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Boy, you are in a big mess. That is the truth and you must take a strong decision to save yourself or you will be messed up for life.
You were lust in-between her legs that you failed to observe the kind of girl she was when you both were dating. There is nothing wrong for a poor girl to desire better things. That is not materialistic.
BOTH OF YOU ARE LIVING TOGETHER. YOU ARE NOW HER HUSBAND AND SHE IS YOUR FIRST PRIORITY.
Therefore, you must double your hustle to provide for your family. When the money start coming gradually, everyone including you will be happier.

However, if you know that you cannot afford the finances right now, then you have to leave the house immediately. Go somewhere and take Room apartment and start life all over again.
You need Peace of mind and positive energy to make it in life. When situation improves you can then go and marry her officially.
Make sure that you continue to take care of them wherever you are.
For me, I do not see how women are materialistic and men are not. Everybody loves the good things that life can offer.
Above all, pray to God for guidance.
Best of luck.

BlueAir:
I stand by this except the ending criticism. This advice is best

Brother, you have the potentials of becoming a multi-millionaire in the future. All you need to do now is to have the right mentality and determination to move forward in life.
A lot of people had worst experience than you but they were able to break even and succeed because of determination.
For me, the best advice that I can give you is to start thinking of being self-employed than working for anybody. You can work a little and save up to N100k. With this money, you can start buying and selling business. I started my business with less than that amount in Owerri, later moved to Lagos and now I have travelled to many countries in Europe and Asia bringing things to Nigeria.
You can start from West African countries. Buy their fashions and style and bring it to Lagos. You can choose whatever thing you want to buy and bring it in.
I can understand your emotions about your GF but to be very honest, you would need the help of women in your journey if you want to succeed very fast. An established woman is a heavy asset to a guy like you. She can arrange a credit line for you and give you help in different ways. You will have to be bold to look into her eyes and bleep her very well. Then you need to stop crying and go into the street and hustle. Goodluck broad