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An intelligent lady who feels the need for male company, intellectually stimulating conversations and kind gestures, who by reason of maturity knows exactly what she wants and goes for it. Uninhibited, adventurous, tender, beautiful and resourceful. A physically endowed lady who stands in a class of her own (having seen it, been there and done that). In control of her emotions and confident

Love is seasonal in the context of Valentine but true love is timeless.

Still...

Yet...

Yet to be..

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Expectant?

Come into my world and pour yourself a glass of champagne. I hope I can sweep someone off their feet in a moment.

Yours truly is tall, dark skinned, mature, intelligent, unassuming and sensitive, noble and selfless

People tell me that I am goodnatured , easy going and level headed.

My exes have told me that I am caring, sensitive, mild mannered and a good listener and one of them said my affection is the equivalent of freshly baked meatpie.

Funny, right?

But I like to think my affection is more vending machine than water dispenser.

I am not as chivalrous as I would like to admit but my approach to you, as a lady would be a mixture of respect and consideration so you can stop reading now if you are bent on perfection but I always challenge myself to be a better person.

I love and crave intelligent banter and I offer as much as I expect. None of that fake alpha machismo.
I am amusingly self deprecating and I am open to adventure and ideas too.



I am not as perfect as I like to think so I will outline my flaws, too.
I worry a lot, I bite my finger nails, I am a bit of a recluse and I have a huge appetite for morning sex and junk food.

You will be a recipient of beautiful poetry at odd hours of the day and backrubs, foot rubs, including hand massages with soft music playing in the background. I also have a knack for creating beautiful surprises.

My desired
An experienced lady below 35 who would be lovely enough to be the one thousand and one thing decent about my life and also double as an early Christmas present. An intelligent lady who feels the need for male company, intellectually stimulating conversations and kind gestures, who by reason of maturity knows exactly what she wants and goes for it. Uninhibited, adventurous, tender, beautiful and resourceful. A physically endowed lady who stands in a class of her own (having seen it, been there and done that). In control of her emotions and confident.

The Deal:
Life is short and so I keep like to keep things simple and straight forward. Let us discover each other through great conversations.

Whatsapp me on 08115368794

PS:I have been careful not to sentimentalize my post.What you see is what you will get so it will be totally unfair to contact me and be cagey about expected information.I aim for a seamless conversation and if you are not up for it,then you shouldn't contact me no matter how much my profile appeals to your imagination.

So many ladies act as if marriage is all that is to this life.They live and breathe in anticipation of it.

It is a sad way to exist.

If you do nothing else – nothing else! – but eliminate your neediness, your desperation, your insecurity, and your jealousy...you would finally have one meaningful relationship.

A man can spot a desperate lady from a mile away.

Being despate gives room for manipulation.

 

Being a good girl is irrelevant.

Most especially if it is attracting jerks

Guys don't care if you are a good girl or not,especially if they are not ready.

All that matters to him is whether or not you strike a chord in him.

You might be a good girl which means you will make a good wife but...

But in the end, he is going to lust after the wantons and be with the lady who COMPLEMENTS him. A woman who mirrors his desired or perceived status. The female who keeps him wanting more.

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Attraction is about your personality - how you think and what you do, how you live and who you are.

On this soulmate thing.You are not a "soulmate". You just came in to his life when he is emotionally mature, halfway through his life goals, a receding hairline, a company of married buddies , external pressure(self inflicted pressure) and a will to settle down.

Emphasis on "Will"

The man is a product of his experiences, his exes were target practice, a molting personality and an urge to sow wild oats and leave a trail of broken hearts in the process.

You are not his soul mate.

You just had a close shave with the possibility of being collateral damage.

A lot of times,when a man is not ready, then he is not. Accept your loss (and don't be sore about it)and go your way,albeit merrily. Or stay there and be "target practice"..

Why is it so hard for ladies to get out of  borderline emotionally abusive relationships ?

I still say it.

Women would have been the most powerful creatures ever if not for...

Emotions.

Men are quite emotional too..

But we mask that shit.

You think you can change him.

You are afraid to start over again.

That's your maternal instincts talking.

Or maybe its Joyce Meyer

Or Mrs Funke Adejumo.

You think you can quell his rebellion.

You think you can tame him.

Keep playing with hot coals.

Keep wasting precious time.

The smart ladies.The ones rappers like to call "boss bitches" would just go cold turkey on him and stop picking his calls.

You can't force him or coax him or give him an ultimatum to commit to you.

Because you think you have gone too far to turn back now.

Your new prayer point is this: Pray you don't meet a man in his molting phase.He doesn't know what he wants.

