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This generation is such a disappointment! Asking this question is weak and stupid.
A real man's job in life is not to check whether a woman loves you or not.
YOUNG MEN, your job is to
1. Focus on acquiring success, wealth and status LEGALLY.
2. Balancing this with social, relationship & marital life
3. Marry or date as many women as your status and lifestyle permits (who are loyal, submissive, respectful, homely and meets your standard of beauty)
Why choose? Marry both and enjoy the benefits of both. Focus on a man's role to conquer the obstacles on your path to success and stop focusing on these stupid things.

This generation is such a disappointment. Asking this question is weak and stupid.
A real man's job in life is not to check whether a woman loves you or not. Your job is to focus on acquiring success, wealth and status / balancing this with social, relationship & marital life- Then you marry as many women as your status and lifestyle permits
Why choose? Marry both and enjoy the benefits of both. Focus on a man's role to conquer the obstacles on your path to success and stop focusing on these stupid things.

I just see this as slave mentality!

It was unwise for the man to demand 100% of the woman’s money. It was also unwise for the woman to think she should not sacrifice some of the money and give the man to invest on behalf of the family.
Only men (truly in love) love with their everything, women are mostly in a relationship or marriage for the benefits. This is why I tell men to NEVER sacrifice their ALL for any woman. Only give up what will not hurt you to a woman, because when the table turns, most women will never share what is theirs with any man. They are mostly in a relationship to take and not give, even when they pretend to give, they will take it all back when the relationship goes south. Even the joy you think they freely gave you, they will do everything to take it back when things go bad for you.

But there was no video of the man masturbating. This is just a video of a woman accusing a man of masturbating.
I do not trust any woman without verifiable evidence.

Was the slaughtered maths teacher also staged?

GOFRONT:
Rescued by which of Security agencies exactly??

Shame on that security agency for sleeping on duty making the defence porous for the abductors to have a filled day in the first place!!!

Shame on DSS and Nig police

Meanwhile, these kids and teachers here looked Healthy and untraumatized to me........It looked like a staged kidnap to me where they were taken to a well arranged Hostel where there is adequate food supply, clean drinking water, they bathe well, Good Toilet for convenience,

Infact, I dont know how to trust Nigerian govt leadership!!!

PS. I can even see a teacher with an Android phone among the so called RESCUED Abductees!!....The Directors of this movie has allowed this actress to cast everything by flaunting out her phone while movie recording was Ongoing.......If u know u know

I agree to an extent. The irony is that when you finally make the money, you can NEVER find true love.
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She clearly has Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD). Most of these ladies online have untreated mental illnesses.

Is this the way you handled Jonathan?! RUBBISH!

This is reactive and incompetent!

Useless post made for foolish weak men and to propagate Olodo uprising.

Looks like the Olodo uprising has taken over Nairaland.

This Rufai Oseni guy can only deceive fools.

Opposition does not mean hummunity from foolishness, negligence or ignorance.

These selfish and self-centred opposition waited until last minute to come together and agree on how to oppose. The agents of the ruling party are now picking real holes and they expect emotional response and pity not based on facts?

When it reaches your turn, ensure your enemy is comfortable enough to unalive you. Foolish unprepared people!

By the time the reality of jail and having a criminal record dawns on this fool, he will regret his indiscretion.

You are a man with complex issues, scared to death about rejection and underperformance.

lovediehatelive:
Here's why I didn't have sex till 42 years

What made me stay without sex till 42



I was a church boy, redeemed, and my dad was a a pastor.


I was shy too and didn't start saying hi or hello to girls till I reached 23.

I was always busy with my dads building materials shop, and didn't have much 1 on 1 conversations with girls.


No girlfriend.

At 25 my friends were mocking me and wanted me to follow them to olosho house, but I was a pastor som.


Then after graduation life became tough and I still didn't have time for relationship, but I had my own apartment single room I pay rent.


Friends were trying to convince me to carry hook up come house since I now have my place.


But I wanted my first experience to be with someone I had a rapport with, even though not my girlfriend, even though I just met her and we started talking.


I didn't want it to be with someone openly selling her body to men.



So i held on and tried.

Now I'm 42, and have found a girl that we became friends at my place of work.


I'm still wondering how to go about it because I don't want to come off inexperienced or shy.

Should I forget everything and practice with a hookcusp girl or continue trying to see if I get a girl.

I'm almost 45.

The endless pursuit to destroy men continues. One day, men will wake from their slumber and revolt against this evil.

They don’t want to discuss anything. All they want is a SIMP that will serve and worship them all their delusional lives.
Don’t discuss body count, her past, her finances, what she brings to the table, sexual incompetence, homily abilities, etc.
They just want a man who will give up his time , energy, finances, resources , etc for sex. What a miserable life a SIMP who is unfortunate to choose these kinds of creatures.

When has the current police or armed forces not been used for personal services
Nigerians need to understand that state police is not to solve misuse of the service for personal gain by governors. It is supposed to solve other problems such as, armed security personnel shortages, police funding, policing with local knowledge, etc.
Whether it is state or federal policing, politicians in Nigeria will surely use them for personal gains… know this and know peace.

Juliette5803:
My problem is with the State Governments, they might turn them to personal services

I hope they have enough evidence and this is not just for the show

I totally agree. The husbands are complicit. They aided a crime. The weakness of the husbands was instrumental to the trauma of a child.

This is the kind of delusion that makes a woman clinically insane!
Men should never tolerate women like this. She hits you? You hit her twice as hard. That way, she thinks twice before acting foolishly next time.

