As TRUE CHRISTIANS we must be mindful of mixing African belief system with our Christian belief. As for me I shall never ever be a burden on my children or children's children no matter how much money I have spent on them. It is my responsibility to take good care of them and I shall never ever use it as an emotional leverage to make demands from them (which is the evil destroying many youths today). However, out of LOVE they can choose to HONOUR me which ever way they want.

Just like the Order of Father Abraham, I shall continue to be a blessing to my children and children's children. HONOURING me doesn't mean I should armtwist and make demands from them, children are blessings from God. We are their managers/custodians. Our job is to guide them in fulfilling God's purpose for their lives not our own purpose.

They are NOT our business investments (Do I need to repeat this clearly?). Many African parents with poverty mindset can't comprehend this simple esoteric truth, they all want to eat their children...SMH. The pressure they put on their children to succeed is too much, this is why many of these youths are going into prostitution and fraud. Celebrating criminals, glorifying them and making them a role model. The society is just a mess.

At the end of your time in this physical world, you will account for your actions.

jeromestarks:



Yes ooo my sister, you're born to enjoy from a dummy man.
Are you married?

If no, I see why (your mentality has enslaved you).

If yes, shame on your husband if he does not maltreat you. Such men are products of an unfortunate union.


Pray that your children meet a woman like you who will drag them through mud.

Ignore her, you can obviously know her background from her comment. Na dem.

Bluetooth777:
Please avoid Nigerian girls as girlfriend, they will not let you progress. Spend your hard earned money on girls who date multiple guys. They all date a lot of guys, sex is overrated, don't let them use sex to manipulate you. Since I stopped dating Nigerian girls my life has changed and I have saved a lot of money

Well put "They will not let you progress."

ednut1:
no sane man should date ex of yahoo boy. Dey fit don use her glory

They are always brain dead & worthless.

FalseProphet1:

When the average Nigerian man sees Breasts and nyash, all his senses vanishes. Even if they tell him that the girl has mental issues, as long as she's presentable, he'll manage her like that. The average Nigerian youth is a slave to sex.

This I have seen.

Well many are learning & regretting.

fineboynl:
Nor me small thing oh. She stop coming to my house because I didn’t give her urgent money requested. While we were discussing i told her she has entitlement mentality her reply was yes she is entitled of my taking her of her and her need as far as she is dating me. I weak.

It was then i ask her if we are married? We are just friends for God sake why should i be taking care if her? Her response was that I should not be asking for sex then. I told her if i have ever forced her to have sex? I told her sex is mutual and its for both of us that shouldn’t not be passed on me. That was the end of the relationship.

You are dating an olosho. You are not the only one she's sleeping with. Any girl that uses sex as a leverage or exchange for money in a relationship is a professional prostitute. It's good you left her.

FalseProphet1:

I'm telling you. I know one who gives his babe 80k per month. Now let's say they break up and the girl meets a hard-working guy how do you expect her to value his efforts when her previous relationship she was getting 80k per month plus gifts and other goodies. All Yahoo boys deserve death sentence.

This I have seen.

Well if yahoo boys spoilt their mindset and made them entitled then they should all marry yahoo boys.

Savedday:
9ja girls have turn relationship to full-time employment opportunity.

Immediately u gist any of them, you are automatically holding them money.

They are very useless and evil.....all of them

Not all of them bro but 99% of them. Only 1% are useful. They have transformed relationship/marriage into a poverty alleviation program. I always tell young guys that they have not experienced genuine love until they date girls from other African countries. I'm married to a Kenyan and I'm seriously enjoying it. You guys just have to free Nigerian girls and go for girls from other African countries, trust me you will never toast a 9ja girl again.

zanshi:
This in itself breeds entitlement, social media was abuzz when girls who got gifted cash by their significant other would often ask is this for bread or Akara. Truth is money is not easy to come by nowadays and anyone who isn't doing their bit to help you be financially responsible should be let go.

Wisdom.

Theboy21:
I was with ma guy when his gf (side chick) called n billed him, he told her he doesn't have money that moment, she start nagging about how he sent funds to his lil bro at her presence some days before, n she was like, is that how he will show differences between her n his family when they get married?
It was his reply that got me mad, could you believe the asshole start petting her with words, had to later remind him how stupid he was

He is indeed FOOLISH.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

Too many weaklings walking around, even my momma wey be woman dey tell me say never in your life invest in a woman cuz nothin come out rather use that money to build your life and upgrade your status, a woman who's willing to be with you will not pressurize you into wasting resources on her all in the name of love.

Wisdom.

Tenrack:
LoL big man. You are doing well jare

That boy nor get shishi. Ignore am.

LoneWolf212:


Hopefully someday the wise ones will learn and understand early enough.