A "molter" is a lady's dream.A strapping young buck filled with boundless ambition and a desire for new conquests.

Usually from his early 20s to mid 30s.

Same goes for the female gender.

But society stifles them.

They are tigresses. The Kim Kardashians. The Blac Chynas. Elizabeth Taylor in her prime. They rarely love.They only please their conquests.For money.For pleasure.

For Fame.

For power.

Or something only the devil in his sinister wisdom can explain.

What is this "molting" sef?

Molting is equal to raging hormones

Sex without strings...

Commitmentphobia...

And a redhot desire for new conquests..

Till the day he finds redemption or meets his match in the form of a female version of himself.

Robin Givens in "Boomerang"

Or Cassie in "The Perfect Match"....

Losing Control

Men don't display affection, let alone love when they are in control. They have no need to. Affection rarely comes with control.

Most alpha males rarely come across females who make them feel like they are losing control. Any woman they want , they get.

 This is where you have to understand that this Love thing is war and you can't keep leaving one bad relationship for a worse relationship.

Love happens when you start to feel like you're losing control.

Love is a word men hate to  ascribe to their feelings because it implies   powerlessness and the fear of losing you.

It is not just the fear of losing you. Kids hate to see other kids playing with their cherished toys. Employers hate to see their best employees being poached by other companies. In the man's case, the fear of losing you implies being possessive and that makes the woman "owned".

The fear of losing you has to come with powerlessness and anxiety. It has to also make him change his ways .

Love begins to bubble to the surface in the absence of control.

But that feeling is one that few women have been able to evoke in their men.

 

Make it happen!

And feel free to reply with your questions and comments

Good luck!

Thanks for following as usual. I hope you have learnt a thing or two.

Now

On what men want...

They say their wants are simple:Sex, food and more sex.

That is just a tongue in cheek answer to what men really want or just a quip or a one liner. Men want more than just sex and food.Men want to feel powerful, Men want control.They want to rule and dominate.

They want to dominate your mind and your body.

There's a HUGE difference between what men think they need and what they lust after. It leaves the ladies confused about the men because men say they are looking for the "good girl". They eventually find her but they can't make up their minds about committing.

Men want a stable home with a good woman in it.He wants respect and he wants her to be submissive to his will.It is a happy home if she can cater to his whims and listen when he is talking.

On the side,he wants a wanton

Who is a wanton?

A wanton is an uninhibited man eater.She is desired inwardly because she appeals to the primal instincts of the opposite sex but despised outwardly because society disapproves of her ways.

You have been made to subconsciously tailor your life to what the men say they want so you can be "marriageable".It is time to ignore what men say they WANT and instead focus on what they RESPOND to. These are not the same things.

In fact, they are often the exact opposites.

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The idea of a "good girl" to a guy is simply a lady who lacks the ability to lose her inhibitions , even if she wants to and who practices self restraint.

There are too many ladies in the world but these men can't have them because of...

Women are categorized in aspect of social class, education, personality, exposure, intelligence and sophistication. Based on his capacity, these women pose a challenge to him. Men instinctively look for convenience which means control for them. The "convenient" woman might not be what they really want but they have to settle within their limits as they hope their fortunes might change some day soon so they can have what they REALLY want.

You are either a challenge or convenience. You didn't end up with him by chance.

  

On attraction and how it really works...

"Attraction does not happen the way as you would intuitively expect it. If it did, you wouldn't be single by now. You have been in what seemed to be perfect relationships before only for them to hit the rocks . Times are changing. You've got to let go of the way you think it should work so that you can start acting based on how it really does work."

You must learn to ignore what the men are saying, what society tells you, what the older generation of mothers and wives are saying.

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And feel free to reply with your questions and comments,

Good luck!

Goodmorning, everyone.Thanks for following.



 Every day , ladies complain about guys and their inconsistencies.

"Men are scum"

"Men only want one thing."

"Men are users"

Here is my response to these complaints:

Nothing you can say will make a man act right.

In fact, you only make it worse because complaining only implies a victim mentality. Do bullies stop bullying weak runts because they whine and complain? Do our leaders stop looting the treasury when we as citizens grumble and insult them on social media? A stone to the forehead was what stopped Goliath from terrorizing the Isrealites.

 

Here's the Problem

Here's the problem most ladies run into:

Once they like a guy, it is all over.
They shut down and let their lives revolve around him. They think they need to express this to him in order to make him stay.  They cater to his whims

WRONG.

Love is psychological.

Women (and men) fall in love due to a psychological process that occurs in our own mind.