You show the face of the victim, but hide the face of the culprit. The Nigerian madness and foolishness is just incurable!

Really? At no point did any Nigerian have good intentions for the country or people. We have been recycling and reinventing the same traumas since the creation of Nigeria.
Dispassionately reevaluate your history as ‘Nigerians’.

dsenator:
This is when men had good intentions for their country and guided by conscience in all what they did. Balablu spirit has entered our leaders now!

Why are we forcing a Nigeria that is not working? The Nigerian experiment/ project is a failed one. The earlier we realize it and peacefully split, the better for us all!

Then divide the country and let everyone go their separate ways. If the is no Nigeria, there can’t be a Nigeria that the security situation is humanly impossible to solve.

I heard most of these SA women in the xenophobic attacks dated Nigerians.

Oga if you are broke, say so. Some men know 6m can be chicken feed to them.

WhiteIverson:
6 million spent on revenge.
You are still the bigger loser


Modified:
I can see all the Nairaland audio millionaires quoting me
As the Bible says
A f**l and his money are soon parted

The post should be pulled down for being misleading. These were clearly BSA supporters not Tinubu supporters! The poster is very disingenuous. Tinubu supporters had nothing to do with this. They were clearly chanting the name BSA!
I am beginning to lose hope in this opposition.

This is what I thought too o! The poster is very disingenuous. Tinubu supporters had nothing to do with this. They were clearly chanting the name BSA!
I am beginning to lose hope in this opposition.
[quote author=Goodvibes007 post=139663433]When did Tinubu’s name change to BSA?

Meanwhile, Enugu people sold their own votes for Okpa and Jollof in Enugu even before Tinubu became President.

We also saw some a few days ago celebrate malt can drinks.[/quote]

Your comment is the reason why women should NEVER be allowed to make decisions… especially marriage decisions.
There are many more reason to choose who you should procreate with as a woman than to just looks. Our ancestors were very wise to make decisions for females in those days. Their wisdom shine out given the folly of modern women thought pattern these days s.

Samantha125:
He still does looks attractive even now, the only difference is the potbelly.

These are the type of men that should be making babies in abundance, I mean just look at how beautiful his daughter is.

Believe this gender at your own peril! Show proof or I don’t believe you!

No worry, na your work or father go marry you last last!
For this century wey husband scarce like ticket to heaven, you are gambling with a marriage opportunity and playing complex ? So, if you had an opportunity to relocate abroad in December, you will forego it just because of your employer’s ‘strict’ policy? Make una females dey play o. Nothing is impossible in a woman’s world, it depends on the priority she gives that thing that makes it impossible for her or not.
Anyway, ONLY time can tell you whether you made a foolish or wise decision.

AdisGlobal01:
SHE_NEEDS_YOUR_ADVICE

My wedding was scheduled for March this year, but everything changed after my fiancé's father passed away unexpectedly in November.

His funeral was held just three weeks later, in December. I genuinely wanted to attend, but there was one major problem: my employer had a strict policy against granting leave during the December holiday period. When I accepted the job, this condition was clearly stated. Despite explaining my situation and pleading for an exception, my request was denied.

I informed my fiancé immediately. At first, he appeared understanding. I even contributed financially to support the funeral arrangements.

Then his mother called.

She told me that if I truly wanted to become part of their family, I had to be physically present at her husband's funeral. I tried explaining my circumstances, but she ended the call before I could finish.

When I called my fiancé afterward, I expected him to stand by me. Instead, he asked:

"If it were your own father, wouldn't you find a way to attend?"

I explained that the situations were different because my employer might make an exception if it were my immediate family member.

That was when he dropped the bombshell:

"No presence. No wedding."

I thought grief was speaking. I thought time would calm him down.

I was wrong.

The wedding was officially cancelled.

My family tried everything to reconcile the situation, but his family refused every attempt. Eventually, my father advised me to accept the loss and move forward with my life.

It broke me, but I did.

Months passed.

Then, on May 20th, my ex-fiancé called me.

What he said left me speechless.

According to him, I had failed the test of being a good wife because I stopped trying to convince his family after the wedding was cancelled. He said a "real wife" would have kept begging until she was accepted.

Then he announced that he had "forgiven" me.

Not only that, he had already chosen a new wedding date in August and expected me to start preparing immediately.

As if the breakup had never happened.

As if my feelings didn't matter.

As if he alone had the authority to decide when a relationship ends—and when it resumes.

Without hesitation, I told him I was no longer interested.

His response shocked me even more.

He said:

"I'm not done. You don't have the right to be done."

I blocked his number immediately.

But that wasn't the end.

A few days later, he appeared at my father's house carrying the bride price and all the marriage items he had previously rejected.

My father told him clearly:

"My daughter has moved on. As far as this family is concerned, she is no longer available."

Still, he refused to accept it.

Since then, he and his mother have continued calling, visiting, and pressuring both me and my family despite my repeated refusal.

Now I'm beginning to wonder:

Is this really about love, or is there something deeper behind their sudden determination?

What troubles me most is the mindset that someone can cancel a wedding, disappear for months, return when it suits them, and expect another person to simply obey.

I am now considering legal action because the constant calls, visits, and refusal to respect my decision are becoming disturbing.

My question is:

If someone ends a relationship, then later decides to "forgive" you and resume the wedding without your consent, would you see that as love... or as a dangerous sense of entitlement?

What would you do if you were in my shoes?