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RomanceRe: Once In A Lifetime by udalor(op): 7:54am On Nov 30, 2019
Cotton candy
RomanceRe: Once In A Lifetime by udalor(op): 8:43pm On Nov 15, 2019
Floating
RomanceRe: Once In A Lifetime by udalor(op): 4:21pm On Nov 15, 2019
Floating on a cotton candy cloud
RomanceRe: Once In A Lifetime by udalor(op): 11:34pm On Nov 12, 2019
A thrill
RomanceRe: Once In A Lifetime by udalor(op): 12:11am On Nov 11, 2019
Just once
RomanceRe: Once In A Lifetime by udalor(op): 4:50pm On Nov 07, 2019
Hello
RomanceRe: Once In A Lifetime by udalor(op): 9:02am On Oct 29, 2019
I am a dude.,.please!!!
RomanceOnce In A Lifetime by udalor(op):
HealthRe: Here Is A Quick Cure For Menstrual Pain.. If You Are Tired Of Having Them by udalor(op): 5:32am On Sep 03, 2019
It is very suitable for irregular menstrual periods
HealthHere Is A Quick Cure For Menstrual Pain.. If You Are Tired Of Having Them by udalor(op): 6:17pm On Sep 02, 2019
Your boss is driving you crazy, your boyfriend is not picking up his call, the delivery man is taking too long and you have  deadlines at your current 9-5 job.

Wait!!!

The shawarma you ordered is bad. Like smelly bad!!!

- Oh, wait, it is....also that time of the month.

Save yourself at least one pain.

We can't hogtie your boss to stop stressing you about the deadlines and we don't have your boyfriend's phone number. We can call your delivery man and make threats.

But....

It is only so much one can do.

As for your deadlines - More haste, next time but we can totally rid you of irregular menstrual periods with this tea suited just for you.


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Right now, there is a limited supply -it takes weeks to order for in and have it shipped to Nigeria so it is best to order for yours NOW !!

 

Recommended Dose:

Two times every day, one bag each time; steep in hot water for 4-6 minutes.

To monthly(and normalized) periods with no pains.


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Call 08163249791 or 08095181626 for your order

Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 6:22pm On Aug 23, 2019
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Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 10:58pm On Aug 07, 2019
Nachos
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 6:21pm On Aug 01, 2019
Hello
RomanceRe: The Brutally Honest Guide To Successful Dating And Relationships:for Ladies by udalor(op): 10:28am On Jul 15, 2019
People respond more to your appearance and your body language than they do from the actual words coming out of your mouth.

A powersuit and a briefcase on a Monday morning screams " I am a boss. I am not in the mood for games" than a jumpsuit would.

It is a fact that a receptionist will respond differently to the same person dressed differently at two seperate times(and encounters) within the week.
A lady in a revealing outfit or rocking daisy dukes will get more stares and possible catcalls than a lady in a black skirtsuit and Raybans. The latter will possibly be more respected.

It is a reality we hope will change soon.

But in the mean time.
The problem for most women is that they don't know what their self image is and how to project it.  They don't know how to properly convey the message they want to convey.
RomanceWhy Most Ladies Are Still Single, Even When They Don't Want To Be by udalor(op): 10:51am On Jul 11, 2019
Most women lack social skills.

Not their fault.
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They are used to being chased.

 

And they make one of these 3 common mistakes:

 

1) They are as boring as a weather forecast on Christmas Day bore her (and even annoy her) by sending dry and monosyllabic replies.

No social skills

They can't hold a conversation that does not revolve round ice cream or how boring their day was.

It doesn't seem like a problem until you find the man that constantly keeps butterflies fluttering in your belly

 

 

 

Here is a true but unfortunate fact:

 

It is a fast paced world since the advent of technology and it has reflected in society and our lives. When it comes to interacting with the opposite sex,  especially one that you don't have all the time in the world to make an impression.
 

We want a connection, especially with people we are attracted to and communication will stoke the attraction. Now, you have your chance but you are ruining it with every second that goes by.

 

 

This is where the majority of females mess up.

They are afraid of showing their hand so they come off as aloof, expecting the man to pursue.

Playing hard to get might have been a 90s rave but you have to learn some social skills or you might end up in misery.

Not today, darling.

Sometimes, you would have to be engaging if you are going to score this fine dream man-specimen.

 

You might think that it is the man's prerogative to always initiate conversation but the times have changed.  Sometimes, you have to throw your hat in the ring.

Don't get me wrong. I am not asking you to be hot on a man's heels and chase every easy on the eye six footer aggressively. Just learn to sustain interest through interaction.

 
Many women desperately want to think if its meant to be, it will...

Well, here is a shocker.

 
A woman with great social skills is not waiting to be chosen. She is also taking her pick. She is not fiddling with her phone and waiting for a guy to send "Hello" on Whatsapp.

 
It's pretty simple.
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Go easy on the abbreviations.

And limit the pleasantries...

Learn to ask questions. Genuine curiosity is

Keep it going. No epistles and no one word replies. They can be annoying as heck.

Use emijos sparingly. They represent familiarity.
 

 Your messages should reveal a lot about your personality.  They should be specifically designed to lead towards a connection. If that is your goal.

Just be interesting enough to be worth thinking the world of.

Don't be a chat buddy till the day he puts up a photo of him proposing to someone else.

P. S. - Have you ever spent months texting a guy only to realize you were just her "text buddy" and he has no romantic interest in you at all?

 

That can really hurt or pain.

I have crafted a specific sequence of texts that will serve as direction in communication with someone you fancy. You can use them in your advantage but it is important that you are natural.