Guys don't fall in love because they want to fall in love unlike most ladies who are in love with the idea of falling in love. Love requires a psychological process for it to happen. At first, it is purely novelty for the guys, a new "prospect" means excitement and adventure.

An ego boost.

Have you realized that when you can't stand their indecision and their  attitude and you walk away, they start calling you to make up?

Love for guys is an "accident". No guy sets out in a relationship to "fall in love". It is up to the lady to make it happen. And you have that power but you just don't use it because of a particular behavioural pattern that you can't break out of.

 

Men hate to see that you can live without them.

A lot of ladies don't know who they are and what they want.They are simply going with the guy who pursues the hardest.

They are slaves to their emotions and slaves to popular opinions.

 

He is sending you mixed signals. He us hot today.He is cold tomorrow. He is showering you with gifts today. You don't get a phone call in two weeks straight.

And feel free to reply with your questions and comments.

Good luck!

When a guy is indecisive about you, it simply means he is not sure he wants you for keeps. He wants company or sex but he doesn't want an actual relationship.

You can't make him

How can you possibly hope to please him and make him happy when he is always changing his mind about what he wants!?

If you don't understand how a man's mind works, this can be downright frustrating.

Here's the secret...

Men are drawn to different things in different women.

Sometimes, what he sees in you is  not enough to make him want you for keeps.

Sadly.

You have to be unmoved.

Meaning - don't react to his flaky behavior and mood swings.

Don't be the lady who keeps trying to please him to no end by making constant changes to your personality and appearance just because you want to be called "Mrs *insert goofy surname*

You can't talk people into having what they don't want because their wants are not fueled by reason.

The man has to come to his senses and realize your worth for him to commit

It's actually really easy. Just stay calm and don't take him too seriously.

Or just walk away.

And feel free to reply the posts with your questions and comments.

You clicked on this post because you are either curious or you really want to deal with a personal issue that this post is poised to handle.

You first decide what you want exactly. As you read, do make sure it means something. Even if it is just out of curiosity.

To the ladies. This thread will give you everything you need to assert yourself. Over the next couple of days.

Are you getting chills? I am.It is going to be pretty exciting

This means you are going to be pretty much ahead of the curve than ever if you  can only implement.






Here goes...


 

Many single ladies spend their entire lives searching for Love, a partner or just good old matrimony because they think these things will make them complete and make for a satisfying existence.

 

Sadly, many ladies never realize their soul's deepest desire.

 
Despite their desire, it is either they are guarded as a result of a past experience or many horror stories from friends, family and social media.

 

They wake up, go to work, have lunch, chat on Whatsapp, pay bills, meet deadlines and convince themselves that they are happy while crying themselves to sleep when they get yet another wedding invitation from a friend's kid sister.

To the warrior vixens on social media but late at night(with their pile of stuffed animals), are in a state of anxiety because of the possibility of clocking 40 and unmarried.

The reality is you can live through your decisions.

 

But there is a way to live free that will shatter your self-imposed boundaries – and experience life. I am not recommending a matchmaking site and I am not going to make you look thirsty and desperate by advising you to ask men out on dates.

 

I will be updating a thread with a new post with each passing day that will cover what I believe are the ways you can win at love if you can only implement every line.

  

 My  big reveal is this:

 

If you are worried about finding love,then you might worry forever because earthly love is self motivated. Many spend  a substantial portion of their time and their lives wishing for Love. They are caught in a trap and also disillusioned when they find out what they thought isn't what it is.

 

Keeping a date with this thread will help you to understand a lot of things about yourself, including your behaviour in past relationships that didn't work out, leading to a pattern which has been difficult for you to break free from.

  
You will discover new ways to how a relationship works(leading to marriage)and how a lot of broken relationships have been hinged on  chance because you went into them, starry eyed. You will also find ways to bring a much greater sense of purpose and meaning to your present relationship, if you are in one.

 

Another world is possible. All it takes is for you to believe.

 

 

 

P.S. By choosing the right path that is a great fit for you and dedicating yourself to the journey, you can prevent years (maybe a lifetime) of disappointment and heartbreak and find deep joy and satisfaction in your relationship.

Sometimes...

This Life is not a dress rehearsal

sisisioge:


Cute! I like your wittiness already. Just called your line but it's switched off.

Send me a PM, I know someone who would totally like you. She's a 25yrs straight arrow. Who knows, you might know someone I would like too...40-42yrs Enough of those argumentative lil boys. Wanna date my daddy now .

You can only Whatsapp me.Thanks.

This life feels like a dress rehearsal until I find her.

Still dreaming..

Mcy56:
Chai! See better profiling! I for give u trial if not that.....
Wish you luck in ur search.

Thank you very much.

Yours

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