Cos no matter the amount of wisdom people keep dishing out, stubborn ones no go learn o ..... Love dey shake their brain

I think it's inferiority complex and low self-esteem. Boys who fall for such traps suffer from these...

ednut1:
Yahoo boys started this nonsense

So I heard. The society is messed up.

LoneWolf212:


Now na empowerment program for most ladies.
To every guy out there, empower yourself, your family and your circle first, cos when e red na them go still stand up for you.

I could see that already. Many of these young boys are very gullible falling for such trap.

LoneWolf212:
Person wey get ear make e hear


Nice one boss!

Dating use to be fun during our days, but this generation don turn am into another thing entirely. Madness.

I see alot of young men getting broke because they play the role of a husband too early and shoulder responsibilities they have no business with. Who told them it is normal to take care of girlfriends? Who told them it is normal to give your girlfriend monthly "salary?" When was all these nonsense normalized? Why are boys of nowadays so daft? Is it inferiority complex or what? I belong to the old skool so I might not be updated to the evolving dating rules anymore. When it comes to money, you should only assist your girlfriend occasionally NOT all the time. And even at that, assist is willing NOT compulsory, you are NOT her father. The only women you should fully take care of are your wife, daughter, mother and sister. Don't remain FOOLISH. Be responsible.

VirtuousStarBoy:
You are absolutely correct !!!.

Na the reality be that.

Divoc19:
This mindset can still land the lady in trouble.. as it means both of them will independent

How?

PoliteActivist:
And what is the right mindset a single man must have to get a good lady??

One at a time. Digest this message first.

* A man is not my messiah.
* A man is not my problem solver.
* A man is not a miracle worker.
* A man is not a magician.
* A man is a human being.
* A man is flesh and blood like myself.
* A man has challenges too.
* A man does not pick money from the sky.
* A man is not my destiny helper.

"I can be responsible for myself. I don't expect any man to buy me what my own father cannot buy me."

➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡➡

If all the single and searching ladies in Nigeria can repeat these words loud to themselves every morning when they wake up then they won't have problems finding a good man.

Qatar2022:

Come out , they do not use juju to hold you there

I wonder ooo

prophetfire:
God bless you my dear for telling them. This is the biggest albatross of our ladies and they never learn.
Some would even be having serious health issues with their fertility and instead of starting early to get medical help, they will hide it and be waiting for an unfortunate man to come and marry them and begin to carry them around and by that time, ageing must have set in and knowing that fertility issues are better tackled early.
That's why most men have little or no regard for the women in their lives.

It's a pathetic situation where men are seen as "Messiahs" that has come to solve all their problems. It's almost impossible to free them from this terrible mindset. Shine your eyes guys, there is no real love out there anymore. Many of these single ladies are gold diggers and social climbers.

Jman06:
This is what I have been saying. They mess up their daughter's psyche by planting in her mind the idea of a rich man to carry their family burdens. Then I wonder why they still spend money sending her to school.

It's a crazy society mehnnn. I pity any man that falls into such traps.

pansophist:
Time to yab the ladies abi? Make I sharply add my own

From observations, lots of women do not know the difference between signals of sexual attention and marriage desirability. I will explain.

Generally, for most men, we have very low standards for the women we fork. A man can be governor and smash a girl working at Mr biggs, she just has to be fine. This is why every woman can be a prostitute, it has no qualification other than being a woman. And because women are hypergamous in nature, she confuses male sexual attention with her marriage desirability. If she sleeps with Davido for example, then she will think that is her level and will ignore the men that are actually her level or even better than her.

If you notice, the word ''settle for'' is not in a man's dictionary. For men, it is ''settle down'', which has a different meaning to ''settled for''. Women always use the word ''I settled for him'', meanwhile in reality, that is your level, or he even settled for you. Men are more realistic in this regard meanwhile for women, it is not the same.

I was watching a video (the link below) of this American porn actress Mia Khalifa who was bragging that men are too cheap and that she can get any man she wants. But her female brain can not comprehend that sex and marriage for men are two different things. Yes, all these men will fork you, but will they wife you up? probably never.

https://youtube.com/shorts/c6imxCbVKdk?feature=share

And this is exactly what men mean when they say women have unrealistic standards. Many ignore men that even settled for them because she thinks he is not on their level. And because women are externally validated, they pin their standards on the kind of men they have slept with, not based on the strength of their character, virtue, chastity, and being moral.

This is why premarital sex is very bad for women, it messes up their psyche, and they just get more entitled, unrealistic, and eventually bitter and angry with the world.

Interesting perspective.

ukandi1:


I married one and life has been so miserable for me.
I need saving

They will ruin you if you don't act fast. I escaped this trap years ago when I saw the same pattern. Most girls out there are just looking for a man that will solve their family problems. You need to shine your eyes. No love out there, it's just money hungry girls.