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Divanona:
Eight years ago, with tears in my eye, I held his hand, begged him to stay with me that we will struggle together and succeed, but he refused. He walked away living me pregnant. Now, he's back without anything.

We were friends from the University, I graduated before him because I was studying a 4years course. The very first time, we tried to take our relationship serious was after my graduation. We had s.e.-x for the very first time and I became pregnant.
The truth is, the guy have always been good to me throughout my stays in school.
I remembered that day he sacrificed his school fees for mine so I could be able to do my final clearance. But when I became pregnant, he walked away after convincing me to keep our baby.
I went through everything all by myself.
Since last year, he has been apologizing on phone, so last week, I asked him to come. He traveled down to my place. Without being afraid of anyone harming him from my family, he believed in me and came. He's around in my family house, staying in my brother's room for the past 3days.
He has opened up everything to me, my family members and have apologized.

now, I'm so confused with my life.

He couldn't graduate, he had problem in school after I left and all this years, he has been struggling, but now he wants to take responsibility and be with us, but he had nothing. No certificate, except diploma which he later did from another school, no job, no place of his own to stay. He had nothing. He wants us to get married and have a family.


I feel I'm about to add more burden to my already stressed life.
The only positive thing here now, is the excitement my son is having seeing his father and the relationship they're building.

A part of me wants to see this guy have a great life and have direction and not see him live like this, even if I don't settle down with him. because when I meant him, he was kind, a good person, he had dreams, vision and good plans.
But living us alone all this years, with all his explanations, I'm not contented.

Another part of me is confused, afraid and I feel ishould push him away and let him go back to his life and keep moving with my son because I don't have the strength to shoulder all these.

Please matured mind in the house, what do you have to say? This is my life and it's getting more confused.
What would you advise? What should I do?
I don't want to make more mistakes.

Sorry for my lengthy write-up

Yes, all said but I will advice u stay. Go for him, and live with him with your son.
God, with your faith will open the windows of Heaven for both of you to prosper...amen

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- Ex-Lagos governor will speak at appropriate time – Spokesperson
- Former APC chairman has no personal opinion, will back Ize-Iyamu’s position – Aide

The September 19, 2020 Edo State governorship election has come and gone but the embers of the episodic event continue to glow in the glade of public discourse.

Although 14 parties fielded candidates for the poll, the result of the election showed it was a two-horse race between the Peoples Democratic Party and the All Progressives Congress.

According to the Independent National Electoral Commission, PDP candidate, Governor Godwin Obaseki, polled 307,955 votes to defeat his closest rival and APC candidate, Osagie Ize-Iyamu, who got 223,619 votes.

The electoral umpire on Sunday subsequently declared Obaseki as the winner of the keenly contested election. INEC also on Tuesday presented certificates of return to the re-elected governor and his deputy, Philip Shaibu, at INEC office in Aduwawa, Benin City, the state capital.

The President, Major General Muhammadu Buhari (retd.), has since congratulated Obaseki on his re-election. The APC national body has also conceded defeat and congratulated the opposition PDP and its candidate.

But while the congratulatory messages poured in for Obaseki and his party, nothing has been heard from the quarters of former National Chairman of the APC, Adams Oshiomhole; and former Lagos State Governor, Bola Tinubu, who were active political actors during the electioneering process that preceded the election.

The PUNCH had earlier reported how Tinubu, in a televised broadcast a few weeks to the election, accused Obaseki of not being a democrat and how he had asked the people of Edo to reject him at the polls.

Tinubu, an APC chieftain, had also said Obaseki committed an impeachable offence in the heat of the crisis that rocked the Edo State House of Assembly weeks before the election.

On his part, Oshiomhole, who was Edo governor from 2008 to 2016, was instrumental to the emergence of Obaseki as his successor. The two, however, soon fell out and Obaseki, who was elected on APC platform in 2016, defected to the PDP on June 19, 2020, after being denied APC ticket owing to intra-party squabbles.

Oshiomhole during the build-up and politicking to the 2020 governorship election in the state had said he sold a bad product to the people of the state in 2016 when he campaigned for Obaseki.

Armed with a megaphone at a rally late July 2020, the former APC national chairman, who vigorously campaigned for Ize-Iyamu this time around, had gone on his knees and had asked his supporters to repeat a prayer after him.

He had said, “To those I sold the product that turned out to be fake, God you know I didn’t know he was fake. Only time shall tell who a man is.

“With our broom, we shall sweep him out. Together, we will bring your servant who is God-fearing, who will not repeat his mistakes and will complete the project of taking Edo to the next level. All these and many more we say in the mighty name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Meanwhile, despite the fact that the APC national body conceded defeat in the election, the party in the state rejected the outcome of the poll, alleging foul play and citing alleged “strong-arm tactics”.

Ize-Iyamu also said he was still “studying the results along with other party members” and would announce his next move soon.

When contacted, Oshiomhole’s media aide, Victor Oshoke, told The PUNCH in a telephone interview on Tuesday evening that his principal has no comment or reaction to make on the outcome of the election.

He said, “The result has been announced and the party in the state is consulting; the position of the party will be released very soon. Oshiomhole does not have a personal opinion to make on the election now – he is waiting for the party’s position.”

Oshoke added, “We have a candidate and we are waiting for the candidate’s statement. When the candidate speaks, Oshiomhole will align with the candidate’s decision. Edo APC is waiting for our candidate to speak.”

On his part, Tinubu’s spokesperson, Tunde Rahman, told our correspondent in a telephone interview on Tuesday evening that his principal would speak “at the appropriate time”.

“Asiwaju has not spoken. At the appropriate time, he will speak on that election,” Rahman responded when asked of his principal’s reaction to Saturday’s poll.

In the meantime, Obaseki on Tuesday called on Oshiomhole, Ize-Iyamu and other APC members to put their differences aside and work for the betterment of the state.
“We have no malice, the only thing we disagreed on is in the approach in moving Edo forward,” the re-elected governor said.

credit:
https://punchng.com/tinubu-oshiomhole-quiet-days-after-apc-loss-in-edo/