when she puts to bed you re a father so anytime you eventually find love(even @ 40) you know you already have a child,and the child is about a year old,take ur child and start raising him.
Or you look for a beautiful tall well built lady and offer to pay her some money(you two will bargain) for her to have a child for you and when the deed is done u pay her off and when the child is big enuff you take him/her and you keep hustling till u find love.


U tink money can buy a child, no matter d amount u payed 2 his/her real Mother she will definitely come back 2 looking 4 her Child, and der are Decent ladies out der...stop saying der are not. Ok just assume dat Beautiful well built lady is ur Sister and she came 2 tell u a Man is offering 2 pay her a very huge some of MONEY 2 bear him a child and after dat he will take d Child away, How will u feel? Won't u feel Bad huh! Pray u never be in dis type of Situation.

kathykathy:
i'm very sure u av met good nd respectable girls arround u bt u were so blind to notice dem,cos maybe u dnt find their social status pleasing or maybe u find dem below ur standards,,,bt i will advice once u see a girl u like nd u are convinced in ur heart y not follow her,,,,for u annoucing ur social status would attract d kinda of girls u are running from,,,,follow ur heart,tk risk cos itx part of our existence

Gurgle:
but I think its good that divorce is an option. when it wasn't a lot of women (and men, but just because we're focusing on women here) were forced to suffer in unhappy and abusive marriages. its just that people are overdoing it these days

maybe in future it will balance out

Gurgle:
I would say that its happening all over the world. sad trend

that's not good. but do those women have anything in common that would explain why they are in that situation? or is that just the way it is

Incline:
Good luck, op.

LOL

Gurgle:
interesting.

yes broken marriages are terrible for all involved. but I think if you just keep focus, be prayerful and try not to avoid problems that could be solved in the first place by the grace of God that marriage wont break

publicenemy:
She will oo... If she is good enuff I would marry her and if she isn't I will give her an offer she can refuse or do anything within my power to get my child, legally or otherwise...but I will not hurt her as she will have to remain the mother of my child.

And as for the one I paid and had an agreement with... She dey craze? she would have signed an agreement.


And why do you think I am bitter? I am not. its just hard to find a decent woman nowadays trust me... And I hate to see broken marriage, it scares the shit out of me... Imagine the emotional trauma.

demoiselle:
hmmm! interesting

publicenemy:
I just edited that post... Go back and read it for ur own good.

publicenemy:
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Well with ur last paragraph, its well within my right to do this : You are a very big fool and a round duns...


And as for ur question ... Bro believe me if you don't have a lady before making it in life you will not find a good girl o... Especially if you live in lagos... Nigerian girls only care about money and guys who have made it... So looking for a true companion is very dificult at this time. No matter how decent they look, they are succubusses.

However my advice will be for you to think back if there has ever been any girl in ur life who once loved or cared for you, even if you guys didn't date or have a relationship. If there has been any lady in ur life you once admired for their decency and modesty or a female best friend or a lady who was with you through a difficult time... I suggest you start tracking them down now and praying they are still single.
Its a risk as well but trust me you rather sleep with the devil you know.

Another advice would be to meet ur mum to help you be on the look out or if there is any girl she knows that's good, you guys could get intoduced and date for a while to see if things work out.

On ur own I suggest you go to church more regularly or mosque as the case maybe and always go alone and do ur things alone, don't try making friends and don't cat like u need a wife and don't go with ur car or expensively dressed,becos decent ladies are usually attracted to decent and modest looking guys, usually not extravagantly dressed or guys with expensive cars.
You could also go to beaches or any where you think you could meet ladies.... Always keep a low profile so ur not easily noticed,that way you can monitor them from a distance to know how they act and react.

When u eventually find anyone you like just walk up to her and make her ur friend.try getting close to her knowing her, and ur good to go.

And finally; I believe ur in ur late 20s or early 30s so you could just pick any girl from any where date her,u both go for an HIV and STDs test and if she is clean impregnate her when she puts to bed you re a father so anytime you eventually find love(even @ 40) you know you already have a child,and the child is about a year old,take ur child and start raising him.
Or you look for a beautiful tall well built lady and offer to pay her some money(you two will bargain) for her to have a child for you and when the deed is done u pay her off and when the child is big enuff you take him/her and you keep hustling till u find love.

publicenemy:
Lol...

Gurgle:
yeah I think we're relatively conservative despite being associated with the worst kinds of crookery
indeed. good luck on your search! it seems youre going about it the right way

Gurgle:
nothing at all? wow

I would say that division happens all over the world, especially in 3rd world countries for a host of reasons. But in our typical Nigerian way it just goes overboard with us we cant do anything by halves, not even religious bigotry/ tribalism

really? if you don't mind me asking, what nationalities and what were some of the differences?

yeah that's true. although as the hypocrite I am I almost set something up for my cousin in another country when I came across somebody from there. they only thing that stopped me was that the person was a different race and its a big issue in my family

otherwise I would have been all up in there!

DEATHMACHINE:
Try Allen avenue

Gurgle:
are you concerned with tribe? or clan?

yeah that's true about family. well I didn't mean those busybody aunties and uncles who don't even care about your wellbeing except to find out the date of your wedding

I mean those cousins/relatives you can groove with, who can just invite you along to something and bring a nice girl, or connect you with somebody nearby, something laid back like that

zealot4me:
OK I m here @Op will u marry me

chudidonas:
Apt. Op do the needful. Sometimes, the best things in life comes from where we least expect.

Feranchek:
Lubbish

stinggy:
Respectable Naija ladies?
Have you tried badoo? The have only 'respectable' ladies, truss me

djkaycee001:
Hmmmmm.. Ur introduction about yourself is
Enchanting I bet you would see the ladies on your
Doorstep but it depends what u really, really want
Deep down your mind that would manifest... Bruh..
Becos many problem have been solve by internet
So also many problem have been created by it..
So my lovely sista, girlfriends and wild chicks like
The ladygaga, cynthia Morgan, madonna, rihanna,
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Give a broda a try nah...Lolz..
#Cynthia morgan this where we say Come and Do..
Wish u well as u find that special someone Bruh..
Mind you, they are all special..Lolz
U know that saying that say " varieties makes a whole " and " different colours makes up a rainbow " So make a choice and stand by it...
Wish u the best of Luck bruh..
Don't 4get to inform us, when u make a catch nor..

DEATHMACHINE:
Try Allen avenue