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Honestly speaking, I have learnt a lot from the comments here. The lady in question has also seen my post before I even reached out to her today. Sometimes we conclude too quickly. I feel bad for concluding way too fast. Although I now understand her reason for not using her igbo name on her business card, but I still believe nobody should be ashamed to speak their native language especially when they can speak the language. Let love lead! ya gazie! shalom.

OvertheTop:
tobeezman,
Please send this brother the Contact.
he is interested.

till cork grows tiff

thomas2024:
Noted. I’ve responded.

likewise
check your whatsapp

thomas2024:
You can mail me then. I’ll inform her beforehand…

lol
I don mail you.

thomas2024:
She is a Yoruba, from Ondo State.

Okay, I have good friends from Ondo state.

thomas2024:
lol😂 But to be sincere, this is not about my ex. The person I’m talking about is a relative like that, a responsible babe that I can vouch for. No scam zone ooo. If you’re ready, mail me, I’ll connect you together. You can call her on WhatsApp video call, and if she’s your type, especially when you eventually click, na 100 yam you go personally deliver to me ooo😂

lol 100 tubers of yam is not a problem, I can even double it with Joy. Make I see her first, If I like her na small thing. no pretense, Where is she from sef?

thomas2024:
You need babe right? Make I match-make one responsible babe for you. I see you as a serious person. If you’re ready, you can mail me

You wan use me compensate your ex wey you scatter her heart okwa ya??

DrChukki:
Nwanne, biko kee mmanya Ị na aṅụ ka m zụtara gi?

You acted exactly like me 🤝

Budweiser
Thanks. I have no regrets for taking that action.

Makapounse:
you're still young and never ready to be in serious relationship , stop this flimsy excuse

lol, I am not that young. 4th flour.

deavicky:
from ur words it appears u can’t marry in other tribe. If not why not just assume u are dating an English lady and move on. At least u will not do a traditional marriage.

Not true! I can marry from any tribe. You still don't get the point. If she was Yoruba or any other tribe and she wears her native name with pride, I would still be in touch and the connection will still be there.

franvincoop:
By that time my brother, erection go be na after every 8-10 hours.

I reject that IJN!

valentineuwakwe:
You and girl meet at an event n you forget to ask her for her name; isn't introduction meant to come in first?
So you wait til after the event before you begin ask
Dey play

Calm down and read again, abi na person explain the story give you?

spencekat:
Speaking the language depends on a lot of factors. Some of them were not taught by their 'forming' parents, especially those parents(father and mother) from the same tribe.

Understandable but what about her native name?

Originalsly:
According to you .... she said she does not like her name and she does not like speaking Igbo.

It was automatic for you to ask her why instead of ghosting her. How can you not ask her? ... that's the common sense follow up question? Instead you jump to conclusion and wasn't even man enough to tell her why the friendship has to end . If she later marries out of her tribe I'm sure you will join the bashing of Igbo professional women for not choosing their tribesmen.

Many people do not like their name ... that's common. She used her name on her business card ... is it the same name on her certificates? Is it the same name she used for the registration of her business? Is it the same name she uses for official business? She is wayyyy more business savvy than you. If she uses an Igbo name on her business card .... then the reality in Nigeria is she would be limiting herself to Igbo clients only. If she uses an English name she will be attracting more clients from all tribes because of the foreign is better mentality. She does not like speaking Igbo can be for the same reason .... she can lose clients who do not like Igbos. She is trying to stay neutral....it is good for business. That does not mean she has distanced herself from or rejected her culture. If it's no it too late ...I suggest you call her up ... let her know what went down and ask for another chance. But in the other hand ... she may not accept since she would reason if you can ghost her because of name ...what else would you ghost her for if she picks up the relationship?;

A man may want five things in a relationship ... he usually settles for three ....to get four he considers the woman his soul mate. To get all five is God sent but God rarely sends. You had four but be looking for five. Gooood luck.

I never really thought about that but She should have mentioned the native name regardless and then tell me why she does not like to bear the name which I will obviously understand because its my language too.

franvincoop:
Tobechukwu, dis table you are shaking, the leg no too good ooo.
Hmm...... abeg sun dey hot, make I find police station go complain first

complain about what? the weather is cool here.

