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Froshloaded:

But na still you dey call the babes to come and sleep over..
Hypocrite

I might be doing so. I might not be doing so. I may even be a self-righteous hypocrite. But leave me and my devices alone and digest the matter on the table.

victorian:
I understand where u are coming from and u are right but

How about an orphan lady?

Who must she seek consent from?

As long as she is surviving, she has some authority over her and must respect that authority enough to involve them in her relationships

Romanoff:
And someone will be praying to marry @OP o.

You are making assumptions. You don't know if I'm married.

BlueDomera:
Lol absolute rubbish.
This is what you get when your judgement is based on shaming the female gender.

Every woman that is no longer under her parents, every independent and mature woman has all the right to visit any man she wants.

It's her choice and decision and her parents has no say In her relationship Life.

The most important thing is that she don't mingle with a senseless man.

It's like you are going to write your own dictionary because the meaning of a prostitute is clear in the dictionary.

The effontery cheap data gives people is alarming, writing Nonsense all in the name to massage the ego of some senseless guys all in the name of alphas.

I'm not shaming the female gender. In fact,I know some women who I adore and can swear by.

I woman will always remain under her father's authority until that authority is passed to another man. She has no right to make marital decisions by herself. However, there is an exception where a woman is ageing and would like to give birth before her fertility fades.

MrBrownJay1:
this is a guy/girl issue, so of course guys must be brought to the issue. isnt he the one inviting the babe?!

btw so what you are saying is that...
- if a man invites a babe at home (without her parent consent) she is a prostitute an[size=8pt][/size] he is knight in shining armor, abi?
- if a man invites a babe at home (without her parent consent), to go to a party there with 100people, she is a prostitute, abi?
- if a man invites a babe at home (without her parent consent) and she goes to meet boy's parent for dinner, she is a prostitute, abi?

You are dragging the question. My hypothesis can go either way. What is wrong is wrong no matter who is involved.

Adgideon:
You no get talk at all.I just wonder if your mum( apologies for mentioning ur mum) and sisters happen to fall in this category how will they} feel when they see this, you just not post think

If my sister or niece visits a man without their parent's consent, then she is a prostitute.

1StopRudeness:
I was actually trying to process ur line of thought until u ruined it with islamic states as ur reference.
seriously, countries that force children into marriage, deprive women of their human right and freedom just cos they have two boobz and a puzzy is what u consider as standard....
Morality standard shouldn't be made only the responsibility of women in the society. the men should also be held accountable.
you are saying women shouldn't visit men, but men who haven't taken consent from their parent are free to do whateva..... u see this kind of evil thinking was why it was considered OK for women to be stoned for adultery in the olden days but nobody bothers to ask about the man raming d¡ck into another man's wife

Note that I'm not trying to justify the actions of men with this post. In fact, my hypothesis can be applied on both sides. I referenced the core Muslim nations to buttress my point that morals don't change with the times. Most of their morals whether good or bad have been upheld over the years until this moment.

Ladylite:
OP let me epp you push this further off the cliff.


Parents who visit pastors and prophets whose churches they do not attend seeking solutions are...... IDOL WORSHIPPERS


Anyone who visits a hospital that is not his family hospital is not PATIENT even if they get admitted.

Parents who visits children's school or homes unannounced are KIDNAPPERS

Parents who enter child's room without knocking are just RUDE

Mr OP... Shey our mumu never do?? So if parents are dead nkor and the person has been surviving alone, she is still a prostitute.

OP you are a self-servicer and hypocrite. You are regurgitating doctrines from your ignorant pastor. Open your Bible and read and have some sense before you shave.

So the ladies that gave Jesus food and he went to their houses, they were not married o yet they didn't ask their parents for permission. Your Jesus didn't even ask his parents if he could stay back in the temple when he got missing at 13 years old.

So in your church, the "Christian sisters" don't follow up brothers? So if two single Christian sisters go to a brother's home it is a threesomeee?

OP Your brain is Menstruating.

Jesus sent you to preach good news, here you are condemning what you don't understand.

You have to learn to discuss issues without name-calling. That doesn't say much good about you.

