Several decades ago the model was that a woman would give her youth, beauty, and fertility to one man. In exchange for this, the man would provide the woman with a home and security for 40+ years. Obviously, it wasn’t quite that simple, but that was essentially the nuts and bolts of it. Now the model seems to be that a woman gives her youth, beauty, and fertility to several different men. Then after about a decade or so she decides she wants to find a “good man” to settle down with. What this usually means is she wants this good man to pay her bills and help her raise her two or three kids that all have different last names.
YOU DIDN’T WANT HIM THEN, HE DOESN’T WANT YOU NOW. Remember the awkward geeky guy in high school that she stepped on and over to date the football player? Well now it’s fifteen years later and the geek is pulling down a six-figure salary working for a tech giant, Who do you think she wants to be with now?
FEMINISM, OR WOMEN’S LIB AS IT USED TO BE CALLED. In the old relationship model, the man was the woman’s primary source of security. Therefore, she had a vested interest in making sure he stayed strong, confident, satisfied, and happy. Then women were told that they could provide their own security and didn’t have to depend on a man for it. One of the byproducts of this newfound empowerment is that a great many women now have little concern for what a man needs or desires. The men that end up with these women often find themselves very low on their list of priorities. They come in behind, her career, her children, and her other personal relationships. YET SHE STILL WANTS HER MAN TO MAKE HER HIS PRIMARY FOCUS.


My conclusion is that in the old relationship model when a man got married he worked hard to provide safety and security for his wife. His reward was that he got someone to bear him children and this person also became his best friend, confidant, and lover for life. That seems to be a pretty equitable arrangement in my opinion.

Now it seems that men are putting far more into marriage (voluntarily & involuntarily) than they will ever get out of it. Some men just don’t see the reason to take the risk anymore.

These are some of the things that I believe make men not want to get married.

Ryan03:
Lol. You are pained that someone will wife them? Is this a case of crying more than the bereaved? Live and let live, you've made your choice, leave others to theirs. You talk about guys marrying bad girls, what about girls marrying bad guys? I guess that's ok there is someone for everyone, if the person you are dating is not to your taste, kindly walkout, she will meet her kind. Different threads with same content on top toto everyday

No brother, I make peace with myself long time ago. AWON 2K GOT NOTHING ON ME. TEAM WESTERN GIRLS IF YOU KNOW YOU KNOW.
Yes, I am pained(bros code) Why should we offer them retirement benefits, they should be ready to deal with the choices they made.

richmond500:
You took two states where u find the most mad people in Nigeria (PH and Lagos) and also the FTC to come to this conclusion?
You should have moved to Ebonyi, Kaduna, Akwaibom and u would have seen a different lifestyle.

The madness in Rivers state and Lagos is not to be compared with other states.

Rivers has the most fowl mouthed touts(taking reference from how Rivers endSars protest turned out to be funny to other states but they(Rivers) see it as normal lifestyle). The most decent man here knows how to speak street Language and careless Abobi cappings, Even Wike was speaking "who goes u"

Lagos has the most concentration of touts per square kilometer, the most decent man here has mental insanity.

don't use this two places, no be normal humans dey live thete

My brother, I owe you enough bottle...

The worst are those ones on dating sites

Growing in Port Harcourt, University degree in Lagos, and working in Abuja, I have seen it all.
20 % of our girls come with natural Beauty, talent, intelligence, and wisdom. Well manner, discipline, accommodative, faithful in a relationship, and very supportive. You have to pray hard because they are very reserved and hardly go out. On the flip side, 80% of these girls are loud, arrogant, ignorant argumentative bullies who are sassy, masculine, and sharp-tongued. Fat and unattractive with *train mark*.
Again, they are ill-tempered, illogical, overbearing, hostile, and ignorant without provocation.
Should we talk about Mulitple bodies count. std down below?
They are so greedy and manipulative. Destiny killer. I weep for the future.
How can a decent girl prefer baby mamas to a decent family? They demand what their daddy can't afford for them. Some have useless and never do well men in their family but will come online to bash the hard-working guys.
Dating some of these girls are a bad business venture. Don't DARE. Have your share and take a walk because they are hoes.
They are so cheap. strolling into any good hotel in ABUJA, PH, and Lagos with 5K Which is not up to $12, they will go down with you.
I am in pain because, in the end, SIMP and unfortunate man will still offer them retirement benefits( marriage).
For guys who have ears, go online, chat with western women, be sincere, and date them, it can only take long but you get one. Do that your unborn kids will forever bless you. Do not fall victim, you can't change these hoes. I have one who introduces me to an opportunity. we are not dating but I am doing well because I choose wisely.
I come in peace, this is my experience, I say it the way I see it.