ARISHEM:
Why not Kuku go to the village and find the 110% Igbo wife material or Igbo caricature you are looking for. If not there are tech companies who you can contact to design Igbo sex robots with more than 100 percent AI functionality that defines your required specs

you play too much!

SouthSouth1914:
You are either not serious or not telling the full story. Girls laughing and joking with doesn’t mean you are her type. Get in line, and get real!

How can I not be serious at my current age? I am very serious and I just gave the summary of the full story. I don't think i left any important details out of the story. Me wey be say if i see serious person today, i go marry her before January. I would have married her this year if not for that "red flag" that others might not read any meaning to or practically ignore. There are little details that I don't just ignore.

SuperOnyi:




Good decision. She can keep speaking her lovely English sprinkled with thick African accent.

When I have kids, none of them would bear English names. I make it clear to any girl I talk to. I love English language, it has made communication easier for me, and made me money and equally opened barriers for me; however, it would be disingenuous I embrace another man's language and insult that of my fathers.

How foolish can a person be?

I would rather advise my children to speak multiple languages than speak "I dey go, I dey come." That's why I speak only Igbo to my sister's kids. I only speak English with the one whose father isn't Igbo and my ignorant sister only speaks English to.

Nice one!

fyneboi79:
I am proud of your decision... Identity is everything!

Yes bro, just like integrity, identity is gold.

duduade:
I support you my Brother
Carry on joor

Thanks

Zonefree:
I'm not sure he's vexed because of bearing native name. The replay the lady gave shows no good will ever come from girls like that.

The young man took the best for himself and his community.

You got point! thanks.

AVECDEO:
Could you have just mentioned it to her to know the reason for her stand.

Nothing she tells me in this case will be justified. I know myself. She is also a Nairalander, so I hope she sees post if it makes it to front page.

Exceed15:
If the bearing of native name is important keep searching then.

Okay, thanks. I will keep searching.

SpencerForbes:
You're chasing perfection, but let's be real, we're all works in progress - guys and gals alike. If you're holding out for that flawless Igbo babe who's smart and checks every box, you might be waiting a while.

So, are you saying if you meet a chill, caring, intelligent lady, you'd pass just because she's Yoruba? Sounds like there's more to the story, or maybe you just didn’t like her.
🚶‍♂️

Not at all! If she was yoruba and she is proud of her yoruba name and heritage, I will not ghost her. I will choose a yoruba lady that bears "Kemi Joy Adeyeye" to "Joy Peters". I don't know how best to explain this.

I met this fine geh at a tech event in Lagos.
Before the event started, we had a little chit-chat and mehn, she was exactly my type. Beautiful, intelligent, confident, and we just clicked. You know that kind of connection that feels like you’ve known someone for years? Yeah, that was it.

Throughout the event, we kept vibing, laughing at the same jokes, sharing ideas, everything just aligned.

At the end, I asked for her name she said Linda.
Cool name.

Then I asked where she was from, she said Anambra.
My eyes lit up. I’m from Anambra too!

So I got curious and asked, “What village?”
She mentioned it and boom, it’s in the same local government as mine. I was like, “This is fate.”

Everything was lining up perfectly.
She was single, I’m single, we shared interests, goals, and background… until one tiny moment changed everything.

She gave me her business card and I didn’t see a single Igbo name on it.
Both her first and last names were English.

When I got home, I texted her, I asked, gently, “Don’t you have an Igbo name?”

Her reply?

“I don’t like my Igbo name, and I don’t like speaking Igbo either.”

That one message drained everything I felt for her.
Instantly.

It wasn’t about tribal pride or anything dramatic, it was just the realization that we might see identity differently.
Because for me, being Igbo isn’t just where I’m from, it’s who I am. It’s the rhythm in my thoughts, the tone in my laughter, the root of my values.

And when someone rejects that part of themselves, it feels like they’ve rejected a part of me too.

So yeah… I ghosted her.
Not because she wasn’t amazing, but because something in me went cold.

Let's do this!

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Thanks.