That said, my hypothesis is always open for criticism and is not meant to put me or the male folks in better light, or even to shame women.

Your first four assumptions are just trying to justify your uprightness and drag the question.

A parent can be a ward or an authority that has moral guidance over your life. Being an orphan is not a one-way ticket to become a prostitute.

A woman can visit a man in the company of others without her parent's content. Likewise the man. Jesus went to visit Mary and Martha because he was a friend to their brother Lazarus. It was not a private visit to a sister. In this case, the reason for the meeting would likely be formal. But I tell you, don't tempt the devil. Visiting a man or woman you are romantically interested in without any formal consent or guidance is love-peddling. The way of a man and a woman, no one can know.

dominique:
And the man she's visiting is a saint?



If I'm to get you right, if she visits a man with her parents' consent, she's not a prostitute even if premarital sex is involved. But if she visits a man without her parents consent and doesn't have sex, she's a prostitute?

It's not about being a saint or not. My point is that relationships need to be created on the basis of accountability, not just moving around and sleeping with everyone you can have access to. The moral decadence need to stop if we want to build a sane society.

dominique:
And the man she's visiting is a saint?

Of course not. Both are culpable.

chatinent:
With her parents consenting to it or not, if sexual relation is involved, she is still a prostitute.

No, she is not. While it can be frowned upon in today's religious setting, parents giving both their consent to court with the idea that marriage is in the horizon is as good as they giving consent for marriage. Normally, a man asks a girls parents for consent and takes her home if they agree. But because of today's ceremonial and financially oriented communion, getting married immediately becomes difficult and they have to prepare towards a "formal" marriage.

coolestofall:
What about the ones that are actually prostitutes and they visit their client's house with their parents consent? I guess those ones are not prostitutes.

That can happen, yes. But that will be an abnormally since she can't be courting more than one person at a time. My point is, as long as parents are involved, the relationship becomes an accountable one.

MrBrownJay1:
so what about the dude inviting

stop living in the middle age bro!

Times don't change morals bro. Travel to some core Muslim countries and see for yourself. Morals is morals!

Davash222:
Oga, abeg reduce the volume.

The world is becoming crazy. Now the crazy ones are trying to make the sane ones think they are crazy, while it's the other way around.

Everybody is doing it doesn't make it right. We have to seek relationships that are guided, nurtured and built the right way.

Nowadays, a woman will marry, get pregnant or even do abortion and her parents won't even have an inkling. What a life!

It's time we start to change the narrative. The moral decay in today's society is almost beyond repair.

I don't care if you are 60 years old or 18, I don't care if you are graduate or business owner, or paying your own bills, if you are a single woman and you visit a man without your parent's consent, then you are a prostitute.

This may sound harsh, but it's the truth.

The only setting where a single woman can visit a single man alone is when her parents have given their consent for both of them to be in a relationship. In this scenario, they are most likely courting with the intention to get married and their relationship is consented and guided by their parents.

Oh, this brings me to a final hypothesis: If you are single woman in a relationship your parents do not know about or consent to, then you are probably a prostitute!

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lefulefu:
its not feminism..its just pure laziness.

No, I mean the balance or equating of male and female responsibility is Feminism.

lefulefu:
like those ones who sit at home watching telemondo 24/7 while the housegirl does all the work
apart from religion if u look at it healthwise any woman who sits at home all day doing nothing is destroying her body .so all those men who insist their wife sit at home while they go outside to hustle are doing their wives great disservice.

That's a good point. What I described above is the real definition of Feminism.

A man whose wife is a housewife is a potential destiny killer...unless he changes.

When I say housewife, I don't mean a man whose wife:

1. works from home
2. Is physically disadvantaged

When I say housewife, I mean a wife who predominantly stays at home doing nothing apart from the normal house chores. A woman who cooks, eats, sleeps and watches movies all day.

A wife should be a partner, assistant, stakeholder, shareholder and co-ordinator in the family with her husband and not just an entitled beneficiary. It's time we start to change the narrative. A woman is not a weakling or a weaker vessel as seen in verse 17 below.

I'll leave you all with the following quotes:

Proverbs 31:10-31


13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.