 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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RomanceRe: The Brutally Honest Guide To Successful Dating And Relationships:for Ladies by udalor(op): 3:59pm On Jul 10, 2019
Love Won't Find You If You Continue To Be Passive...




 Men come in varieties. Emotional hangups, personality defects and quirks and so on

It is not you. It is them.
 

Some are nice, annoying, zany, confused, funny, sweet, and fun to be with. Others are high handed, egoistic, can't hold a conversation, etcetera

 

How do you tell who is who? if you are not a psychic? How do you know from the get go who the hell you are dealing with?

Poor you. You would have to stick around and just hope to God, the next charmer is not a sequel to a prior nightmare on Emmy street...well, if your name is Emmy.

The only way to find these things out is by fessing up.

Use your power!!

How sensei?

(I assume you are asking)
 

I assume you already know this man-woman thing is a game.

Only assume good intentions if you are psychic and can see right through a rock.

Just kidding!

It is not enough to have your "shield" up in a social setting. Playing "hard to get" is an old and familiar game.

You lose because you are always on the defensive..

Pick and choose. The one being pursued should decide the actions of the pursuer not the other way round.

Examine and evaluate. They came to you. They shouldn't be telling you what to do.

Have an honest conversation. Stop being coy while he is being slick. Steer the conversation to general subjects and stop making yourself out to be the "hunted".

"What is your name?

Don't say "Why do you want to know my name?

Stop assuming what might not be there.

When a dude is talking to a lady, there may be hundreds of things going through his mind.

 

But you bring that one thing to the forefront even before he does with coy answers

 


Moral of the message: Stop going along for the ride. Stop being an incurable sufferer of masculine whims
 

 

 


 

 

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 Love Won't Find You If You Continue To Be Passive...




 Men come in varieties. Emotional hangups, personality defects and quirks and so on

It is not you. It is them.
 

Some are nice, annoying, zany, confused, funny, sweet, and fun to be with. Others are high handed, egoistic, can't hold a conversation, etcetera

 

How do you tell who is who? if you are not a psychic? How do you know from the get go who the hell you are dealing with?

Poor you. You would have to stick around and just hope to God, the next charmer is not a sequel to a prior nightmare on Elm street...well, if your name is Elm.

The only way to find these things out is by fessing up.

Use your power!!

How sensei?

(I assume you are asking)
 

I assume you already know this man-woman thing is a game.

Only assume good intentions if you are psychic and can see right through a rock.

Just kidding!

It is not enough to have your "shield" up in a social setting. Playing "hard to get" is an old and familiar game.

You lose because you are always on the defensive..

Pick and choose. The one being pursued should decide the actions of the pursuer not the other way round.

Examine and evaluate. They came to you. They shouldn't be telling you what to do.

Have an honest conversation. Stop being coy while he is being slick. Steer the conversation to general subjects and stop making yourself out to be the "hunted".

"What is your name?

Don't say "Why do you want to know my name?

Stop assuming what might not be there.

When a dude is talking to a lady, there may be hundreds of things going through his mind.

 

But you bring that one thing to the forefront even before he does with coy answers

 


Moral of the message: Stop going along for the ride. Stop being an incurable sufferer of masculine whims
 

 

 


 

 

 

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RomanceRe: The Brutally Honest Guide To Successful Dating And Relationships:for Ladies by udalor(op): 10:26am On Jul 10, 2019
2nd Half 2019:Why You Never Get Past The Talking Stage


 

 

 

It is impossible to be have a smooth and promising relationship with men if you are stuck in your fear

 

This I believe is the reason why you are in your fourth relationship this year in mid June.

 

You are in the "talking" phase with this seemingly nice guy. Great conversation and equally great manners, charm and compatibility but you have a chip on your shoulder...

 

Instead of enjoying the moment with him and get to evaluate him objectively before you start falling for him, you are lost in your own thoughts and thinking nightmares.

 

Wondering what would happen next.

Self sabotage!!
 

(Maybe he would stop calling and just ghost on you like the ones before.
.

It has happened before with David,  Michael and Henry and it could possibly happen again.

 

 

(Should you just plain ask him what he wants or ask where this is going or....

 

Wondering if he likes you for now.

 

(All of your fears, insecurities, doubts, and anxieties will most likely convince you that he is not what he seems to be.

Men are all the same!!

 

 The first date is the outcome of mutual attraction. You consented to a date because there might be something there. Be calm and relaxed and focused. Enjoy the moment and experience him fully

A relationship has to go beyond mere attraction for it to work and that  your focus must be to look past the fear and "dissect" him.

 Live in the moment and make beautiful memories.

What is the worst that could happen?. Really!!!

What if he stays?

 

This state of mind requires conscious effort.

 

This is the state you should strive to be in when interacting with a new guy.

 
You will exude confidence and you will feel GREAT. You are what a decent, responsible dude would want for keeps

 

And here's the kicker...

 

As you project this reality, many men will bê irresistibly drawn to you.

 
It must go beyond attraction.
 

 

 

 

 

I will appreciate your thoughts and opinions and also questions do you have about this article. Just comment and let me know.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 10:54pm On Jul 06, 2019
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Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 11:21pm On Jun 22, 2019
Sunny side
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 1:34pm On Jun 17, 2019
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Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 9:04pm On Jun 11, 2019
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Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 5:10pm On Jun 03, 2019
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I am interested. This is my number 08115368794
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 10:13pm On May 20, 2019
Love is..
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 5:36pm On May 11, 2019
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Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 10:50pm On Apr 28, 2019
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Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Looking To Be Found(2 Hearts) by udalor(op): 12:05am On Apr 16, 2019
Seem

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